FabSwingers.com forum: I don't want to stop playing!

By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

George Bernard Shaw reputedly said; "we don't stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing"!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

And yet so many people have age ranges from 18-99.

good luck to you!

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

"And yet so many people have age ranges from 18-99.

good luck to you! "

True but 1 response to my observation probably says it all - thanks for the good wishes

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"George Bernard Shaw reputedly said; "we don't stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing"!

Sadly what little play I found through Fab has all but disappeared because of a number. I've kept myself trim and fit, all my 'bits' are in good working order and up for it and I would claim to be a nice guy with good skills but attract no interest being on the wrong side of 70!"
. I agree as you get older there seems to be less & less interest.Are there any socials clubs , spa in your area or nearby areas that perhaps you can attend to see if you can make friends or a connection.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

As an older woman I'm not interested in men older than me here, or in real life. Mainly due to older men's attitudes but, also old looking faces don't do it for me.

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

We have been around a few years now, but finding it harder, which we expected. But, don't understand people the same age as us complaining, when they can't meet anyone younger. We just go with the flow. We love meeting older swingers, and have always been that way, even when we were young, it's just sex guys, stop looking for perfection. I would worry as a women if my man was too into a younger woman, as would he if I was the same.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"We have been around a few years now, but finding it harder, which we expected. But, don't understand people the same age as us complaining, when they can't meet anyone younger. We just go with the flow. We love meeting older swingers, and have always been that way, even when we were young, it's just sex guys, stop looking for perfection. I would worry as a women if my man was too into a younger woman, as would he if I was the same. "

I see you have a size preference in your profile. We all have preferences and, that should be respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"George Bernard Shaw reputedly said; "we don't stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing"!

For what it's worth, age wouldn't put me off. As long as there's an attraction, that's what matters.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Absolutely......!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"George Bernard Shaw reputedly said; "we don't stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing"!

For what it's worth, age wouldn't put me off. As long as there's an attraction, that's what matters."

Age is but a number.

We males think if we have a shower, get our glad rags on and go tell cheesy jokes in a bar that we will pull. It doesnt work like that. It happens when it happens, no matter the age.

Keep going, you will find her/them.

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

"As an older woman I'm not interested in men older than me here, or in real life. Mainly due to older men's attitudes but, also old looking faces don't do it for me.

We all have our preferences, I have no problem with that, although your statement about "older men's attitudes" is a bit sweeping!

Whatever, I grew up in Barnstaple, haven't been for years - does the Pannier Market still exist?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

"George Bernard Shaw reputedly said; "we don't stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing"!

For what it's worth, age wouldn't put me off. As long as there's an attraction, that's what matters."

Of course attraction is the key, I fully understand that however at my age I feel I don't get the opportunity to demonstrate that I am (at least I hope I am) an attractive person. Incidentally I am not suggesting that I am hankering after younger women, the few friends I have made on here are in there 60s

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse. "

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case.

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

Believe me I am not expecting to attract younger players. The few friends I have made on here are great and they are just that - friends as well as players. Sadly our lives and distance don't sync very well making it difficult to hook up. Looking for a more local FWB has attracted little to no interest. Whatever I applaud your attitude.

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case. "

The desire has not faded, I suppose that is why I am here and lamenting the fact that I mostly likely won't get to play going forward.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case.

The desire has not faded, I suppose that is why I am here and lamenting the fact that I mostly likely won't get to play going forward. "

Reckon we are in the same boat. Fortunately I do still have some opportunities to play. My real desire is to have an FWB, age does not matter too much, there just needs to be an understanding and willingness to "have a go"...!!!

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

I know of older people on here who are doing very well. You have regular organised socials local to you and the two clubs in Leeds. Do you attend these OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such is life !

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By *inateaseWoman
over a year ago

ANTRIM

I’d meet you if you weren’t so far away. I have a thing for older men.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"As an older woman I'm not interested in men older than me here, or in real life. Mainly due to older men's attitudes but, also old looking faces don't do it for me.

We all have our preferences, I have no problem with that, although your statement about "older men's attitudes" is a bit sweeping!

Whatever, I grew up in Barnstaple, haven't been for years - does the Pannier Market still exist?"

It's completely my experience when talking to older men.

Pannier Market still exists in Barnstaple. I'm a Londoner originally.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case. "

The issue you have there is that just because you have the desire, it doesn't mean someone should indulge it.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case.

The issue you have there is that just because you have the desire, it doesn't mean someone should indulge it. "

Yes, you can take that view but what if there is another person who does wish to reciprocate and enjoy a relationship?

Thought that was the idea of Fab, to try and bring folk together. Maybe a I have got it wrong??!!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Sexual attractiveness declines as you get older. That's just a fact of life and there is nothing you can do about it.

I'm 53, I get a lot less attention than I did ten years ago and it's obviously only going to get worse.

What you say is quite true but for many people the desire is still there, even on in to so called "old age". Well certainly true in my case.

The issue you have there is that just because you have the desire, it doesn't mean someone should indulge it.

Yes, you can take that view but what if there is another person who does wish to reciprocate and enjoy a relationship?

Thought that was the idea of Fab, to try and bring folk together. Maybe a I have got it wrong??!!"

That is the idea of fab, and if you can find someone that wants to reciprocate then it's all good. If not, you just have to accept it.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

That is the idea of fab, and if you can find someone that wants to reciprocate then it's all good. If not, you just have to accept it. "

Not only true of "Fab" but life in general. I don't feel much inclined to accept it and am always looking for ways to meet folk and form relationships. Not always easy. You seem be suggesting that those of us "of a certain age" should just go away and park ourselves in a corner out of everyone's way, or do I misunderstand you??

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

That is the idea of fab, and if you can find someone that wants to reciprocate then it's all good. If not, you just have to accept it.

You definitely misunderstand me.

I have many friends on the scene, some of whom are much older than myself and I've had some great nights with them. My comment applies to everyone and I've said it many times to many different ages, if people don't want to get to know you for whatever reason, you just have to accept it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

That is the idea of fab, and if you can find someone that wants to reciprocate then it's all good. If not, you just have to accept it.

You definitely misunderstand me.

The harsh truth is that the vast majority of people on the swinging scene just do not find elderly people attractive.

Personally, I going to retire before I start saying "age is just a number" and asking why its so hard to get anyone to meet me.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Rather a statement of the obvious. Can't help remarking at it comes from a lady half my age who no doubt can have her pick of most of the men on "Fab" if she so chooses. I would submit your remarks is rather disingenuous. No offence intended, just an observation from an older gentleman with more experience of life.

As I said earlier, I am not quite ready to park myself in the corner with my slippers on!!!

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By *armupartist OP Man
over a year ago

York

"I know of older people on here who are doing very well. You have regular organised socials local to you and the two clubs in Leeds. Do you attend these OP?"

I haven't done the socials but am a member of Quest, only been a few times had some fun there primarily as my 'massage skills' have initiated play but it it isn't quite what I am looking for. Thanks for the suggestions.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Rather a statement of the obvious. Can't help remarking at it comes from a lady half my age who no doubt can have her pick of most of the men on "Fab" if she so chooses. I would submit your remarks is rather disingenuous. No offence intended, just an observation from an older gentleman with more experience of life.

As I said earlier, I am not quite ready to park myself in the corner with my slippers on!!! "

I'm going to cut this conversation short as you are trying to patronise me with your 'older gentleman experience'.

As many other people have said, many people become less sexually attractive as they get into older age, if you're struggling to get meets, maybe you'll just have to accept that you aren't the preference for alot of people. Saying age is just a number is bullshit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm surprised that there aren't more sites catering for the 60s and 70s. More and more people are active into their 60s and beyond.

I wonder if its because lots of people of that age don't want to limit themselves to that age group?

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

From what I've noticed on fab is many above the age of 65 don't want to meet people older than themselves or around their age group. It's easy to say you're fit and in good shape for your age as many say so on here of similar ages. But very few will indulge in their own age group and the question is why?

Is it lack of attraction to people of similar age? Is it worries of health issues? Is it worry they lack the same sex drive?

OPs age groups max at 80 yet aged 73 but looking for 50 onwards. A lot will tell you when someone is old enough to be a parent of them it is kind of off putting. As well as old enough for them to be the same age as your children.

In some cases people old enough to be grandparents of people they are looking for. Very few would consider these age ranges. If your preferences is for the minority then you will have less interested in meeting it is a numbers game. Age is but a number but very few are comfortable with a vast difference. There's more than enough people of your age group swinging but sadly they want younger, if they all want younger then ever likely theyd rarely meet.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I've just done a quick survey of the 100 nearest profiles. There was no one over 60 and only 8 over fifty.

That's the pool the OP is fishing in. The number of people under 50 who will want to meet him is tiny and people over 60 who might be prepared to meet him are a tiny proportion of the fabs membership.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Local search by me 20 miles aged 60 to 99 looking for a woman 300+ profiles

I didn't select matching me to their age criteria

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Local search by me 20 miles aged 60 to 99 looking for a woman 300+ profiles

I didn't select matching me to their age criteria "

it is undoubtedly easier for women though and to some extent couples

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Local search by me 20 miles aged 60 to 99 looking for a woman 300+ profiles

I didn't select matching me to their age criteria "

I'd bet a lot of money most of those are men...

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

"Local search by me 20 miles aged 60 to 99 looking for a woman 300+ profiles

I didn't select matching me to their age criteria "

Same search criteria but them looking for men. 229 profiles

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

First hundred over sixties profiles near me

75 men

25 couples

0 women

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Age makes not a jot of difference to me as long as the person is still fit and the parts still work. I have sex with a Tgirl pretty much every week who is in her 70s and the sex is always amazing. Of course there still has to be an attraction but men in their 70s can still look sexy. It's never going to be everyone's preference though, just like a lot of people don't like men in their 20s but don't blame your age OP.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

300+ results for men over the age of 60 within 20 miles and I'm the age they are looking for. Says alot really.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

"First hundred over sixties profiles near me

75 men

25 couples

0 women "

I just did search there's quite a few women over 60 in and around London maybe your search parameters are including additional things such as no smokers or no pics on profile filter.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"300+ results for men over the age of 60 within 20 miles and I'm the age they are looking for. Says alot really. "

Only 34 women over 60 within 20 miles of me. Hence why the much more numerous elderly blokes look for younger.

Each to their own and no judgment etc etc, but if I ever get to the age where I am vainly chasing much younger women, someone please shoot me.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"First hundred over sixties profiles near me

75 men

25 couples

0 women

I just did search there's quite a few women over 60 in and around London maybe your search parameters are including additional things such as no smokers or no pics on profile filter. "

That's the first hundred profiles to come up. There's 34 over sixty women within 20 miles if you do a specific search for them. Tiny compared to the number of men that age.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

"First hundred over sixties profiles near me

75 men

25 couples

0 women

I just did search there's quite a few women over 60 in and around London maybe your search parameters are including additional things such as no smokers or no pics on profile filter.

That's the first hundred profiles to come up. There's 34 over sixty women within 20 miles if you do a specific search for them. Tiny compared to the number of men that age. "

No matter where in the UK men will out number women.

I once did a search in 5 mile radius of men vs women in area it was well over 2000 male profiles less than 200 women. I got bored counting the pages of the men's so there's a lot more than that and here is a small city. It of course doesn't include hidden profiles and people I've blocked or been blocked by.

There's less women compared to couples profiles and more than a few of couples profiles I'd hazard a guess they are just a male showing off their missus and wanting to meet solo and excuse the missus is at work / not well / wasnt up to it.

Other areas the numbers will vary but all in all people aren't going to meet others they have no preference for whether they want them to or not. Accepting that these limited choices is only thing a person can do.

As I keep getting told I'm a woman I could have as many as I want from fab but they aren't what I'm looking for and my preference pool is extremely small I'm happy to wait till I find them or they find me in my limited windows of opportunities I give them

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm going to cut this conversation short as you are trying to patronise me with your 'older gentleman experience'.

I would NEVER,EVER patronize either you or anyone else here on Fab or anywhere else. Not my style....

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm going to cut this conversation short as you are trying to patronise me with your 'older gentleman experience'.

I would NEVER,EVER patronize either you or anyone else here on Fab or anywhere else. Not my style...."

Of course.

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Hmmmm some harsh and even cynical comments on this thread

We are 'older, well Mr S is, and have come to the view based on experience that there are more opportunities for older people in the fetish rather than swing scene. That said, any single male no matter the age, will be at a disadvantage due to the vastly greater proportion of single men to women on swing sites.

If it is any comfort, we actually prefer playing with people of our age as the fet scene isn't just about rampant sex, which clearly favours younger people, particularly guys.

Again purely our experience, but we have found clubs and social meets to be the best way of meeting compatible people. And we agree with one of the posters who said things work out when you least expect it.

We wish you well with your ongoing quest

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Shiny-sinners... Interesting to see your thoughts, must say I agree with you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are out there. We have friends, much younger than us that love the more mature gentleman. All power to their fetish I say LOL.

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