FabSwingers.com forum: Help Please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all,

Little help required. I struggle to get responses on Fab. I might get one or two then they block me or ignore me. I just want to see if I can improve my profile.

Thanks all.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

First thing - get rid of the cock pic avater - women rarely like them. Most are out off.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Lose the dick pic, take better photos. Write something better. What do you want. What can you offer. Inject some humour.

Advertise yourself like a Gucci watch not a b&m special.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"First thing - get rid of the cock pic avater - women rarely like them. Most are out off. "

If you want one in your gallery... fine, bit don't have it as the first thing that hits them in the face when you message ... so to speak

Your first "body pic" would be better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Lose the squirting bit, unless you only want squirters. Most women don't, and will be put off by that, like they're second best.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

Who told you that? I always read them.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

They read them more than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

Little help required. I struggle to get responses on Fab. I might get one or two then they block me or ignore me. I just want to see if I can improve my profile.

Thanks all.

Exactly the same here...put loads of effort in but doesn't seem to make any difference

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

Profile text is the most important thing to me.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?

Profile text is the most important thing to me."

But you still chat to me??

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

You've put a meet request on today that just says "anything", that's really not going to appeal to anyone. Like others have said you do need to put more effort in on your profile to make yourself more tempting. Think of it as an advert for you.

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

I find the user name off-putting first of all. The pictures really do need some enhancement, they’re just not intriguing. As a previous commenter said, drop the squirting reference; tends to be used as an obsession by chaps who have gained the majority of their sexual experience from porn rather than participation. Best of luck with your Fab experience and I hope you find some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Squirting and anal.

You’re immediately narrowing down the women who might be interested OP.

However, at least you’re being honest about what you’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone so far

I am in the middle of changing things on the profile

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

Who is this person who can speak on behalf of all womenkind?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You sometimes see on womens profiles "If you have read this far, well done. I wouldn't have"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better OP!

Good luck on Fab.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Yep much better! It's nice when someone asks for profile advice and then actually does something about it. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

I look at a profile, the text and pictures, before opening a message the majority of the time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep much better! It's nice when someone asks for profile advice and then actually does something about it. Good luck! "

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

I think women read a lot more profiles than men do.

If I get a message I often look at the profile before even reading the message & certainly before I reply.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

What a load of bull, you're thinking of a man's approach.

Just because you have 'sometimes' seen a woman's profile that says they would not have read to the bottom of their profile had they been in your shoes, it doesn't mean that no woman ever reads a man's profile.

In fact, I'm pretty sure it's the opposite and that women will read a profile until a point they are put off, or they get to the end of it and decided to message.

You have to rem_mber that women tend to look at a wider range of things than men, including usernames. I wonder, who was at your coronation?

Might I suggest a few other pics, natural ones, clothed even, or at least wearing a different pair of pants

Good luck

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"You sometimes see on womens profiles "If you have read this far, well done. I wouldn't have""

I think people say that if they know they have a long, possibly boring/ranty profile and gbsure trying to be funny. I don’t know any women who don’t read the profiles, but something long and rambling is off putting.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I always read profiles before even opening a message. Most women use hidden mode to view profiles, so you won't actually know they've looked.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

No matter what you change on your profile, your chances of a meet are almost nil. Getting replys to messages are also very low, though fractionly higher. Of the messages that are read, most will be deleted or ignored. You have to face up to the fact that you most likely wont get a meet, and if/when you do, its probably the only one you will get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ouch lol

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By *and2aCouple
over a year ago

aberdeen

Get a woman... it’s a swinging site, not a dating site

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"No matter what you change on your profile, your chances of a meet are almost nil. Getting replys to messages are also very low, though fractionly higher. Of the messages that are read, most will be deleted or ignored. You have to face up to the fact that you most likely wont get a meet, and if/when you do, its probably the only one you will get. "

Funny how lots of guys are extremely successful on here then. Just because people aren't meeting you, doesn't mean lots of men aren't getting meets on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am trying! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some interesting feedback here. I am quite new, and trying to figure out what people do or don't like isn't easy, and I guess that is as we are all different!

A few other things I have observed....

Does anyone really use winks?

Women who hate cock pics, but have lots of close ups of their parts!? I guess they know not many men complain.

And then those people you have great chats with and suddenly disappear?

Happy Fabing!

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Some interesting feedback here. I am quite new, and trying to figure out what people do or don't like isn't easy, and I guess that is as we are all different!

A few other things I have observed....

Does anyone really use winks?

Women who hate cock pics, but have lots of close ups of their parts!? I guess they know not many men complain.

And then those people you have great chats with and suddenly disappear?

Happy Fabing!"

You are best starting your own thread rather than hijacking another one, you'll get more personal responses that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely, if you are getting responses then they stop contact, it's not your profile that's the problem?!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

I've read every profile of everyone that's sent me a message. It's so important. A great first message and short profile might elicit a response of 'where is your profile tell me about yourself' but usually no profile or a poor one = delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always read a profile..quite evident men dont read mine and just send a message.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

That’s a myth spread by men that can’t write a profile

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"You are best starting your own thread rather than hijacking another one, you'll get more personal responses that way. "

Or using the forums search facility

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By *veragecouple321Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

We always read profiles, usually before we even read the messages sent to us, if the profile is virtually non existent or tells us nothing, then the message gets deleted.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?

Who told you that? I always read them. "

Women can read? Another myth blown apart.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?

Who told you that? I always read them.

Women can read? Another myth blown apart.

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By *lowersandcarsCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?

Who told you that? I always read them. "

Me too!

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By *lowersandcarsCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

So not only profile and pics... but what are you saying in your messages...particularly the first? We will delete if it’s “hi you wanna me tonight “ or similar

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

Far rarer for men and couples to read profiles in my experience.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Hi all,

Little help required. I struggle to get responses on Fab. I might get one or two then they block me or ignore me. I just want to see if I can improve my profile.

Thanks all.

Exactly the same here...put loads of effort in but doesn't seem to make any difference "

Nobody owes anything to anyone on here. No response is no interest as stated in faq section. Its not rude.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Quite rare women read profiles I have been told?"

I think most men don't. I can tell be the messages I get but I know from speaking to other women we often read profiles.

I read them before I read the actual message. If the profile isn't good I don't bother with the message.

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