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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Grow a pair of tits.

Or just continue to try and speak to people, put effort in your profile, go to socials and clubs.

There is no quick fix.

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By *hrills on WheelsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Even harder when you are a wheelchair user I have found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on lots of things.

Most blame the site or how many single guys are on fab when in reality it’s the way the use fab

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Yeah its hard for most then there is me and its mission impossible.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

Been going to the clubs and also work a lot so don’t get much time on here

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"Grow a pair of tits.

Or just continue to try and speak to people, put effort in your profile, go to socials and clubs.

There is no quick fix.

"

What he said ^^

Plus patience. Havent had a meet for ages but have been chatting to 2 couples for the last week. Just arranging dates to meet up for drinks. Hopefully there is an attraction and a play meet can be arranged.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

Good luck

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley


"Depends on lots of things.

Most blame the site or how many single guys are on fab when in reality it’s the way the use fab "

This is exactly how we feel, there are some good guys on here but they are far outweighed by guys that don’t seem to understand what couples/women are looking for on here.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

It’s really not.... be positive and things will happen!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

If clubs work for you and time is limited I'd say stick to clubs... x as much more chance at a club and your obviously capable of chatting at clubs due to your veries

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"If clubs work for you and time is limited I'd say stick to clubs... x as much more chance at a club and your obviously capable of chatting at clubs due to your veries"
still pretty new to all this thanks for the help

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Yeah its hard for most then there is me and its mission impossible."

You’ve been on here 2 weeks!! Some guys wait months for a first meet. Patience is the key, it’s not insta-shag!

Also, the being married thing will put some people off!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be lucky I don't take it all too serious if I get a meet I get one if I don't I don't, too many on here let it take over there lives.

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By *ames2602Man
over a year ago

whittle


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet "
reading your profile I'm pretty sure that the men you are looking you may have make yourself in a lab haha

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I must be lucky I don't take it all too serious if I get a meet I get one if I don't I don't, too many on here let it take over there lives."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

It's a Numbers game on here. You are up against so many other guys all seeking the same thing.

Positively, you've gained 3 Verifications in a year which is far more than a lot of guys achieve in a far longer time.

But your success only comes from effort.

Look at your profile. You have compiled it as you view it in your head. Try reading it out LOUD to yourself in one single breath - doubt you can do it.

It is just one VERY LONG SENTENCE, without any breaks. It says nothing about what you want to gain from any meet NOR what you can contribute; people want to know that!

Break down your profile into sentences. If you run it altogether into one, it puts people off as they try to disseminate the details in front of them.

Facial pics are ok, but do you know how to look happy? Ditch the captions on them.

You've followed the idea of going to Clubs, but try Socials in your region. They can also be a good way of meeting people in an open environment, where your personality can work.

Good luck.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's as hard or easy as you make it for yourself - have your expectations correctly set, the right attitude and approach coupled with a decent profile and pics and it guarantees nothing but it suddenly doesn't seem "hard"

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

It's cos ur straight ,the fab straight and bi men do far better

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

Yes it is. But it is for all of us single guys. I've never resorted to asking for advice, assistance or pity (and I'm not suggesting that you are, but many do), but I've done alright, by simply being myself. I dont try to impress anyone or show off. I just want to show who I am, which people are entitled to take or leave.

As a result, I've met a good number of women, on multiple occasions, many of whom have become very good friends.

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear."

That is the single best post I’ve ever read on this forum!

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

First meet is in a club . Been on fab since 2007 . Lesson learned.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

Three words, OP:

Expectations

Profile

Effort

Work needed on all three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

.... Very difficult for single women too!

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

.... Very difficult for single women too! "
wow you would not think that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to remember pal but there are only a certain amount of women and couples that are on here and the majority are males so the best thing to do is just like people have said improve your profile go to as many clubs as you can go to her as many social as you can even though I haven't got the bottle to go to any and I don't get lucky enough to receive any invites just brush your shoulders off off-white and try and get some meats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get along with men more than women so this site is perfect

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear."

Now who said sarcasm can't be funny

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

It maybe easier in the real world.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I think maybe people make the mistake of treating it different to the 'real world' and seem surprised when nice tits, do you fancy a fuck doesn't work.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"I think maybe people make the mistake of treating it different to the 'real world' and seem surprised when nice tits, do you fancy a fuck doesn't work."

It doesn’t??!! - wow everyday’s a school day

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I think maybe people make the mistake of treating it different to the 'real world' and seem surprised when nice tits, do you fancy a fuck doesn't work."
I don’t speak to people like that and I spouse it is going to be hard there a lot of single guys on here that and couples

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

A lot of single guys seem to come on Fab with the expectation that they can put in minimal effort and get results. They have the (mistaken) assumption that because a woman is on here she must be gagging for it and will be prepared to just meet anyone.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"A lot of single guys seem to come on Fab with the expectation that they can put in minimal effort and get results. They have the (mistaken) assumption that because a woman is on here she must be gagging for it and will be prepared to just meet anyone.

I don’t want to just meet anyone I look to have a chat and a giggle and see if we get on and I do put the effort in

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard starting off what u found was the best go to club if you think it’s for you or what is also good try get to a few socials that way you

Meet others and can make new friends through that best of luck buddie

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

It's not impossible but as has been said you have to put the effort in. I attend socials and clubs building relationships sometimes for many weeks but it does pay in the end I've found.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"It's not impossible but as has been said you have to put the effort in. I attend socials and clubs building relationships sometimes for many weeks but it does pay in the end I've found. "
thank you I do like the clubs and seem to get on well with people in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have thought this but perseverance and realising that it takes time and things are looking up now.

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By *akequeen90Couple
over a year ago

Sydney


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

We've been here almost 2 years I think...and we're still awaiting our first hookup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."
that’s it I am not shy and I am more confident in person not very good at the message part to be truthful

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."

Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it."
I am always polite never just send random dick pic’s and always read there profile I think that is a must you get to know them a bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In other news a bear went twosy in the woods.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The best advice is to look at the many forum posts from people like you and to implement the expert support that others have given them, where it matches you.

It's usually about making your profile sell you and tuninh it so that people know what you have that they need. You have to stand out here. People want to know how your body looks, to imagine having sex with you.

Also ensure that you adjust your expectations to be realistic.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Been going to the clubs and also work a lot so don’t get much time on here "

Clubs aren't the be-all-and-end-all many in the forums would have you believe, certainly not for a single guy anyway. With the greatest respect OP, have a look at your profile text, then compare to what other single guys have on their profiles. Sell yourself a bit more, and use punctuation and correct spelling. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "
what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Been going to the clubs and also work a lot so don’t get much time on here

Clubs aren't the be-all-and-end-all many in the forums would have you believe, certainly not for a single guy anyway. With the greatest respect OP, have a look at your profile text, then compare to what other single guys have on their profiles. Sell yourself a bit more, and use punctuation and correct spelling. Good luck "
thanks you I will now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it pretty impossible myself but i don't take this site for granted, I stay here for the content and forums .

If I ever get a meet it will be a bonus but the go to response on here is socials/clubs which I'm personally not comfortable with but each to there own

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

This site is no more than Facebook for swingers, just go to socials, clubs and keep eye on profiles that are looking for single guys and start there, socialize and connect with actual human beings instead of just using it like a ordering site. Behind every profile there is a human unless fake, in which case there a twat.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills."

this

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"Is the problem a lot of the time that guys aren’t very confident chatting up women in the real world. So they come to a swinging website thinking that it’s just sex with random strangers and no holds barred fun. And the truth is it’s not like that at all. You still have to be able to conduct yourself correctely and if anything it’s harder to pull because the social side of it is so important and a lot of people lack those skills.

Which is why sometimes you find a 60 year old man with lots of meet verifications, and a younger guy with muscles and a 6 pack with none and majorly struggling on here. It is to do with how you project yourself and your attitude towards the site and the people on it."

Oh soo true from a 63 old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet "

Actually can visualise the amount of sleazy messages you would get.

But I'm sure you still manage to find the good ones when it matters

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

.... Very difficult for single women too! "

Must be very hard deleting those messages en masse

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hi mate, change your profit text to this;

Honesty is the best policy! So here I go; I am pretty new to all of this and I am trying to get in to it a lot more recently.

I have been to the clubs which I enjoy as I am a chatty person and enjoy getting to know people.

I never send random dick pics as I don’t see what they get out of it, also it’s nice to be polite, but I also can be a bit cheeky sometimes.

I think it would be nice to meet someone for regular meets, not just sex, but meals and drinks also.

Then;

Your regarding your pics, they look quite negative to me. Take them with plain, light coloured type backgrounds. Smile on them and show yourself in your best light.

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at the bottom of my profile. There's some great advice for single guys on here . 200 plus veris in under 2 years..It works for me

Just keep going to the club's and you'll be fine..You'll probably see me at your local club. Come say hi I'll introduce you to some of my fab friends

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

It’s really not.... be positive and things will happen! "

I agree...

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Have a look at the bottom of my profile. There's some great advice for single guys on here . 200 plus veris in under 2 years..It works for me

Just keep going to the club's and you'll be fine..You'll probably see me at your local club. Come say hi I'll introduce you to some of my fab friends "
thanks I have just had a read yours is good and I will do thanks again

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Be patient or try clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag.

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. "
I am trying to be a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. I am trying to be a swinger "

What he said !!

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease

Theres a handful of suggestions

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help

Theres a handful of suggestions "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help

Theres a handful of suggestions "

Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories.

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease thank you for your help

Theres a handful of suggestions

Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. "

We've got a kik especially for Fab so know immediately where they are from.

Just block push notifications and have a look when you feel like, like candy in a sweet shop!

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease

Theres a handful of suggestions

Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. "
thank you for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol "

Crikey I read that as, shall I give you one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is a bit bare bones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll notice that the same guys seem to have loads of verifications and meets and loads of others have none.

Have a look at their profiles and see how they compare to your own.

Spell check your profile and add punctuation where its needed.

Set up a kik account and have the name linked in your status so people can easily message.

Alluring pictures that tease

Theres a handful of suggestions

Be careful about putting your kik name public. Share it with potential meets and friends..If they are interested you'll get a message on fab. I've heard some right horror stories. thank you for your help "

No worries matey

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Be a swinger, not a single guy looking for a shag. "

I say let him be whatever he wants to be

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. "

That's not true.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true."

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. "

How wholly negative can you be? Especially to the OP, who's received some positive leads on how to succeed.

Yes, it does take a lot of effort to succeed on here. If you put in the graft; work on improving your profile; fully read those profiles which match your expectations and you respond to them in a like minded way;

be prepared for rejection with skin the thickness of a Rhino; plus take notice of the advice of those around you on here AND act on it all, then you can succeed.

Time, Perseverance and Patience are critical but key elements on here.

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By *nowy and the GruffaloCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that. "

This guy lives in Inverness. There really aren’t that many people on Fab in this part of the country. His experience of Fab is going to differ greatly from single guys in large cities/the south of England.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

This guy lives in Inverness. There really aren’t that many people on Fab in this part of the country. His experience of Fab is going to differ greatly from single guys in large cities/the south of England. "

I daresay that could be true, but then again, I worked in Aviemore, 30 miles south of Inverness, some 4 years ago.

There, everyone seemed to know everyone else, out in the middle of nowhere. But I found meets, albeit only a few, in Inverness, Nairn, and down to Perth. Yes, I had to travel, but with the right effort, it was possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet "

You must be kidding. You are gorgeous...

Ive struggled to get any kind of conversation off the ground yet I appear to tick all the boxes laid out in a lot of women's profiles. Im not pushy or expectant just normal cheeky funny chat. Stange place..

OP you've just got to stick it out and continue to be yourself. I have however found the odd outrageous comment gets you a response at least.. And if you follow up with something interesting sometimes the foot gets in the door.. You are better off on pof though it has to be said...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear."

Eh??

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear.

Eh?? "

Have you not detected the sarcasm?

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed what sort of help you need shall i given you one of mine lol

Crikey I read that as, shall I give you one "
me lol

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

How wholly negative can you be? Especially to the OP, who's received some positive leads on how to succeed.

Yes, it does take a lot of effort to succeed on here. If you put in the graft; work on improving your profile; fully read those profiles which match your expectations and you respond to them in a like minded way;

be prepared for rejection with skin the thickness of a Rhino; plus take notice of the advice of those around you on here AND act on it all, then you can succeed.

Time, Perseverance and Patience are critical but key elements on here."
thank you and I have think skin so I should be fine

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear.

Eh??

Have you not detected the sarcasm?"
yes lol

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true.

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. "
its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient.

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman
over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

It's not that easy for women either

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Depends on lots of things.

Most blame the site or how many single guys are on fab when in reality it’s the way the use fab

This is exactly how we feel, there are some good guys on here but they are far outweighed by guys that don’t seem to understand what couples/women are looking for on here. "

The perfect answer.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

It’s not that hard for some men on here as we meet two Guys and both have loads of meets ,but both know how to be friendly and know what us Ladies want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

I find it just as difficult to get decent genuine men here to meet

You must be kidding. You are gorgeous...

You do realise location,colour,height,hair/eye colour and if you piss out champagne or not determines if a guy on fab is decent or genuine

Ive struggled to get any kind of conversation off the ground yet I appear to tick all the boxes laid out in a lot of women's profiles. Im not pushy or expectant just normal cheeky funny chat. Stange place..

OP you've just got to stick it out and continue to be yourself. I have however found the odd outrageous comment gets you a response at least.. And if you follow up with something interesting sometimes the foot gets in the door.. You are better off on pof though it has to be said... "

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed

It's not that easy for women either "

You need a word with your master then

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's not hard to get meets, if you're actually interested in the swingers lifestyle, and immerse yourself in all areas.

Being reliant on FAB and messaging only will get you nowhere.

Face to face socialising will get your face know quicker. That means clubs and organised socials.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true.

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient. "

Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Anyone complaining about it being hard to meet obviously isnt putting in maximum effort. Probably joined this site thinking it was dial a clunge too.

Effort in = results out.

If your profile looks like a blank shop window, whi the fuck will enter thay shop..... no one.

Put some effort in, actually create a profile, oh and stop complaining because that wont attract any women.

Failing that just be fab straight and fuck men in secret.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

It can be difficult both ways as many women frequently state. I've never found it difficult to be honest.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Anyone complaining about it being hard to meet obviously isnt putting in maximum effort. Probably joined this site thinking it was dial a clunge too.

Effort in = results out.

If your profile looks like a blank shop window, whi the fuck will enter thay shop..... no one.

Put some effort in, actually create a profile, oh and stop complaining because that wont attract any women.

Failing that just be fab straight and fuck men in secret. "

Bahahahaha!! The last line! Savage!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Problem for single guys is that there are roughly ten of them for each female or couple who want to meet single guys.

It follows that even if every single guy created fantastic profiles the vast majority of them would still be disappointed.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Anyone complaining about it being hard to meet obviously isnt putting in maximum effort. Probably joined this site thinking it was dial a clunge too.

Effort in = results out.

If your profile looks like a blank shop window, whi the fuck will enter thay shop..... no one.

Put some effort in, actually create a profile, oh and stop complaining because that wont attract any women.

Failing that just be fab straight and fuck men in secret.

Bahahahaha!! The last line! Savage!"

Savage but so fucking true

"Oh you're straight but your veri says you took it yo the arse last night, so arent you bi?"

"Nah definitely straight love"

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Problem for single guys is that there are roughly ten of them for each female or couple who want to meet single guys.

It follows that even if every single guy created fantastic profiles the vast majority of them would still be disappointed. "

Way more than that. Its roughly 500 to 1 woman

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Problem for single guys is that there are roughly ten of them for each female or couple who want to meet single guys.

It follows that even if every single guy created fantastic profiles the vast majority of them would still be disappointed.

Way more than that. Its roughly 500 to 1 woman "

I've done surveys. Roughly 75% men, 20% couples 5% females which is 3 to 1 men to couples /women . Obviously though some of the couples don't want to meet men and some couples /women will be fake so I estimate there's roughly ten men to each woman or couple who wants to meet them.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Just done another random search. First hundred coming up bear me were as follows

Men 77

Couples 16

Women 7

Consistent with previous searches I've done that show around 3/4 of the profiles are for men.

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

Dress up as a girl and learn to suck cock!.........works for me!

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

From conversations from women on here the key is to stand out without being creepy. Read the profiles and message appropriate matches. Personalised messages are important. Clear photos are good. Keep dick pics private only share if asked. Be cheeky not rude. Dont chase a response.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true.

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient.

Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. "
i always send a photo with messages

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true.

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient.

Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. i always send a photo with messages"

Most look at profiles first before messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda "

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh"

Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In regards to your bio. Mine was kind of laid out similar to yours. I asked for help on the forums, acknowledged the feedback I was given and changed it, structured it a bit.

In regards to your pictures, lose the filters man, honestly!! Locally, I see a lot of status updates about how women hate the snapchat filtered photos.

The forums are a fantastic place for help, use the different sections, read current posts about profile advice etc and take it on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for those who have learned how to swing.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Not for those who have learned how to swing. "

Or slide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really isn't that hard

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh

Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem "

Be good to mention names to help me Google

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh

Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem

Be good to mention names to help me Google "
on fab there's a tab for club reviews. You can see where they are and how popular they are and current reviews

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh

Looking at your profile, throw a dart at a list of clubs on the wall, you'll have no problem

Be good to mention names to help me Google "
Pandora’s Leeds lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's all be honest it is very hard.

There have been some bloody funny comments.

But let's get real, it is hard.

So many guts on here and lafies/couple getting hundreds if messages certainly inflates there self esteem.

I have had some of the most pleasant conversations and also some if the worst and most disrespectful.

I would follow the advice on here what others have sed. Socialise, go to clubs and meet lots of people and gave no agenda

What's a good club for a shy newbie in the South England?

I'm too nervous about meeting people on here tbh"

I have no idea I am only in down south a few days

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Shave your body and put a dress and some make up on the meets will come flooding in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grow a pair of tits.

Or just continue to try and speak to people, put effort in your profile, go to socials and clubs.

There is no quick fix.

"

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "
. Yes it’s hard for us single guys as we outnumber single ladies and couples by 20 to 1 if not more.I changed my profile around about a year ago it now looks a bit like a CV of what I am looking for , what I like , what I can offer , clubs I am a member off , interests.Like you I then asked for profile advice and was advised it was a good profile.You are quite welcome to have a look at it and see if you want to adapt yours to something similar.Best of luck with Fabs

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

And there's me turning them down if I don't like there profile ,,i say no thanks and yes of course blocked ha ha pmsl

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Rah Rah bloody Rah...

If it's hard to get meets bloody turn up when you agree to them!

Read your bloody messages when we are arranging plans!

Don't whine when we offer multiple dates over weeks to you and you keep being busy!

Right now single men are a bloody swear word in our house. Useless, unreliable sods...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo agree with earlier posts, socials support that you meet when you say, which is always a good start. I've only been on 3 weeks, and got 1 verificaton from.Miss Permahorny from a social. Just put effort in with messages, don't expect too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Help yourself buddy. No one else can

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say start clutching at some straws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest tip is to lower your expectations.

Like most, if you struggle with that, your of the wrong mindset to be on the scene.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

I've been on fab over 3 years, My couples profile with my wife and this 1. So I've seen it from both sides. Yes for the majority it is difficult to stand out, but single guys dont help themselves either. I've had 1 meet as a single which my wife got me on our couples account. Its tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don’t be a dick respect women, have a Face pic and have good banter/chat. If you follow the above then you will have a good chance in my opinion. Good luck pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing hard is my cock.

Have no expectations then you can be disappointed

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

The problem unfortunately is that a lot of single guys presume that because they are on a Swingers site they will get a fuck.

The reality is, you have to make an effort, just like everyone else. Go to Socials in your nearest area. Go to clubs in your nearest area. Be a face, not a profile.

Once people know you, then the rest will follow.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 99% of single males will never ever get a meet so I agree about keeping your expectations very low then no disappointments

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By *reeman76Man
over a year ago

oldbury


"I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tea.

Haha r."

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs.

As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off?

We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple.

So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse.

Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from

Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile.

So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it!

As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us.

Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem


"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs.

As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off?

We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple.

So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse.

Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from

Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile.

So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it!

As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us.

Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

It might just be luck, but I don’t have any problems meeting people on here.

Just be yourself, be respectful and above all, be patient

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"You have to accept your chances are virtually nil. You may wait years for a meet, as i did, then get nothing more for years after. A once in a lifetime sort of thing. I doubt i will ever get a meet again, so you should be prepared for that.

That's not true.

I agree it’s not true it’s about how much effort you put in and being a bit patient. Try looking at other single male profiles and see how they make it work. its true for me. I do put a lot of effort into messages, and having been on here for about 10 years, i think i have been patient.

Well for you possibly it’s your profile as you don’t have a profile picture or any public pictures which will shoot you in the foot. i always send a photo with messages

Most look at profiles first before messages"
why? Surely its just easier to click on the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer free haribos with every meet???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy

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By *r easy1981 OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Offer free haribos with every meet??? "
do you think that will work lol

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By *inkymixedguyMan
over a year ago

southampton

Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed . Yes it’s hard for us single guys as we outnumber single ladies and couples by 20 to 1 if not more.I changed my profile around about a year ago it now looks a bit like a CV of what I am looking for , what I like , what I can offer , clubs I am a member off , interests.Like you I then asked for profile advice and was advised it was a good profile.You are quite welcome to have a look at it and see if you want to adapt yours to something similar.Best of luck with Fabs "

Do you get more success after taking the advice?

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Biggest tip is to lower your expectations"

I couldn’t disagree more. Raise your expectations. Don’t just scattergun your messages over every women living in a 30 mile radius. Seek out the ones who genuinely speak to you. Be respectful yet confident, and don’t ever send a unsolicited cock pic.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Biggest tip is to lower your expectations

I couldn’t disagree more. Raise your expectations. Don’t just scattergun your messages over every women living in a 30 mile radius. Seek out the ones who genuinely speak to you. Be respectful yet confident, and don’t ever send a unsolicited cock pic. "

Yep, agree. Stop just being a nuisance and a statistic.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ?? "

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on "

Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social?

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over a year ago


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on "

Is this common!?

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By *eralPete1Man
over a year ago

marsworth

Yeap , it hard , very hard . You have more of A chance by going out and meeting people . I've been on here on and off since 2009 and not had a meet per year . The male to female radios is heavily weighted in the favour of the female .

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Yeap , it hard , very hard . You have more of A chance by going out and meeting people . I've been on here on and off since 2009 and not had a meet per year . The male to female radios is heavily weighted in the favour of the female . "

I keep reading the same excuses about the numbers and ratio, as if all men are equal and women are just picking guys at random as if it’s a lottery. It’s not.

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By *harlieRiderMan
over a year ago

Vauxhall/Waterloo

I am finding it surprisingly straight forward to get meets having joined 3 weeks ago. I try to be as respectful and honest as possible which goes a long way. Most of the females and couples are equally as anxious as I am before hand.Be positive

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "
it’s not.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs.

As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off?

We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple.

So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse.

Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from

Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile.

So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it!

As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us.

Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success.

"

If only there was an emoji for a round of applause....

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs.

As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off?

We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple.

So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse.

Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from

Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile.

So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it!

As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us.

Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success. "

This!!!! So well written

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the general problem with an awful lot of people(note I didn’t just say single guys) is that they look at this site like every one is a prostitute offering freebies. Rather than it’s real people who have lives, likes, dislikes, desires and differing needs.

As someone as already said - if you walked up to someone just because you liked the look of them(aka their pics on here) and said hello can I fuck you, and at that moment in time you had not brushed you teeth, brushed you hair or washed your cock - and failed to see they might actually also have an opinion on what they wanted or liked, how surprised would you be they didn’t just tell you to fuck off?

We get endless emails of single guys saying be great to get to know you more, love a regular fuck buddy...do you like big cock...now you might say what’s up with that, well we are a couple! But they clearly just think the female is on here to fuck men, and not that we are a couple.

So the attitude to have is actually it’s really easy to meet people on here and at clubs - actually far easier than it is in normal life, but just like normal life - just cus you want to shag the idea of their pics(and let’s face it some people’s pics are quite clever in that they don’t show who the real person even looks like, let alone the type of person they may be) doesn’t mean they want to shag you or even converse.

Our profile says don’t add us as a friend unless we know you, guess what we get endless friend requests still from random men, our profile says respect that we a couple and not a cuck couple , but the emails come in obviously completely ingnoring that fact and totally targeting the female, which is not only disrespectful to the male but equally to the female. We get sent messages that are text speak, pictures from

Single guys that show more of some other woman, random so you want to meet now, and their profile contains not a single pic or any info about them. And the list goes on of messages that clearly not read a single thing on our profile.

So my advice is to not post stuff that makes you sound like you offended that all these women/couples haven’t just said yeah god we owe you a fuck...if that’s what you think, then open your wallet and pay for it!

As a couple there plenty of single guys, women and couples we equally would love to play with on here, equally the same when we go to clubs - but at no point do we think just because they in a swingers club we have the right or that they will instantly want to fuck or play with us.

Remember people on here are real, and they have all sorts of wants - respect them just like you would in real life and then maybe you’ll have some success.

This!!!! So well written"

This should be mandatory reading for anybody ticking they are interested in couples when they sign up!!

Our pet hate is singles guys who message us totally targeting the female and as if the male half of the couple doesn't exist.

Either they have cut copied and pasted a message they previously sent to single women or they are quite simply a disrespectful twat with zero understanding of swinging.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To balance our last post we have met and know some awesome, respectful single guys who are genuine swingers and embrace the scene and all it has to offer.

KJ x

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By *inkymixedguyMan
over a year ago

southampton


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on

Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social?"

Yes it was a straight for play meet but at no time was money or time limits mentioned. Thought we was going in for a good night together, but guess I was mistaken. I did report didn’t need to block she done that within seconds.

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By *exy7Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Well, I don't completely disagree with you but I'd like to know how many ladies would get a meet without even sending a photo compared to blokes for example. It is pretty obvious that it is easier for ladies than guys. As a bloke if you don't tick 90% of the boxes, you often don't stand a chance of a meet, not even an answer. In the meantime, there are ladies that most people would regard as utterly unattractive who secure meet after meet. That's the way it is. I am not complaining, I am just stating what I think is obvious here. Of course, some guys need to work harder at their profile, you're right. I am the perfect example. However in my case, I am very reluctant to send face pictures for discretion reasons and because of my job. This means I have only had one meet and I know I would get more if I was prepared to improve my profile with pictures. I know I can't and I assume it is the same for a lot of people too.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Seriously, because I’m really interested, what kind of conversation did you have before your ‘meet’, and where you going straight for a play meet before a social?

Yes it was a straight for play meet but at no time was money or time limits mentioned. Thought we was going in for a good night together, but guess I was mistaken. I did report didn’t need to block she done that within seconds. "

Do you get many ‘straight to play ’meets? The tiny amount that I’ve had have always been after weeks of contact, and a few phone calls. I’d be very suspicious of any one who wanted to play without meeting before hand without that level of prior contact. Sorry you got stung fella, but women who charge are generally relying on guys not wanting to have a wasted night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met several great single guys. Both social and gone no where and where things have progressed further.

It comes down to how you approach couples,if you have veris,how your pictures are presented and if you have been to group social.

For us no group social and cant accommodate the first thing we would think is "married". We dont go with married people,that's our preference. That's just one example.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed "

You are lucky that there are two good clubs in Leeds you can go to.

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Seems an essential first step is demonstrating that you're not an abrupt, abusive guy. (Many women cite this as a problem). But then is one in danger of being too nice?

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on "
. I received a wink from a couple after checking out their profile turns out they are having a meet at a Travelodge in my area.Looking for 3-4 guys £50 contribution I turn up and for the first 30 minutes it’s me and another guy playing with the lady then more and more guys arrived.Thats when I realised that I had been mislead 12 guys x £50 = £600 cost of a room in a Travelodge in North or East London £100 at most £500 profit for the couple.If you receive a wink from a couple and they have a hotel meet that very same day think twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell me about it, had my first meet finally planned for yesterday evening then she says whilst on route it’s £30 for 30mins. And my time is 6pm. ???? sorry but don’t do hookers. Guess who’s blocked me today ??

I’ve had similar before mate; “It’s £50, or £40 each if you bring a mate?” Block, report, move on . I received a wink from a couple after checking out their profile turns out they are having a meet at a Travelodge in my area.Looking for 3-4 guys £50 contribution I turn up and for the first 30 minutes it’s me and another guy playing with the lady then more and more guys arrived.Thats when I realised that I had been mislead 12 guys x £50 = £600 cost of a room in a Travelodge in North or East London £100 at most £500 profit for the couple.If you receive a wink from a couple and they have a hotel meet that very same day think twice."
omg dispicable you only got half an hour for £50 you get all day at disney for a £100

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. "
Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"

Most look at profiles first before messageswhy? Surely its just easier to click on the message? "

Because at least 90% of messages are from people who don't actually read profiles and just message at random or in response to pics. Looking at their profile I can see that we are not looking for remotely the same thing, in which case there is no point in entering into a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont sends generic message

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By *avid 243Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Like the OP I struggle to arrange meets. Had a few but considering how many messages I send the percentage is tiny. Alway sent an individual message after reading the profile but many don't get read or those that read don't reply. Any advice would be good.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Like the OP I struggle to arrange meets. Had a few but considering how many messages I send the percentage is tiny. Alway sent an individual message after reading the profile but many don't get read or those that read don't reply. Any advice would be good."

Send better messages, make a better profile.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x "
what about going to a club if youve been here a while?

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I feel so sorry for single guys, i see them in clubs looking a bit lost, i stick a dress on and I'm flooded with messages and get LOADS of attention in clubs.

Must be hard work for you sexy bunch, wish I could Fuck with all of you xxx

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while? "

Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while?

Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now) "
lol hey can you fail in a club if youve got a personality

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. "
I have an avatar profile photo

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Just chatting with a guy who’s been on for 2 weeks, within a week he had a cam veri then a couple of days later had two veris from meeting one of fabs most desired lady’s so think he will do very well on here, I think going to a club certainly helps when your new to the site as people see the real you and not just reading words x what about going to a club if youve been here a while?

Ok clever clogs, yes for sure if you haven’t been lucky enough to meet with anyone I’d say go for it, what’s the worst that can happen? oh and don’t stop going once you get lucky, well that’s if you liked it (covering all bases now) lol hey can you fail in a club if youve got a personality "

Everyone’s got a personality just different types, I would say it certainly helps if you have a good one as they would fail with me if they had a crappy one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. I have an avatar profile photo "

The secret is to have a cock photo

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"It’s very hard for single guys on here I find some help is needed it’s not. Not for you obviously, for some reason. For me, and most other guys, its almost impossible. I have an avatar profile photo

The secret is to have a cock photo "

No it isn’t

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