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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Basically we are new to all this and are a couple looking for a female to start off chatting to the female of our couple. We don't seem to be having any luck. Any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang in there it will happen

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

It’s a fairly common wish, the usual response you’ll get from fab is that many single females won’t be comfortable “performing” with for the benefit of the male half.

You’re in London, maybe take a step back, visit one of the amazing swinging clubs without the intention of playing and just stand at the bar having a chat, see what goes on and what gets both your interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a fairly common wish, the usual response you’ll get from fab is that many single females won’t be comfortable “performing” with for the benefit of the male half.

You’re in London, maybe take a step back, visit one of the amazing swinging clubs without the intention of playing and just stand at the bar having a chat, see what goes on and what gets both your interest."

^^^ This

I’m hardly speaking from experience here as I’ve not met anyone from here yet or been to any clubs, but the advice of going to the latter seems to be universal.

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By *ady PaulaWoman
over a year ago

bradford

I would say that after you being a member for over a year and without a verification. Your either a single guy or you need to delete that profile and start a new one.

I agree with the other replies

Paula

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bear in mind the single ladies are here for their own pleasure and will be looking to meet a couple because they want to interact with both, not just be watched by the male as the female "experiments".

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"We don't seem to be having any luck. Any tips? "

Try posting a few more photos, maybe some clothed ones ? Make sure the background is clear of clutter.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

You're looking for what most couples on the site seem to be after!

It's difficult to find a single female to join us we are going to be playing. We also have lots of photos and more than a few lines in our profile. Fortunately for us it's not all we are looking for.

Maybe a club would be your best bet.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Maybe get yourselves known in a club or at some organised socials. Network and make friends and that will open a lot of doors for you. Unfortunately a lot of single women don't like the idea of just being there to perform for the man. Most like everyone to be equally involved so they don't feel like a play thing

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

This isn't really a good place to look for what you say you want. I would honestly recommend

'Dating' sites - being proactive and writing to everyone who appeals regardless of whether the profile hints at wanting a threesome or not. A lot of women are up for a one-off meet if they like you both. In particular, a lot of women are interested in a one off ff experience, so make it mostly ff communication after the initial message

trying asking women you meet and hit it off with at clubs and bars (again, the woman takes the lead)

Sex clubs

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Bear in mind the single ladies are here for their own pleasure and will be looking to meet a couple because they want to interact with both, not just be watched by the male as the female "experiments". "

Exactly this. OP, if you messaged me I would probably ignore you, or I might reply to turn you down if your message was half decent. I like playing with couples but I refuse to be anyone’s “experiment”. I expect to play with both partners. I also expect the woman to be sure it’s what she wants and be confident about it. If (and it’s a big if) I agreed to only play with the woman while the man watches, I would expect her to be fully involved and to fully reciprocate - I’m not there to service her and get nothing back. Also, having experienced this with a partner when I was much younger, a profile like this makes me worry that the woman is being coerced into it for the man’s “viewing pleasure” and isn’t doing it because she genuinely wants to. I will never, ever agree to be a party to anything where someone isn’t fully and enthusiastically consenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have looking for a female, and male half will watch, yet your female is straight according to your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aren't entitled to a reply just because you're a couple. It's difficult to contact women on here regardless of your gender or if you're a couple.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"You have looking for a female, and male half will watch, yet your female is straight according to your profile"

this!! We dont reply to couples where the female is listed as straight.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London


"It’s a fairly common wish, the usual response you’ll get from fab is that many single females won’t be comfortable “performing” with for the benefit of the male half.

You’re in London, maybe take a step back, visit one of the amazing swinging clubs without the intention of playing and just stand at the bar having a chat, see what goes on and what gets both your interest."

I agree with this arrange to visit a club and chat to others. We have made some great friends by doing this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind the single ladies are here for their own pleasure and will be looking to meet a couple because they want to interact with both, not just be watched by the male as the female "experiments". "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for everybody's advice and comments. We can assure you we are a genuine couple that were a bit sceptical at first and still are as we have never done nothing like this before but all advice was very helpful.

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