FabSwingers.com forum: Grief

By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

Hey. I don't want this to come across as a pity party or an attention thing on me. I've recently lost a very close relative and I'm going through the grieving process. But for some reason I'm hornier than ever. It just feels wrong to me but a close friend said it's natural. Apparently we all have a built in fight, flight or fuck. What's other people think??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. My sister passed away some years ago and whilst I was devastated I also felt some kind of raw sexuality.

Long story short, my daughter was born nine months later. Rather fittingly on my sisters birthday!

Sorry for your loss OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really, really normal. If you do a quick Google search I bet you'll find some info on it. Grief affects different people in different ways. Your brain is trying to distract you and give you a break from what you're feeling most of the time. I'm sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (D) experience this done years ago with a death of close family...after a little while I was desperately in need of kink

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

My mil passed away a couple of months ago and we were the same. It felt wrong because obviously we were devestated but it almost like needed those moments of intimacy to feel some bit normal

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

Ye I'm getting the 7 stages of grief. And I've been through it before maybe it's an age thing but I sort of open for anything and sort of need it if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes perfect sense OP, I went through the same thing a couple of months ago.

As other people have said, grief affects everyone in different ways and there is no right or wrong. If it's what you need to do then so be it. Sorry for your loss x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Sorry for your loss OP.

I think when we lose someone we naturally want to seek comfort and closeness where we can, and to remind ourselves we are alive.

There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

Thank you. Funeral over, time to move on. 7 stages never come in order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The stages will arrive at times where you least expect it and at times surprise you and not necessarily in a good way unfortunately.

My dad passed away 3 years and despite me having had a reasonably good year celebrating my 50th birthday throughout the year, I've grieved for him terribly as it would have been his 70th.

Anyhoo, back to your original query, yes, it's natural to feel like that. Despite any bereavement, it's also brought out the rampant feelings in me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I should have said OP, I am sorry for your loss x

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By *alcon404Man
over a year ago

London

Sorry for your loss.

It is natural, a very close friend of mine was similar and confided in me.

Everyone deals with grief differently, many go out and get d*unk, some have sex, some travel.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

This is a well documented reaction. I had exactly the same thing when my wife www.vice.com/amp/en_us/article/8xwd5v/grief-can-make-you-horny

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

"Hey. I don't want this to come across as a pity party or an attention thing on me. I've recently lost a very close relative and I'm going through the grieving process. But for some reason I'm hornier than ever. It just feels wrong to me but a close friend said it's natural. Apparently we all have a built in fight, flight or fuck. What's other people think??"

My wonderful councillor Lavinia (for child sex abuse) explains that our response to any trauma can be the 5 f's..... Fight, flight, fuck, faint and freeze.

Any trauma can trigger one or more of these.

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By *essons in LustCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

"It's really, really normal. If you do a quick Google search I bet you'll find some info on it. Grief affects different people in different ways. Your brain is trying to distract you and give you a break from what you're feeling most of the time. I'm sorry for your loss x"

This is so true

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There’s another thread on this and it’s not unusual. I think it’s us creating mega positive energy to offset the negativity

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By *ydrew OP Man
over a year ago

forest

Thank you for all the comments

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By *w214Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

There's a really good podcast, think it's called grief cast where comedians talk about grief, only heard one episode but it was very very good. I'd recommend it for anyone that is grieving.

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