FabSwingers.com forum: What to write in messages!

By *api_LND OP Man
over a year ago

London

Hey everyone,

Basically ive been on here for a few months now and ive had absolute ZERO success!

Im not sure what im doing or saying wrong, ive written long messages inc asking them what theyre looking for, what i am, what i want to try, more info about myself etc and even shorter messages just in case the longer ones are too long but still nothing.

Id consider myself an attractive guy, send them pictures, messages everying.

Does anyone have any tips?

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

write a profile . " under construction" is not a profile .

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Follow this advice

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"Hey everyone,

Basically ive been on here for a few months now and ive had absolute ZERO success!

Id consider myself an attractive guy, send them pictures, messages everying.

Does anyone have any tips?

Would start with the profile, as that will be the first thing they’ll read before opening up any messages. Your profile tells us nothing except you can’t accommodate nor travel? You haven’t opted for ‘safe sex’ - this will limit you.

In messages there shouldn’t be a need to ask ‘what they’re looking for’. Reading their profile should tell you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everyone reads the profile of the people sending them messages. Get your profile right and it will improve your chances of success. If you think your profile needs improvement, look at the forum posts that include tips on what to include in the details and what people generally expect to see in photos.

Going to social events and clubs is a good way to get to know other people too.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Start with completing your profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile

Cannot travel cannot accommodate.. How the hell you going to meet.. No explantion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different in what they want/like in messages but what seems to be the same is profiles ... most will look at your profile before deciding whether to message back or not

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

All you need to write is, "hi how r u". And you'll be really popular - said no one ever!

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Forget cold messaging, waste of time. Take time to get into the forums. Contribute in threads, private message relevant to the topic. You'll find doors open far easier....

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Dont lead in with "Hi Babe", how's you or Hey WUUT.....Grrrrrh

Good luck otherwise though.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Everyone reads the profile of the people sending them messages. Get your profile right and it will improve your chances of success. If you think your profile needs improvement, look at the forum posts that include tips on what to include in the details and what people generally expect to see in photos.

Going to social events and clubs is a good way to get to know other people too. "

Nope.

I have had message's and carried on the conversation and never looked at the profile.

To be fair, it was about cleaning cars so.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look at the profile before reading the message because the profile is a window into the sexual soul and is your guide to what this person wants and can give and yours is not giving anything.

As mentioned never hey babe how’s u what u up to anyone as it’s just lazy.

You look fit si with time it will cum.

Good luck

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All you need to write is, "hi how r u". And you'll be really popular - said no one ever!"

hey, with a dick pic also works a treat, 60% of the time, works every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh your username would put me off... And getting messages asking what I am looking for when it says on my profile, is pretty annoying and would mean an instant delete... Even when I am looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just accept that whatever you do will be wrong.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We wouldn't reply.

No profile. One basic pic. Can't travel or accom. Will meet any woman 18-99.

Youre really willing to sleep with a 99 year old woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone,

Basically ive been on here for a few months now and ive had absolute ZERO success!

Id consider myself an attractive guy, send them pictures, messages everying.

Does anyone have any tips?

T"
who knows then, youve been here 4 months you dont accom and your profile is under construction only 1 pic and competing with a lot of guys with much better profiles, they receive your well constructed polite message based on their profile look at your profile and nothing to see, your profile is your advert, tell them why you don't accom, then good pics in public and you will get success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really it doesnt matter what you do. Eventually it will either happen or it won't.

Of course people will give you advice and opinions but in reality. Some people don't put any effort in and find meets straight away and some write a well constructed and entertaining yarn and get nowhere.

Time and exposure are your only friends. Keep on plodding along and eventually it might happen.

However single men here are as common as dirt so stand out where you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to this post. Any advice welcome.

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