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Is my profile ok? No one seems to talk to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I made this whenever it was a month or 2 ago, messaged a fair few people and they've just read and ignored it I've been polite and nice and exactly what they say on their profile but I still get no response, some help would be appreciated, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your young, your profile is bland.

Just because you think you’re what they’re looking for, doesn’t mean they think you’re what they’re looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I wouldn't get past your useename

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thanks, any advice on what I can do to my profile to perk it up a bit?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Very tempting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had no idea at the time and I didn't realize you couldn't change the name after so yea suck with it unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thanks, any advice on what I can do to my profile to perk it up a bit?"

Better pictures

Remove the bit about oral, no one cares

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By *ung DomMan
over a year ago

Dudley


"I made this whenever it was a month or 2 ago, messaged a fair few people and they've just read and ignored it I've been polite and nice and exactly what they say on their profile but I still get no response, some help would be appreciated, thank you"

You have to sell yourself and make yourself stand out.

HD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thanks, any advice on what I can do to my profile to perk it up a bit?"

There’s lots of forum posts about profile advice. Do a wee search. But if you feel your profile is true to you, keep it as it is

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

You're young which will hinder you a bit.

Your profile is meh. It says nothing about your experience and what you can offer. You need to sell yourself on your profile - add some humour, make people smile, mention if you're a big kisser or can massage.

Your pics are kinda meh. Get better ones. I did fab one though - so long lean and deeelicious!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok what sort of pictures should I put up then I don't particularly want my face on public show which is why I have it as a private one to send and ok will remove the oral bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok will write about done of the experience and I've wait good as massages so I could include that and yea I like kissing so could put about that but I'm just not sure what sort of pictures to put up I don't wanna scare people away by uploading cock pictures but I also don't want my face on public view, a little advice if pictures please? And thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Commas

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I had no idea at the time and I didn't realize you couldn't change the name after so yea suck with it unfortunately"

You can change it if you’re a site supporter.

Also agree with removing the bit about oral that’s not going to make the ladies swoon over you.

You just have to realise that there are soo many men on here compared to females and couples.

In fact do a search for male profiles the same age in your area and see the competition.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Do some research on here, advice is one thing but looking at your competition also helps. Don't copy what you see, but look at guys who have verifications. What pictures are they displaying or what is within the profile text appears to show their personality ?

A profile is organic, you may not have a perfect one to start with but it should improve over time. Small acorns if you know what I mean

Good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah ok will have to do that soon then and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did some and I've had another rewrite, do you think it's any better now?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I did some and I've had another rewrite, do you think it's any better now?"
yep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, anything I could improve on other than photos now?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Good you're one of the few who takes on board the advice given, it's improved now.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Thank you, anything I could improve on other than photos now? "
,

I actually like your profile text. Pics? Jeans with open shirt,I'm not fussed about cock pics Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you and will get a few more pics up soon just tidying house at the min lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Op I can go for weeks without a message, it’s fab life I’m afraid.

If someone likes you they will contact you which makes it that little bit more enjoyable.

Be patient and have faith.

“ if you build it they will come “. Good luck and happy fabbing in 2020.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read and ignore means not interested OP

There are similar posts.. Or take a look at some of the male profiles...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm well aware if they read it and ignore it there not interested lol which is the point of this to try help with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did ya mention when you lost your virginity and who to?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why did ya mention when you lost your virginity and who to?"
it’s lady wank material

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why did ya mention when you lost your virginity and who to?

it’s lady wank material "

Guess I’m not a lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dunno just went with the flow, you think I should take that bit down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The username doesn’t help.

Try a few more pics , get online and on the chat rooms and get verified

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Thank you and will get a few more pics up soon just tidying house at the min lol"

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I'm well aware if they read it and ignore it there not interested lol which is the point of this to try help with that"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You could look out for photos of lovely ladies on here and say “I really like your wank-hole” and go from there.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I made this whenever it was a month or 2 ago, messaged a fair few people and they've just read and ignored it I've been polite and nice and exactly what they say on their profile but I still get no response, some help would be appreciated, thank you"

I generally find having the ability to craft a good profile on your own is what many would like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 months is no time at all. Most single guys don't get their first meet until they've been here at least 6. Some fair better, others worse.

Men MASSIVELY outnumber women and couples on fab - I think it's something like 100 men for every 1 woman. Maybe higher, so the ladies really can pick and choose.

A lot of women and couples are inundated with messages on a daily basis and simply don't have time to get through them all, let alone respond.

Not everyone is going to fancy you. It's likely that very few will. Just because you happen to tick off their 'requirements', they've still got to find you attractive.

Nobody is obliged to fuck you, or even reply.

Think about what your expectations of the site were and are.

Did you think that all you had to do was knock up a quick couple of lines of tect, upload a couple of pics and be fighting off the ladies by lunchtime?

This is not instashag.

You must have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is some real good advice on here. Thanks to OP for asking as I am thinking the same. Good to get some understanding from others. Looking forward to meeting other like minded people that I can relate to.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"I made this whenever it was a month or 2 ago, messaged a fair few people and they've just read and ignored it I've been polite and nice and exactly what they say on their profile but I still get no response, some help would be appreciated, thank you"
you get ignored because your male.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Still a little bland imo.... pics do nothing either....

Don’t get me wrong I’m no expert, but I would definitely swipe left if I happened to come across it.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I presume that the profile I've just looked at is the revised version.

It's not bad.

Pictures are okay

Text is good.

So you are now in the top 25%

Still going to struggle as a single male looking for a female just due to numbers.

Don't know exactly what your transport situation is, but don't rely on fab, go to socials, clubs and parties if you can. Chat on the forums.

Good luck and happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice "

If someone hasn't replied, it's pretty obvious where you stand

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice

If someone hasn't replied, it's pretty obvious where you stand "
what i dont get is when women read your message and dont rrply, but leave the message there. If they aint intetested, why dont they delete it? At least then you know theres nothing doing.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice

If someone hasn't replied, it's pretty obvious where you stand what i dont get is when women read your message and dont rrply, but leave the message there. If they aint intetested, why dont they delete it? At least then you know theres nothing doing. "

Because they can run their profiles how they like. If they don't reply, they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advise I can give is too go to a club / party / event and talk too people. Be friendly and sociable. It’s more of a personal touch that way than a message which they’ll probably get that same message multiple times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You user name needs changing and more photos

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice

If someone hasn't replied, it's pretty obvious where you stand what i dont get is when women read your message and dont rrply, but leave the message there. If they aint intetested, why dont they delete it? At least then you know theres nothing doing.

Because they can run their profiles how they like. If they don't reply, they're not interested."
i know they're not interested. What im asking is why dont they just delete your message if theres no interest rather than have an inbox filled with umpteen messages from men they wont be meeting?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

why do you feel they need to delete your message?

They can do what they want it's their profile. It says in the frequently asked questions that no reply means no thank you.

It is quite obvious that if they were interested they would get back to you, if they haven't got back to you and clearly you are not what they are looking for right now.

No one wants to get excited seeing their mailbox full of messages, all saying no thank you.

If they don't delete the message it might be they want to keep a record of who's messaged them and their a first impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice "

It takes quite a long time to say “No thanks” a couple of hundred times... Which is how many messages some women get on here

Not to mention that 7 times out of 10 saying “No thanks” gets you an abusive message back

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Change your profile pic, also there are more single guys on fab so it's defo harder for you to become appealing for some xx

Try meeting at clubs to boost your confidence up xx

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice "

A lot of ladies dont reply as they simply have too many messages to deal with and reply to every one. Also a lot of times i have replied with a no thanks and either get abuse for turning them down or they start a conversation which i dont have time for either so it puts wpmen off even replying sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly I wouldn't get past your useename"

Absolutely agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know men out number the women u bit but I didn't realise that much lol and no I didn't expect to get anywhere soon but simply being ignored I find quite rude even a simple no thanks is suffice, literally 1 woman messaged back saying no thanks and that's fine at least I know where I stand but sometimes I find it a bit rude to just ignore messages and thanks for the advice "

I'd suggest you have a read of the site FAQ's OP.

Non-replies are covered there and it specifically states that a non-reply should be treated as a 'no, thank you'.

Let me put it to you another way.

Let's say you logged on to find over 100 messagesin your inbox. All, or mostly from people you haven't the slightest interest for.

Are you honestly suggesting you would reply to them all just to tell them 'no'?

I doubt it. Especially if the next time you log on, you find another 100 messages in your inbox.

People use this site when they wish to. They're not on here full time, and so when they do come online they want to get the best out of the site for the purposes for which they joined and not waste hours on admin.

Let me ask you, how many times do you get takeaway menus posted through your door?

Did you ask for them? No.

Do they make you want to order a takeaway from them? Maybe, maybe not.

Do you phone them up to tell them that you're not interested? I doubt it.

And, let's face it, would you really feel better with an inbox full of 'No, thank you' messages. If anything, I'd suspect that would make you feel even worse.

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