FabSwingers.com forum: First Time being with a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I normally only meet one to one and I’ve been propositioned by couples in the past but have always said no, I’ve finally agreed to meet with a couple next week and I’ve suddenly gotten quite nervous

Could anybody give me any tips or insight into what to expect? And what is expected from me? I’ll only be playing with the wife...

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By *otstuffbabeCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Find out what they expect and the kind of scenario they may have in mind as there are so many variations of a meet.

Sometimes I like to be tied up when the guy arrives and the fun starts straight away! Other times it's more flirting and chatting with a slow build up - you need to know what they're expecting from the meeting so you are comfortable. Have fun

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

Good luck op

I had my first meeting with a couple last year

Loved it I just went with the flow and if you can perform you will love it.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Have plenty of conversation beforehand to see what their expectations are, also check that you are happy with that. It should be a two way thing, not just their wants. It isn’t as scary as you think.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Speak to them.

It honestly is pointless finding out how other couples like to do things. It's about the three of you.

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By *oinus1961Couple
over a year ago

Huntingdon

Communicate

Accept they may be as nervous as you

Communicate

Take some basic security precautions - accept they will too

Listen to both of them and I MEAN listen

Take condoms, massage oil, lube etc if play is on the cards; take condoms anyway because initial intentions may change but don't expect this

Communicate

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have plenty of conversation beforehand to see what their expectations are, also check that you are happy with that. It should be a two way thing, not just their wants. It isn’t as scary as you think. "

Agree with all that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks a lot everyone for your responses! I’ll definitely be communicating a lot with them over the next couple of days and I will try and not make it as big a deal as it is in my head atm

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Social first

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Thanks a lot everyone for your responses! I’ll definitely be communicating a lot with them over the next couple of days and I will try and not make it as big a deal as it is in my head atm"

Hi in our couple dynamic it is only me who plays (Gemma) I can’t speak for other couples but we enjoy chatting for a while in the hotel bar to get to know each other a bit maybe some discreet touching/ flirting

Then when we are suitably horny it’s up to the room for some fun

Mr doesn’t get involved as his username suggests he just loves watching me have fun however that’s not to say your meet will be the same the male may want to be involved in some way as others have suggested lots of communication about exactly what’s expected will be invaluable. Good Luck x

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Fill ya boots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said above communicate with them, find out the expectations, boundaries do's and don'ts and don't overthink it. Go with the flow, read and pay attention to body language of both and hints that may be forthcoming.

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

Bookmarked for a read later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and dont forget its not just about them, you should enjoy it aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it will depend very much on the couple but I my experience limited as it is!...

Be aware they may also be nervous! Laughter is a great leveller so try not to take it too seriously (clearly don’t laugh when someone gets their kit off!)

As much as confidence is your friend, remember that they are the couple, you are not. So know when to take a step back and let them be together without your input... eg, if they want to cuddle and chat just the two of them afterwards try not to third wheel it too much.

Picking up your boxers from the living room floor afterwards will be awkward. Don’t try and style it out just do it lol.

Good luck OP, I’ve loved bringing that extra dimension when I’ve played with couples

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Breathe ...... nerves are natural..... Breathe.......

Don’t panic, and certainly don’t worry about perfection or what you see as the perfect meet, definitely speak to them before about expectations and boundaries.

Breathe, smile & enjoy - it’s a real privilege to be invited to join a couple so show it the up most respect.

And finally Breathe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Breathe ...... nerves are natural..... Breathe.......

Don’t panic, and certainly don’t worry about perfection or what you see as the perfect meet, definitely speak to them before about expectations and boundaries.

Breathe, smile & enjoy - it’s a real privilege to be invited to join a couple so show it the up most respect.

And finally Breathe!

yeah breathing is always a huge bonus

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By *oinus1961Couple
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"I think it will depend very much on the couple but I my experience limited as it is!...

Be aware they may also be nervous! Laughter is a great leveller so try not to take it too seriously (clearly don’t laugh when someone gets their kit off!)

Picking up your boxers from the living room floor afterwards will be awkward. Don’t try and style it out just do it lol.

Good luck OP, I’ve loved bringing that extra dimension when I’ve played with couples "

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?"

When we had arranged our first meet we exchanged flirty, not anything too explicit messages and then on the actual meet we had a few drinks in the hotel bar where we talked about ourselves, how we got into the lifestyle, our likes, dislikes what we were all hoping to get from the experience. It obviously went really well as we met him again 3 weeks later and this time it was even better as we were all much more relaxed

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Make sure you tell your parents where you are , just incase they are bad people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it will depend very much on the couple but I my experience limited as it is!...

Be aware they may also be nervous! Laughter is a great leveller so try not to take it too seriously (clearly don’t laugh when someone gets their kit off!)

Picking up your boxers from the living room floor afterwards will be awkward. Don’t try and style it out just do it lol.

Good luck OP, I’ve loved bringing that extra dimension when I’ve played with couples "

Haha I will definitely keep all this in mind! Yeah I’m just trying to resolve in my mind not to overstep my mark with them, they are a couple and know each other more than I do!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?

That’s the dream! To enjoy it so much that I will indulge in it again in the future!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hi

Could anybody give me any tips or insight into what to expect? And what is expected from me? I’ll only be playing with the wife...

Thanks "

Only they'll be able to tell you what they expect. Couples don't always play the same. Some guys in couples just watch, some join in. They'll probably have their own likes and dislikes so if you haven't established ground rules in advance you're possibly going to enjoy the experience less as stopping midway to ask questions can break up the flow. Just make sure you know any definite no-go's (anal, facials, barking like a dog etc.) and anything specific they'd like.

Always best to get things clear before getting naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and go with the flo , you’ve obviously got over the worst bit by being invited to join your couple. Hopefully by the time your meets here you’ve already found out what their boundaries are and they have found what yours are . Have fun and be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it will depend very much on the couple but I my experience limited as it is!...

Be aware they may also be nervous! Laughter is a great leveller so try not to take it too seriously (clearly don’t laugh when someone gets their kit off!)

Picking up your boxers from the living room floor afterwards will be awkward. Don’t try and style it out just do it lol.

Good luck OP, I’ve loved bringing that extra dimension when I’ve played with couples

Haha I will definitely keep all this in mind! Yeah I’m just trying to resolve in my mind not to overstep my mark with them, they are a couple and know each other more than I do!"

Don't let them overstep your marks too. Respected should be an an all around thing.

Mrs

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Hi

Could anybody give me any tips or insight into what to expect? And what is expected from me? I’ll only be playing with the wife...

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Only playing with the wife...how boring. I love to see men play with other, after fucking me.

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?

That’s the dream! To enjoy it so much that I will indulge in it again in the future!

I’m sure you will

also if you do ever feel like repeating the experience we are always willing to travel

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?"

We prefer to arrange a social early on so not much exchange beforehand. Treat it like meeting your mate and his wife - it's just about getting to know each other and building trust and understanding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?

That’s the dream! To enjoy it so much that I will indulge in it again in the future!

I’m sure you will

also if you do ever feel like repeating the experience we are always willing to travel

This has been noted

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Just chat to them,, ask them what they’re expectations are, what they like and dislike. Chat on the phone beforehand, text or even video call.

Everyone’s different, some like to go with the flow, others like a scenario. As long as you’re all on the same page you’ll be fine.

Above all, just enjoy the evening ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Communicate

Accept they may be as nervous as you

Communicate

Take some basic security precautions - accept they will too

Listen to both of them and I MEAN listen

Take condoms, massage oil, lube etc if play is on the cards; take condoms anyway because initial intentions may change but don't expect this

Communicate"

He's probably best to check about the massage oil and lube before he packs a bowling bag

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What do you talk about in the social with both the girl and her partner? What do you say leading up to the social?

That’s the dream! To enjoy it so much that I will indulge in it again in the future!

I’m sure you will

also if you do ever feel like repeating the experience we are always willing to travel

This has been noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Could anybody give me any tips or insight into what to expect? And what is expected from me? I’ll only be playing with the wife...

Thanks "

Find out anything that turns them off sexually. Find out little things like if they like kissing or not. That way you only do things they like.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Breathe ...... nerves are natural..... Breathe.......

Don’t panic, and certainly don’t worry about perfection or what you see as the perfect meet, definitely speak to them before about expectations and boundaries.

Breathe, smile & enjoy - it’s a real privilege to be invited to join a couple so show it the up most respect.

And finally Breathe!

yeah breathing is always a huge bonus"

Lol - the pressure that some guys put themselves under is massive, after a few deep breaths they seem to calm down and eventually manage to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you will have a great night just chill out and enjoy yourself, don't over think it.

Good luck

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

In my experience couples have different wishes and expectations. You need to establish what they or at the very least let them take the lead. Of course you need to know what you are looking for as well as your dos and donts

"Hi

Could anybody give me any tips or insight into what to expect? And what is expected from me? I’ll only be playing with the wife...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just an update that it went great and I really enjoyed myself

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Just an update that it went great and I really enjoyed myself

That’s great!! I thought you would

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