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Oh mythical unicorns, advise us..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There was three threads (part 1,2 and 3) a couple of days ago doing just this. Probably worth a search.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We may trawl through and see...

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some couples like us are happy for meets where our male half is minimally involved.

So you're pretty much getting the unicorn experience.

Might be worth considering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, the threads regarding unicorns were very well written, and covering more than just the basics. Should be a compulsory read for couples wanting bi female.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We may trawl through and see... "

Search for "finding a unicorn" and you will find.

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By *ldham12345xxxMan
over a year ago

oldham

Hi how’s you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too. "

I'm not a unicorn but this is absolutely what my fiends who are say..

RESPECT is the main thing, you expect a unicorn to respect your couple rules, then you need to treat her with respect and not treat her as a toy for your own gain

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, if you want a sex toy, Lovehoney have lots.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too. "

Yeah, totally get that and heard this said before. That is exactly how we would want it to

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

Would advise you to look at the threads mentioned for the advice. After what happened on the threads I know many single bi females have been disheartened. I was not going to post again. I don't mean to post to be negative. I only ever want to make things better. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some couples like us are happy for meets where our male half is minimally involved.

So you're pretty much getting the unicorn experience.

Might be worth considering "

That wouldn’t work for us as I’m not into wanting another man in the room. I just want a lady joining us. Having another man anywhere near would be a turn off for me.

Bella xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would advise you to look at the threads mentioned for the advice. After what happened on the threads I know many single bi females have been disheartened. I was not going to post again. I don't mean to post to be negative. I only ever want to make things better. xxx"

Why what happened that doesn’t sound good?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too.

I'm not a unicorn but this is absolutely what my fiends who are say..

RESPECT is the main thing, you expect a unicorn to respect your couple rules, then you need to treat her with respect and not treat her as a toy for your own gain "

Completely agree, we want to get to know the girl and for her to get to know us there has to be a chemistry and connection or it won’t be enjoyable. We understand it would be daunting for any girl. We would always say a social for a coffee first to get to know each other is a good idea.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

No going to say anything. Look at our profile summary. Draw your own conclusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would advise you to look at the threads mentioned for the advice. After what happened on the threads I know many single bi females have been disheartened. I was not going to post again. I don't mean to post to be negative. I only ever want to make things better. xxx"

I think that was mainly one single straight female who was having a bad Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn? "

A stable one. Unicorn Princess touched on it in point 6 of her thread but I don’t think many picked up on it. I’ve had soooo many couples combust in front of my eyes while we were still chatting. Having some faith that you’ll still be together by the time we get to sharing bodily fluids is pretty key, that you communicate well with each other and that I won’t get illicit texts pleading ‘don’t tell her, this is our little secret’ afterwards is pretty key. There’s a hell of a lot of couples where the guy thinks he can get some extra action afterwards without his partners knowledge. Playing with a third party is powerful stuff. Be sure your relationship is up to it.

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

A stable one. Unicorn Princess touched on it in point 6 of her thread but I don’t think many picked up on it. I’ve had soooo many couples combust in front of my eyes while we were still chatting. Having some faith that you’ll still be together by the time we get to sharing bodily fluids is pretty key, that you communicate well with each other and that I won’t get illicit texts pleading ‘don’t tell her, this is our little secret’ afterwards is pretty key. There’s a hell of a lot of couples where the guy thinks he can get some extra action afterwards without his partners knowledge. Playing with a third party is powerful stuff. Be sure your relationship is up to it."

We agree holeheartedly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

A stable one. Unicorn Princess touched on it in point 6 of her thread but I don’t think many picked up on it. I’ve had soooo many couples combust in front of my eyes while we were still chatting. Having some faith that you’ll still be together by the time we get to sharing bodily fluids is pretty key, that you communicate well with each other and that I won’t get illicit texts pleading ‘don’t tell her, this is our little secret’ afterwards is pretty key. There’s a hell of a lot of couples where the guy thinks he can get some extra action afterwards without his partners knowledge. Playing with a third party is powerful stuff. Be sure your relationship is up to it."

We have had one before with a friend. Made us closer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No going to say anything. Look at our profile summary. Draw your own conclusions. "

You seem a little aggressive with your reply

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Some couples like us are happy for meets where our male half is minimally involved.

So you're pretty much getting the unicorn experience.

Might be worth considering

That wouldn’t work for us as I’m not into wanting another man in the room. I just want a lady joining us. Having another man anywhere near would be a turn off for me.

Bella xx "

Thats fine, that's your preference.

Swinging is a numbers game, the biggest group of users and the easiest to play with are single men. Couples are far harder to find / click with. Much harder again is single women. Then if you've got a preference for slim or really pretty women, you're narrowing tiny odds down to miniscule ones. Then you're up against geography and whether they like you both, or not.

We've been swinging 5.5 years, if we'd have kept our requirements that strict we'd have had about half a dozen encounters with 2 girls that met that criteria.

In a nutshell you can be picky if you don't mind scarce (if ever) meets. If you're happy with less attractive single women it'll be easier. Or the world is your oyster if you want to examine the hurdles between you and playing with couples. As a straight female, it's unlikely you don't find any other men other than your partner attractive Is the real issue his reluctance to involve other men?

Good luck in your quest

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria


"No going to say anything. Look at our profile summary. Draw your own conclusions.

You seem a little aggressive with your reply"

We agree wholeheartedly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some couples like us are happy for meets where our male half is minimally involved.

So you're pretty much getting the unicorn experience.

Might be worth considering

That wouldn’t work for us as I’m not into wanting another man in the room. I just want a lady joining us. Having another man anywhere near would be a turn off for me.

Bella xx

Thats fine, that's your preference.

Swinging is a numbers game, the biggest group of users and the easiest to play with are single men. Couples are far harder to find / click with. Much harder again is single women. Then if you've got a preference for slim or really pretty women, you're narrowing tiny odds down to miniscule ones. Then you're up against geography and whether they like you both, or not.

We've been swinging 5.5 years, if we'd have kept our requirements that strict we'd have had about half a dozen encounters with 2 girls that met that criteria.

In a nutshell you can be picky if you don't mind scarce (if ever) meets. If you're happy with less attractive single women it'll be easier. Or the world is your oyster if you want to examine the hurdles between you and playing with couples. As a straight female, it's unlikely you don't find any other men other than your partner attractive Is the real issue his reluctance to involve other men?

Good luck in your quest "

I need to find her attractive I have got a couple of types lol! So I wouldn’t sway from that as that would be pointless in my opinion as I need to fancy her and that comes with personality as well so I would need to be attracted to that and I would assume she would have to have that connection to me and my bf also. So I’m happy for it to take a bit longer for it to be a great experience. He has a dislike to other mens cocks lol! But nope! He has told me it’s up to whatever I want. I have no interest in having another man anywhere near me doesn’t interest me in the slightest in fact thought makes me feel sick ha ha! I have everything I need and so much more from my man. I just fancy ladies so want to experience that side of things with my bf!

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I may be in a couple but on a rare occasion I will meet couples on my own as a bi female. However, weve taken this information off our profile...

Why? Because all we EVER got were messages aimed at me. Basically we dont want him come play with us!! And mostly from inexepeinced females.

There were very few who were overly respectful either. I'm not a toy or a plaything. I'm a woman in a couple who doesn't mind occasionally playing with other couples alone. I already have a husband and a great sex life so I dont have to play with couples. Tell me WHY I should? Then I'd consider it.

For now I've decided to not do this for this reason. The only time I'll consider it is if we know the couple well or in a club.

I'll say this... as a full swap couple it's hard enough to find couples to even have socials will let alone play. Single ladies are hard to find.

And most dont like being called unicorns

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I may be in a couple but on a rare occasion I will meet couples on my own as a bi female. However, weve taken this information off our profile...

Why? Because all we EVER got were messages aimed at me. Basically we dont want him come play with us!! And mostly from inexepeinced females.

There were very few who were overly respectful either. I'm not a toy or a plaything. I'm a woman in a couple who doesn't mind occasionally playing with other couples alone. I already have a husband and a great sex life so I dont have to play with couples. Tell me WHY I should? Then I'd consider it.

For now I've decided to not do this for this reason. The only time I'll consider it is if we know the couple well or in a club.

I'll say this... as a full swap couple it's hard enough to find couples to even have socials will let alone play. Single ladies are hard to find.

And most dont like being called unicorns

"

Well, it is all very confusing for couples. Now we learn the term 'unicorn' is insulting. I think, on both sides of the fence, there are people not following the etiquette. We have messaged, 'single' ladies who then turn out to have a partner which is also a little disingenuous.

I think, a previous poster put it best, it's respect for both parties and chemistry beyond just aesthetics. I think a successful meet needs to a lot of work to gain both trust and respect, on both sides.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Just read my post over and sorry if I came over as aggressive. I never can tell. Wasnt the intention.

I think it's the toughest thing to find because you cant tell who's genuine and who's not. You only get that from meeting them. And as you say building that trust and respect. We opt for couples with bi females who swap because that dynamic has proved best for us so far.

We would love to meet a bi female at some stage. And its something that would take time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just read my post over and sorry if I came over as aggressive. I never can tell. Wasnt the intention.

I think it's the toughest thing to find because you cant tell who's genuine and who's not. You only get that from meeting them. And as you say building that trust and respect. We opt for couples with bi females who swap because that dynamic has proved best for us so far.

We would love to meet a bi female at some stage. And its something that would take time."

No problem, as with anything like this, text can be misconstrued! I think you have hit the nail on the head, finding a genuine, easy going couple must be difficult and very daunting for any lady. For us, the chemistry, humour and trust is just as important as the sex, in some ways, more so!!

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn? "

I would definitely respond your mating call if you are a bit closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest we've turned more unicorns down than we've played with as they just weren't for us after meeting in the flesh, they were absolutely lovely women though every single one of them, but just weren't for us.

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

A stable one. Unicorn Princess touched on it in point 6 of her thread but I don’t think many picked up on it. I’ve had soooo many couples combust in front of my eyes while we were still chatting. Having some faith that you’ll still be together by the time we get to sharing bodily fluids is pretty key, that you communicate well with each other and that I won’t get illicit texts pleading ‘don’t tell her, this is our little secret’ afterwards is pretty key. There’s a hell of a lot of couples where the guy thinks he can get some extra action afterwards without his partners knowledge. Playing with a third party is powerful stuff. Be sure your relationship is up to it."

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

I saw a married couple fairly regularly and at times I felt like I was mediating arguments. At its worst it also felt like I was being used to score points or make the other jealous. Needless to say, lesson learned and I’m incredibly cautious as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn? "

To be fair OP it’s always going to be tricky on here, even without the numbers and demand stacking up against you. We would love to find the right woman to join us but we both know we wouldn’t be comfortable if it was just one of us meeting a couple as you need some sort of trust and rapport, so we have kind of accepted that it must be really difficult for single women on here and it’s unlikely to happen through here.

Also we’ve found it’s far more difficult to get three way attraction with a woman than the two way that you need for involving a guy for a straight MFM. We’ve not totally given up on the idea but decided we won’t chase it on here now and there’s far more chance of it happening at a club where everyone can build that trust up in a safe environment. Best of luck to you guys though and hopefully you’ll find what you’re seeking but we don’t think there’s an ideal couple (we’re pretty sane and grounded!), it’s more just a case of right time and right people finding each other xx

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

There are few bi single females, add that to those who you feel attracted to and compatible with it narrows the field further.

That said it does not mean it is hopeless.

There was a thread that discussed the issue well recently.

I would like to see an area where females can unhide their profiles and play more openly maybe a little more like fab guys.

Maybe this is just a pipedream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a lady with both a couples profile and a single profile (for playing with ladies and couples I already know), I’ve experienced both sides of the coin with numerous FFMs and know I’m lucky to have done so.

There was an article via a swingers Twitter profile in the past that gave some advice from a bi fem’s perspective. Bear with it, as it’s long, but I’ve referred to it many times and I’ve pasted it here in case it helps? Mrs W x

**The following is not what I’ve written, before anyone shouts at me!**

* I am a person.

I’m not a prop or an object or a sex toy. I’m not a porn star or a fictitious sex driven fantasy woman. I’m aware that you’re contacting me for a specific reason, but that’s not the only reason I exist. If you’re contacting me online, choose your words mindfully. An introductory email about “cumming all over that sexy body” or “laying the pipe down” does not make me want to drop everything to meet you. Try an intelligent respectful introduction with some reference to what you read in my profile instead. If you meet me in person at a club or party, treat me the way you’d treat anyone you’re meeting in public for the first time.

* I have my own fantasies too.

If you’re part of a couple and you’re contacting me, you probably have an idea of what you’d like to experience when you add another woman. Keep in mind that even though the two of you know what you want, the only way I’m going to be willing to participate is if I can get what I want too. Ask me about my fantasies. Pay attention when I tell you what I am looking for and what I enjoy. Too often, couples want to center the experience around the two of them entirely. If your fantasy makes me the source of your pleasure without allowing me to be pleasured as well, I’m not interested.

* I’m not your experiment.

If you’re new to the lifestyle and we have good chemistry, your lack of experience won’t matter at all. However, you might be a couple with far too many rules. You might be a couple that wants things go exactly according to your plan because you (understandably) want to be as comfortable as possible. If you need to move slowly, I respect that. If one of you isn’t sure they’re ready, I totally respect that BUT I’m not going to play with you. I don’t want to go home sexually frustrated. I don’t want to be a source of tension if things go “too far” and I don’t want to waste my precious time or yours. If you want to lightly test the waters, find someone who is also new to this. Try a party or club and see if you can meet someone who is up for some flirting and light play.

* I’m not your teacher.

Do you want me to guide you through your first threesome? Are you looking for someone to “help” a wife or girlfriend try her first bisexual experience? I have a few important questions: What’s in it for me? Why would I want to turn my playtime into a tutoring session? What if one of you is not a good “student”? I’d rather not set myself up for disappointment.

* I have a life of my own

If we do meet and have a great time, please remember that I have a life outside of being your play partner. I am so much more than a unicorn. My career, my family, my friends, and my own goals and needs are important to me. Respect my priorities. If you’re the type who takes it personally if I don’t respond to your messages and photos immediately, we aren’t compatible.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

That is really well written, and is exactly how I feel

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

A stable one. Unicorn Princess touched on it in point 6 of her thread but I don’t think many picked up on it. I’ve had soooo many couples combust in front of my eyes while we were still chatting. Having some faith that you’ll still be together by the time we get to sharing bodily fluids is pretty key, that you communicate well with each other and that I won’t get illicit texts pleading ‘don’t tell her, this is our little secret’ afterwards is pretty key. There’s a hell of a lot of couples where the guy thinks he can get some extra action afterwards without his partners knowledge. Playing with a third party is powerful stuff. Be sure your relationship is up to it."

Great post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s being local! Loads of couples I’d love to meet but not having a car and limited funds can make things difficult xx

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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As part of a couple who plays more alone as a hotwife with others, I think as others have said remember I'm playing because I have needs and wants too. I think if you just look for a single female your going to narrow your catchment. Lots of hot wives play alone. You just need to give them the chemistry to want to play with you.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too. "

When we connect to a single person and invite that person to share with us, we go out of our way to make that person feel completely wanted... for that moment, we are not two and one, but an equal three. Otherwise what’s the point? Otherwise It’s such a reduced experience for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn? "

There is no such thing as a Unicorn, they are fucking everywhere and therefore no Unicorns at all. Even on kids lunchboxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women are different of course, and will want different things.

Personally, the thing that makes me hesitate with most couples is that they make me feel like a plaything, rather than an equal participant. I'll jump to their rules and do what they like, put on a show, etc. I do this for me and I'm happy to compromise, but only to a point. And sometimes I'll be out and out treated like I'm lesser because I'm not coupled up.

Given how much choice I have (including my own sex toys or just an early night with a novel), I don't have to put up with that, and won't. I don't need to be treated like royalty, just an equal participant of friendly people making each other feel good. My needs and desires matter too. "

Absolutely this. It's almost as if we are not seen as not being a person and are there just to entertain sometimes.

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

I normally get down to Southend a few times of the year to see a friend and would possibly interested in meeting up with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just goes to show some couples and ladies are away with the fairies!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Managed this Saturday night at pleasures. So much fun. Xx

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"For me it’s being local! Loads of couples I’d love to meet but not having a car and limited funds can make things difficult xx"

Agreed, difficult for a first social & it does depend on the level of contact all of you want but we’ve had ladies stay here with us both overnight & for a few days break from the norm.

Then we do days out & stuff together as well as the naked stuff

All they need to do is get here. One travelled completely off the cuff from Doncaster 200odd miles away.

Deal was if someone didn’t “Feel it” she’d stay anyway & we’d do vanilla stuff during the day. That didn’t happen though.

S

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"For me it’s being local! Loads of couples I’d love to meet but not having a car and limited funds can make things difficult xx

Agreed, difficult for a first social & it does depend on the level of contact all of you want but we’ve had ladies stay here with us both overnight & for a few days break from the norm.

Then we do days out & stuff together as well as the naked stuff

All they need to do is get here. One travelled completely off the cuff from Doncaster 200odd miles away.

Deal was if someone didn’t “Feel it” she’d stay anyway & we’d do vanilla stuff during the day. That didn’t happen though.

S

"

In case some read too much into “Get here” it was an option given as well as meeting halfway, nearer them etc.etc.

x

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From purely my point of (limited) view is that "most" couples I've come across want to treat me as a plaything for them or just an addition for them, well that is never going to work for me in the slightest

Also it has to be a three way equal attraction, again almost impossible when you think it's virtually impossible to find just a guy

But it is there! I share with a totally lush couple though the only problem is distance 500 mile round trip

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over a year ago


"I normally get down to Southend a few times of the year to see a friend and would possibly interested in meeting up with you. "

Marvelous, yeah be great to go for a drink sometime. Give us a shout, we'll send a friend request x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seen a few threads like this but good to get advice.

Oh, unicorns, we know you are rare and are in heavy demand but what advice can you give us couples so that we may witness your wonder? Are you nocturnal? Do you respond to a certain mating call?...sorry, starting to sound like Attenborough now.

In all seriousness, what makes the ideal couple for a unicorn?

I would definitely respond your mating call if you are a bit closer "

Tis those damn miles. Somebody needs to invent teleporting...pronto!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Bit of a stock answer, go to where they graze, don’t ask them to come to you.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Bit of a stock answer, go to where they graze, don’t ask them to come to you."

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit of a stock answer, go to where they graze, don’t ask them to come to you."

Sure, but have to find an interested party before logistics come into it!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Bit of a stock answer, go to where they graze, don’t ask them to come to you.

Sure, but have to find an interested party before logistics come into it!"

We found it impossible to meet single ladies just by messaging etc on here. So went to local clubs a few times & some of the bigger national socials. You end up generating interest leading to play meets later or on the night.

We have found it too difficult due to many wanting all the T’s & I’s sorted before they even talk about meeting for a social via messages.

A couple of chats in a club & people know more about you from your face & mannerisms than they’d get from days of messaging on here where you have time to think about a response & put it into palatable language & conversely they can do the same, so are you talking to the “Real” them or the glossy magazine front cover version (This applies to both sides).

You will always get iffy meets & the ladies will tell you about “Plaything, Toy , Human Being, Being Ignored After” etc. They are all valid but so are “Not really bi or bi selfish, Not here to play equally no matter what they tell you prior or come with head baggage or believing the “Unicorn” tag & acting accordingly.

So we walked away & to social media Poly groups where we just happened to stumble across someone’s comment on a thread & messaged them & started chatting. A shopping date within a few days (I kid you not) one dinner date & she is now a fairly regular (if too infrequent) visitor to our home & us hers.

As Licentous says you need to look where they graze, which predominantly is clubs or large socials but you in all likelihood won’t get someone accompanying you to your hotel, although we did once as we’d met the lady socially before. What you will in all likelihood do is tick many of the ladies boxes within a quick chat & just from physically being there as opposed to a few pics & detached messages on here.

Good luck to anyone & everyone

x

S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pickle is happy to play with couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pickle is happy to play with couples."

Damn this miles!

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