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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been in an out of the swinging scene for years but have gotten into a relationship with someone not into the scene (though one of her best friends is)

Recently she is struggling with her personal body image and I want to help her feel sexy. Can anyone give me any advice to help someone deal with their personal image... And then maybe bring her into the fold as it were

I just don't know where to start

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Does she know you swing? I'm not bothered either way but it will have an impact on how you approach this.

Deal with her body image problem first though. A lot of men think that a woman's body image is based on what men think of her and therefore swinging will help. It goes much deeper than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have started seeing someone outside of the scene - well, when I say seeing what I actually mean is fucking, but you get the idea.

I've already dropped one or two hints about things I've done, mentioned threesomes etc.

The funny thing is that I seem to have turned the poor woman into some sort of sex maniac, and seems to be pretty open to suggestion.

She too doesn't have a high opinion of her body despite being incredibly hot.

As regards swinging, I'm pretty much taking a break from it as we begin our sexual journey together, but will occasionally drop things into our conversations and will at some point be telling her that I have been involved in the scene, dispell a few myths etc, but will assure her that I'm not involved now and see how she reacts, and then if she expresses an onterest in trying things, we'll take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She doesn't, and I haven't while we've been together, I just like to keep in touch with friends.

She's not comfortable with the way she looks, I keep trying to make her understand that it's all about being comfortable (something I learnt from swinging) but don't know how to suggest this as an option to someone from completely outside the circle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long story short.

I’ve had a profile for five years but never sent a message as not a time waster just enjoyed the forums and pics.

Wife knew.

As with your partner wife had very low self esteem after five kids and was very ASEXUAL maybe having one orgasm every two months,didn’t need them and so no point in them.

I’m away

She sends me a tit pic and I’m like fuck that’s hot.

She says you have to say that so I tell her to open a profile on here.

She does and it goes mad and she feels great but after six weeks the idiot time wasters spoil it for her and me and she comes off.

So now she cums most days and is looking forward very much to her first meet and all I’ve done is support her and help her on her journey.

I’ve had my fun(lots of it) so now it’s her turn.

Good luck op and support don’t push.

T

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"She doesn't, and I haven't while we've been together, I just like to keep in touch with friends.

She's not comfortable with the way she looks, I keep trying to make her understand that it's all about being comfortable (something I learnt from swinging) but don't know how to suggest this as an option to someone from completely outside the circle"

So do you want her to be comfortable in her own skin in order to start swinging or just be comfortable in her skin?

Does she enjoy being sexual now?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I hate my body with a passion but to be honest with you swinging has helped. I feel relaxed around the lovely people in the scene. Even as much so that I spend 3 days at Swingfields every year completely naked and feel the happiest I’ve ever been.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I have massive self confidence issues and in the beginning swinging really helped.

Now with us struggling to find meets privately or at clubs or parties its dont the complete opposite! I feel worse!

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