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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"

Hard to say without knowing what you're doing.

So.

What are you doing?

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've sent messages but not getting no reply back so I don't know if it's the way I look or the messages that I send

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Expectstions, profile and effort...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So you think I should a new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're one man among the many that overrun the site. Being noticed is always going to be difficult, no matter how good your profile might be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"
maybe, you're bi with a male veri and you dont accom and dont explain why and you have very little profile info and your profile is your advert, these are all contributing factors to your lack of success as a guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So basically I have no hope lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrongmaybe, you're bi with a male veri and you dont accom and dont explain why and you have very little profile info and your profile is your advert, these are all contributing factors to your lack of success as a guy "
ok thanks I will redo my profile and put more about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically I have no hope lol"
improve your profile and your pics hide the veris explain why you dont accom and bobs your uncle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically I have no hope lol"

I wouldn't go that far.

But you do have to put the effort in, sell yourself on your profile, do a detailed bio, put up some tasteful pics. Interact in the forums, and the now very classic... Visit some clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically I have no hope lolimprove your profile and your pics hide the veris explain why you dont accom and bobs your uncle "
nice one

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"So you think I should a new profile"

The total lack of punctuation in anything you've typed so far is not a good omen...

Looking at your profile you need to rewrite it completely, and actually say something interesting about yourself, in proper English.

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum

I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!

I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.

I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!

People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.

If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.

And that....is my simple take on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So basically I have no hope lol

I wouldn't go that far.

But you do have to put the effort in, sell yourself on your profile, do a detailed bio, put up some tasteful pics. Interact in the forums, and the now very classic... Visit some clubs. "
I was thinking about going to some clubs what a bit nervous to go on my own

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you think I should a new profile

The total lack of punctuation in anything you've typed so far is not a good omen...

Looking at your profile you need to rewrite it completely, and actually say something interesting about yourself, in proper English."
thanks i will change my profile and put more stuff about myself and the stuff that I am interested in thanks

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands


"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!

I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.

I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!

People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.

If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.

And that....is my simple take on it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember that women and couples on here get hundreds of messages a day, if not more. It’s easy for you to go unnoticed, unless you’re noticeable.

I’m not, for instance. For professional reasons, I don’t have public photos. So I don’t expect someone to pick my message out of a haystack. If they do, I try to say something which will make them want to reply. This is done by reading profiles; not by sending ‘wanna fuck?’ Or dick pics, or copy paste messages.

Honestly, I suggest going to clubs. There you can meet plenty of people, build a rapport and build your friends list, which makes things much easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Remember that women and couples on here get hundreds of messages a day, if not more. It’s easy for you to go unnoticed, unless you’re noticeable.

I’m not, for instance. For professional reasons, I don’t have public photos. So I don’t expect someone to pick my message out of a haystack. If they do, I try to say something which will make them want to reply. This is done by reading profiles; not by sending ‘wanna fuck?’ Or dick pics, or copy paste messages.

Honestly, I suggest going to clubs. There you can meet plenty of people, build a rapport and build your friends list, which makes things much easier. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!

I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.

I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!

People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.

If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.

And that....is my simple take on it.

"
sounds very similar to my take on been on fab.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"

Getting really fed up of these threads to go look at the non existing profile try doing a profile search and use the millions of advice already available that the men dont seem to use....

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Oh and we dont get hundreds of msges a day only the ones with no filters get that lol

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Hey, your profile is a bit bland, mayby add more pics and say alot more about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello Op,

Your no stranger to the forums, why not search them for generic advice?

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Have to agree with others here...

Bio & pics are not interesting enough to hold my attention further than a cursory glance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people you message will check out your profile before even considering reading what you've sent them. If they're not impressed with your profile, which is, to be fair, pretty bland, then they won't bother with your message.

There is tons of advice that's been given over the years and available in the forum. See what has been suggested to others, who, as it's been said, rarely take that advice on board.

These sorts of threads are becomming more 'look at me' threads than genunes appeals for advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You thought this was a shagging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You thought this was a shagging site. "
omg isn't it......... back to drawing board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory about this....it’s just like real life!

I’ve been here about 16 months and had between 10 and 15 socials/meets.

I’m not the best looking guy. I’m not “gym fit” and I certainly haven’t got a BBC! But....! Just like in real life, I have a personality, humour, cheek and luck!

People on here are people. Just because it’s a swingers site, doesn’t give me the right to think I can get an easy lay....probably quite the opposite.

If I was a petrol head, a car enthusiast, I would make sure the next car I bought was to the exact spec I wanted, I wouldn’t accept the first, second or four hundredth offer of any old banger. It’d have to be one I wanted.

And that....is my simple take on it. "

I love this analogy!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi to whoever reads this I have been on here a while and finding it really hard to meet women and couples is there something that I am doing wrong"

What you're doing wrong, and so am I incidentally, is just being one single male among tens of thousands of others, so the odds of getting a favourable outcome are vanishingly slight for any given approach.

Do as I do - be patient, keep trying and resolve yourself to the likelihood of dying a born-again virgin

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