FabSwingers.com forum: No Face Pics

By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

I've spent the last week or so periodically deleting old messages from our inbox. Any couples who have been in contact with us, but then request face pics prior to meeting, have been deleted from the inbox - or in some cases blocked, this is to prevent future contact from either side.

Whilst I'm aware I have used a poem within our profile to inform our 'No Face Pics' decision, in the past I have been very clear with it, including being as direct as, "we will not send face pics before meeting". However, some still contact, then become quite self-righteous when it is reiterated to them.

I fully understand most people won't meet before face pics are exchanged, and am not criticising them for this.

Unfortunately, for various reasons we can't and won't share face pics online. The main reason for this is sensitive careers. Consider this: Would you be able to look at your child's teacher in the same way, after seeing their profile on here?

But there are other, lesser reasons such as; I don't like to be shallow, and would prefer to not see the faces of others before meeting. I/we do not need to know what you look like to decide whether to have a coffee with you. It will be after meeting that we ALL decide whether to progress. Complimenting that thought, anybody who insists 'to ensure there's an attraction' they see face pics prior to meeting, isn't likely to be for us. I don't want to meet people who I may consider shallow, and this seems like a decent filter - admittedly though it's not flawless.

Interestingly, in the forums I've found plenty of historic posts from other couples and females who also do not, or would prefer to not, share face pics online.

So if there have been numerous couples and females in the recent past, who are of a similar mindset, there must be couples and females who are active members of this site at present and feel the same.

If you are one, or if you know one. Get in touch!

Disclaimer: Although I don't like to be shallow. We prefer to meet non smokers.

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

Coincidentally, there a recent post on here which shows our concerns are not unfounded...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/981001

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As is so often said "you do you".

Personally I like to see a face picture for one thing it helps in recognising the person when you get to the location. I don't feel it indicates that I have a lack of depth though.

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"it helps in recognising the person when you get to the location. I don't feel it indicates that I have a lack of depth though. "

Nope it isn't, it's an indication of pragmatism. I wouldn't even consider the sentence in your profile regarding 'no pictures of makes' as being shallow.

As explained, it's not a flawless filter, but it is a fairly decent one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've spent the last week or so periodically deleting old messages from our inbox. Any couples who have been in contact with us, but then request face pics prior to meeting, have been deleted from the inbox - or in some cases blocked, this is to prevent future contact from either side.

I fully understand most people won't meet before face pics are exchanged, and am not criticising them for this.

Interestingly, in the forums I've found plenty of historic posts from other couples and females who also do not, or would prefer to not, share face pics online.

If you are one, or if you know one. Get in touch!

Disclaimer: Although I don't like to be shallow. We prefer to meet non smokers.

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in the old days ive met for coffee without seeing a face pic but they were not my cuppa so would never do that now

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I don't send face pics nor do I have any on my profile, not even in my private pics.

My reasoning......No.1 my job. I work in the NHS. I have seen faces of my patients who have profiles on here. They are not the most discreet of people.

No.2 I have had my pictures stolen and put on xhamster... thankfully none of my face in them!

None of our friends and family have any idea about our lifestyle and, unfortunately they wouldn't be very understanding as they are not as open minded as we'd like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't send face pics nor do I have any on my profile, not even in my private pics.

My reasoning......No.1 my job. I work in the NHS. I have seen faces of my patients who have profiles on here. They are not the most discreet of people.

No.2 I have had my pictures stolen and put on xhamster... thankfully none of my face in them!

None of our friends and family have any idea about our lifestyle and, unfortunately they wouldn't be very understanding as they are not as open minded as we'd like.

And guys meet you without ever seeing your face

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By *offee and KinksCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

We like face pics but just before a meet, so that we know who we’re meeting.

However, after a recent experience with a couple who said they would only meet if they got access to our friends photos, we might be going down the same route of no face pics until we’ve met.

It’s always a tricky one but I think caution is probably the best approach in this case.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

After meeting someone once in a bit of a blind date scenario, he was completely my body type and a lovely guy.. However he lacked front teeth.. I would now not meet someone without seeing a face picture.

However each to their own and I don't judge anyone for their choices.

L x

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I work in the NHS. I have seen faces of my patients who have profiles on here. They are not the most discreet of people.

Exactly my point!

Now, with the exception of you living a ridiculous distance away, yours is definitely the sort of profile that would grab my interest for us.

So while you pack your things and move North a little, I'll go browsing Xhamster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never ask for face pics. We prefer not to send ours either, certainly not via fab. Have met people multiple times without exchanging them first. We always meet for a social only first and after chatting first for a while. If we haven't met someone again after the social - it wasn't due to their faces.

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"However he lacked front teeth.. "

This made me chuckle!

But it seems he may have been a little deceitful though... Did he have a genuine reason for not wanting to share his face online, or was he just hiding the fact he had no front teeth?

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We like face pics but just before a meet, so that we know who we’re meeting.

However, after a recent experience with a couple who said they would only meet if they got access to our friends photos, we might be going down the same route of no face pics until we’ve met.

It’s always a tricky one but I think caution is probably the best approach in this case."

We too are members of PM, we won't be visiting again for a few weeks, but hopefully we might bump in to you there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy here a lot of single women and couples state they will only respond to messages ( never do) with face pics. I understand people’s reasons behind not showing but why ask if they don’t show!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Totally unconnected to the thread, but we're coming to PM next Saturday, shame you won't be there, it'd be nice to meet some people off here.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I have been asked why I do put my face pics up in case of black mail and general malicious communications.

My answer is i don't care. I answer to no one, self employed, so it could hurt my business, and I've been contacted by people who've seen me on here, and if they try to use this knowledge to their benefit, I will take them on.

My pics are always being taken and used elsewhere, and if I've the time, I'll contact them and get it taken down.

Funny the only time it's hurt was with my ex (cause its the only the people you trust that betray you) who really used them against me. Didn't work and he got reported to the police eventually.

So if I want to do this, then I've nothing to hide.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

If they see you on here, they’re not going to mention it to you anyway. Unless they don’t care.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

And you’ll meet someone without seeing what they look like? You’re brave. This is a sex site. Surely it does matter? I guess not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't send face pics nor do I have any on my profile, not even in my private pics.

My reasoning......No.1 my job. I work in the NHS. I have seen faces of my patients who have profiles on here. They are not the most discreet of people.

No.2 I have had my pictures stolen and put on xhamster... thankfully none of my face in them!

None of our friends and family have any idea about our lifestyle and, unfortunately they wouldn't be very understanding as they are not as open minded as we'd like.

And guys meet you without ever seeing your face

My ex met me without seeing a face pic and we ended up in a year long relationship lol

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By *plshropsCouple
over a year ago

shrewsbury

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By *plshropsCouple
over a year ago

shrewsbury

We would not meet anyone before seeing a face picture

We all have jobs / businesses that require descrection

We would like to think we are a good judge of character so only send face pics when we are comfortable and feel that both parties are on the same page with regards to a meet

We never send nude / rude face pics and dont ask anyone for them either.

We want to see faces to complete the picture not to get off looking at them.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Your profile, your rules.

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

As a single woman i like to see who i am meeting as its crazy to let yourself be put in danger .. you maybe gen but many are not .. i want to know when that person walks up to me they are the person i saw on fab ... we all have sesitive reasons for not showing faces however how can someone have a go at u for being on here when they themselves are on here ... its perfectly natural and legal ..

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"This is a sex site."

I consider that a subjective opinion. Others consider this a SEX site, I consider it a SWINGERS site. There is a difference between the two.

In short...

There needs to be sexual attraction to want sex with another, this is mainly physical.

Swinging is more like a friendship or relationship, therefore the personality is more important.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Each to there own, we would not meet anyone without seeing a picture first, as we say on our bio we are very much none judgemental but there still has to be some kind of attraction or for 'us' there's just no point.

Cant fault anyone for setting and sticking to there rules

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"And you’ll meet someone without seeing what they look like? You’re brave. This is a sex site. Surely it does matter? I guess not

It may matter and meeting someone without seeing their face pic doesn't mean you have to be intimate with them.

Conversely you might fancy the look of someone having seen their face but on meeting not like their personality

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"we all have sesitive reasons for not showing faces however how can someone have a go at u for being on here when they themselves are on here ... its perfectly natural and legal .."

A social worker goes to somebody's house because their kids need to be taken from them and put in to care, which I believe requires at least two social workers. Whilst there, an adult says to the social worker, "I recognise you from Fab!", then loads the site to show the socal worker's colleagues. This situation is NOT a 'sensitive reason', but rather a compromise to that person's career and ultimately their life. There isn't a single profile I've found on here which is worth that much!

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"This is a sex site.

I consider that a subjective opinion. Others consider this a SEX site, I consider it a SWINGERS site. There is a difference between the two.

In short...

There needs to be sexual attraction to want sex with another, this is mainly physical.

Swinging is more like a friendship or relationship, therefore the personality is more important."

I knew this response would appear lol. And yes, you’re right. But personality and physical attraction are equally important to us. One without the other will never get a meet from us - unless it’s an organised social where we just so happen to meet random people or a club where the same happens. We wouldn’t meet one to one with anyone we didn’t find physically attractive because we are here to find new sexual fun as a couple

But yeah, to each their own!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

My refusal to share face pictures comes partly from my background in BDSM. I have seen pictures be used against people in blac kmail but also by their employer or by an ex trying to gain custody of children.

You never, ever know where life may take you in the future and what may be taken away from you because of your atypical views.

Is a coffee with someone you might not find facially attractive really that much of a timewasting exercise?

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Is a coffee with someone you might not find facially attractive really that much of a timewasting exercise? "

Couldn't word it better myself!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"And guys meet you without ever seeing your face

When I worked as an escort, guys paid to meet me without ever seeing my face...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And guys meet you without ever seeing your face

When I worked as an escort, guys paid to meet me without ever seeing my face... "

Any holes a goal then

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"we all have sesitive reasons for not showing faces however how can someone have a go at u for being on here when they themselves are on here ... its perfectly natural and legal ..

I am in a fortunate position of having a job that could cause a danger if people try to use against me however i have already declared my swinging life to my employers so no issues ... my fear of meeting someone who i havent seen a pic of etc is should the worst happen and i meet psycho i would be screwed cos i wouldnt know if they were random psycho or someone i had planned to meet

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

"Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow."

100% agreed. It’s totally silly to suggest it is shallow. Physical attraction, for most people, is important.

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"we all have sesitive reasons for not showing faces however how can someone have a go at u for being on here when they themselves are on here ... its perfectly natural and legal ..

Also no one is suggesting you place face pics on your profile if you trust those people enough to meet and keep your privacy what is wrong with sending private pic in message just prior to meet .. it doesnt go on your profile.

As for me i am large and proud and admit to being an exhibitionist so happy to show my face to the world xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sending face pics because of a profession is mad. Unless you are wearing uniform while in pics or engaging in sexual acts or stupid enough to take pics at work no action can legally be taken against you for your sex life.

I can’t imagine caring if someone recognised me, I’m not even the slightest bit embarrassed by my sex life and also have the ability to tell people to fuck off if they are rude about it.

Also I’m not prudish enough to judge anyone else for their sex life, and decent enough not to mention I recognised them from on here.

However it’s not a bad thing to have privacy, would just never meet someone with out seeing their face

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By *ames2602Man
over a year ago

whittle

"As a single guy here a lot of single women and couples state they will only respond to messages ( never do) with face pics. I understand people’s reasons behind not showing but why ask if they don’t show!"

This is also a little beef with me too. There are a few blank profiles on here where there into and rest of profile sounds very interesting but say they wont respond to message with a face pic, yes they have no pics what so ever on there profile.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Even together, we're not meeting off here without seeing face pics. Apart from the safety side, it puts off many fantasists. Meeting at a club is a bit different; by default you see the faces along with everything else then you strike up conversation etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After meeting someone once in a bit of a blind date scenario, he was completely my body type and a lovely guy.. However he lacked front teeth.. I would now not meet someone without seeing a face picture.

However each to their own and I don't judge anyone for their choices.

L x "
i had a similar experience with a woman her teeth were rotten and spikey

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"what is wrong with sending private pic in message just prior to meet "

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/896625

At the point you send a face picture online, you've lost control of it.

"... proud and admit to being an exhibitionist so happy to show my face to the world xx "

Which is fine. However without doubt there are teenagers local to us who are on this site, some underage. Signing up to this site is not difficult, there is little to no age verification.

Those teenagers know our children.

As shown in the post above, other members have shared the face pictures which have been sent to them. What is stopping those members sharing our face pics with a teenager who lives local to us?

Is it appropriate for our 'alternative lifestyle' to be conversation topic our our children's peers?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Not sending face pics because of a profession is mad. Unless you are wearing uniform while in pics or engaging in sexual acts or stupid enough to take pics at work no action can legally be taken against you for your sex life.

I can’t imagine caring if someone recognised me, I’m not even the slightest bit embarrassed by my sex life and also have the ability to tell people to fuck off if they are rude about it.

Also I’m not prudish enough to judge anyone else for their sex life, and decent enough not to mention I recognised them from on here.

However it’s not a bad thing to have privacy, would just never meet someone with out seeing their face

However the precedent would say otherwise. As a friend of mine knows having taken their dismissal all the way to the European Court of Human Rights.... And they lost...

If an employer views your sexual life as having an impact on your job or on the reputation of the company. You can be sacked.

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"what is wrong with sending private pic in message just prior to meet

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/896625

At the point you send a face picture online, you've lost control of it.

... proud and admit to being an exhibitionist so happy to show my face to the world xx

Which is fine. However without doubt there are teenagers local to us who are on this site, some underage. Signing up to this site is not difficult, there is little to no age verification.

Those teenagers know our children.

As shown in the post above, other members have shared the face pictures which have been sent to them. What is stopping those members sharing our face pics with a teenager who lives local to us?

Is it appropriate for our 'alternative lifestyle' to be conversation topic our our children's peers?

If you qualify your meets the above should not be an issue ... i never meet without having decent convos to ensure my safety, my privacy and morals are all maintained ... and that an element of mutual trust has been achieved

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow."

For the most part I agree. However , in my opinion, wanting a face pic with the first message certainly is.

Also my first post reads... "anybody who insists 'to ensure there's an attraction' they see face pics prior to meeting, isn't likely to be for us. I don't want to meet people who I may consider shallow".

The key phrase here is "who I may consider shallow", that is MY opinion, if I consider them shallow that is entirely my choice...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow.

For the most part I agree. However , in my opinion, wanting a face pic with the first message certainly is.

The key phrase here is "who I may consider shallow", that is MY opinion, if I consider them shallow that is entirely my choice..."

It's abit of a shitty opinion though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get lots of free time so for me I wouldn't waste my time on a profile that won't send me a couple of recent face pics. For me there has to be a mutual attraction. Like the old saying goes

Body from Baywatch face from Crimewatch.

I know we can't all like the same thing so I would rather chat and meet people that I'm attracted to. I've met doctors, nurses Teachers, barristers, Police , judges and solicitors on my adventures. They have never had a problem sending a face picture or two in their messages. Each to their own I guess. Oh and i slept with my Son's old teacher last year. I always did fancy her on parents evening .Lol

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Notwithstanding the rest, I'm not sure how safety can be guaranteed before a first meet through messaging. Seeing pics does not guarantee safety (in fact, there's no such thing) but in our view, at least it means the person who turns up is the person you've talked to and isn't their desperate housemate, brother, sister or dog. We try to and aim for safety through very public social meets in busy places, covered by CCTV etc, but let's say your "meet" pickpockets you or similar - having photos to supply in case a crime is committed against you is helpful. There are stories on here of people having drinks spiked and waking up in hotels having been in a club prior. And that's happened to men and couples apparently, so there isn't necessarily safety in numbers or being a particular gender.

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow.

For the most part I agree. However , in my opinion, wanting a face pic with the first message certainly is.

The key phrase here is "who I may consider shallow", that is MY opinion, if I consider them shallow that is entirely my choice...

It's abit of a shitty opinion though. "

And I could say the same about your opinion...

The enlightened quote of "Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one but they think each others stink" works quite well here

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Wanting to know what someone looks like isn't shallow.

For the most part I agree. However , in my opinion, wanting a face pic with the first message certainly is.

The key phrase here is "who I may consider shallow", that is MY opinion, if I consider them shallow that is entirely my choice...

It's abit of a shitty opinion though.

And I could say the same about your opinion...

The enlightened quote of "Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one but they think each others stink" works quite well here"

Indeed

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

This!

I won't meet anyone for social or more without seeing Face pics first.

I completely respect if people don't have them on profiles, or private albums. I don't.

If I'm getting on a with a couple/single female and they won't show me a face picture at all.

It isn't going to go much further than cordial chat.

I just assume we are looking for different things and move on.

No harm, no foul.

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

I should point out that I don't expect to see a face pic in the first time we are messaging either.

It happens when it happens, not through pressure or expectation.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I don't send face pics nor do I have any on my profile, not even in my private pics.

My reasoning......No.1 my job. I work in the NHS. I have seen faces of my patients who have profiles on here. They are not the most discreet of people.

No.2 I have had my pictures stolen and put on xhamster... thankfully none of my face in them!

None of our friends and family have any idea about our lifestyle and, unfortunately they wouldn't be very understanding as they are not as open minded as we'd like.

And guys meet you without ever seeing your face

Yes! They do. And they don't seem to be disappointed either.....

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I can’t imagine caring if someone recognised me, I’m not even the slightest bit embarrassed by my sex life and also have the ability to tell people to fuck off if they are rude about it.

Also I’m not prudish enough to judge anyone else for their sex life, and decent enough not to mention I recognised them from on here.

However it’s not a bad thing to have privacy, would just never meet someone with out seeing their face

Try being a teacher and a kid finding ur profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I/we do not need to know what you look like to decide whether to have a coffee with you. It will be after meeting that we ALL decide whether to progress."

THIS!!! SO VERY MUCH THIS!!!

I agree with not needing to know what someone looks like before meeting them. When I meet I am not expecting to do anything more than move from the written to the spoken word. If someone is going to purely base their entire judgement call on a picture, they are not the type of person I find interesting or enjoy the company of in the first place.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I/we do not need to know what you look like to decide whether to have a coffee with you. It will be after meeting that we ALL decide whether to progress.

THIS!!! SO VERY MUCH THIS!!!

Well said

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I might switch to this policy! It is incredibly depressing to be asked for a facepic and then be told "not my type" by about 1000 women!

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

I also don’t send face pics, it’s not stopped me having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t imagine caring if someone recognised me, I’m not even the slightest bit embarrassed by my sex life and also have the ability to tell people to fuck off if they are rude about it.

Also I’m not prudish enough to judge anyone else for their sex life, and decent enough not to mention I recognised them from on here.

However it’s not a bad thing to have privacy, would just never meet someone with out seeing their face

Try being a teacher and a kid finding ur profile"

No one said it had to be in your profile pic etc I’m talking about not sending one at all

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I/we do not need to know what you look like to decide whether to have a coffee with you. It will be after meeting that we ALL decide whether to progress.

THIS!!! SO VERY MUCH THIS!!!

Yes! so agree with you on this

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I dont like sending face pics. I have in past. Been chatting to people getting on great. Arranging to meet then send face pic and get blocked. So I'm either shrek or they know me. Either one messes with my head

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"This!

I won't meet anyone for social or more without seeing Face pics first.

I completely respect if people don't have them on profiles, or private albums. I don't.

If I'm getting on a with a couple/single female and they won't show me a face picture at all.

It isn't going to go much further than cordial chat.

I just assume we are looking for different things and move on.

No harm, no foul. "

This

Each to their own,if it works for you thats good

However not something i would do,It could be anyone or someone I know .

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I'm either shrek or they know me. Either one messes with my head"

Maybe it's the green skin and trumpet ears?

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

"I'm either shrek or they know me. Either one messes with my head

Maybe it's the green skin and trumpet ears?

Gives them something to hold onto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally respect everyone’s views on this and get what people are saying about their jobs but eventually the idea is that you’re going to meet with someone then there’s no hiding who you are.

What if neither party has swapped face pics and it turns out that you know each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We broke our rules and met a couple without seeing face photo s

Never again! He was about 30 stone and needed two chairs and no teeth lovely tracksuit bottom s

And she was rude and hardly spoke

No wonder they go dogging a lot !!

Can’t understand they have ok verification s but then a lot of single guys aren’t fussy and she certainly isn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We broke our rules and met a couple without seeing face photo s

Never again! He was about 30 stone and needed two chairs and no teeth lovely tracksuit bottom s

And she was rude and hardly spoke

No wonder they go dogging a lot !!

Can’t understand they have ok verification s but then a lot of single guys aren’t fussy and she certainly isn’t

Don't get this. Surely you don't need a face pic to see someone's body size. And how does face pic show what they'll be wearing to a meet and whether they'll be rude or not?

Am I missing something?

Mrs

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

What if neither party has swapped face pics and it turns out that you know each other?

It's all about balance and management of that.

We're very selective about who we meet, so the risk and concern of meeting somebody we know is far, far, FAR less than that of somebody on here disclosing who we are to somebody in our day-to-day life.

So far

meeting somebody we know = nil

recognising somebody on here = double figures

A significant number of those we've recognised on here are not known for their discretion!

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"We broke our rules and met a couple without seeing face photo s

Never again! He was about 30 stone and needed two chairs and no teeth lovely tracksuit bottom s

And she was rude and hardly spoke

No wonder they go dogging a lot !!

Can’t understand they have ok verification s but then a lot of single guys aren’t fussy and she certainly isn’t

Don't get this. Surely you don't need a face pic to see someone's body size. And how does face pic show what they'll be wearing to a meet and whether they'll be rude or not?

Am I missing something?

Mrs"

Yes this confused me too

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

At least one of those who have said they wouldn't meet without a prior face pic, have also commented on another thread about how one their fantasies is to be blindfolded and never know who is in the room?

Good luck making THAT fantasy a reality!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I choose not to send face pics, it's not because of my job (although I'd certainly prefer my employer didn't know I am on here) but it is for personal reasons. If others decide to send me a face pic then that's fine, I don't request them.

I always insist on a strictly social meet, in a very public place, before I will even consider taking things any further at a future meet.

These are my choices, I am happy with them. I do find sometimes people get stroppy & abusive about it, that just proves that they are not people I want to meet.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I choose not to send face pics, it's not because of my job (although I'd certainly prefer my employer didn't know I am on here) but it is for personal reasons. If others decide to send me a face pic then that's fine, I don't request them.

I always insist on a strictly social meet, in a very public place, before I will even consider taking things any further at a future meet.

These are my choices, I am happy with them. I do find sometimes people get stroppy & abusive about it, that just proves that they are not people I want to meet. "

For single blokes no face pics isnt really an option for 99% of women.

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over a year ago

I always insist on a strictly social meet, in a very public place, before I will even consider taking things any further at a future meet.

These are my choices, I am happy with them. I do find sometimes people get stroppy & abusive about it, that just proves that they are not people I want to meet.

For single blokes no face pics isnt really an option for 99% of women."

Agree

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"What if neither party has swapped face pics and it turns out that you know each other?

I had that in a BDSM setting. We had a moment to gather ourselves then carried on with our conversation.

But if it hadn't been as successful a meet, there would have been no way for that person to tie me to my profile, no way for them to say that the person they had agreed to meet was me.

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"But if it hadn't been as successful a meet, there would have been no way for that person to tie me to my profile, no way for them to say that the person they had agreed to meet was me.

This is exactly how we run our profile. I treat EVERYBODY as possibly being a scorned ex partner. Without face pics or identifiable information, they are unable to prove with any certainty that this profile is us.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Generally we go to clubs, so face pics are not an issue as you get to see everything, without filters and without fakery in a club.

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

We'll meet happily for a social with someone local without facepics. A coffee is just a coffee and if we enjoy their company it's a good thing. Travelling hours away for a anticipated playmeet though we might like the full picture 1st.

Info in definitely correlates to effort out

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By *riple S OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Travelling hours away for a anticipated playmeet though we might like the full picture 1st.

Yep totally agree, that's why we always offer to meet others near to where they live. Or indeed in a club...

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