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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Ok, like other people, it's quite common for people not to be available at a drop of a hat. But I tried to explain to someone I am literally only available on this particular date but he wouldn't accept it, saying why am I being difficult. No it's my life, I don't have to explain to him my lifestyle commitments that I am not available with legs spread 24/7. Hence why I don't do dating sites as I litterly don't have time for relationships etc. Random casual sex is all I want... Does this infuriate anyone else and how do you deal with it apart from block option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, like other people, it's quite common for people not to be available at a drop of a hat. But I tried to explain to someone I am literally only available on this particular date but he wouldn't accept it, saying why am I being difficult. No it's my life, I don't have to explain to him my lifestyle commitments that I am not available with legs spread 24/7. Hence why I don't do dating sites as I litterly don't have time for relationships etc. Random casual sex is all I want... Does this infuriate anyone else and how do you deal with it apart from block option? "

Story of my life! I just don’t reply to people like this lol

Haven’t got the time to explain myself over and over!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I have yet to block anyone...!!

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

The block is a god send for that. I was once told I use my kids as an excuse & should just leave my kids at home if I can't get a babysitter that block followed a few choice words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely refuse to be treated like an unpaid prostitute! Attitudes and expectations can sometimes be terrible on here ... I just politely ask them to reread my profile

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

It is fine.

Stick to your guns.

Your position should be accepted.

Meet when it is convenient for both.

Play only if both want that etc

Respect is needed.

Plain decent respect.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"I absolutely refuse to be treated like an unpaid prostitute! Attitudes and expectations can sometimes be terrible on here ... I just politely ask them to reread my profile "

Good on you.

Swinging is fun for both, respect, decency....

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We find this. We have a child and we cant meet at the drop of a hat some people get pushy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I absolutely refuse to be treated like an unpaid prostitute! Attitudes and expectations can sometimes be terrible on here ... I just politely ask them to reread my profile "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You don't have to justify your free time to anyone op

You did right blocking,if they can't be respectful here they wouldn't be in real life

Meets should be a 2 way thing when you're both free rather than when someone pushes you to meet.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish


"Ok, like other people, it's quite common for people not to be available at a drop of a hat. But I tried to explain to someone I am literally only available on this particular date but he wouldn't accept it, saying why am I being difficult. No it's my life, I don't have to explain to him my lifestyle commitments that I am not available with legs spread 24/7. Hence why I don't do dating sites as I litterly don't have time for relationships etc. Random casual sex is all I want... Does this infuriate anyone else and how do you deal with it apart from block option? "

Don't need to explain the why part or anyone--either you're available or not. It's no one's business!

I think the only time an explanation (and a damn good one) is needed is if you have had to miss a planned meeting.

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

Too many guys on here are an embarrassment.... I'm not apologising for them, I'm with you all disparing of them.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m sick to death of the attitude Of some guys ... I have a life outside of here and I can’t just meet when they decide they want a shag ... some can’t take no for an answer and push and push .... so I block block block

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By *enie MeenieMan
over a year ago

C town.

Guys are triers but dont want to put in the effort

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

I don’t think I’ve ever had a same day message/meet - there has always been a few days/weeks of banter before anything gets finalised.

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By *ireandsaltCouple
over a year ago

midlands


"Ok, like other people, it's quite common for people not to be available at a drop of a hat. But I tried to explain to someone I am literally only available on this particular date but he wouldn't accept it, saying why am I being difficult. No it's my life, I don't have to explain to him my lifestyle commitments that I am not available with legs spread 24/7. Hence why I don't do dating sites as I litterly don't have time for relationships etc. Random casual sex is all I want... Does this infuriate anyone else and how do you deal with it apart from block option? "

Just tell them it’s your only time unsupervised that you can escape from the asylum unnoticed. They’ll block you. Sorted. Fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block OP. You owe nobody any explanation. If you've stated your availability and he won't accept it, that's where the conversation ends. Delete and block him

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

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I like the guys who say 'take the afternoon off and I will come over to yours'

Mmm really. Mmmm think not

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By *inkbunny888Couple
over a year ago

Surrey


"I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

"

Biggest problem with that we find is many men regardless of single or part of couples just don't read and think they the best thing since sliced butter and expect you to jump on his cock at every opportunity and then has an ego meltdown when they rejected

Thankfully its more of a minority and we have met some lovely people that justifies sifting through the children

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Ok, like other people, it's quite common for people not to be available at a drop of a hat. But I tried to explain to someone I am literally only available on this particular date but he wouldn't accept it, saying why am I being difficult. No it's my life, I don't have to explain to him my lifestyle commitments that I am not available with legs spread 24/7. Hence why I don't do dating sites as I litterly don't have time for relationships etc. Random casual sex is all I want... Does this infuriate anyone else and how do you deal with it apart from block option? "

What a strange reaction! As if you are obliged to shag him! ??

We get that sometimes too. Kids, two jobs, one of which involves shifts, but sure we'll drop it all to whack you off!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

Biggest problem with that we find is many men regardless of single or part of couples just don't read and think they the best thing since sliced butter and expect you to jump on his cock at every opportunity and then has an ego meltdown when they rejected

Thankfully its more of a minority and we have met some lovely people that justifies sifting through the children "

Hit the nail on the head: child mentality. Thinking I'm not that interested or just playing games. No i litterly this month only have one evening off to meet a fab member... Or I go out with friends for a drink. Think the latter is more appealing, less stress and more reliable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

Biggest problem with that we find is many men regardless of single or part of couples just don't read and think they the best thing since sliced butter and expect you to jump on his cock at every opportunity and then has an ego meltdown when they rejected

Thankfully its more of a minority and we have met some lovely people that justifies sifting through the children

Hit the nail on the head: child mentality. Thinking I'm not that interested or just playing games. No i litterly this month only have one evening off to meet a fab member... Or I go out with friends for a drink. Think the latter is more appealing, less stress and more reliable "

It's not just men do it, couples do this a lot as well. You express some interest, give nice compliments then , wanna come fuck? Really?? Sometimes I am at work or just busy then they get pissed off when u say you can't.

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By *inkbunny888Couple
over a year ago

Surrey


"I state clearly on my profile that I have a busy life and limited time for meets, almost daily I get men & couples who attempt to persuade me that I ought to fit them in to my busy life. Often they take offence when I refuse to meet them and I've been accused of being fake because I won't meet at short notice, despite the fact I state clearly that I won't.

Biggest problem with that we find is many men regardless of single or part of couples just don't read and think they the best thing since sliced butter and expect you to jump on his cock at every opportunity and then has an ego meltdown when they rejected

Thankfully its more of a minority and we have met some lovely people that justifies sifting through the children

Hit the nail on the head: child mentality. Thinking I'm not that interested or just playing games. No i litterly this month only have one evening off to meet a fab member... Or I go out with friends for a drink. Think the latter is more appealing, less stress and more reliable

It's not just men do it, couples do this a lot as well. You express some interest, give nice compliments then , wanna come fuck? Really?? Sometimes I am at work or just busy then they get pissed off when u say you can't. "

Not to say that isn't the case. Or women aren't capable of acting as such. But gut feeling usually points to the male part of the couple reacting in that manner. At least that's what it seems like.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Just block and move on, our block list is never ending, think f it this way if he cant respect your wishes by message you certainly don't want him in your bedroom, block carry on

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