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"Ignore, block and move on if you dislike his marital situation and/or his honesty. If you play with singles it's unlikely to be the last time someone lies unfortunately. (Or couples for that matter)" Well that bodes well for the future then eh lol, the point was HE WASN'T honest | |||
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"We've been there too. Not met him since finding out the truth and it has put a damper on trusting new people. We have moved on but not forgotten. Mrs" It certainly does for sure, trouble is we try to be transparent and honest and truthful and are probably wrong for expecting the same of others Sass | |||
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"Ignore, block and move on if you dislike his marital situation and/or his honesty. If you play with singles it's unlikely to be the last time someone lies unfortunately. (Or couples for that matter) Well that bodes well for the future then eh lol, the point was HE WASN'T honest" It's not a nice feeling when you've been lied to but it happens a lot. You have to weigh people up, decide on the level of information you need about them and how far you're prepared to trust that information and to with that. You'll drive yourself mad otherwise | |||
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" It's not a nice feeling when you've been lied to but it happens a lot. You have to weigh people up, decide on the level of information you need about them and how far you're prepared to trust that information and to with that. You'll drive yourself mad otherwise " Oh not driving ourselves made but tbh our faith in genuine guys was waining on here before we decided to trust someone and all its done is made us lose what little faith we had here | |||
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"You've definitely been taken advantage of. And seeing as he lied to get sex from you it can be classed as r@p3 by deception. This is why we make things like this illegal, because it leaves the victim feeling like they've done something wrong when they have not." Not really tho as we all agreed to sex, we are looking at it more as everyone got what they wanted out of it so no harm done but, deception and lies were found out after | |||
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"..... we had a meet recently and went well but since then we have found out that he wasn't truthful and is in fact married, now before people judge or claim that we are judging, each to their own but our preference is open and honesty and it clearly states in our profile that we do not want to be a part of a cheating scenario or indeed want the drama it may cause. Also we as a couple would be devastated if either or one of us did that to each other. During the conversation before we met, we asked if he was married we asked if he was single and on his profile it also states he can accommodate. We feel like we have been deceitful to his wife and family and isn't sitting well with us at all, I'm sure advice would be, learn from it and move on which is fine but we feel wronged and taken advantage of and feel sorry for the wife. " omg you have a conscience is this really the place for you, its happened you haven't committed a crime because you never knew anything about it | |||
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"I have a strictly no married men policy unless I have met the wife. My introduction to swinging was actually a married man. When I declined his offer he called her and asked, she said yeah and if shes good bring her home. I declined but set up a meet for the 2 of them to be sure. Met them several times since and have a full blessing to play with him solo. That being said, I think there are many married men on here claiming to be single. I think I manage to find most out since I do not accommodate, but there is always the chance of a married on slipping through the cracks. Not my thing and I dont think it's right to scam people. I put this in the same category as those who say they're looking for regular and then bail, clearly only looking for notches." But thats the point.... he's specifically said he was single and could accommodate etc etc it was only afterwards that the truths came out | |||
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"You've definitely been taken advantage of. And seeing as he lied to get sex from you it can be classed as r@p3 by deception. This is why we make things like this illegal, because it leaves the victim feeling like they've done something wrong when they have not. Not really tho as we all agreed to sex, we are looking at it more as everyone got what they wanted out of it so no harm done but, deception and lies were found out after" So you would've slept with him if he'd been honest about being married? | |||
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"You've definitely been taken advantage of. And seeing as he lied to get sex from you it can be classed as r@p3 by deception. This is why we make things like this illegal, because it leaves the victim feeling like they've done something wrong when they have not. Not really tho as we all agreed to sex, we are looking at it more as everyone got what they wanted out of it so no harm done but, deception and lies were found out after So you would've slept with him if he'd been honest about being married?" No because we don't want to meet married men, just our thing as our belief is(and only ours before being pounced on) if your marriage is broken or in some way fractured.... fix it or finish it before cheating | |||
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"You've definitely been taken advantage of. And seeing as he lied to get sex from you it can be classed as r@p3 by deception. This is why we make things like this illegal, because it leaves the victim feeling like they've done something wrong when they have not. Not really tho as we all agreed to sex, we are looking at it more as everyone got what they wanted out of it so no harm done but, deception and lies were found out after So you would've slept with him if he'd been honest about being married? No because we don't want to meet married men, just our thing as our belief is(and only ours before being pounced on) if your marriage is broken or in some way fractured.... fix it or finish it before cheating" It's ok, i wasn't questioning your morals. I was curious to know if he got you to have sex with him by decpetion. If you would not have consented to sex with him when knowing the truth and he purposelydenied that truth then it is rpe by deception. You don't have to do anything about it but i will again say it is illegal for him to do that and the reason why is because he is 100% to blame for the scenario. Not you as his victim. Try not to feel bad about it, he is a user, liar, and predator. | |||
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"You've definitely been taken advantage of. And seeing as he lied to get sex from you it can be classed as r@p3 by deception. This is why we make things like this illegal, because it leaves the victim feeling like they've done something wrong when they have not. Not really tho as we all agreed to sex, we are looking at it more as everyone got what they wanted out of it so no harm done but, deception and lies were found out after So you would've slept with him if he'd been honest about being married? No because we don't want to meet married men, just our thing as our belief is(and only ours before being pounced on) if your marriage is broken or in some way fractured.... fix it or finish it before cheating" You may be thinking a bit too deep about this, did he give you the sob story about how rubbish his marriage is or how he gets no attention? Sometimes marriages aren’t broken etc people may just want to have sex with someone else. If there isn’t a mutual agreement between both involved, then yes, it’s shitty. like others have said, you did nothing wrong, you have and had good intentions, but you can’t control the behaviour of others. As the song says “let it go”. Xx | |||
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"Oh pmsl we have but just responding to other comments, its done and its happened and not overthinking it any longer but, just makes it difficult to trust and believe that genuine exists on here, it never used to be this bad and its a pity" Dont let the few scumbags deter you from meeting the genuine ones. We are out there and happy to play open and honestly | |||
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