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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So we are wanting to enter the swinging scene a bit more, we have had a meets etc, and would love to start hitting some clubs etc, we always get tested after a meet but the gum clinic mentioned that even though we give blood they still cant test for hep and hsv1/2 - so we researched it..

The symptoms of both HSV1 and HSV2 are similar. People with the virus may display no symptoms, very mild symptoms, or mistake their symptoms for something else. The absence of symptoms does not mean the virus cannot be transmitted to others.

So how do we know we wont pass something on? It worries us as we don’t have the symptoms and our tests are clear but what if we unknowingly pass something on

How would you feel?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Use condoms. That's the only way to be sure you wont pass them or the lady catch them.

Because I can assure you. Removing those cells is not a fun experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Use condoms. That's the only way to be sure you wont pass them or the lady catch them.

Because I can assure you. Removing those cells is not a fun experience. "

“using a condom or dental dam does not guarantee the virus will not be transmitted, as a barrier cannot cover all infected areas”

It can spread by skin to skin, so someone can pass it from touch by hand etc so condoms not really a help?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Use condoms. That's the only way to be sure you wont pass them or the lady catch them.

Because I can assure you. Removing those cells is not a fun experience.

“using a condom or dental dam does not guarantee the virus will not be transmitted, as a barrier cannot cover all infected areas”

It can spread by skin to skin, so someone can pass it from touch by hand etc so condoms not really a help?"

So there is no form of 'safe sex', so if the risks are too high for you perhaps you should abstain?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" So there is no form of 'safe sex', so if the risks are too high for you perhaps you should abstain?"

Its not the risks to us, its what others think is our main concern, we are willing to risk it, but what if another couple isnt and blames us ?

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"So we are wanting to enter the swinging scene a bit more, we have had a meets etc, and would love to start hitting some clubs etc, we always get tested after a meet but the gum clinic mentioned that even though we give blood they still cant test for hep and hsv1/2 - so we researched it..

The symptoms of both HSV1 and HSV2 are similar. People with the virus may display no symptoms, very mild symptoms, or mistake their symptoms for something else. The absence of symptoms does not mean the virus cannot be transmitted to others.

So how do we know we wont pass something on? It worries us as we don’t have the symptoms and our tests are clear but what if we unknowingly pass something on

How would you feel?"

??? Are you saying your worried you may catch something from a club and pass it on ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HSV1 can be transmitted through saliva .... you can get a HSV1 infection on your genitalia ..... same symptoms, same treatment. HSV1 has less less relapses than HSV2. Carriers can indeed be contagious without symptoms ...... its a risk not negated with condoms x

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Safer sex not safe sex.

If you use protection then you are having safer sex, if the risk is too high for you then that's a choice you need to make. Just as whoever you may meet, it's their choice xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" ??? Are you saying your worried you may catch something from a club and pass it on ??"

No, were worried that we are a carrier of a virus and we dont want to pass it on if we are. Estimated 1 in 4 have herpes, every 1 in 3 of those people show signs, so statistically we will have been in contact with like 40 people with herpes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you suffer from cold sores ?.... if so then yes you can spread It through oral sex but generally peeps know when a cold sore is on its way so they abstain.

If you had genital herpes you would know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a risk we're all grown up enough to make a decision on. As for blaming... many carriers don't even know they have it so only the ignorant will try to "blame" someone. Their own responsibility. No one else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you suffer from cold sores ?.... if so then yes you can spread It through oral sex but generally peeps know when a cold sore is on its way so they abstain.

If you had genital herpes you would know about it"

Not if you've never had any symptoms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you suffer from cold sores ?.... if so then yes you can spread It through oral sex but generally peeps know when a cold sore is on its way so they abstain.

If you had genital herpes you would know about it"

No neither of us suffer or have had coldsores, and like mentioned the majority of people don’t show symptoms so how can we be sure? We asked the gum clinic to test us and they said the tests can show positive/negative results and they wont do it unless one of us has blisters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you suffer from cold sores ?.... if so then yes you can spread It through oral sex but generally peeps know when a cold sore is on its way so they abstain.

If you had genital herpes you would know about it

No neither of us suffer or have had coldsores, and like mentioned the majority of people don’t show symptoms so how can we be sure? We asked the gum clinic to test us and they said the tests can show positive/negative results and they wont do it unless one of us has blisters"

I think you're worrying unnecessarily. But if you're really worried then maybe swinging isn't the best hobby to have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you suffer from cold sores ?.... if so then yes you can spread It through oral sex but generally peeps know when a cold sore is on its way so they abstain.

If you had genital herpes you would know about it

No neither of us suffer or have had coldsores, and like mentioned the majority of people don’t show symptoms so how can we be sure? We asked the gum clinic to test us and they said the tests can show positive/negative results and they wont do it unless one of us has blisters

I think you're worrying unnecessarily. But if you're really worried then maybe swinging isn't the best hobby to have. "

But we love it and have many more experiences to have haha

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I think you’re overthinking this a bit too much

I get tested every three months, which is what has always been recommended. I have never had issues with anything & never felt I had cause for concern. I don’t play bareback & neither does my partner.

As others have said, it doesn’t negate the risk, but it reduces it.

If that isn’t safe enough for you to feel comfortable, then maybe this isn’t for you?

Hope you find the answer that’s right for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you’re overthinking this a bit too much

I get tested every three months, which is what has always been recommended. I have never had issues with anything & never felt I had cause for concern. I don’t play bareback & neither does my partner.

As others have said, it doesn’t negate the risk, but it reduces it.

If that isn’t safe enough for you to feel comfortable, then maybe this isn’t for you?

Hope you find the answer that’s right for you "

Full rubber suit i think on next meet haha x

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


" ??? Are you saying your worried you may catch something from a club and pass it on ??

No, were worried that we are a carrier of a virus and we dont want to pass it on if we are. Estimated 1 in 4 have herpes, every 1 in 3 of those people show signs, so statistically we will have been in contact with like 40 people with herpes"

Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x "

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?"

Not necessarily think all our amune systems are different like others have said think your overthinking if its that bad then dont do it. Always play safe and if they clean and smelling fresh that's a good start lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?"

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An initial infection will cause symptoms ...... from that point you are a carrier and HSV can be active without symptoms .... initial symptoms are often mistaken for flu or feeling under the weather .... blisters aren’t always evident x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?"

So share and not care? Haha

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

It's a calculated risk everyone who swings knows no sex is 100 percent safe I wouldn't over think it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swear this exact conversation happens at least once a month. Are you sure you don’t have shares in the treatment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

So share and not care? Haha"

No. Just why worry about an unknown? Everyone in this game should know the potential risks so we're all in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

So share and not care? Haha"

That's quite a juvenile way of summing it up to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I swear this exact conversation happens at least once a month. Are you sure you don’t have shares in the treatment? "

What treatment haha? Who ever did invent one would be a millionnaire, its just hard to believe that with 35k+ active users here none of them have herpes etc and all clean like everyone always say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

So share and not care? Haha

That's quite a juvenile way of summing it up to be honest. "

Its a joke like the saying “sharing is caring”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

So share and not care? Haha

That's quite a juvenile way of summing it up to be honest.

Its a joke like the saying “sharing is caring” "

Haha.

Hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Why do you think you are ?? Tbh I dont even think of these things I get tested every 3 months regardless whether I'm playing or not x

Just going by statistics really, if one in 4 have it, between us we have slept with x amount of people then theoretically we have had sexual contact with around 30 people with it, therefore surely we do?

Probably. And probably so do those you meet. So what?

So share and not care? Haha

That's quite a juvenile way of summing it up to be honest.

Its a joke like the saying “sharing is caring”

Haha.

Hilarious. "

Glad it pleases you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I swear this exact conversation happens at least once a month. Are you sure you don’t have shares in the treatment?

What treatment haha? Who ever did invent one would be a millionnaire, its just hard to believe that with 35k+ active users here none of them have herpes etc and all clean like everyone always say"

There is treatment. Just no cure.

Are the kids on half term?

And as for the idiots who claim to 100% clean. They are clearly clueless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would I feel?

Sick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I swear this exact conversation happens at least once a month. Are you sure you don’t have shares in the treatment?

What treatment haha? Who ever did invent one would be a millionnaire, its just hard to believe that with 35k+ active users here none of them have herpes etc and all clean like everyone always say

There is treatment. Just no cure.

Are the kids on half term?

And as for the idiots who claim to 100% clean. They are clearly clueless. "

No half terms next week i believe

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Use condoms. That's the only way to be sure you wont pass them or the lady catch them.

Because I can assure you. Removing those cells is not a fun experience. "

I retract this statement, I confused this virus with the one that can cause cervical cancer (I forget the name)

Apologies op.

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