FabSwingers.com forum: MMF advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So 2 of my FB have agreed to have an MMF threesome with me.

It's something I've wanted to do for a really long time but was previously in a relationship and my Bf at the time was adamant he didnt want me to be with anyone else, which is fine.

But I'm strangely really nervous

I've met both of the guys before so I'm not overly worried about either of them hurting me or forcing me into anything I dont want to do (I have explicitly said dp is off the table at the moment)

Any advice on how to help with my nerves would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it you're nervous about?

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Just crack on, nerves are normal but will disappear once you start

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It's normal to be nervous the first time.

What about the two guys, have they been in 3somes before? If not, they'll be far more nervous with sizing each other up and performance anxiety.

Once you all get on the bad any nerves will disappear along with the clothes. Everyone will have a good time and start thinking about a repeat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it you're nervous about?"

I guess changing my mind during and/or disappointing either of them and not performing as well as I would 1 on 1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's normal to be nervous the first time.

What about the two guys, have they been in 3somes before? If not, they'll be far more nervous with sizing each other up and performance anxiety.

Once you all get on the bad any nerves will disappear along with the clothes. Everyone will have a good time and start thinking about a repeat. "

They've both been in 3 some before, which is part of the reason I asked them. And they're both great performers and well endowed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it you're nervous about?

I guess changing my mind during and/or disappointing either of them and not performing as well as I would 1 on 1"

If you don't feel confident enough to be able to call a halt at any point wait until you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it you're nervous about?

I guess changing my mind during and/or disappointing either of them and not performing as well as I would 1 on 1

If you don't feel confident enough to be able to call a halt at any point wait until you do"

This is sound advice, thank you x

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

" They've both been in 3 some before, which is part of the reason I asked them. And they're both great performers and well endowed x"

In that case, you've nothing to worry about. I'm sure they are looking forward to it and wouldn't have agreed if they didn't feel good about the idea. At the same time, they know it's your first time and you'll be nervous and will take it easy and go slow and gentle (at first, anyway...).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nervous is understandable even if you're comfortable with the 2 men, maybe try the 3 of you going for a little drink prior to any form of play and see how you all feel after that and if you are all comfortable with each other it might make you more excited rather than nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being nervous is understandable even if you're comfortable with the 2 men, maybe try the 3 of you going for a little drink prior to any form of play and see how you all feel after that and if you are all comfortable with each other it might make you more excited rather than nervous "

I'm not a drinker and dont want to have any alcohol before hand as I tend to complete lose my inhibitions when I do drink.

It's going to be taking place at my house so I might do a whole Netflix and chill thing so we can all relax a bit before hand. Thanks for the suggestion!x

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Its sounds as if you know and trust these guys and they will know you ,just go at your own pace and the netflix and chill is a good idea and i promise you will enjoy and want more ,good luck let us know how it goes ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a drinker and dont want to have any alcohol before hand as I tend to complete lose my inhibitions when I do drink.

It's going to be taking place at my house so I might do a whole Netflix and chill thing so we can all relax a bit before hand. Thanks for the suggestion!x"

Sounds like you've got this, if the Netflix and chill works go with it

enjoy

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

If they will not stress when playing together, then it will be one of your best experience.

We were in the situation where one or both guys had an issue with “staying hard”. For men it is always a little bit stressing, as the other guy might have a bigger dick

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they will not stress when playing together, then it will be one of your best experience.

We were in the situation where one or both guys had an issue with “staying hard”. For men it is always a little bit stressing, as the other guy might have a bigger dick

I figured that hence why I choose them, they're both quite similar build, and both well endowed.

But I'm hoping that it is a good experience!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Luck sods!

No advice, but I salute you for arranging an experience you want. I hope you all have a great time. I know I would if I was in their shoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they will not stress when playing together, then it will be one of your best experience.

We were in the situation where one or both guys had an issue with “staying hard”. For men it is always a little bit stressing, as the other guy might have a bigger dick

I figured that hence why I choose them, they're both quite similar build, and both well endowed.

But I'm hoping that it is a good experience! "

2 big dicks don't guarantee a good threesome

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just crack on, nerves are normal but will disappear once you start "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they will not stress when playing together, then it will be one of your best experience.

We were in the situation where one or both guys had an issue with “staying hard”. For men it is always a little bit stressing, as the other guy might have a bigger dick

I figured that hence why I choose them, they're both quite similar build, and both well endowed.

But I'm hoping that it is a good experience!

2 big dicks don't guarantee a good threesome"

I never said it did, I was more refering to the point about them being nervous about the other having a bigger one than the other

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Start with letting them massage you

Great ice breaker and will get you all going

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

You will love it. Be open with how you feel and if your not comfortable with what they are doing tell them.

The more times you do it the more comfortable you will be and have even more fun.

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By *lideMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

For us it started gently, with me playing with my girlfriend on the sofa. She played with my friend orally to start with, as I pleasured her, then it was kind of taking turns with us both. Seeing a girls eyes as she decides to go all the way with a couple of guys is really something - I don't think you'll have any problems if you break the situation down like that.

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By *etamourMan
over a year ago

York

Whenever we had 3sums in the past, my wife always liked the night split into two. Start with talk, kiss, oral bit of full sex...then a break and start again... she liked the sensual side and didn't like men just to fuck her with no foreplay. Your Netflix idea gives you all the opportunity to start slowly. You'll be in sexual heaven before you know it.... Threesomes are like pringles...Once you pop you can't stop

Have a great time x

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"What is it you're nervous about?

I guess changing my mind during and/or disappointing either of them and not performing as well as I would 1 on 1

If you don't feel confident enough to be able to call a halt at any point wait until you do

This is sound advice, thank you x"

If you do feel confident enough eventually then have a change of heart during proceedings and either of the guys feels let down, angry, or whatever, then they were the wrong guys to begin with

Any swinger worth their salt should be prepared to stop at any given moment when they hear the word no directed at them

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

It's all about you Stacey. If the guys are experienced they will go at your pace and make you feel comfortable. You will have a great time I'm sure. And if at any time you don't feel comfortable remember you are in control and no means no. Hope you have fun and let us know how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it you're nervous about?

I guess changing my mind during and/or disappointing either of them and not performing as well as I would 1 on 1

If you don't feel confident enough to be able to call a halt at any point wait until you do

This is sound advice, thank you x

If you do feel confident enough eventually then have a change of heart during proceedings and either of the guys feels let down, angry, or whatever, then they were the wrong guys to begin with

Any swinger worth their salt should be prepared to stop at any given moment when they hear the word no directed at them"

They're good guys so I know they wouldnt be disappointed but if I did change my mind I would feel like I'm disappointing them, if that makes sense?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Would you let us know how it goes? Have you got a date sorted out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you let us know how it goes? Have you got a date sorted out? "

Trying to find a date in February that works for all of us! But I'll keep you updated x

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

tell them you might just want to watch porn and all wank together. It won't put them off - and they'll see anything beyond that as a bonus.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You could have a first meeting with them together that's just cuddles and lighter play options.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Would you let us know how it goes? Have you got a date sorted out?

Trying to find a date in February that works for all of us! But I'll keep you updated x"

Out of curiosity (if you don't mind me asking), is it going to be a bi threesome? Is that part of your fantasy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you let us know how it goes? Have you got a date sorted out?

Trying to find a date in February that works for all of us! But I'll keep you updated x

Out of curiosity (if you don't mind me asking), is it going to be a bi threesome? Is that part of your fantasy? "

No they're both straight, plus bi mmf doesn't appeal to me x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Could the nerves be part of you being afraid it might not live up to your fantasy? No matter how good it is, the reality will probably not be quite as good as the fantasy. Not to say it won't be good!

A friend of ours has had a couple of threesomes and always feels a self imposed performance pressure like she has to be amazing for both guys. Afterwards it's always been fine but beforehand, she'd really nervous.

Easing in with a social and maybe some sexy games might help first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you let us know how it goes? Have you got a date sorted out?

Trying to find a date in February that works for all of us! But I'll keep you updated x

Out of curiosity (if you don't mind me asking), is it going to be a bi threesome? Is that part of your fantasy?

No they're both straight, plus bi mmf doesn't appeal to me x"

I'm jealous!! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could the nerves be part of you being afraid it might not live up to your fantasy? No matter how good it is, the reality will probably not be quite as good as the fantasy. Not to say it won't be good!

Easing in with a social and maybe some sexy games might help first? "

Yea I suppose that might come under the whole worried about disappointing them thing I mentioned earlier? It's like double the pressure so to speak

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By *henightstagMan
over a year ago

London

Easing in with a social and maybe some sexy games might help first?

Yea I suppose that might come under the whole worried about disappointing them thing I mentioned earlier? It's like double the pressure so to speak "

Always remember that you can just stop at anytime during it if you feel it's just not right. Hopefully the two guys wont compete at all, as ive seen this happen and it ruins it for everyone. Ideally they should be working as a team and helping you live this fantasy out. In their minds, they will be feeling incredibly lucky to be doing this with you. Take some confidence from that!

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