FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness

By *riendly Bi OP Man
over a year ago

I’m sure people are getting worse. Especially women I’m sad to say.

Let’s all try and make a big effort to be nice to one another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this really depends on the context. Sometimes rudeness is justified.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What's rude?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I'm rarely rude. In fact I take great delight in being annoyingly nice when people are rude to be. (Usually)

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Some people-mostly men-are rather self entitled and think you'll drop your drawers at the merest one line text speak message or digitally enhanced dick pic.

I'm usually pleasant, but have resorted to sarcasm a few times and outright hostility on one occasion.

Easy internet access causes most hassles!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

What do you mean by nice?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am never rude to anyone on here and never will be but had my fair share of abuse from males and females.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am never rude to anyone on here and never will be but had my fair share of abuse from males and females. "

Refreshingly honest.

Men and women are capable of rude behaviour.

Best to rise above it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's ruder to send 'junk mail' when the box was clearly ticked 'no marketing'. Mistakes can be made though so all polite messages get a thanks but no thanks, but some warrant a little more sass, and some warrant no response at all - there are buttons that help too for the real persistent.

Rude for rudes sake though? It takes all sorts; just glad it's online where I can ignore it (need to remind myself that sometimes and not knee jerk respond haha) rather than IRL getting up in my face

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?"

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By *riendly Bi OP Man
over a year ago

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?"

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have always been rude. Now you have the internet where you can hide your face be easily rude without having to worry. Having said that, they will have their own reasons. Don't bother yourselves with it.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

Yep, that's rude. Try to rise above it. I think that people who are mean are doing it to try to improve their own self esteem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people-mostly men-are rather self entitled and think you'll drop your drawers at the merest one line text speak message or digitally enhanced dick pic.

I'm usually pleasant, but have resorted to sarcasm a few times and outright hostility on one occasion.

Easy internet access causes most hassles!"

This

With added.. can't take justified rejection

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

There is no need to be rude! A polite not interested is enough! Each one of their own I guess!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

I apologise for my presumption and agree with you. Trust you reported her.

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

never rude unless someone is rude to me or disrespectful

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I've said much the same to men when they have hassled me and, not taken a polite no thanks.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

We have to say that some people on this site invite rudeness through their words, assumptions, attitude and behaviour. A verrrrry small minority but...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some Men ,women and couples can be rude sadly,

Its easy to sit behind a keyboard anonymously .

Block them op ,not everyone is the same.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

Did u send her a pic ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just live a good life and live a good example and discount any rude person from our lives ... works for me

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By *lphaceoCouple
over a year ago

Oswestry

Our ‘pet hate’ which seems to be happening more are the people who send you a message, to which you reply and then the message sits there ‘marked as unread’ with no further reply when the people are clearly on and off line. We just remove photos and delete the sent message after 48 hours now.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

There are no pics to suggest your body size ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm baffled by the replies on this thread.

I read it as a positive thread, where the OP suggests that we are all a little kinder to people in our replies.

What does it matter what he defines rude?

I'll try and not expend my energy on the message that isn't relevant to my profile from now on, and be kinder to myself. Belated new year resolution...

x Niki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed it's not always just rudness

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's subjective, how we interpret the behaviour of others and context give the full meaning.

Most social systems have their own norms too, so outsiders or new entrants bring their experiences appropriate from elsewhere. Hence that context is all.

In fab, its wise to learn and observe, so that you get the norms here and leave preconceptions behind.

Some people won't adjust to new things, deciding it's not for them. Is the cost of your investment not something you will stand?

There's a lot of choice here. Have your preferences and boundaries. It's always our own choice who we will or won't associate with. If ithers make it easy for us to know that they don't match us, by rudeness etc, it's a gift.

Focus on what you want and let the rest go.

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By *riendly Bi OP Man
over a year ago

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

There are no pics to suggest your body size ? "

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By *riendly Bi OP Man
over a year ago

"I'm baffled by the replies on this thread.

I read it as a positive thread, where the OP suggests that we are all a little kinder to people in our replies.

What does it matter what he defines rude?

I'll try and not expend my energy on the message that isn't relevant to my profile from now on, and be kinder to myself. Belated new year resolution...

x Niki"

Thank you x

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Lols! I'm sometimes rude, but some women ask for it! Be nice to me and I'll be nice, act like a queen and so will I. Ha!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

There are no pics to suggest your body size ?

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You obviously know this person because I can't see your mail getting answered with a black silhouette most wemon on here hate it maybe it's just me but I'm getting a gut feeling that the lady who mentioned your idea on rudeness was because of no replies

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

There are no pics to suggest your body size ?

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I reply to, and have met, men with sillhouette profiles.

I can't understand why this guy is getting such a negative response here. I suspect a woman posting this would've been given more sympathy.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

There are no pics to suggest your body size ?

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I reply to, and have met, men with sillhouette profiles.

I can't understand why this guy is getting such a negative response here. I suspect a woman posting this would've been given more sympathy. "

Nope if my gut was telling me she was lying I would tell her too

i dont mean it as mean but it's not the first time a man has posted on here for attention x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

Rise above it and block her OP. She's clearly not a pleasant person. She needs to rem_mber word gets around on here, it's not a massive community. Think karma. Xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book

There are no pics to suggest your body size ?

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I reply to, and have met, men with sillhouette profiles.

I can't understand why this guy is getting such a negative response here. I suspect a woman posting this would've been given more sympathy. "

This is so true, double standards at work again. Rudeness is rudeness, regardless of gender as far as I see it.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"I’m sure people are getting worse. Especially women I’m sad to say.

Let’s all try and make a big effort to be nice to one another "

Couples and single males are just as bad

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I’m sure people are getting worse. Especially women I’m sad to say.

Let’s all try and make a big effort to be nice to one another

Couples and single males are just as bad"

everyone is as bad as each other to be honest

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We are never rude to people. We always try to be nice. The world needs more kindness amongst folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never rude here. I just ignore those I've no interest in. It's not my issue if those that don't understand how the site works thinks that is rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let me guess...sent generic "Hi how are you?" message to someone NOT looking for you, but hey: nothing ventured, for your message to be deleted unread and you blocked...am I far of?

Miles off. Being made fun of my body size by a woman. That’s rude in my book"

What do you mean by size queens?

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