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By *heDon12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Been on here a few days so im really new, not sure how to get some peoples attention without annoying them or ignoring me.

All of the people i have contacted suit my preference, but only heard back from a few to no luck.

Any advice guys!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you've had a few. I messed up and tried chatting before I'd added a decent bit to my profile.

Think having a good profile pic, head shot, and just slow and steady with the messaging.

Was told that using the forums and perhaps going on cam to get verifications helps to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few days so im really new, not sure how to get some peoples attention without annoying them or ignoring me.

All of the people i have contacted suit my preference, but only heard back from a few to no luck.

Any advice guys!?"

They might suit your preferences but you may not suit theirs.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

You have a public face pic,make that your profile pic instead of your dick pic.

As well as what everyone else has said,get to clubs. Chat to everyone. Even if they're not your type still make friends,they'll verify you and open up a lot more opportunities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does profile say 10 months then????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you've been here for 10 months.

I presume you've not been active for most of that.

I'm wondering quite what your expectations of the site were when you set up your account.

Were you led to believe that this was a sex site?

There's a lot more to swinging than sleeping with different people.

Nobody owes you a reply. You might feel that you tick all the boxes and fulfil all the requirements that someone might have set out on their profile - but they still have to fancy you.

Most will view your profile before even thinking about reading your message and as most view in stealth mode, you won't even know about it.

Think about it this way. You know all those takeaway menus that get posted through your door without you asking for them. Well, do you phone each establishment to thank them for their menu but that you're not interested?

Nope. Thought not.

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By *heDon12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Your profile says you've been here for 10 months.

I presume you've not been active for most of that.

I'm wondering quite what your expectations of the site were when you set up your account.

Were you led to believe that this was a sex site?

There's a lot more to swinging than sleeping with different people.

Nobody owes you a reply. You might feel that you tick all the boxes and fulfil all the requirements that someone might have set out on their profile - but they still have to fancy you.

Most will view your profile before even thinking about reading your message and as most view in stealth mode, you won't even know about it.

Think about it this way. You know all those takeaway menus that get posted through your door without you asking for them. Well, do you phone each establishment to thank them for their menu but that you're not interested?

Nope. Thought not.

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Understandable. Yeah i started my account months ago but due to personal circumstances i couldn't be active.

Agreed in regards to the takeaway thought, but no i did not think was a sex site. As i have said, i am new to this site and the scene, and was simply asking for advice on how to boost my profile or engage with people (for chat and then maybe swinging)

Enjoy your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A moody pic isn’t good. If you’re going to put a face pic on, smile show you’re fun to people. Moody just makes people keep on looking elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest and harsh, your profile doesnt stand out, most swingers want to meet couples, lets be honest single guys are easy to find if wanted, you have to stand out, we wouldnt meet you by looking at your profile

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Your profile is totally uninspiring, as are your pics.

You talk at length about what you want/like but barely mention anything you have to offer a potential meet.

Most people will look at your profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. If your profile isn't appealing then they won't bother to respond.

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By *heDon12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Your profile is totally uninspiring, as are your pics.

You talk at length about what you want/like but barely mention anything you have to offer a potential meet.

Most people will look at your profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. If your profile isn't appealing then they won't bother to respond.

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In regards to this, how could i make it better?

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"Your profile is totally uninspiring, as are your pics.

You talk at length about what you want/like but barely mention anything you have to offer a potential meet.

Most people will look at your profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. If your profile isn't appealing then they won't bother to respond.

In regards to this, how could i make it better?"

There are many, many posts in the forums giving lots of good advice. Ultimately you need to think of your profile as your shop window & sell yourself.

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