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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, there are loads!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a a lot of married women playing away on here, good luck to everyone I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most definately."

Great profile and always love a chat, just a shame I am out of your age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

It seems to be very frowned upon to be married and playing away ... we all have our reasons to be here doesn’t make us and people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

It seems to be very frowned upon to be married and playing away ... we all have our reasons to be here doesn’t make us bad people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem?

It seems to be very frowned upon to be married and playing away ... we all have our reasons to be here doesn’t make us and people "

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve known a few on here over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience men don't seem too bothered if you are playing away and some even find it aturn on

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here.

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

Quite frankly we dont mind. We both came from shitty marriages that appeared perfect from those looking in.

We are here for fun not to judge people, essentially we are cheating on each other anyway - even if we are both there and taking part.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Loads of women on here are married but don’t put it on their profile and will disclose it when you talk to them. They don’t need to put it on their profile as 99% of men will still meet them... however I would guess that only about 25% of women would meet married men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of women on here are married but don’t put it on their profile and will disclose it when you talk to them. They don’t need to put it on their profile as 99% of men will still meet them... however I would guess that only about 25% of women would meet married men"

Absolutely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only really relevant if her husband is a violent psychopath and she is just trying to make him jealous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's only really relevant if her husband is a violent psychopath and she is just trying to make him jealous "

PMSL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree if both know and they agreed..cheating not for me but not judging no one..

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By *ndiscloseddesiresWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham

I am married and play alone on here. Hubby is fully aware I am here, he has just lost his sex drive over the years and I haven't. I'm happy with my marriage in all other areas. We had a chat and decided together that I could jump om

n here and see how it goes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and play alone on here. Hubby is fully aware I am here, he has just lost his sex drive over the years and I haven't. I'm happy with my marriage in all other areas. We had a chat and decided together that I could jump om

n here and see how it goes.... "
that sounds great.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

Seek, and ye shall find.....

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

Plenty of them, for all kinds of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and play alone on here. Hubby is fully aware I am here, he has just lost his sex drive over the years and I haven't. I'm happy with my marriage in all other areas. We had a chat and decided together that I could jump om

n here and see how it goes.... "

Exactly the same as me..Hubby needed help managing my sex drive especially because his is much much lower than mine. I feel very lucky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married (sub) have my reasons like others, met Sir on here and it works for us. All that matters.

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By *revisimoMan
over a year ago

LEEDS

Ideal scenerio for me..like minded people looking for fun and discretion

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’m in a relationship and cheating, and I’m upfront about it on my profile. Having gone without sex for 12 years due to his lack of drive and reached the end if my tether, and knowing that he won’t permit an open relationship, I didn’t feel like I had much choice.

I find that men don’t object to it the way women and couples do. Some even tell me they find it a thrill, but I don’t meet them - they might find the risk of getting caught a turn-on, I don’t!

Not one man has ever had anything to say about it until this afternoon. Having messaged me three times trying to meet, so clearly the cheating didn’t bother him when he thought I might cheat with him, when I turned him down he turned very sanctimonious and lectured me about stopping cheating and being a better person, then blocked me. The sheer hypocrisy is hilarious frankly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to everyone we say everyone have their reasons for being on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the majority of my sexual partners were cheating women. Usually they are quite accomplished at it. But find one on or about the first time cheating, and you're in for a wild time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From personal experience men don't seem too bothered if you are playing away and some even find it aturn on "

I find it a turn on too, but that's the way a typical block thinks with his dick. Personally I would never cheat on a partner even if sex was none existant. (been there) There's more to a relationship than sex and if I can't sort myself out with my hand then there's something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t a problem with a married woman needing outside or extra sex. Feel free to message.

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By *H and HJCouple
over a year ago

Bangor


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

Such a shame that you are so far away and that we are out of your age range.

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

The dangers of swinging in the States... husbands have guns

We have it easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here.

Such a shame that you are so far away and that we are out of your age range."

If you were replying

Happy to change my age range , yes your so far away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are loads of naughty married ladies on fab I'm a naughty married guy but what totally vexes me is the moral high ground folks who assume we are here for 1 night stands and quickies married ladies and equally married guys can be genuine members of the lifestyle ... I would imagine most couples would overlook the fact a lady is married to play with the fabled unicorn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am married,I have a single profile and a couples one.we go to quest but play separate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From personal experience men don't seem too bothered if you are playing away and some even find it aturn on "

It's a massive turn on for men.

So much more fun and exciting with a married woman rather than a single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

All women are having sex with other men/women, regardless of the Other Half knowing about it or not.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

It’s on my profile... and I’m honest when I chat to people.

Down to the individual if they still want to contact me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goose and Gander. None of us should judge others and none of us are obliges to play with those who have partners at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

Fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be a lot but it does seem to be us blokes that get the bashing for playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s on my profile... and I’m honest when I chat to people.

Down to the individual if they still want to contact me! "

I would but you blocked me

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Been cheated on, so I'd never cheat nor would I be part of a guy cheating on his partner.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

What do you get, apart from sex, from cheating on your wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s on my profile... and I’m honest when I chat to people.

Down to the individual if they still want to contact me! "

Likewise and I agree with the sentiment. They can only say no lol, or best off read a profile and dont message those stating no married ppl

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think cheating is a thrill of experiencing sex with someone else and feeling like a teenager again and if no one gets hurt and both parties no what they are doing then it’s up to them , everyone has there own enjoyment we shouldn’t judge

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Someone always gets hurt, it’s never the right choice, but agree, we of all people shouldn’t judge.

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

Always a turn on for me with a married lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

Same here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where here too

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Where here too "

Hiding though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here.

Same here! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s on my profile... and I’m honest when I chat to people.

Down to the individual if they still want to contact me! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of women on here are married but don’t put it on their profile and will disclose it when you talk to them. They don’t need to put it on their profile as 99% of men will still meet them... however I would guess that only about 25% of women would meet married men"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married and playing alone but with husband's knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing or is it just men? Am curious because you see guys posting that they're not getting many women interested in them because of the cheating/lying.

Are there married women out there who have the same problem? "

Of course there are loads, however they have the intelligence not to shout it out on public forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?"

So well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you people have no respect or morals that people are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as someone who saw what the effects of a cheating parent did to my other parent its something i do particularly have a dim view of. Doesnt necessarily make them a bad person though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From personal experience men don't seem too bothered if you are playing away and some even find it aturn on "

I really doubt married women would have a problem meeting men even if they are "cheating/lying"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean."

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough.

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman
over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire

I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on "

As long it’s a turn on that’s totally fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough. "

Isn't horny*

I mean there is more to life than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on

As long it’s a turn on that’s totally fine "

Ugh you just said this..

"Do you people have no respect or morals that people are married"

So now it's fine?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Can we not use the term playing away please

I'm already missing football and this term just reminds me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on

As long it’s a turn on that’s totally fine

Ugh you just said this..

"Do you people have no respect or morals that people are married"

So now it's fine?

"

I’m being sarcastic doesn’t matter if you’re married does it as long as it’s fun and a turn on it says that when you get married you can fuck anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on

As long it’s a turn on that’s totally fine

Ugh you just said this..

"Do you people have no respect or morals that people are married"

So now it's fine?

I’m being sarcastic doesn’t matter if you’re married does it as long as it’s fun and a turn on it says that when you get married you can fuck anybody"

So you don't think it's wrong sleeping with someone being their partners back, because that is what the lady was implying.

Where do it that when you are married you can fuck anybody?

I never heard that in wedding ceremony before

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough.

Isn't horny*

I mean there is more to life than sex. "

I’m surprised you have such a problem with women cheating - I guess you must not have read my profile before messaging me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough.

Isn't horny*

I mean there is more to life than sex.

I’m surprised you have such a problem with women cheating - I guess you must not have read my profile before messaging me?"

I havent got a problem with anyone. I'm just intrigued why people do it.

This is a forum where people can ask about things like this, so why not.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough.

Isn't horny*

I mean there is more to life than sex.

I’m surprised you have such a problem with women cheating - I guess you must not have read my profile before messaging me?"

There needs to be a mic drop emoji

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I don't agree with cheating but i think men get bashed on here and the women get off with it. If you know what i mean.

I noticed that

And I wonder why do women cheat. Just for the sex? Surly you can live without sex if your partner is horny enough.

Isn't horny*

I mean there is more to life than sex.

I’m surprised you have such a problem with women cheating - I guess you must not have read my profile before messaging me?

There needs to be a mic drop emoji "

Doh !! in a Homer Simpson voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on "

Think you will find its because most men will fuck anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married and on fabs. Now separated. But blokes and couples didnt care if I was. With the male population, it's a whole different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just feel sorry for the partners who don't know.

But havin said this there is something sexy about the forbidden fruit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm married, my reasons for being here are personal and complicated. I've never had a guy complain, and most find it a turn on

Think you will find its because most men will fuck anything."

Speaking from experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet married women, i'll meet them in hell too

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By *iglittleoneMan
over a year ago

B76 is home

It's a turn on for me knowing a woman is in a relationship

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman
over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire


"I meet married women, i'll meet them in hell too "

I'm definitely going to hell x

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By *okobuttersMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

We both can top up our tan in hell lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I get married men messaging me who clearly states their wives don't know. To me it's automatic block. Deception isn't a great human trait in my opinion. What ever your circumstances are, people can leave but that's my opinion. Not interested in married men.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I get married men messaging me who clearly states their wives don't know. To me it's automatic block. Deception isn't a great human trait in my opinion. What ever your circumstances are, people can leave but that's my opinion. Not interested in married men. "

I meant to write "not interested in people who cheat"

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We are quite happy to chat to and play with women that are in a relationship and cheating but with men we won’t engage unless it’s in a club where we probably wouldn’t know anyway.

The reason is, in our experience, the different ways men and women deal with a cheating partner when they find out.

If a woman finds out her partner is cheating they tend to blame the person she cheated with which means, if the guy has any contact details, you have to deal with some unhinged bunny-boiler messaging, phoning or even worse, knocking on the door at 3am accusing you of leading their poor innocent lamb astray.

Guys in the same situation will blame the person really at fault, their partner.

We’ve also found that generally guys are a lot more likely to get caught out.

It’s for this reason we won’t play with men who can’t accommodate. We are not saying they are all married but we are saying that a majority of marrieds can’t accommodate so it cuts a lot out.

All we want is a quiet life.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said."

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason! "

Everyone has there reasons. Not really sure people should need to justify it on a site that is supposed to be for open minded people.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

Everyone has there reasons. Not really sure people should need to justify it on a site that is supposed to be for open minded people. "

Not asking them to justify, im really truly intrigued as to why they would stay, this is a forum debate after all?

Open minded doesn't mean having no morals.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason! "

Legitimate as far as who is concerned... you say just leave. Having children and running the risk of not having them in your life? Financial reasons maybe? Sexual reasons for being here ? Loss of different reasons

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol

We're all going to hell anyway so might as well enjoy and have fun with who ever you're attracted too wether they're married or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

Legitimate as far as who is concerned... you say just leave. Having children and running the risk of not having them in your life? Financial reasons maybe? Sexual reasons for being here ? Loss of different reasons "

Well there is the obvious answer really.

Don't cheat. All these things are part of a relationship.

You want to choose to play around then no problem. However the choice means that you do not value everything else enough to be honest.

But your partner deserves the right to choose whether they accepts a cheating partner or not.

Simple really.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

So many judgemental people.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We're all going to hell anyway so might as well enjoy and have fun with who ever you're attracted too wether they're married or not"

You go to Heaven for the view, and Hell for the company......

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I'm married and play away, but I tell hubby everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many judgemental people. "

What is judgemental about being honest?

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By *ensual -lover69Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

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By *ensual -lover69Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

Everyone has there reasons. Not really sure people should need to justify it on a site that is supposed to be for open minded people.

Not asking them to justify, im really truly intrigued as to why they would stay, this is a forum debate after all?

Open minded doesn't mean having no morals."

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason! "

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave."

Are you cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves "

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave."

Well said

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Most of the people on here are cheating...!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I'm sure there are loads of naughty married ladies on fab I'm a naughty married guy but what totally vexes me is the moral high ground folks who assume we are here for 1 night stands and quickies married ladies and equally married guys can be genuine members of the lifestyle ... I would imagine most couples would overlook the fact a lady is married to play with the fabled unicorn. "

Unicorns do exist lol x

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason! "

I agree with you communication is key, however even on the vanilla dating sites I've been on met many separated ladies who have not really left there husbands, for various reasons, lack of interest, controlling relationships, none sexual or very roll on roll off sex, but because they ar frightened of the big wide world they end up going back, so maybe a site like this accommodates these people's needs, after all a lady to leave the family home is a big wrench, especially when children are involved, Ive been lucky as a single guy and parent, most ladies have been honest about it and I still chat to them now and again as a friend as I think they will make that move if and when there ready z

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By *edGMan
over a year ago

Daventry

I've always been a fan of worrying about what I'm doing and let others worry about what they are doing, unless it directly affects me or my loved ones.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves "

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave."

But you feel safe enough to be on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really."

Fair enough. Now accept that some of your vanilla friends would be disgusted at your lifestyle.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I agree with you communication is key, however even on the vanilla dating sites I've been on met many separated ladies who have not really left there husbands, for various reasons, lack of interest, controlling relationships, none sexual or very roll on roll off sex, but because they ar frightened of the big wide world they end up going back, so maybe a site like this accommodates these people's needs, after all a lady to leave the family home is a big wrench, especially when children are involved, Ive been lucky as a single guy and parent, most ladies have been honest about it and I still chat to them now and again as a friend as I think they will make that move if and when there ready z"

Ive been in exactly that position and I left for the sake of my children. Theres plenty of support and always a way, so no I dont think thats a reason to lie or stay.

Mrs

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I agree with you communication is key, however even on the vanilla dating sites I've been on met many separated ladies who have not really left there husbands, for various reasons, lack of interest, controlling relationships, none sexual or very roll on roll off sex, but because they ar frightened of the big wide world they end up going back, so maybe a site like this accommodates these people's needs, after all a lady to leave the family home is a big wrench, especially when children are involved, Ive been lucky as a single guy and parent, most ladies have been honest about it and I still chat to them now and again as a friend as I think they will make that move if and when there ready z

Ive been in exactly that position and I left for the sake of my children. Theres plenty of support and always a way, so no I dont think thats a reason to lie or stay.

Mrs"

Thats there decision to make and when there ready to do so, Ofcourse kids are important and maybe if they thought it through they would all be better off and start living again, life's a learning curve x

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m married my Mrs knows I’m on here as we was on here as a cpl for 15 years plus!!

Her health has deteriorated badly over the years and she’s the one who said set up a single profile!! Which i did,

I tell her every time I have a chance to meet and if I do get a meet which is rarely due to being there for her and helping her with her health problems etc

Xx

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really.

Fair enough. Now accept that some of your vanilla friends would be disgusted at your lifestyle.

"

So you are saying swinging is as morally corrupt as lying? No I don't think any of our friends would think that. We choose our friends carefully.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I agree with you communication is key, however even on the vanilla dating sites I've been on met many separated ladies who have not really left there husbands, for various reasons, lack of interest, controlling relationships, none sexual or very roll on roll off sex, but because they ar frightened of the big wide world they end up going back, so maybe a site like this accommodates these people's needs, after all a lady to leave the family home is a big wrench, especially when children are involved, Ive been lucky as a single guy and parent, most ladies have been honest about it and I still chat to them now and again as a friend as I think they will make that move if and when there ready z

Ive been in exactly that position and I left for the sake of my children. Theres plenty of support and always a way, so no I dont think thats a reason to lie or stay.

Mrs

Thats there decision to make and when there ready to do so, Ofcourse kids are important and maybe if they thought it through they would all be better off and start living again, life's a learning curve x "

Absolutely! I can vouch for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm saying people will judge you in the same way you judge other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "
completely agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really.

Fair enough. Now accept that some of your vanilla friends would be disgusted at your lifestyle.

"

Silly argument.

This isn't about approval of what we do in private.

It is about cheats who lie to their unsuspecting partners. They say it is because of love or because of the kids.

In reality it is because they do not want to face the consequences of their actions and are scared in case they are asked to leave.

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By *overWantedMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I'm married and looking for just 1 married lady or couple for regular fun but not having much luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if the point is being purposely missed.

My point is being sanctimonious about married people is fine, but just remember, no matter how high and mighty anybody things they are, somebody is always frowning upon them.

So judge away, but somebody always thinks you are amoral as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure if the point is being purposely missed.

My point is being sanctimonious about married people is fine, but just remember, no matter how high and mighty anybody things they are, somebody is always frowning upon them.

So judge away, but somebody always thinks you are amoral as well"

But at least they are not treating the ones that they profess to love disrespectfully and dishonestly.

Now THAT is the point that is purposely being ignored.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave.

But you feel safe enough to be on here?"

If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

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By *ilverminxWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave."

Here’s the problem. What happens when your partner realises they’ve been cheated on? Do you think that you will be “safe”? Will they consider your financial situation? The sad truth is, a volatile partner will never respond positively to catching their partner with someone else. And if they are abusive, id be even more concerned.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave.

But you feel safe enough to be on here?

If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box."

If you have a partner who would very likely do you serious harm, then why not just leave? Surely it is a dangerous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely intrigued...why on earth don't the people cheating on their partners just leave the relationship? If you can't communicate what is the point?

So well said.

Thank you I notice noone has bothered to respond with a legitimate reason!

I don’t see how anyone has to justify anything to you? And I’m pretty sure you’ll just say that no reason you’re given is legitimate anyway.

But in my case, I am financially unable to leave any time soon, and the situation with the lockdown etc has made it even more impossible. In order to leave I need a huge amount of things in place, all of which require money, so that I can leave at a moment’s notice. No other approach is safe for me. Many people are in situations that they can’t easily leave.

But you feel safe enough to be on here?

If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box."

Sex must be very important to you.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"From personal experience men don't seem too bothered if you are playing away and some even find it aturn on

It's a massive turn on for men.

So much more fun and exciting with a married woman rather than a single."

Each to their own. I’ve met a couple of married women but I didn’t get a extra kick out of it. In fact I wasn’t comfortable with it if I’m honest.

There are married women but I find they are very much in the minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, there's definitely a fair few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married women probably the best to meet.

They know what they want and in my experience meet when they say they will.

Single fems mess about and play mind games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree...100 precent. They are not clingy and they give you "everything"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married women probably the best to meet.

They know what they want and in my experience meet when they say they will.

Single fems mess about and play mind games."
my wife's boyfriend would agree with you on that

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you. "

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you.

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves."

May we ask why you don't just leave??

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here. "

I absolutely love this and couldn't agree with your thoughts more. On a personal note, it's a massive turn on that a woman is married and her husband does not know...

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you.

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves.

May we ask why you don't just leave??

"

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here.

I absolutely love this and couldn't agree with your thoughts more. On a personal note, it's a massive turn on that a woman is married and her husband does not know..."

Is it a power thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you.

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves.

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread."

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London


"I am married, my husband doesn’t know I am here.

I understand the lack of morals and/or ethics this may imply and respect the choice of those who prefer not to meet married people.

But being female, being married has not stopped me from having incredible experiences here.

I absolutely love this and couldn't agree with your thoughts more. On a personal note, it's a massive turn on that a woman is married and her husband does not know...

Is it a power thing?"

Hi,

Not for me no, can't speak for anyone else, for me it is a deliciously charged illicit, lust filled, wanton abandon. The excitement of 'illegal' is the thing. It's definitely not a power thing, how could it be? You are both meeting in lustful trust with physical desire and satisfaction paramount. Regards any power over anyone else, (husband) still no from my point of view, squarely sits with the Lady (if it's a power thing for her, then so be it, but not from my point of view), she can pick any male she desires - as a guy you'd better be worth it and bring your A game is all I can say - should one be trusted - it's about being equal with errant wife. Husband doesn't matter, it's just a turn on that this sex is secret and illegal, so better break the hotel bed....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you.

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves."

Well I guess sex is much more important in some people's lives than it is to me.

I love sex but not so much that I think I could cheat on a parter. I can take it or leave it.

I don't despise you. I was just trying to get an understanding of it. You made a good point about walking a mile in someone else's shoes.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"If he caught me he would very likely do me serious harm. Have a think about how important this is to me, that I’ve decided to take that risk, then get back in your sanctimonious box.

Sex must be very important to you.

Well yes, it is. Though I’ve seen a surprising amount of mealy-mouthed comments on here about “there’s more to life than sex”, which is odd considering the nature of this site. Ok, yes, there’s more to life than sex. But for me, it’s essential to a complete and fulfilled life, and after 12 years without a single touch or compliment, and nothing but judgement for having needs and desires, I reached a kind of breaking point.

To everyone who’s sitting here passing judgement, have you heard the one about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes? No-one here is asking you to meet the cheats you so clearly despise, but you don’t know people’s circumstances so maybe just keep your opinions to yourselves.

Well I guess sex is much more important in some people's lives than it is to me.

I love sex but not so much that I think I could cheat on a parter. I can take it or leave it.

I don't despise you. I was just trying to get an understanding of it. You made a good point about walking a mile in someone else's shoes. "

I should have said “everyone else”, I didn’t mean you, but there are a lot of people here who think people like me are scum.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??"

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I think as long as the married person takes responsibility for their cheating and doesn't involve their meets when they get caught then it's down to personal choice if you wish to play with one or not, I don't appreciate liars who say they are single and then the wife messages me because he got caught sexting me.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I was in a loveless sexless marriage for far too long. The reasons I stayed much longer than I should are many. They were not possible to solve. When I eventually left those reasons for staying hadn’t changed I had to just suck it up.

About the married women I have met. I don’t think it was the sex as such they were missing. They just wanted to feel wanted and desired by someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really."

Put like that, yes. So just to confirm, you have never lied in your life? Even a white lie? Or done anything you've been ashamed of? If you have, then why would anyone want to know you? Unless they appreciate that you're just human with failings. Glass houses ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People are free to do what they wish within legal reasons.

If anybody wishes to judge married people on here, that's up to them, but they should also remember, that being on a swinging site, even if single or part of a couple, there are plenty of people out there who are going to be judging you too, saying you also have a lack of morales.

So live and let live. If you dont agree with it, just quietly ignore married people, lest you be judged yourselves

You are mistaking judging married people with judging liars.This is a site for people who are openminded about sex, not a site for people who like liars. As often happens, people mix up swinging with cheating, its not the same at all.

Lying to ones partner is never ok. Just tell them what you are doing and then they can make an informed choice.

We don't want liars in our vanilla life, so why would we want them in our fab life? Its simple really.

Put like that, yes. So just to confirm, you have never lied in your life? Even a white lie? Or done anything you've been ashamed of? If you have, then why would anyone want to know you? Unless they appreciate that you're just human with failings. Glass houses ... "

A white lie is quite different to deceiving the one person who is supposed to have all trust in you though. And if it’s a “human failing” you don’t tend to do it over and over, you essentially learn from it.

I’ve been cheated on, I’ve never cheated and I never will. I know how it feels and I would never put that on anyone or participate in it.

It’s much easier in my opinion for those married or attached to own what they’re doing and be transparent with it, rather than make up excuses for it or attempt to justify what they’re doing.

Why justify to people who don’t know you? Do what you have to do.

Some won’t like it, some won’t care.

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business."

Well said I couldn’t agree more!! Xx

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

Really glad in this recent couple of weeks everyone is sticking to the philosophy of "be kind" and "stay safe"

If your opinion matters so much that you have to come on a forum and criticize other people for there life choices I think you have to take a deep look at yourself first. Everyone has reasons for there life choices so before you decide to berate and belittle someone because it is not what you believe remember it is a form of bullying in itself. Be careful in what you say as it could be that straw that makes someone snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business."

We thought you said you had finished?

If it is your private business why on earth put it on a public thread.

Attention? ?

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

We thought you said you had finished?

If it is your private business why on earth put it on a public thread.

Attention? ?"

Now seriously is that being kind? Becoming abusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any in s.wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

We thought you said you had finished?

If it is your private business why on earth put it on a public thread.

Attention? ?

Now seriously is that being kind? Becoming abusive "

We didn't start the abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business."

Plainly being rude.

Our last words on this subject.

We all live by what we do.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

Plainly being rude.

Our last words on this subject.

We all live by what we do."

Good. If not got anything nice to say etc

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover


"There a a lot of married women playing away on here, good luck to everyone I say "

I'm seeing a beautiful married woman in Dover, 4 years now and her husband hasn't got a clue.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

Plainly being rude.

Our last words on this subject.

We all live by what we do."

How was that rude? It’s the truth - you’re not my friend. Friends don’t speak to each other the way you’re speaking to me. Why are you getting butthurt about the truth?

As for your last little dig - sure we do. So you live by being a petty little bully on the internet, I hope you feel proud of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

Plainly being rude.

Our last words on this subject.

We all live by what we do.

How was that rude? It’s the truth - you’re not my friend. Friends don’t speak to each other the way you’re speaking to me. Why are you getting butthurt about the truth?

As for your last little dig - sure we do. So you live by being a petty little bully on the internet, I hope you feel proud of yourself."

And we hope you are proud of being a dishonest cheat.

On a swingers site which has nothing to do with cheating.

If speaking honestly is bullying well.....

Damn, we ARE finished now.

Be childish and keep on going.

It's all yours.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"

May we ask why you don't just leave??

I’ve already said as much as I intend to about that upthread.

Oh.

It's money??

Worth getting hurt for like you say you might??

Look, I don’t know why you keep pushing this, but nothing I say is ever going to be good enough for you, so just leave it. You’re not my friend and you’re certainly not my therapist, so it’s really not your business.

Plainly being rude.

Our last words on this subject.

We all live by what we do.

How was that rude? It’s the truth - you’re not my friend. Friends don’t speak to each other the way you’re speaking to me. Why are you getting butthurt about the truth?

As for your last little dig - sure we do. So you live by being a petty little bully on the internet, I hope you feel proud of yourself.

And we hope you are proud of being a dishonest cheat.

On a swingers site which has nothing to do with cheating.

If speaking honestly is bullying well.....

Damn, we ARE finished now.

Be childish and keep on going.

It's all yours. "

Finished again. Ffs people be kind. There is so many different versions of cheating. Just because you guys are in a relationship that accepts that doesn't mean others have that luxury. Someone else said earlier they left the family for sake of kids. How would kids feel that being a hot wife was more important. Each to there own. Everyone has there reasons

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