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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter

Just want abit of clearance.

We have been on here for 6months and everything is great enjoying the scene loving what we are doing.

We have met the one man he is built like a horse very good looking man. Bit embarrassing on my behalf I couldn’t perform. First time it’s ever happened in a very long time. And I started feeling abit inadequate and basically not good enough. Wife re-assured me that I’m more then good enough.

Question is has this happened to anyone else out there you feeling like this because of your refusal of the little head. And is that the reason why I feel like this? I am definitely not having any doubts about the scene we both love it. It’s just like feelings I haven’t felt before.

I know you beautiful fabbers will help out and try and explain what’s going on in my head. I say try.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

This happens to all men occasionally. Everyone doubts themselves at times.

Don't overthink it and I'm sure you'll soon be back to your usual self.

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"This happens to all men occasionally. Everyone doubts themselves at times.

Don't overthink it and I'm sure you'll soon be back to your usual self."

I’m sure I will.

I think it’s more to do with it’s normally me that embraces the whole thing. And it’s knocked me abit sideways cause this time I haven’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You fell off the bike, it happens.

You need to get back on it, and ride the f*ck out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s tough sometimes psychologically to perform. The consensus that bigger is better is best forgotten as it’s all about the chemistry IMO.

I was in a similar dilemma myself once. It will pass for sure

You will be back to your hard self (if can say it as crude as that lol) in no time.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

If you start comparing yourself to other people, you'll never get out of your own head space.

Yes performance issues happen. That's normal. Dont over think it. We all come in different shapes and sizes in every aspect and everyone knows that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You fell off the bike, it happens.

You need to get back on it, and ride the f*ck out of it "

But seriously......

Suppose you as a couple played with a girl who your wife considered to be hotter than her, and she had a bit of a wobble in confidence as a result. I'm sure you would be at pains to let your wife know that she was the perfect girl for you, and you would 100% mean it too, regardless of how much you had enjoyed the meet.

Take her reassurances in the same way. You are absolutely the guy for her, so relax, and enjoy your journey together through fab life x

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter

Thanks I’m sure it is just abit of a wobble. As I say I think it’s more to do with I’m normally the one to embrace it and this time left me abit intimidated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had that happen but once in the club wasnt able to perform due to being overwhelmed how hot the woman was strange yes but took me by surprise she wanted to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself.. don't go into a meet with negative thoughts ... Remember... You are the one your lady will be waking up with

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Happens all the time. If I had a quid for all the times I've seen guys not able to perform I'd be loaded.

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By *rystaldenisonWoman
over a year ago

salisbury

Completely normal nerves are a sod x

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