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correct way to act in a club?

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By *eicesterguy4u OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Hi guys, I'm thinking about going to a club but what is the correct way to approach couples? Do I ask the husband for an introduction? Thanks

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

talk to people in the social areas if you see someone you like speak to both of them a lot of people will talk over me and just talk to Sir when we are in a club we may be dom sub but we are never intense in a club so people wouldnt know but i get ignored or groped without so much as a hello. My advice is talk and be polite and nice to people and make an effort. The worst guy to have in a club is the one who doesnt say anything but will stand over the top of us as we play wanking and trying to grope me without saying anything. Dont follow someone round all night either like a lost puppy. Think about it if you were in a normal pub would you just grope some one ? and also no means no so dont try your luck if you have been turned down

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you watch the way a night pans out you'll see that they single guys who get invited to.play are.the ones who have spent the earlier part of the evening being sociable.

Talk to both halves of the couple - chatting to him about the football whilst staring at his wife's tits is not cool! Nor is drooling over her and blanking him.

You don't need to be really witty, just polite and friendly. If you notice people keep looking at you then introduce yourself, tell them you haven't been before, tell them you're nervous, tell them you weren't sure wether to say hi or leave them alone. Remember they're a couple, they will know each other well and not always need to speak to communicate. If they don't want you there they will move on.

If you haven't made eye contact but still want to speak begin with a genuine compliment - always well received and.people do put effort into how they dress.

If you think conversation is getting stilted be the one who moves on. Say it was nice chatting, maybe we'll chat later.

And don't offend anyone, clubs are friendly places. A firm no thanks should be sufficient, if not have a word with staff. Don't get arsey if someones simply not your type, swingers are great at watching body language and you never know who are good friends, don't burn bridges before you've even started - that total munter could be a really good friend,.offer loads of good advice and be able to introduce you to lots of people!

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

As already stated, be sociable and not a towel twitcher! a smile and a hello goes a long way. If you see a couple you like the look of do not wait untill the bloke gets up to go for a pee then swoop in on the female... we see that happen so often!

Unfortunatly some people can be a bit up themselves and make it hard work for single guys but the majority will speak.

The guys that do the groundwork are the ones that tend to have the fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also remember it's not just couples in a club, there are up single females there to you know

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"If you watch the way a night pans out you'll see that they single guys who get invited to.play are.the ones who have spent the earlier part of the evening being sociable.

Talk to both halves of the couple - chatting to him about the football whilst staring at his wife's tits is not cool! Nor is drooling over her and blanking him.

You don't need to be really witty, just polite and friendly. If you notice people keep looking at you then introduce yourself, tell them you haven't been before, tell them you're nervous, tell them you weren't sure wether to say hi or leave them alone. Remember they're a couple, they will know each other well and not always need to speak to communicate. If they don't want you there they will move on.

If you haven't made eye contact but still want to speak begin with a genuine compliment - always well received and.people do put effort into how they dress.

If you think conversation is getting stilted be the one who moves on. Say it was nice chatting, maybe we'll chat later.

And don't offend anyone, clubs are friendly places. A firm no thanks should be sufficient, if not have a word with staff. Don't get arsey if someones simply not your type, swingers are great at watching body language and you never know who are good friends, don't burn bridges before you've even started - that total munter could be a really good friend,.offer loads of good advice and be able to introduce you to lots of people!"

The feeling is mutual

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"If you watch the way a night pans out you'll see that they single guys who get invited to.play are.the ones who have spent the earlier part of the evening being sociable.

Talk to both halves of the couple - chatting to him about the football whilst staring at his wife's tits is not cool! Nor is drooling over her and blanking him.

You don't need to be really witty, just polite and friendly. If you notice people keep looking at you then introduce yourself, tell them you haven't been before, tell them you're nervous, tell them you weren't sure wether to say hi or leave them alone. Remember they're a couple, they will know each other well and not always need to speak to communicate. If they don't want you there they will move on.

If you haven't made eye contact but still want to speak begin with a genuine compliment - always well received and.people do put effort into how they dress.

If you think conversation is getting stilted be the one who moves on. Say it was nice chatting, maybe we'll chat later.

And don't offend anyone, clubs are friendly places. A firm no thanks should be sufficient, if not have a word with staff. Don't get arsey if someones simply not your type, swingers are great at watching body language and you never know who are good friends, don't burn bridges before you've even started - that total munter could be a really good friend,.offer loads of good advice and be able to introduce you to lots of people!

The feeling is mutual "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Theres some good advice on this thread but I just have to add that one of the things that will really put me off someone is when a guy will approach Rob and ask if he can play with me while im stood there next to him

Its highly insulting!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there is a lot of good advice... the way i always look at it is if there are two people there.. talk to both.. in the end they both make the decision....

but as i always say and people get bored of me saying... you can be the socialising single bloke who will chat and talk and laugh and have a good time regardless.. or you can be a towel twitching, patrolling, zombie like creature who doesn't say boo to a goose...

which of those two would be see as "putting your best foot forward"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL, when i saw this post, it was in the forums menu, and the post in the forum below was "mature",,,, think that pretty much answered the question for me...

act respectfully and maturely, for us its a massive turn off to see people wasted, rolling about all over the place and acting out of turn. but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres some good advice on this thread but I just have to add that one of the things that will really put me off someone is when a guy will approach Rob and ask if he can play with me while im stood there next to him

Its highly insulting!"

Yet you see for me that would be the correct way.. and I actually find that most guys do this... I find when I go as a single female they will ask the guy I am with

I think that at the clubs you need to be yourself.. as no point trying to be someone you are not..Others have already stated the obvious things.

And really dont go and expect to play, that way you wont be disappointed.

Cali

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Theres some good advice on this thread but I just have to add that one of the things that will really put me off someone is when a guy will approach Rob and ask if he can play with me while im stood there next to him

Its highly insulting!"

It's cus they are all scared of you!!!

**runs off before HPC can kill maddie**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theres some good advice on this thread but I just have to add that one of the things that will really put me off someone is when a guy will approach Rob and ask if he can play with me while im stood there next to him

Its highly insulting!"

i used to hate that too

i remember playing in a open room once with my ex and this guy taps HIM om the shoulder and asks HIM if it was ok to put a condom on so my ex said (knowing i hated this attitude) no mate im not bi and carried on, the guy not knowing what to say to that just walked of

I used to find it insulting too that guys would ask my husband if it was ok for them to play with me like i just had to go along with what i was told

But saying that there are some guys in club that expect to be asked first so in fairness to single guys it can get confusing

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

we would love to try a club over on the mainland its our to do list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

def dont do as we saw in chams last night.

stand in the social area with your erect pecker sticking out of you towel.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Following the club rules is always helpful...

Be friendly, and don't go there on a mission to play. If your a guy and you talk to a couple make sure you talk to both of them, not just the female.

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