FabSwingers.com forum: Getting a meet!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well on fab a few months now. Honestly find it hard to get genuine meets. Clubbing is good for a quickie on the way home but honestly thought I could of fulfilled a few fantasies on here.

Any extra advice?? Open to everything......

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Expecting to have fulfilled a few fantasies within 2 months of being on here is your biggest failing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... Quickie on the way eh lol

I've achieved more fantasies in clubs than within homes/hotels.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

".... Quickie on the way eh lol

I've achieved more fantasies in clubs than within homes/hotels. "

Agreed here and also don’t expect on here as it’s the hardest for single males on here because of the ocean of other single men

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Clubbing is good for a quickie on the way home but honestly thought I could of fulfilled a few fantasies on here.

I visit clubs regularly, and it's a night out for me. A couple of hours at least. Socialising, jacuzzi and playing. Have fulfilled plenty of fantasies.

Dont know which 'club' you're visiting, but swingers dont generally call in for a quickie on the way home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any extra advice?? Open to everything......"

Be patient, single men are a dime a dozen on here

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"Well on fab a few months now. Honestly find it hard to get genuine meets. Clubbing is good for a quickie on the way home but honestly thought I could of fulfilled a few fantasies on here.

Any extra advice?? Open to everything......"

Your profile needs a proofread. Although you don’t need a degree in English to get a meet, some people take note with spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience.

On my old profile I met a bloke and we met exclusively for a year. He had been on here since 2015 and we met in 2018. He had a couple of meets in that time.

Iv started to meet another man now and he’s been on here since 2018 with one meet.

Patience is key.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I agree with the patience I come on here back in 2018 had a few meets then stopped meeting for most of 2019 only really started meeting again back novermber of last yeah so I took a 11 month break but I honestly go to clubs as to be honest I find it better than on here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's tons of expert helpful advice in the forum sections, mostly requested by single men. Check our a lot of posts and study the feedback.

What's typically covered? Improving profiles, so that it gives your typical target partners what they are likely to need and what will help you stand out from the hordes of others. Sometimes vagueness is OK but if most of a profile is vague, it doesn't let it stand for anything at all, or stand out. They have to leave your profile more sure that you could match and satisfy them than when they started looking. The other profile points to get strong are typically pics, with you having great variety and letting someone easily be able imagine having sex with you. The right variety and quality of pics usually do this.

That's my summary key points that I've seen from mens profiles in 10 years here fused who a bit of what gets me more turned on to a man who'd like to really grab my interest, so that he's more outstanding and remarkable.

Check the other forum posts out and see what seems relevant for you. You're still fairly new here, so it may be worthwhile considering what your expectations are too.

I'm sure you will make some good moves and get success here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely agree with the patience needed.

I've been on here over ten years and feel I'm starting to get closer to that elusive first meet

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

You could probably get veri'd through going to a club, although I wouldn't expect a 'quickie'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".... Quickie on the way eh lol

I've achieved more fantasies in clubs than within homes/hotels.

Agreed here and also don’t expect on here as it’s the hardest for single males on here because of the ocean of other single men"

I have interest yes.. but not what I'm seeking.

I don't believe women have it easier...

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By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago

Stonehaven

"Clubbing is good for a quickie on the way home but honestly thought I could of fulfilled a few fantasies on here.

I visit clubs regularly, and it's a night out for me. A couple of hours at least. Socialising, jacuzzi and playing. Have fulfilled plenty of fantasies.

Dont know which 'club' you're visiting, but swingers dont generally call in for a quickie on the way home.

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Poor you.

You have to put the work in to get results!

I'm an ugly guy but spent time understanding women and learning how how to make engaging conversation.

My wife is 10 years younger than me and more intelligent.... And very hot!

I worked at attracting the women I find attractive.

You can too

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Can't be making a good impression at clubs since you're not verified by anyone.

Maybe it's because it's a 'quicky'.

This post just makes out like you'll hump anything, get your thrill and not please them at all

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Don’t expect anything, then you won’t be disappointed.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I think he means a vanilla nightclub.

The thing about this site OP is that it's a swinging site not a quick shag site.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Impatience is your biggest downfall. Club, social talk to people, and see where it will take you, 2 months is nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience .. politeness.. respect.. trust .. discretion... And above all be prepared to show your face .. veri are good but not be all or end all .. word if mouth on here is good. Above all just be nice in all messages you send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing about this site OP is that it's a swinging site not a quick shag site."

This!! Should be a banner along the top of every site page or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im new to this environment but hard to find people they never reply even send my pics

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Whether it's a nightclub or swinging club your attitude is much alike to many of the men on here. Selfish, only bothered about getting what you want out of it and then off you go.

Reason why many women won't do "hook ups" because more often than not men treat women like disposable sex toys.

Fabswingers I thought was about mutual pleasures not freewhores.fuckingcom

Change of attitude is required for more success on fab and in the vanilla world. You've got put the effort in to giving pleasure not just taking it.

Unless a woman is blessed in achieving an amazing orgasm quickly you gotta get over the idea of random quickies because you'll never have a quality sex life.

Try exploring what a good few hours of pleasure really is not 5 mins rubbing a clit, poking a snatch, spunking your load and leaving.

Ultimate goal should be giving a breath taking climax and full body spasm orgasm any less your not doing your best.

Quickies are great in a relationship, quickie in the morning followed by teasing all day and a damn good fuck when you get home. Any other time you're just wasting their time because no woman is going spend longer getting ready than the sex she's going to get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely agree with the patience needed.

I've been on here over ten years and feel I'm starting to get closer to that elusive first meet

Not long now, another year or two and you'll be there

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Whether it's a nightclub or swinging club your attitude is much alike to many of the men on here. Selfish, only bothered about getting what you want out of it and then off you go.

Reason why many women won't do "hook ups" because more often than not men treat women like disposable sex toys.

Fabswingers I thought was about mutual pleasures not freewhores.fuckingcom

Change of attitude is required for more success on fab and in the vanilla world. You've got put the effort in to giving pleasure not just taking it.

Unless a woman is blessed in achieving an amazing orgasm quickly you gotta get over the idea of random quickies because you'll never have a quality sex life.

Try exploring what a good few hours of pleasure really is not 5 mins rubbing a clit, poking a snatch, spunking your load and leaving.

Ultimate goal should be giving a breath taking climax and full body spasm orgasm any less your not doing your best.

don't suppose you fancy popping down to us do you

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Whether it's a nightclub or swinging club your attitude is much alike to many of the men on here. Selfish, only bothered about getting what you want out of it and then off you go.

Reason why many women won't do "hook ups" because more often than not men treat women like disposable sex toys.

Fabswingers I thought was about mutual pleasures not freewhores.fuckingcom

Change of attitude is required for more success on fab and in the vanilla world. You've got put the effort in to giving pleasure not just taking it.

Unless a woman is blessed in achieving an amazing orgasm quickly you gotta get over the idea of random quickies because you'll never have a quality sex life.

Try exploring what a good few hours of pleasure really is not 5 mins rubbing a clit, poking a snatch, spunking your load and leaving.

Ultimate goal should be giving a breath taking climax and full body spasm orgasm any less your not doing your best.

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing about this site OP is that it's a swinging site not a quick shag site.

This!! Should be a banner along the top of every site page or something."

.... Like the banner you have on your pic selection

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By *unCuriousHarryMan
over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

"Patience.

On my old profile I met a bloke and we met exclusively for a year. He had been on here since 2015 and we met in 2018. He had a couple of meets in that time.

Iv started to meet another man now and he’s been on here since 2018 with one meet.

Patience is key. "

Hello, I bet they were both very happy to have waited to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely agree with the patience needed.

I've been on here over ten years and feel I'm starting to get closer to that elusive first meet

Not long now, another year or two and you'll be there

I reckon that's being a bit too over optimistic, another 10 to 20 years is more realistic.

Never give up

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Definitely agree with the patience needed.

I've been on here over ten years and feel I'm starting to get closer to that elusive first meet

Not long now, another year or two and you'll be there

I reckon that's being a bit too over optimistic, another 10 to 20 years is more realistic.

Never give up

no not that at all you have to put the effort in to get a meet and if your profile has little to no effort then the only one that is dooming themselves from a meet is yourself.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Definitely agree with the patience needed.

I've been on here over ten years and feel I'm starting to get closer to that elusive first meet

Not long now, another year or two and you'll be there

I reckon that's being a bit too over optimistic, another 10 to 20 years is more realistic.

Never give up

no not that at all you have to put the effort in to get a meet and if your profile has little to no effort then the only one that is dooming themselves from a meet is yourself. "

try going to clubs as well

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sci marathon is not going to get the results you're after.

Come on mate, pull your finger out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sci marathon is not going to get the results you're after.

Come on mate, pull your finger out "

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Sci marathon is not going to get the results you're after.

Come on mate, pull your finger out

Well not all of us are in a rush and I do have a good amount of verifications plus I’m going to a club on Friday. Not all of us are looking for meets all the time.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

"Patience.

On my old profile I met a bloke and we met exclusively for a year. He had been on here since 2015 and we met in 2018. He had a couple of meets in that time.

Iv started to meet another man now and he’s been on here since 2018 with one meet.

Patience is key. "

You look well worth the wait

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I've been here for 6 months and not yet met a man who doesn't see me as a "quickie or disposable sex toy" and I recieve over 50 messages a day... So yes men with your kind of attitude I avoid like the plague. I wish more men treated women better. We all love sex but I certainly don't want to devalue myself for the sake of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been here for 6 months and not yet met a man who doesn't see me as a "quickie or disposable sex toy" and I recieve over 50 messages a day... So yes men with your kind of attitude I avoid like the plague. I wish more men treated women better. We all love sex but I certainly don't want to devalue myself for the sake of sex. "
couldn't agree more x too many guys on here who have no respect or manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do t expect someone will drop there pants after 10 mins. Offer to meet on a social and play it by ear. Never come accross as desperate

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

I've never had a meet off here. It's very very difficult due to the amount of men on here compared to females. All my verification's are from clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For what it's worth we find it best to just be yourself dont ever expect instant sex !!

Dont rush things guys .... have socials , chat in clubs , use the chat on here etc.. build things slowly and get a repor/ friendships going and it opens the swinging world up far more than a quick fuck !

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Sadly an awful lot of single men on here seem to think that just because a woman is on here she will drop her knickers for anyone.

They put in minimal effort & then can't understand why they don't get the results they want. There is a sense of entitlement with a lot of them, like the women are simply here to provide a service and to fulfil their needs and fantasies.

The fact is that men hugely outnumber women on here, that means that if they want to get anywhere they need to put the effort in and be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Females on here don't like to be treated as a fantasy fulfillment as in another `box` ticked off or an experiment, just saying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing about this site OP is that it's a swinging site not a quick shag site.

This!! Should be a banner along the top of every site page or something.

.... Like the banner you have on your pic selection

Thanks

I didn’t write it, but it works for me!

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

Your chances of a meet are almost zero, so all you can do is keep messaging and hope for the best. It may take a long time and may never happen. I've had 1 meet in the 10/11 years i've been on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact is that men hugely outnumber women on here, that means that if they want to get anywhere they need to put the effort in and be patient.

And also that nobody on here owes anyone anything ... no reply to a message is still an answer of sorts!

It does sometimes work the other way too though - had a message yesterday from someone who said on their profile “don’t just send me a ‘Hi how are you’ message, put some effort in”. The message I received read “hi, how are you”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not how it should be ... the word “disposable” makes me shudder!

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Whether it's a nightclub or swinging club your attitude is much alike to many of the men on here. Selfish, only bothered about getting what you want out of it and then off you go.

Reason why many women won't do "hook ups" because more often than not men treat women like disposable sex toys.

Fabswingers I thought was about mutual pleasures not freewhores.fuckingcom

Change of attitude is required for more success on fab and in the vanilla world. You've got put the effort in to giving pleasure not just taking it.

Unless a woman is blessed in achieving an amazing orgasm quickly you gotta get over the idea of random quickies because you'll never have a quality sex life.

Try exploring what a good few hours of pleasure really is not 5 mins rubbing a clit, poking a snatch, spunking your load and leaving.

Ultimate goal should be giving a breath taking climax and full body spasm orgasm any less your not doing your best.

Well said! I resent taking longer to put my makeup on than the sex is going to last, and if a meet turns out like that he won’t get a second chance.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’ve been lucky because I’ve met some great guys. But I’ve also had some terrible meets that have left me feeling really bad about myself and my choices, so like you if I get a whiff of that kind of attitude off a guy now I don’t go near him.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Poor you.

You have to put the work in to get results!

I'm an ugly guy but spent time understanding women and learning how how to make engaging conversation.

My wife is 10 years younger than me and more intelligent.... And very hot!

I worked at attracting the women I find attractive.

You can too "

I feel the same way. Women aren't easy. Women don't want "just sex" like men do. There has to be more to go with it.

You have to learn how it works. In my opinion, the best way to do that is to just chat non sexually to all women and make friends. If that friend becomes sexual, great, if not, learn from her, practice on her.

Women take time, you have to be cool with them.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Best advice I have gotten so far not to get worked up by lack of response. If your messages are getting read and deleted then check your profile and message technic. If you send copy and paste messages women can tell. But be chilled out. Chat to people on the forums be social when you go to clubs and you will get good verifications which will boost your profile.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

"Poor you.

You have to put the work in to get results!

I'm an ugly guy but spent time understanding women and learning how how to make engaging conversation.

My wife is 10 years younger than me and more intelligent.... And very hot!

I worked at attracting the women I find attractive.

You can too

I feel the same way. Women aren't easy. Women don't want "just sex" like men do. There has to be more to go with it.

Women take time, you have to be cool with them."

Women do just want sex but they want great sex not being used. So women have to make sure they are going to get what they want too. Im going from my experience of here that most the guys only want to cum and run. Promises of a few hours of sweaty rampant fucking and promises of orgasms they say things like "you'll cum before me" "I'm a pleaser so il keep going till your done" "I've got all night/day I don't have to be anywhere"

1% of the blokes I've met actually meant it. As soon as they cum it's game over. So as a women finding someone to actually do what they say it's hard work filtering the bullshit and making sure but even after all that they turn out to be like the rest. Liars dreamers and wannabes. What's even funnier is I've been on fab 3 years now next week and they think I forget. I have a great deal of people blocked

So to all the genuine guys on here, persevere and be patient with women because the fuckwits make it difficult for everyone.

Things guys say that make me avoid them.

I'm a good guy

Let's have a coffee at yours for the social I promise it's just coffee

I can lick clit for hours

I can go all night

I can be there right now to show you

Being pushy and insistent says a lot about a personality and repeating "I'm a good guy" speaks volumes to the fact they aren't as a good guy doesn't have to say they are. They respect your methods and they respect your body.

So if women could guarantee they will be safe and get what they want I'd bet most of us be humping like rabbits but we have to make sure we are safe and we are treated with respect.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

"Poor you.

You have to put the work in to get results!

I'm an ugly guy but spent time understanding women and learning how how to make engaging conversation.

My wife is 10 years younger than me and more intelligent.... And very hot!

I worked at attracting the women I find attractive.

You can too

I feel the same way. Women aren't easy. Women don't want "just sex" like men do. There has to be more to go with it.

Women take time, you have to be cool with them.

So to all the genuine guys on here, persevere and be patient with women because the fuckwits make it difficult for everyone.

Things guys say that make me avoid them.

I'm a good guy

Let's have a coffee at yours for the social I promise it's just coffee

I can lick clit for hours

I can go all night

I can be there right now to show you

So if women could guarantee they will be safe and get what they want I'd bet most of us be humping like rabbits but we have to make sure we are safe and we are treated with respect. "

Never used any of those thank god I much prefer to get a conversation going. Always like to see where the line is.

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