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"Hi people, I've been on here for five yrs now and I've met some really nice people and I've been lucky enough to have enjoyed some fantastic times but since coming out as being bisexual (changing my sexuality on profile) the interaction with women and couples has dropped big time. I'm totally straight acting, a manly man, I'm a normal chilled out guy. I work hard and I'd help anyone, I send people decent messages (I think) not just silly one liners, I have photo's of myself on my profile but I just don't know what I'm doing wrong!? " Make another bi profile, and change back to straight. | |||
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"[Briefs Removed by poster at 23/01/20 21:48:31]" Well! | |||
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"[Briefs Removed by poster at 23/01/20 21:48:31] Well! " what did I miss | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x" It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road | |||
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"Be yourself - be honest. It’s the only way." 100% agree. | |||
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"We prefer bi guys. More possibilities hubby is only orally bi but still more possibilities " We only play with bi guys. (Well, unless we're after something in particular.) Nothing beats a bi meet in our experience. So much you can do! | |||
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"Couldn't tell you the last straight male couple that were interested in us past a "Hey how are you message". Get plenty of interest off straight single guys though! We also thought about two profiles but decided we're better off just going to clubs and keeping things simple and honest on here x" This Just because it says bi on our profile doesn’t mean that mr is gonna try and jump on another males cock every 2 seconds ! (Although if asked nicely he would And the amount of straight guys that will send the same message day after day is ridiculous. At clubs at least you get to express yourself properly , explain that you’re bi but that doesn’t mean that it’s a must for us to play and so on . At least us with bi on our profiles are not scared to show our sexuality, we should be proud of being greedy haha | |||
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"We prefer bi guys. More possibilities hubby is only orally bi but still more possibilities " Well Hello xxx | |||
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"No idea but The comment to make a separate profile, this would be a huge no for us. Honesty is huge for us. Being bi makes no difference as long as the guy keeps his hands off of beast. Same as any other rule really, just respect and honesty. " God no, I'd never make a move on the guy if he wasn't bi, I'm tactile and very considerate around straight hubbies. Thanks guys, nice profile! x | |||
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"@Clem-H-Fandango I'd rather just be myself, I hate people lying but thanks.." So stop moaning that you can't get laid because you're bi. Maybe being bi has nothing to do with it. | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road" Hi Ric and Danni, Where have you two been hiding?? I like your profile guys and those photo's look very sexy! I love the drive from Hull to York x | |||
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"You’ve done nothing wrong by being honest OP. Hate it when couples message and the male is listed as straight but they tell us he’s actually Bi and loves to play with TV’s. We’re no ones guilty secret. Miss V" Me too Miss V! Thank you x | |||
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"Most people, male or female, prefer straight men." Hi guys, yes I'd agree with you. Each to their own, if we we're all the same we'd be robots and it would be boring. | |||
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"You’ve done nothing wrong by being honest OP. Hate it when couples message and the male is listed as straight but they tell us he’s actually Bi and loves to play with TV’s. We’re no ones guilty secret. Miss V Me too Miss V! Thank you x" | |||
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"@LolaDaisy I'm certainly not saying everyone should like bi men Lola, I know it's each to their own. I only contact people who are looking for men and if it's a couples profile I'll only message if I see the guy is bisexual. Thank you x That bum looks sore!? " It was, in the best possible way | |||
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"We only play with bi guys. (Well, unless we're after something in particular.) Nothing beats a bi meet in our experience. So much you can do! " Couldn't agree more. So much fun. Shame more don't share this view. | |||
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"Hi people, I've been on here for five yrs now and I've met some really nice people and I've been lucky enough to have enjoyed some fantastic times but since coming out as being bisexual (changing my sexuality on profile) the interaction with women and couples has dropped big time. I'm totally straight acting, a manly man, I'm a normal chilled out guy. I work hard and I'd help anyone, I send people decent messages (I think) not just silly one liners, I have photo's of myself on my profile but I just don't know what I'm doing wrong!? " I found the same thing when I discovered my bi side after being on here for 3 years and the way I look I'd be the last person you'd expect to be bi. You just have to tailor your messages to the people who will fit your new dynamic and are seeking bi men. I find going to bi nights at clubs better tbh as you are meeting people face to face and less likely to meet time wasters. My Fab life is so much busier this way as it filters out the usual Fab fantasists and dreamers. I know a lot of straight couples who struggle to get meets off here for the same reason. Be true to yourself though if you are bi/curious on your profile as putting straight isn't really fair to those who don't want to meet bi men. Most importantly don't worry about those who don't want to meet you and find those that do | |||
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"It is frustrating for sure. I put bi on mine as I don’t mind the bi play if they are both in to it. Myself I wouldn’t seek out a guy on his own unless there is a attraction with is very slim as I am not in to guys. But the chances of meeting anyone on here is very slim anyway. " I’m must be skinny as a rake then | |||
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"For me, being part of the Fab/Swing community allows me to explore areas of my sexuality. I'm far from fully bi and know that many other guys are similar to me in that regard, so its great to be able to connect and chat with people who have the same desires. I do understand that bi and bi-curious guys will not be everyones preference, so it's better to be clear about what you are looking for IMHO. As an example, i know that cross-dressing is an area that many guys explore, but it does nothing for me, so better that I make that clear than waste peoples time. I suppose it all depends what your primary goals are - is it to meet people who also enjoy your specific 'thing' or to generally meet st8 and bi people. The way you write your profile will include or exclude you depending on who is reading it! You cant really have it both ways - in that regard at least " Clarifying the extent of bisexuality can be difficult, I know for a lot of men it can only happen with a woman present. It might also be "all about the cock" so there's not going to be any kissing or running of hands etc. Might be oral only, so many other caveats. | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road Hi Ric and Danni, Where have you two been hiding?? I like your profile guys and those photo's look very sexy! x" They certainly are....we met them at a club recently! | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road Hi Ric and Danni, Where have you two been hiding?? I like your profile guys and those photo's look very sexy! x They certainly are....we met them at a club recently!" Jaydees? | |||
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"I think there's some utility in someone saying on their profile that they're not into bi men. Let's me know up front who to avoid. Only thing you can do if it bothers you is to remember it's not your problem but their hang ups. " Been a while since I had a perv at your profile... forgot how sexy you were Ric xXx | |||
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"I think there's some utility in someone saying on their profile that they're not into bi men. Let's me know up front who to avoid. Only thing you can do if it bothers you is to remember it's not your problem but their hang ups. Been a while since I had a perv at your profile... forgot how sexy you were Ric xXx " You two are very sexy.. | |||
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"It's a no no for us, bi females yes, bi males no." But why? That's really the point here, not just stating your position.. | |||
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"I think there's some utility in someone saying on their profile that they're not into bi men. Let's me know up front who to avoid. Only thing you can do if it bothers you is to remember it's not your problem but their hang ups. Been a while since I had a perv at your profile... forgot how sexy you were Ric xXx " By all means perv away I've certainly been returning the favour | |||
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"It's a no no for us, bi females yes, bi males no. But why? That's really the point here, not just stating your position.. " I don't get it either. I don't really class myself as bi, but I'm certainly bi-curious because of the moment takes me and it happens, it happens. I do t generally find men attractive, though I do find a beautiful trans girl or convincing CD a fascinating fantasy, hence I don't put straight. So long as people respect bounderies, why does it matter? I mean, personally, if someone fancies me of either sex or any gender I'm flattered. Doesn't mean I'll reciprocate. C. | |||
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"Personally, I wouldn’t want to be meeting bi-phobic people, so knowing upfront about it is better for me. But I have noted that sometimes the very people who are ‘no bi males’ have veris from guys who fuck around with other guys. They just put Straight on their profiles. Unlike them, I don’t lie about my bi-sexuality to get further with people who don’t care for bi guys, but there’s quite a few people on here who have met up with Guys who love the cock and are in total ignorance about it. " Noted that as well. It can be a little rough being openly bi here so I find it a tad annoying to be approached by someone with "straight" on their profile. | |||
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"Be yourself - be honest. It’s the only way." always this | |||
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" Noted that as well. It can be a little rough being openly bi here so I find it a tad annoying to be approached by someone with "straight" on their profile." I've been telling guys who tell us they're bi that it doesn't count if their profile doesn't say so. Tbh this thread has put me in two minds about that... And for my own status. I think generally if my status rules us out them they're probably people I'd dislike anyway. But FOMO is always tough for me to get past. | |||
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" I've been telling guys who tell us they're bi that it doesn't count if their profile doesn't say so. Tbh this thread has put me in two minds about that... And for my own status. I think generally if my status rules us out them they're probably people I'd dislike anyway. But FOMO is always tough for me to get past. " It's not just the FOMO, it's that minor sting of reject from people that have a negative preconception of you based on something that seems irrelevant | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road" Wish I was up the road | |||
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"That's what I've been thinking guys, maybe so. You are right also about many others moaning, I hear that a lot. Thanks guys x It's our pleasure Xx popped you on our hotlist too... You're only up the road Hi Ric and Danni, Where have you two been hiding?? I like your profile guys and those photo's look very sexy! x They certainly are....we met them at a club recently! Jaydees? " Yup x | |||
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"We just love meeting other bi guys for sex so much more to do" Your sexuality is your own business you're not in a boy band that you have to tell everybody what your interested in , Am straight guy but I don't have problems being around bi guys , But would only be playing with the ladies in the room | |||
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