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The scene in the uk

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By * and C 123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Delamere

What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Amy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe move to Europe!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"
Amy winehouse or Amy Schumer and if Europe of which we are still a part according to the map is great stick to that, its the only way

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By * and C 123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Delamere

Oh how terribly helpful. Truly, thank you for that reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh how terribly helpful. Truly, thank you for that reply."
my Pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we are fussier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we are fussier. "

I'd say more decisive

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

Bear with it. You’ll find the right people, once you get yourself known. Most people suggest trying a club.

Some people are fakes on here, e.g. males masquerading as single women or couples - don’t engage in too much sex chat, usually wheedles them out. Most other people on here do prefer to chat and meet for a social coffee first to see if everyone is on the same page. And even then, people have the right to change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people prefer to get to know someone first and not to fuck when they get horny.

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There's a strange mix of scenes in the UK,which don't always sit well with each other. There are kinksters who plan and fantasise about hitting each other but don't fuck (over simplistic, yes I know) and then different cliques of swingers, some of whom will fuck anything with a pulse, others who have a huge list or very specific demands. Coupled with the overwhelming narcissism, selfishness and hetero-normative,patriarchal behaviours outlooks this country is wracked with....is there any wonder people just want to message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve been here 6 weeks.

3 weeks ago you were already asking on the forums if anyone was for real.

Four threads in 3 weeks bemoaning us.

There a terrific mix of people on here. Perhaps a mix of attitude and how you present yourselves are putting people off.

Take a look in the mirror. You may find your answers to your problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Current profile header and status are not gonna do you any favours.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Quite a lot of people use fab as there social scene and never have any intention to swing ,nothing wrong with that maybe fab needs 2 sites those who actually swing and those who only want socials ? The swingers can be on both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience the best way is to visit swingers clubs and events, that's where the serious people are.

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By * and C 123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Delamere

Food for thought thank you all. X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lots of reasons for differences, including how we each individually approach our swinging. The greater our dependency on an open website, the much greater will be our likely encounter with men who only want wank fodder. You are today's sad alternative to them seeking porn or what could only have been use of an imagination, if the wank fodder seeker had one.

Go to venues to meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite a lot of people use fab as there social scene and never have any intention to swing ,nothing wrong with that maybe fab needs 2 sites those who actually swing and those who only want socials ? The swingers can be on both "

I want e everything

The world is not enough

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

To be honest your profile header & stays update is a bit off putting. It comes across as negative & demanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

Easy jet

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

How does it work in the rest of Europe?

Clubs mainly I would have thought.

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By *aughtius MaximiusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X

How does it work in the rest of Europe?

Clubs mainly I would have thought. "

I’ve experience of swinging in some other European countries. It’s pretty similar to the U.K. in the set up. Most countries have their equivalent of Fab. So people chat on forums, arrange meetings at clubs or elsewhere.

In the clubs I depends on on the country. Depending where you are then people are more direct and forward than other places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the last few months have been unusually quiet here tbf.

I've been a member off and on for a decade, on this profile for 4 years and I've never seen it as quiet.

Not a criticism of anyone, just an observation, even just looking at local updates, it appears very little playing is going on or at the very least people aren't involving Fab in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

Maybe you are confusing this site with "the scene"? They are far from being the same thing

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By *rivingmanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"
I agree. Nobody seems to be genuine anymore, that's my opinion

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. XI agree. Nobody seems to be genuine anymore, that's my opinion "

Genuine as in will fuck anything?

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

Nothing wrong with it, it's fairly good actually.

Perhaps your approach could do some tweeking? Scrutinise everyone you talk to initially to see if they are verified or can verify themselves? Maybe a social meet 1st? Or try attending a social event or club?

I've had amazing fun attending parties, clubs and events as well as organising parties and socials on this profile and my previous profile.

And granted I'm a single woman on here so my inbox is never short of offers from some very amazing men (as well as a bountiful amount of knobheads) but when I've been part of a couple we reach out to other couples who will be attending the same party or club night we will be and meet them there. Less pressure and if we don't get on, lots of others to meet there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are too many people who have preconceived ideas when they join fab that it's easy to just message someone to meet for sex and that person/couple will say yes straightaway. I'm sure there occasions and people who are happy to do that.

For me there are too many risks to do that. There is nothing wrong with being cautious and sensible on site which opens up a world of fantasies for us all.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"What's going on with the scene in the UK?

Why do so many people want to just message, mess about and not do any fucking?

It's not like this on the rest of Europe.

Amy suggestions welcome. X"

Hi guys!

If you want to just ‘get on with it’ with a minimum of chat/fuss then I’d suggest you go along to a swingers club. Choose your club/night though - some clubs/nights can be more social than others - whilst some can be heavily play oriented!

To make the most of it - once you’ve chosen a club/night get yourself on the guest list in the appropriate forum thread (if there is one) - look up others on the list who may interest you and start messaging/chatting.

That way you’ll already know where there’s a mutual interest and you can maximise your time there!

Peachy

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By * and C 123 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Delamere

Good advice. Thank you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice there on researching your club too as they all differ.

For instance we prefer clubs like Chameleons where you are undressed and in towels or robes, whereas others prefer clubs such as Xstasia or Liberty where it's more of a dressed night club style.

They're not for us and equally we have friends who wouldn't be seen dead in Chams

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