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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys?

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By *oungladMan
over a year ago

Burnham

I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guess you are right, attraction does open the door but it can be challenging part is to find the right people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open"

Correct, got to be split 50/50 or very close I'd say, if their personality is brilliant, but you're not attracted you wont get the juices flowing freely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys? "

It’s a combination on here - as in the real world.

Personality, appearance, attractiveness, availability.

Combined with the Fab only factor of distance!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

If it's a one off I don't care if they have a personality like cardboard but for anything else then I need to find both.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Looks might determine initial attraction but personality is what would encourage me to meet. If an adonis sends a message that is dull as ditch water then I won't want to meet him no matter how attractive he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys? "
of course personality matters, difficult for many to get that over in written text but in person of course and looks to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality goes a long way for sure! Hard to pick up on someone's personality via an initial message though

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By *LARENCE77Man
over a year ago

Skellefteå, Sweden

I've chatted to and met a number of ladies, without fully knowing what they look like.

In some ways, I like the mystery, but after talking, the attraction was already there. If they choose not to send face pics, I won't ask.

I can honestly say, personality goes a long way, and I've felt like I know them already. It's the person I want to know, and Fab is the place to do that.

Hopefully not too much of a blokey answer to give, but, there it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's more about looks on here.

It doesn't seem to matter what is written in a profile or what message is sent.

If the lady doesn't like the pictures, it's game over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open."

That's a good way of saying it.

It depends on what you're looking for really.

If I'm looking for one off fun, it's all physical.

If we click and they end up with a personality that matches my taste and visa versa, it might become regular.

For something long term and serious, personality becomes a lot more of a factor than for a hook up or a swing.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Personality definitely matters. We have declined meets with people even though physically they're stunning, they have the personality of an ashtray. Looks can only get you so far. Like said above, looks with catch our attention, personality will hold it.

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a third option?

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I have to be attracted to someone, both in looks and in personality. I've had messages from some very very attractive men who I wouldn't even bother replying to because their personalities are about as appealing as athlete's foot.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Our most successful meets have been with people who we get on well with so yes there needs to be an attraction but if we don't click when chatting then I doubt we would click in the bedroom. That's what we've learnt from our experiences so far anyway.

Mrs xx

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Personality is important to me but get that plenty of people on here are more about the physical side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks definitely...have to have good teeth!!

Had a few socials in the past from a different site and there teeth looked a lot different in person

Although pointless being hot if you're a tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks definitely...have to have good teeth!!

Had a few socials in the past from a different site and there teeth looked a lot different in person

Although pointless being hot if you're a tool"

Teeth? Are you looking to buy a horse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open"

^^^ ^^^ Has to be both personality & looks. Met an extremely hot very good looking guy but his personality was stink. I was instantly put off him as in my attraction to him totally disappeared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks definitely...have to have good teeth!!

Had a few socials in the past from a different site and there teeth looked a lot different in person

Although pointless being hot if you're a tool

Teeth? Are you looking to buy a horse?"

????

What a strange reply....teeth yes as in clean teeth not black and yellow...that ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a laugh and don't take myself too seriously. Personality goes a long way for me as I've hardly got film star looks so need to make the best of what I've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality every time. I do very well for myself (away from this site) on a fairly regular basis, and I wouldn’t say I’m a looker

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Oh Jesus we won’t meet anyone if we don’t at least find them attractive. Some people don’t care about looks. We do.

But then they have to demonstrate a good personality and hold a degree of conversation. If those boxes aren’t ticked, we won’t play.

And honestly, we expect the same from others about us. This is only our own opinion of course and not how we think everyone should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer personality to looks.... People give off vibes in anything and everything they say and it's someone's vibes I'm attracted to.... Looks are unimportant and people can tell you whatever they think you wanna hear but vibes never lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks definitely...have to have good teeth!!

Had a few socials in the past from a different site and there teeth looked a lot different in person

Although pointless being hot if you're a tool

Teeth? Are you looking to buy a horse?

????

What a strange reply....teeth yes as in clean teeth not black and yellow...that ok?"
omg I'm in stitches... I too have been tooth fished tho... It isn't good

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The real answer is that it's very much horses for courses.

In a club and looking for a no strings quick hook up and nothing more? You can guarantee looks take precedence as you'll see someone before you ever speak to them.

Arranging a meet via message/chat? Sure you may have seen a photo but you discover more via a conversation that will naturally show you personality.

Some are here for fantasy fulfillment and not repeat meets. As long as the body/cock/tits appeal to them they'll be happy.

Others want more of a connection so personality is of greater importance.

And some want variety of course so may on occasion choose looks over personality or vice versa depending on the situation.

Then there's the 'any holes a goal' fraternity......

It's been said many times before that you don't fuck a personality. I see where that comes from. But what's wrong with a proportion of both looks and personality? Doesn't have to be either/or.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks definitely...have to have good teeth!!

Had a few socials in the past from a different site and there teeth looked a lot different in person

Although pointless being hot if you're a tool

Teeth? Are you looking to buy a horse?

????

What a strange reply....teeth yes as in clean teeth not black and yellow...that ok? omg I'm in stitches... I too have been tooth fished tho... It isn't good "

Haha at least you get me the other poster didn't lol...happened to me about 3 times and it massively put me off...I mean I don't have Turkey teeth but my teeth look like they do on my photos x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality or looks? Both please. Ah forget it, give me brains, a sexy smile and a good sized schlong and I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys? "

Depends on what you're actually looking for really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a sexy smile but can't help with the big schlong sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow, mixed reviews however I feel most ladies have voted for personality over looks.

- this is interesting fact, as some may argue this is site looking for adult fun, not dating so as long as one looks attractive enough they can indulge in fun

- this is where most guys, and including me fall into hole where we think we provided all info a couple or lady were seeking yet I got declined

- gradually I realise, we are dealing with humans here and it could be anything little tiny thing that either trigger other party to like or dislike

Hence, as someone said, one should try to stand out among others to be picked.

Do you guys agree or disagree? Will good to know.

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By *ldaCouple
over a year ago

sutton Coldfield

This is sex for us, not relationship, so attractiveness is the most important. Personality is a bonus. The only time personality would come in if they were rude, pushy or nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier to judge attractiveness than personality from a profile....so thats where it tends to start....personality keeps it going.

I've a great "friend with benefits" that I met on here (she came off 5+yrs ago). Our first social meet ended up with her telling me I simply wasn't her type...fair enough. We met again a few months later at a party....our personalities matched brilliantly and we have never looked back....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my looks and personality,I’m fucked

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open"

I like this. A person can be a 10 out of 10 facially and physically but if their personality sucks then it’s game over.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Personality definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like me old dad used to say....you're not looking a't mantlepiece when poking fire

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"This is sex for us, not relationship, so attractiveness is the most important. Personality is a bonus. The only time personality would come in if they were rude, pushy or nasty."

I know what you mean , you just have to find them

sexy. But that’s so hard to define and a combination of so many things - how they look, but also how they look at you, eye contact & body language creates sexual chemistry. Plus finding them interesting ,funny etc

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

On fab looks is very important! Take this comment as you wish but it’s the reality!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Looks might determine initial attraction but personality is what would encourage me to meet. If an adonis sends a message that is dull as ditch water then I won't want to meet him no matter how attractive he is. "

100% this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a connection and that's always from inside never a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not physically attracted to someone then it's a no from me. I like a shower not a grower.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is sex for us, not relationship, so attractiveness is the most important. Personality is a bonus. The only time personality would come in if they were rude, pushy or nasty."

Well said guys

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys? "

Tbh it’s physical attractiveness I’m interested in. I’m not looking for a bf or a regular fb to enjoy nights out with

If I was then personality would be just as important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are a million times more important than personailty. That is the world we live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks capture the eye, personality captures the heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys?

Tbh it’s physical attractiveness I’m interested in. I’m not looking for a bf or a regular fb to enjoy nights out with

If I was then personality would be just as important "

After meeting Scarlett in Eureka, I can vouch she has lovely personality....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Both can prevent a door opening or getting it bolted shut

Wrong looks or personality can kill things in an instant or by slow, painful death

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By *ent-SexyPetiteCouple
over a year ago

North

90% personality 10% looks. Has to be at least some attraction there from looks.

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality.

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By *ent-SexyPetiteCouple
over a year ago

North


"Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality.

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Not much fun to be had with someone who has a personality like a flat battery

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By *iscreet and muscledMan
over a year ago

Antwerp Belgium

I prefer sexiness over good looks...

So, sexiness then personality.

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over a year ago

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim


"Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality.

Not much fun to be had with someone who has a personality like a flat battery"

Definitely not! Doesn’t matter how attractive someone is if their personality is ugly or non-existent! There does have to be Physical attraction there but Personality is most important.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality.

Not much fun to be had with someone who has a personality like a flat battery"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open"

Spot on!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Both

I think in the real world you can meet people and get to know them and become attracted to them through chatting etc (say someone you meet at work etc. You might not be attracted initially but that develops)

On here (Or any dating app) then physical attraction has to be there for me to chat, then they have to have a personality that I like. Then you have to click when you meet. And the click is the bit that you can't quantify. You just do (Or don't)

I agree with the good teeth thing BTW, and I'm not attracted to horses!

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality."

I couldn’t disagree more. Being good looking has nothing to do with how ‘good’ you are at sex, unless you’re just a narcissist who purely gets off on having a good looking bed mate Having a belting personality will override all of that, and the sex will (IMHO), be way more fulfilling

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over a year ago

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I'd like to think attractiveness opens the door but personality keeps it open"

Brilliantly said. This for us too. Personality wins us over.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Unfortunately, you can’t fuck a Personality.

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But a persons mind is the largest sexual organ a person has on their body. Seduce the mind first and foremost. Always.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

This is a really interesting one!

I have very little success on here, despite making lots of effort when messaging, only sending tasteful face photos and having face photos on my profile, which I combine with what is hopefully a decent and well written profile that genuinely gives a flavour of who I am,although I do seem to get a reasonable amount of 'Looked at me' notifications. When I go to clubs and socials on the other hand I have plenty of success without what I would consider to be much effort. I have to assume the elements of personality come into it a lot, although most of us single guys have the issue of the numbers game on here, which is much less of an issue in a club. I do get on well with most people in person, so perhaps it's true to say the 'overall package' does come into play.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I believe so yeah you can be a Ryan Reynolds but have the personality of a rock

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading

No matter how attractive a women is if she has an ugly personality I’m put off.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"No matter how attractive a women is if she has an ugly personality I’m put off.

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Agreed

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"No matter how attractive a women is if she has an ugly personality I’m put off.

"

100%! I've seen some strutting round in clubs looking at you like you're not fit to be in the same room, but fortunately a minority. Same would go for anyone with that attitude. One of the ugliest traits anywhere.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

99% looks based on this site. You can have a great personality but as soon as that face doesn’t match the words - it will be a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"99% looks based on this site. You can have a great personality but as soon as that face doesn’t match the words - it will be a no"

Yep. That's why I don't chat without a face pic

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"99% looks based on this site. You can have a great personality but as soon as that face doesn’t match the words - it will be a no"

That’s just not true mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality every time for me.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london


"99% looks based on this site. You can have a great personality but as soon as that face doesn’t match the words - it will be a no

That’s just not true mate. "

I’ve been on the receiving end countless times

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"99% looks based on this site. You can have a great personality but as soon as that face doesn’t match the words - it will be a no

That’s just not true mate.

I’ve been on the receiving end countless times "

Maybe there are other factors to consider. It’s easy to blame the women and say “I’m just not good looking enough for them” and pretend that it’s all their fault for not fancying you.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys?

Tbh it’s physical attractiveness I’m interested in. I’m not looking for a bf or a regular fb to enjoy nights out with

If I was then personality would be just as important

After meeting Scarlett in Eureka, I can vouch she has lovely personality...."

Aw thank you ... lovely thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in the context of this site, looks are really Important but confidence drives me wild

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Does personality matters vs how attractive your profile, get single men to secure meet?

What do you think guys? "

There's no one answer fits all.

The same woman might fancy personality one day and looks the next

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

You can have the best chat, but if a woman can’t stomach the thought of you kissing her it’s a no go

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Personality 60%. Looks 40%

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