FabSwingers.com forum: Attracting the wrong kind of attention

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I can guess the tone that messages are taking and discussion of that is not allowed on the form. Anything abusive or illegal, report.

Being a furry is not something that comes up a lot of fab and I suspect that is your problem. I suggest you explain what it is at the start of your profile and tone down some of the language eg "paws" etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can guess the tone that messages are taking and discussion of that is not allowed on the form. Anything abusive or illegal, report.

Thanks for checking it out for us.

We guess people are missing the "On a serious note we are not hardened furries at all it's a bit of a laugh and a fun fantasy" line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What like vermin

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I can guess the tone that messages are taking and discussion of that is not allowed on the form. Anything abusive or illegal, report.

Thanks for checking it out for us.

We guess people are missing the "On a serious note we are not hardened furries at all it's a bit of a laugh and a fun fantasy" line? "

because I suspect a lot of people are misunderstanding your intention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What like vermin

Got asked if she had fleas as an icebreaker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What like vermin

Got asked if she had fleas as an icebreaker?

lovely. Don’t let it put you off

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Looks fine to us

What’s a furry ? Is it the furry tail thing we see on some profiles ? Was wondering what that was all about tbh

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Urban dictionary : having sex outdoors dressed as an Animal

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

Your profile stops for me at ‘Not looking for single guys’, so I don’t bother with the rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your profile stops for me at ‘Not looking for single guys’, so I don’t bother with the rest

Unfortunately when we adjust our filters we get streams of fancy a Fuck messages and Dick pictures so we minimise it to when we're looking for them that is the sad truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant quite explain it but I can understand why you would be attracting undesirable attention based on your profile text.

I think it's some of your language and things you said like the going into the wilderness part. Cant put my finger on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never heard of this however having done a bit of research I find the idea quite stimulating.

I wish the OP well and hope that those who seek to ridicule get their just deserts

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would suggest that you consider 2 different profiles or a different site for the fetish side of things.

Your profile is very initially very Furry dominant. This is likely to result in many not getting far enough through, to realise that it may not actually be that big a part of your life after all.

Oh and ignore, report and block the ones sending abuse.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

nothing wrong with your profile, just the usual idiots spoiling things to get they're kicks

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

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Welcome to our world.

Many of the messages we receive are from people whose vocabulary is as limited as their imaginations. As a queer couple we get an astonishing range of messages that prove people don't read profiles or will ahve failed comprehension at primary schools. (There's an entire thread on one of the forums about men who don't realise that the male in a queer couple might be a top, despite our profile being explicit)

As furries you're getting the same stuff we do but to a much greater intensity; block, bulk delete and just hope you find the odd message that really does pique your interest,

Have a lovely weekend

Mr Icebreaker...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey you are just fun furries. Nothing wrong with that!

If people have a problem with your profile it is their problem and not yours.

You do safe, sane and consensual so messages that are kink shaming then just delete and block. Fabs can be so vanilla at times

Good luck and have fun on your terms x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Do you think it would be better to put the serious bit first?

I can imagine some guys reading all that furry stuff, going into the woods etc just think that you're game for anything and don't bother reading anymore.

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By *he Hussy and The VoyeurCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

We are a right pair of furry devients.

We like nothing more than donning our Furring outfits and going out foraging out into the wilderness to find other filthy animals (Furries) for fun.

This bit sounds like an introduction to The Wombles

(Only joking)

Personally, I think its good to see something original amongst all the other usual profiles.

Keep doing what you're doing. You're here for yourselves and your own enjoyment. Ignore the uneducated, the rude and the abusive messages. Block, move on and make the most of your fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should ignore all the haters and just be who you are. I read your bio and it seems very clear what your after and that it’s all done a bit tongue in cheek. I am actually curious as to what a furry is/does but a bit worried to google lol.

Live and let live, be who you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Ignore the haters

We,m are all individuals in our own right. Each to their own. I'm different and I don't care one bit. I do what I do for myself and I thoroughly enjoy it

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

It's lovely, playful and completely inoffensive.

Shame that you've been spooked enough to feel that you you are nonplussed enough to ask for feedback.

Fuck 'em I say.

Not literally, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you should ignore all the haters and just be who you are. I read your bio and it seems very clear what your after and that it’s all done a bit tongue in cheek. I am actually curious as to what a furry is/does but a bit worried to google lol.

Live and let live, be who you are"

It certainly is abit of tongue and cheek....

life is too short , we all need a giggle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are a right pair of furry devients.

We like nothing more than donning our Furring outfits and going out foraging out into the wilderness to find other filthy animals (Furries) for fun.

This bit sounds like an introduction to The Wombles

(Only joking)

Personally, I think its good to see something original amongst all the other usual profiles.

Keep doing what you're doing. You're here for yourselves and your own enjoyment. Ignore the uneducated, the rude and the abusive messages. Block, move on and make the most of your fun

Thank you for your positive comments xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Personally cant see anything wrong with your profile.

We get the comment ours is too long yours is about the same length. Maybe some find it too long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Probably the case that people are not really reading our profile and getting the fact that it's more of a non serious carry on film style tongue in cheek giggle and kind of came from a fun spin on not wanting to chop our heads off photos

The odd few get it and say that it's funny

We don't feel the need to take it to a fetish site or have a second profile just wouldn't mind skipping the smack talk messages

Thanks to everyone who has read and given constructive feedback

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

I love your profile it's cheeky, witty and to the point. Don't change a thing, simply delete the idiots that don't get you. Happy fabbing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

I think your profile is great it’s different to the others,good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say there's anything majorly untoward on your profile at all, although I'm not experienced enough in what does and doesn't attract unwanted attention! I would say though that you'd best watch out next time I'm down the South West as I'm interested in getting into some fox hunting

(yes it's a pun from reading the profile and noticing herself like the foxy persona, just to clarify before anyone gets the wrong idea)

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Its all a bit of fun something playful slightly unusual and can be good for a laugh or all softly softly.

Great fun in the right place and company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually really like your profile, I don't think you should change it at all. Just report, block and ignore anyone giving you grief. =)

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You look fabulous to us. Love your profile x

Mrs N x

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

I think it might be too long for the 'fuckerkers'on here and right for the 'swingers'.

It is original and I learned about furries. Never knew!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

Personally I think it’s a awesome profile, definitely one of the best I’ve ever read on fab.... I love the sense of humour and wish mine read like that... you are simply being yourselves and expressing your interests .... just wish you weren’t so far away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although long, your profile is a breath of fresh air

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think the Furry section of your profile is very niche and very jokey. Unless the reader is into the Furry thing then it’s probably not very sexy and a bit peculiar.

If you’re predominantly looking for Furry meets, then keep it as it is but maybe expect it not to be that popular. if you’d be equally as happy with non-Furry meets i’d lead with that as you’ll likely get more uptake.

I think maybe a bit of rearranging of the text is all it would take, rather than a re-write.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

There's nothing wrong with your profile , many comments mention about the furry , can't really see nothing wrong with that as you OP mention in your profile and agree to someone who doesn't get it google it .

I think receiving the msg you mention probably they are from people who haven't read your profile .

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I actually really like your profile, I don't think you should change it at all. Just report, block and ignore anyone giving you grief. =)"

Agreed, your profile is entertaining and your pic’s are lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a lovely fun profile and I hope you can skim read messages from the dreadful people and not take it in. I can imagine what SOME people think you are hinting at (shudder ) but those weirdos will probably get bored or caught. I guess every profile gets some nasty messages, that sort will be filtering a preference for new profiles I expect.

Do what you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile and photos are fine and quirky. So it's all OK here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would just like to thank everyone so far who has taken the time to read our profile and have offered kind words or constructive feedback it really is appreciated.

We might look at giving it a bit of a tweak when we got the time.

Vixen and Teddington x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have both been attracting alot of the wrong kind attention and been receiving alot of pretty terrible mail since returning back to fab?

Would it be possible that our profile is implying something that we are not seeing or putting off the people who we are looking to meet?

Be interested in some honest reviews on what people think of our profile and what it's saying about us if anyone would be good enough?

Vixen x

I second that x

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Hi, ddlg couple here. Fab is not fet.... Its just not. People don't understand and unfortunately the unintelligent folk like to ridicule the things they don't understand.

We get a fair few horrific messages from 'daddys' and 'doms' who don't have a clue what they're talking about but after a while you get used to it and they get less common as your block list grows.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again everyone

We've tweaked our profile a bit so hopefully it should have a bit more of a clear message that we are both having a giggle in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can guess the tone that messages are taking and discussion of that is not allowed on the form. Anything abusive or illegal, report.

Thanks for checking it out for us.

We guess people are missing the "On a serious note we are not hardened furries at all it's a bit of a laugh and a fun fantasy" line? "

You are making the classic mistake of assuming men would read your profile!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I didn’t get your profile at all and just came across as odd. But there should be no excuse for bad manners or abusive messages.

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