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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’re busting to get out there but getting the feeling that we’re maybe being too picky?

Is there a good way of getting over ourselves and finally just going for it?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Being picky and nerves are two different things. Which do you think it is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is how we felt.... I'd suggest going to a social gathering near you. That way you can see who's about, without the pressure. Maybe a club?

Good luck though... x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Both hahaa

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is how we felt.... I'd suggest going to a social gathering near you. That way you can see who's about, without the pressure. Maybe a club?

Good luck though... x"

Thanks for the tip

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

That's totally normal Are you looking for private meets only? I'd probably recommend you visit a club first to get a feel for the scene. It's a lot easier to meet someone you click with there than online.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"This is how we felt.... I'd suggest going to a social gathering near you. That way you can see who's about, without the pressure. Maybe a club?

Good luck though... x"

Yes, for a couple (not alone) a club is a great way to break in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There's only one way to just go for it and that is to just go for it lol. But is that genuinely what you want to do? Are you being picky or just wanting to meet people where there's mutual attraction?

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

We were super nervous. Clubs worked best for us. Won't do anything outside of that. Plenty to watch in a club if you choose to or play with each other. People like to watch. More my scene than my wife but go one step at a time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Our local club has a 23 minimum age limit so Miss won’t eligible for a while unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time don't rush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the protocol in messaging first time to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our local club has a 23 minimum age limit so Miss won’t eligible for a while unfortunately "

Shhh? I’m sure they don’t have an age limit?

We are members there and happy to meet you there you can even go on a non member day.

Same for F, get yourselves known, attend the non members parties etc and they may let you in if your verified by another couple (for instance us etc) x

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By *hilliandspiceMan
over a year ago

Wimborne

It is nerve wracking for some people, that first experience. Spice was totally relaxed, but that's her. I was a complete bundle of nerves, but my way of looking at it, they were good excited nerves.

I couldn't eat anything on the day, was shaking in the pub and couldn't focus or concentrate. It was totally like being a teenager again on a first date. Thing is, that was brilliant. Makes you feel alive. That's the way I see it.

So, yes, overcome the nerves and go for it. We haven't done clubs yet, first meet was with a single guy in a pub and we made it clear from the outset that it may just be a drink and a chat. Still crazy nervous though.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve had your profile for over a year, if you haven’t done it yet, it’s doubtful you will ever. Nerves play a part of course but without actually physically meeting people how will you tell if you click and fancy having fun? Relying on cyber chat won’t get you anywhere x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You’ve had your profile for over a year, if you haven’t done it yet, it’s doubtful you will ever. Nerves play a part of course but without actually physically meeting people how will you tell if you click and fancy having fun? Relying on cyber chat won’t get you anywhere x"

We made the profile over a year ago but only in the last couple of weeks did we remember we had it and start chatting to people...

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By *hilliandspiceMan
over a year ago

Wimborne


"You’ve had your profile for over a year, if you haven’t done it yet, it’s doubtful you will ever. Nerves play a part of course but without actually physically meeting people how will you tell if you click and fancy having fun? Relying on cyber chat won’t get you anywhere x

We made the profile over a year ago but only in the last couple of weeks did we remember we had it and start chatting to people... "

That's fair enough, we had a profile a year or two back but never met with anyone at the time. Guess we weren't ready then. Only difference is we deleted our old profile.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"We’re busting to get out there but getting the feeling that we’re maybe being too picky?

Is there a good way of getting over ourselves and finally just going for it? "

We went to a club and it was a lot more telex than we expected, staff were really welcoming and no pressure to do anything from people we met x

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By *team7279Couple
over a year ago

London


"You’ve had your profile for over a year, if you haven’t done it yet, it’s doubtful you will ever. Nerves play a part of course but without actually physically meeting people how will you tell if you click and fancy having fun? Relying on cyber chat won’t get you anywhere x

We made the profile over a year ago but only in the last couple of weeks did we remember we had it and start chatting to people... "

Yeah, we had our profile for about a year before we even attended our first organised group social (which we highly recommend as a way of getting into things) then another 6 months before our first meet. And now Mrs A is out on a meet even as I speak!

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By *ullpa72Man
over a year ago

Isle of Arran


"This is how we felt.... I'd suggest going to a social gathering near you. That way you can see who's about, without the pressure. Maybe a club?

Good luck though... x

Yes, for a couple (not alone) a club is a great way to break in. "
agree with this exempt the "not alone bit"! As a single guy I often visit clubs alone ,yes I know it's a bit different for a lady .but I can honestly say that I have seen no problems at the club's , which is more than be said for a "normal club/bar" sorry it's a bit off topic but it's a pain to think that women can't do/be the same as a guy !!

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen


"We’re bustin to get out there but getting the feeling that we’re maybe being too picky?

Is there a good way of getting over ourselves and finally just qgoing for it? "
wwhat we done was went to a pub that swingers went to and just chatted and then someone invited us to a party and it just happened the cpl where a lot older than us.but it was awesome

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