FabSwingers.com forum: How do you know a bloke actually fancies you?

By *penmindedfun2019 OP Couple
over a year ago

bolton

So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

I've heard so many men say 'oh yeah I fucked a woman few weeks ago off fab, she was bit fat for me but I was horny so you know how it is' - this makes me think omg I would hate for someone to speak about me like that. "
They are the men you should stay well clear of hun. If they speak like that of others they will do the same with you x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

No decent bloke would, you are attractive and deserve a bloke who appreciates you! Sod the rest.

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By *penmindedfun2019 OP Couple
over a year ago

bolton

I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S.your stunning x

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

No decent bloke would, you are attractive and deserve a bloke who appreciates you! Sod the rest."

How do you know she is attractive? You can't see her face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I don't think you could ever know if he truly likes you or is just thinking ''any holes a goal'' (sorry to be crude). Even if they said they do find you attractive, you'll never be sure they're not just shining you on.

Personally, I find it a shitty attitude to have. I wouldn't sleep with someone I didn't like just because I was horny and they were the only one there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "
let them make the effort see if they are happy to talk about whatever you want to. Dont jump to answer their messages if they genuinely like you they wont get bored they will take everything at your pace. If they are constantly saying let's meet I wanna fuck you now odds are they are just horney and want a quick release.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

Judge him on his actions

Not some fickle compliments

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

I have to say that this thought has crossed my mind.....

I have no idea when a guy is flirting with me.

And I'm pretty sure that half the guys who message me on here wouldn't give me a second look out in the "real" world.

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By *nsatiablegreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

I have to say that this thought has crossed my mind.....

I have no idea when a guy is flirting with me.

And I'm pretty sure that half the guys who message me on here wouldn't give me a second look out in the "real" world."

Never mind the men,I’d enjoy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

Judge him on his actions

Not some fickle compliments "

100%. I pay no attention to what people say, they'll say anything if they think it'll get them what they want. Watch what they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure you'll every know for sure but, actions speak louder than words and... as others have said... if he is prepared to go at your pace, is ok talking about other stuff... it's happy to do a social (or 3)... there's a better chance he actually fancies you... also... assuming your actually a nice person... after 3 socials he's more likely to fancy you coz attractiveness is so much more than just skin deep...'even' when it's 'just' for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

Well I used to be one of them and still never told porkies when it came to women. Its a two way street, how do you know a woman likes a bloke, it's just trust. As I said your are stunning from your photos, your fella is a lucky guy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't assume that good looking, muscle gym goers won't find you attractive.

Have a realistic impression of yourself, you will know if a compliment is genuine then. For instance I'm well aware that I don't look 35 so any guy who tells me something like that is immediately out the door.

If they're on the forum notice whether they're a serial sychophant.

Trust in your attractiveness and believe that you are worth complimenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"let them make the effort see if they are happy to talk about whatever you want to. Dont jump to answer their messages if they genuinely like you they wont get bored they will take everything at your pace. "

This is game playing to me. If you both like each other, you both make the effort. Bollocks to testing the waters and seeing how the other reacts.

The quickest way to make me feel like I'm not worth your time and for me to go off you is by taking the piss when it comes to replies. I'm happy to take things as slow as the lady wants, I'm not happy with feeling like I'm being messed about.

If I'm talking to someone and they go quiet for a few days, I know they're too busy to get back to me. If I'm talking to someone and they go quiet for a few days, but still appear online, I know I'm being messed about.

Can't use Fab as an example since I don't think you can get email notifications, so I'll use POF. If I check my phone after I've woken up and see that I've got a message from someone on POF, the first thing I do is message them back. I don't make them wait. If someone wants to talk to you, they will make the effort and it works the other way around too.

There's a fine line between taking it slow and taking the piss.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

You keep saying she is stunning James but you can't actually see her face. This is exactly the point being made on here, that people will make fickle comments like that in order to get a meet or attention. Comments like that are meaningless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my personal experience, when I fancy a woman, I firstly cant really speak properly and say stupid things. If I survive that then I generally comment about her in the positive and can't stop having little touches, hands, thigh brushes, etc.

Any guy who just "fucks cos horny" is a prick who has about 10 kids he knows nothing about!! Also gives the rest of us a bad name!!

Last bit, anyone who even considers you to be "fat" needs their head read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) let them make the effort see if they are happy to talk about whatever you want to. Dont jump to answer their messages if they genuinely like you they wont get bored they will take everything at your pace. If they are constantly saying let's meet I wanna fuck you now odds are they are just horney and want a quick release."

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Speaking about a woman in a disparaging way has nothing to do with whether he fancies you or not. It's an immature man's way of peer bonding. Avoid immature misogynistic men and you will be fine

Ms Icebreaker

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

"From my personal experience, when I fancy a woman, I firstly cant really speak properly and say stupid things. If I survive that then I generally comment about her in the positive and can't stop having little touches, hands, thigh brushes, "

THIS! love this. Only real men will admit this. Super sexy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Speaking about a woman in a disparaging way has nothing to do with whether he fancies you or not. It's an immature man's way of peer bonding. Avoid immature misogynistic men and you will be fine

Ms Icebreaker "

I think that's probably about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

Exactly this!... If messages are confined to meaningless drivel commonly used by fab men I won't entertain them, however I will say some know how to play the game, reel you in. At some point though you should see its all about them and what they want. I have been told by a guy that it helps if the man likes the person but if not he will still go for what's on offer, but doesn't have respect for women on here.

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By *illyredWoman
over a year ago

stockport

You are no where near fat and any guy who thinks that is seriously deluded and just wants a twig with a hole

I’d personally say you can’t really tell until you meet and chat and even then who really knows, watch the body language and responses before going any further in my own opinion. Good luck hunni x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

I struggle with this myself. I tend to swerve ANY guys who bad mouth their past verifications. I insist on a social (JUST a social) to see how we get along and then all being well, arrange something for a later date. I find the guys who genuinely fancy you make the effort to try and meet you.

I often get nasty messages saying that I wouldn't get so much attention in the real world as I do on here. That, combined with guys insulting their past meets certainly knocks my confidence and makes me super wary. If a guy genuinely fancies you, he'll make the effort and not have a problem meeting publicly for a social x

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

There are two parts to this. My take on the first is that we all have a feel for where we are on the attractiveness scale and while beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, most people can normally come to a broad agreement on who is and isn’t attractive so it’s not that subjective. With a good personality we can probably punch a couple of places above our rating (which as the male half of this couple, I am eternally grateful for) but that’s in the real world. In fab world that all goes out the window. Even for less physically attractive women, the sky’s the limit. If I was a women facing this dilemma I would probably think, in the real world, would this guy date me, introduce me to his mates etc if no, there is the choice of do I reject him or just do it and enjoy as it’s just sex? I am guessing, 99% of men would opt for the latter option. The second issue was men talking in such demeaning terms about women; I would just block them even if they were hot.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s tricky for me as I never know when ladies like me. They need to actually say so otherwise I’m never sure. It’s easier for men to be told straight than drop any hints.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s tricky for me as I never know when ladies like me. They need to actually say so otherwise I’m never sure. It’s easier for men to be told straight than drop any hints. "

This. I think men in general just aren't good with hints. If a woman sends a friendly smile my way, I just assume she's being friendly. I don't see it as a ''I like you, come talk to me'' smile. If you like me and want me to talk to you, you're gonna have to let me know. I think most guys are the same.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

This is game playing to me. If you both like each other, you both make the effort. Bollocks to testing the waters and seeing how the other reacts.

There's a fine line between taking it slow and taking the piss. "

I absolutely get what you mean about game playing.

On here though, especially when I'm logged in on the forum or logging in to pick up a specific message then all other private messages do not take any priority at all.

Hell tunnel vision I won't see them and if the avatars changes I'll unlikely find it.

All of my friend have the option to respond, as, when and if they want to-can.

I take that same option for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds stupid and said by way out therapy sessions but before anyone can fancy you you need to fancy yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is game playing to me. If you both like each other, you both make the effort. Bollocks to testing the waters and seeing how the other reacts.

There's a fine line between taking it slow and taking the piss.

I absolutely get what you mean about game playing.

On here though, especially when I'm logged in on the forum or logging in to pick up a specific message then all other private messages do not take any priority at all.

Hell tunnel vision I won't see them and if the avatars changes I'll unlikely find it.

All of my friend have the option to respond, as, when and if they want to-can.

I take that same option for myself. "

I never thought about being logged on to go on the forums. That's a good point.

On here I'm not really bothered anyway, since I don't really message people anymore, I just mostly come for the forums. But on POF it gets frustrating since I do message people and I am actually on there to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

the guy is a means to an end right? You're in a relationship and are probably on here to enhance your sex life in some manner. So does it really matter whether he's lusting after you cos you're available or cos you're you?

If you have insecurities about what a random guy is thinking, is swinging for you? Surely, outside of the action the only man that matters, is your partner.

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum

I dont have a clue. Im so dumb with this im rubbish with flirting and then by the time i realise i have been plonked in the friend zone

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

I've heard so many men say 'oh yeah I fucked a woman few weeks ago off fab, she was bit fat for me but I was horny so you know how it is' - this makes me think omg I would hate for someone to speak about me like that. "
Spend time getting to know them before meeting. Suss out the guys looking for a quick fuck or the you're not my type but you have a pussy guys. Guys looking for a quick fuck will not want to invest time getting to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All men on here lie to get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

dont jump into bed with them, enjoy chat, enjoy a coffee, then enjoy another coffee, even if you want to jump into bed with them play it cool,

eventually when you kiss you will know.

ITS ALL IN THE KISS & THE SNOG.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From yiurpublic pics you gave no reason to be insecure at all in my opinion.

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By *allDarkStrangrMan
over a year ago

chertsey

You are stunning. I think you would struggle to find any sane red blooded male not to find you attractive

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Umm you are married...so why are you worried about whether a guy fancies you or not....you are a swinging couple...so anything else you do is for sex only...unless the information on your profile is incorrect or vastly out dated....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the same for us men too, I’m useless at spotting “green lights” that’s probably one of the reasons I struggle to meet in here. Maybe both sexes should be more upfront towards us both then OP and myself may not find it so difficult

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"All men on here lie to get sex."

And this is exactly right...if you do not believe it then you are a fool

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

If you have insecurities about what a random guy is thinking, is swinging for you? Surely, outside of the action the only man that matters, is your partner. "

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The question you have to ask is does it matter what some person says..... random, friend, even partner..

Self believe and self confidence is the key to personal happiness.

This only comes from within and if you get goosebump fanny flutters for a man who has the hots for you, you take the leap and enjoy the experience.

If they turn around afterwards and diss. Well then. You enjoyed the moment. You took from it what you wanted. Fuck um' they're loss....

Thank you, next....

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Oh forgot to mention.. blokes and how do you know if they fancy you!!!

12foot,6foot,2foot and 3second repeated looks.

If I guy fancies you.

- Spots you at 12foot.

- Comes closer to 6foot, eye contact repeated 3second intervals

- If they really really want to talk to you they'll venture into the Personal space of 2foot.

Therafter its body language, mirroring of movements, leaning in, light touches on hands arms shoulders legs.

At that point your running the show... have fun

PS same for ladies attracted to men..

Well documented from years of studies and not just plucked out of thin air.

Next time your in a crowded bar or airport, cafe etc. Have a look it is amazing and a complete eye opener....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I go with, do they make me feel good and do I have fun? That's all that matters.

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I go with, do they make me feel good and do I have fun? That's all that matters. "

Yup.. if it feels right... enjoy it...

if you hold yourself back becuase of the what ifs you'll never reach your full sexual potential....

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Just reply to any initial messages with something like "Sorry your not my type, good luck" or something similar. If you get abuse back block them, if you get a nice reply you cxan then tell them you sent the first message to the wrong person,

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

OP you are gorgeous so there’s not much chance they won’t find you physically attractive but you’re probably looking for more than just that. I’d say you’ll probably get a good idea of whether or not there’s a genuine connection through just talking to them - if they seem interested in talking about things beyond just physical flirting then I’d say it’s worth persisting with. Good luck!

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

Think you have a great cock ,I fancy a bit

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

On here you probably wont know, unless you develop mind reading skills. You need to take it as a given that us men are just dickheads even the "good ones" will have moments of dickheadedness, we will end up disappointing you all at some point or another. sorry

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Hey lovely

This really is just man chat. I've known men to date and even Marry females they've spoke not so highly of in the early encounter.

Yes men / females can and will fuck people they wouldn't date or be seen out with...

So I wouldn't worry too much about what they may say if you have a good time and are the best happiest insecure person you can be.

And should you hear those comments off anyone about anyone Id suggest crossing then off your future play list.

Theres plenty more deserving and respectful men out there xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is horrible. And it is exactly why women get insecure about themselves and lose confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking I’m someone who has never ever been into chat up lines or corny messages. Mine have always been respectful and honest but seems as though a lot of guys just say what they think women wanna hear to get what they want and then the true colours come out.

Might be wrong but just how I see it

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Personally speaking I’m someone who has never ever been into chat up lines or corny messages. Mine have always been respectful and honest but seems as though a lot of guys just say what they think women wanna hear to get what they want and then the true colours come out.

Might be wrong but just how I see it

So you have never ever lied to a woman to tell her what she wants to hear to get your own way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly no. I say what I’m thinking I’m upfront and just me. Call me old fashioned but that’s how I am

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this very same conversation with a female friend yesterday, I personally can't even kiss if the attraction isn't there... And by a attraction I mean humour, flirting as well as the face and body...

For me is about the connection xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes for me there has been to a connection mentally and physically. Good intelligent conversation along with some flirty conversation too is a massive thing for me. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

Honestly I get insecure about the really physically fit guys when I am curvy and hate the gym. But I was seeing a real hot guy who genuinely loved curvy girls, particularly chubby tummies so I know that not every guy who has a six pack is looking for the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he points the way

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

Personally I (Blonde) believe this isn't the place to be seeking approval, men, women and couples will make claims that help them achieve their objectives, we're all as disposable as empty crisp packets in the online swinging world!

If you come at it from that angle and get out of encounters what you need then everyone's happy

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I go with, do they make me feel good and do I have fun? That's all that matters. "

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Agree with the others. Any man who speaks that was has no respect and zero class. He won't show anyone any. Avoid, Avoid, Avoid!! A decent and worthy guy won't go into any detail about anyone he's been intimate with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He will make an excuse to message you. If he is making effort of any kind he fancies you.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

That works both ways. I'm in reasonable shape, but carrying a few extra pounds at the same time. I look at the haughty, or gym-fit (.....and other characteristics) and immediately rule them out as I don't think they'll look at me once, never mind twice (which has proven true on numerous occasions) but have also spent time with some gorgeous women. You never truly know what people find attractive. Can't imagine you'd ever be short of admirers OP!

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"All men on here lie to get sex.

And this is exactly right...if you do not believe it then you are a fool"
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Oh your definately attractive love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!)

A good personality is what I look for. Some lovely curvy women on here!

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Yes most men will choose slim and pretty women over fat ones if both are available to them.

Hence rich, famous and powerful men almost exclusively have slim pretty women.

This is no different to the majority of women choosing tall, rich, handsome men, given the choice.

But, there's someone for everyone. Horses for courses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we know if a woman fancies a bloke

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

No decent bloke would, you are attractive and deserve a bloke who appreciates you! Sod the rest.

How do you know she is attractive? You can't see her face "

For men I think the woman’s body is the attraction.....

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

No decent bloke would, you are attractive and deserve a bloke who appreciates you! Sod the rest.

How do you know she is attractive? You can't see her face

For men I think the woman’s body is the attraction....."

Not in my case! I tend to find that if I like what I see and hear from the neck up I'll like what's below it too. A fabulous smile and a great personality go a long way for me, on Fab and otherwise.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"How do we know if a woman fancies a bloke

Exactly this! I struggle to see the signs - maybe there just aren't any in my case!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"All men on here lie to get sex.

And this is exactly right...if you do not believe it then you are a foolthis

Not so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in my case! I tend to find that if I like what I see and hear from the neck up I'll like what's below it too. A fabulous smile and a great personality go a long way for me, on Fab and otherwise.

Same for me. That’s why I just instantly delete if they don’t send a face pic. Don’t need a perfect body if I think you’re good looking - when I like someone, I tend to like the package they come in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a massive difference between a curvy or voluptuous woman...and fat. If you were playing with your boobs...knickers on...and resisted touching your pussy in front of him, on cam or in person, he should be turned on and noticeable very stiff hardon if he fancies you..

A woman playing with her pussy in front of a guy is pretty much instant hard, so take your time and see if he loses interest or not xxx

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

He tells you , then you know he fancies you , simples,

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm not a complete imbecile and I have relatively good eyesight; I know how I look and I know that 99% of the attention I receive on here is complete bullshit from guys just looking to get their dicks wet because they think I'll be easier to meet than someone more attractive.

I'm also very blunt about what I want, and I start with a social. If I get a good feeling after messaging and a social then chances are I'm going to have sex, whether he really fancies me or is just a good bullshitter.

If it's a FAF or a sex NOW message then you know up front that any hole is a goal and you go with your eyes open, limited attraction on both sides and just scratching an itch.

I've had sex with people I probably wouldn't consider in real life, but I've liked their messages and I've got to know them before I've bothered asking for a face pic. The thing is that I wouldn't be embarrassed to own that I fancied them and I wouldn't talk crap about their appearance to anyone, online or in real life.

However, if someone slates a previous meet's appearance to me then fuck that shit. That's just tacky and something I'd block for.

If someone seems embarrassed at the thought of someone else knowing he's met me then again, fuck that shit (and yes, that's happened on here).

Of course, if someone wants to have a good old laugh with their friends then that could happen but I'd probably never know about it; I've no intention of meeting their friends any more than I would introduce them to mine. I wouldn't let the fear of that put me off meeting someone I liked though.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

When it comes to his cock, you can't believe a word he says.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

If he want to get his dick wet more than a few times theres a good chance he fancies you , the question is do you fancy him to ,

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Not in my case! I tend to find that if I like what I see and hear from the neck up I'll like what's below it too. A fabulous smile and a great personality go a long way for me, on Fab and otherwise.

I'm sure you're not short of options either! You look fabulous by any standards!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My sister has a saying ‘a stiff cock has no conscience’....

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

Having peeked your album, i doubt thats gona get said about you

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Do a slow, close dance with them, you'll know.

Tends to happen with me anyway....

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"My sister has a saying ‘a stiff cock has no conscience’....

Oooooh I like this ...

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"My sister has a saying ‘a stiff cock has no conscience’....

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"My sister has a saying ‘a stiff cock has no conscience’....

nether has a wet willing pussy ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...I'm aware some of this is my own insecurities but I do have Male friends on here and spoke to blokes on here.

How do I know if a man actually finds me physically attractive or if he is just thinking 'you will do' cos it's so hard for men to meet women on here?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I know but how do you know whether to believe a man when he says he fancies you?? How do I know he not just thinking 'you'll do' , especially the muscle gym goers (who I love!) "

Why does their opinion matter so much.

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By *ohnandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

The eyes tell you everything...

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"The eyes tell you everything..."

Yes, potentially true. I'm a little too shy to be direct on occasion, but try to make the 'look' work for me.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"All men on here lie to get sex."

I don't.

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