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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me and my husband are looking for separate playmates and found that if a woman wants to find a man they get a lot of offers from single men but women seem to be less inclined to get involved in this arrangement. Am I wrong in thinking there is a mentality difference between men playing alone and women?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes.

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By *lowersandcarsCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Definitely. Maybe there shouldn’t be but there is x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely. Maybe there shouldn’t be but there is x"

I was shocked at how different it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats life. If women want sex they show a bit leg and flutter there eyes. That easy

Men have to graft n graft mostly for a no thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not."

Alot of double standards imo. Shame really

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not.

Alot of double standards imo. Shame really"

The double standards that exist in society are magnified on fab.

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By *pmsldCouple
over a year ago

kettering

It also comes down to simple supply and demand, your partner will always have it harder as the ladies have more choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It also comes down to simple supply and demand, your partner will always have it harder as the ladies have more choice. "

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that pretty much covers it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doesn't make it right though

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not.

Alot of double standards imo. Shame really"

I don't think it's double standards, more than women and men think differently maybe.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I met a man by myself with the wifes permission but knew them both beforehand

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I met a man by myself with the wifes permission but knew them both beforehand"

If i had not known the wife then i would have asked for a social with them both first just to confirm all was ok with the female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is so much easier on here for a woman than a single site there is a great poly group on Facebook might be worth a look jamie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't look for separate meets as a couple as i would imagine it's impossible to get a single female off here for the fella with being a couple, plus he'd be too bloody fussy if they did lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely. Maybe there shouldn’t be but there is x

I was shocked at how different it is.

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women are in demand guys are two a penny

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not."

Totally this ^^

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I’ve had a meet with a married man but this was after I’d had a meet with them both.

Ms x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think you would find it easier if you looked for couples wanting separate room swap rather than two single individuals.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We get that the demand is low, its more the oh really messages you get even with a verified profile

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"We get that the demand is low, its more the oh really messages you get even with a verified profile"

Tbh there are so many guys who say they have permission to play separately when clearly they don't, that I can easily understand why a lot of people are skeptical.

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

I won't privately meet couples together or separately anymore, too much hassle and too much drama.

Had met a couple of male halves of couples privately in the past having met or spoken to their wives already but things get complicated where the wife doesn't want me to see their husband anymore and I'm not doing anything but fucking them.

I prefer to meet them at a party or club but even then I've seen drama with couples at clubs, it's horrible being in a private room with a couple and them arguing about you or something. Fuck that

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

In the most basic animal terms as a m_mber of the Ape family;

Male of the species is there populate and copulate. Only the strongest genies allow the survival of the species.

A female of the species is there to produce babies and nuture young.

Only when in season she will mate.

Humans are more evolved than this, however the male is still a basic sperm bucket!!

Woman control the when and were and how!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I won't privately meet couples together or separately anymore, too much hassle and too much drama.

Had met a couple of male halves of couples privately in the past having met or spoken to their wives already but things get complicated where the wife doesn't want me to see their husband anymore and I'm not doing anything but fucking them.

I prefer to meet them at a party or club but even then I've seen drama with couples at clubs, it's horrible being in a private room with a couple and them arguing about you or something. Fuck that

"

Shame bad experiences have deterred you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never met a couple but would be more inclined to meet the female without the male not the other way around, not sure why

Maybe because as someone said earlier there are way more men that women so it's easier to get a man than it is a woman so some people bend their preferences in women whereas they dont have to with men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't privately meet couples together or separately anymore, too much hassle and too much drama.

Had met a couple of male halves of couples privately in the past having met or spoken to their wives already but things get complicated where the wife doesn't want me to see their husband anymore and I'm not doing anything but fucking them.

I prefer to meet them at a party or club but even then I've seen drama with couples at clubs, it's horrible being in a private room with a couple and them arguing about you or something. Fuck that

"

I hear a lot about jealousy with couples in this kind of situation, I can be off putting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be honest the problem we find with meeting other couples is that we never find full mutual attraction. In the meets we have had so far there is always 1 person that isn't feeling it. We still look at couples but thought if we can find singles we like we are not tied down to meeting someone 1 of us is not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the same hubby has full permission to meet who he wants x so long as I know where he is x and I am the same x

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By *wsugartitsWoman
over a year ago

McKenzie Bridge

My husband and I have experienced this often. It's a shame because he really is a good fuck.. but I also get alot of shame from men accusing me of cheating (my man has a profile of his own as well), we ended up finding a couple that liked to play and do solo, it was a great scenario. To bad they moved..

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Me and my husband are looking for separate playmates and found that if a woman wants to find a man they get a lot of offers from single men but women seem to be less inclined to get involved in this arrangement. Am I wrong in thinking there is a mentality difference between men playing alone and women?"

So maybe have a social with three of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't privately meet couples together or separately anymore, too much hassle and too much drama.

Had met a couple of male halves of couples privately in the past having met or spoken to their wives already but things get complicated where the wife doesn't want me to see their husband anymore and I'm not doing anything but fucking them.

I prefer to meet them at a party or club but even then I've seen drama with couples at clubs, it's horrible being in a private room with a couple and them arguing about you or something. Fuck that

Shame bad experiences have deterred you "
ahhhh but they are quite common i know two couples they same room swapped the two guys ended up in a naked punch up in a club

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

And thats where the situation gets sticky as so many single men pose as couples to get to see the single ladies and when you ask for social out come the oh she is having lady problems or she is having a break from swinging ... blane these guys for ladies being suspicious

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Do you have single profiles?

There are more males on Fab than females so females are always going to find it easier. Your OH night find it easier to go to a club in his own to meet someone or use an App like Tinder or Bumble or MeetMe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot if good points in here . But in saying that it feels like unless there a written agreement between partners and said single women they tend to sometimes think its fake or a single guy trying his arm behind partners back . Roles rversed no one gives a hoot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not."

To a large degree this is the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody believes the man has permission, nobody cares whether the woman does or not.

To a large degree this is the truth. "
here here

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Most likely is that your wife will very quickly find a playmate and be enjoying her new sex while you hang around for a while on your own. It’s easy for girls to find guys who want to play.

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