FabSwingers.com forum: Club Partner (experience and advice)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This would be a first for me so wanted to ask the members of this community what their experiences have been like and how I might proceed going forward.

My wife some time ago decided to take a break from the lifestyle and I have of course supported that decision but more recently she has agreed that whilst she isn't currently interested in playing she would be happy for me to look for a friend to goto clubs and parties with.

In January I plan on altering my profile text to represent this but was wo wondering what others experiences have been good or bad and what the pitfuls might be?

Thanks for any replies

Coffee

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Just be honest in your profile about your dynamic and what you are looking for x

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By *heMarvel-ousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

So as the other foot... lol my partner doesn't go to clubs very often so occasionally go alone. I started by looking for a companion to go with, but to be honest way too way weirdos on fab that I just started going alone.

1. it's cheaper

2. No drama

3. I started meeting single guys I got on with.

It's been up and down. Get way too many offers on fab, I dont do meets singlarly just clubs. Its enough for more I enjoy the social at clubs.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just be honest in your profile about your dynamic and what you are looking for x"

No pre requisites other than tbe ability to smile and laugh.

A good night out with good company and lots of laughs and fun.

Sex is a bonus but wouldn't be expected lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as the other foot... lol my partner doesn't go to clubs very often so occasionally go alone. I started by looking for a companion to go with, but to be honest way too way weirdos on fab that I just started going alone.

1. it's cheaper

2. No drama

3. I started meeting single guys I got on with.

It's been up and down. Get way too many offers on fab, I dont do meets singlarly just clubs. Its enough for more I enjoy the social at clubs.

Lou x "

I think its slightly different for us guys

1. Its more expensive

2. Until people take a chance on talking to and getting to know you, they will assume your the weird single bloke that is pushy and inconsiderate. It doesn't create drama as such with me because I am not pushy or inconsiderate of peoples privacy but there is deffinatly a diffrent response from couples and single women given to single men than what single woman might get.

3. As with number 2 when we guys are on our own it can harder to get people chatting than it can be when your a couple.

I am with you 100% on enjoying the social side of things at clubs. Obviously I would hope to play sometimes but my focus is more on enjoying a night out in a sexy environment with good company and lots of laughs.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your wife some time ago decided to take a break but your profile still talks about you being a couple and swinging together. Why have you decided to wait until January to update it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your wife some time ago decided to take a break but your profile still talks about you being a couple and swinging together. Why have you decided to wait until January to update it ?"

I haven't changed my profile because neither of us have been active on fab, it was only recently when I said about deleting our profiles that she sugegested I find a friend to go out with whilst she enjoys the break.

She doesn't want to give up on the lifestyle, she just hasn't been feeling it recently which I totally understand. I see alot of profiles who's text start with "back after a break"

I am waiting until January to start actively looking for a friend as its christmas and to be honest who has a lot of free time this close to Christmas lol.

I know people will assume this is another case of married man cheating on his wife ect but as is stated in the profile (if asked) she is willing to chat to any potential friend in person and make it clear that she I have her blessing to do this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your wife some time ago decided to take a break but your profile still talks about you being a couple and swinging together. Why have you decided to wait until January to update it ?"

Profile has been slightly updated to reflect our current situation.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile has been slightly updated to reflect our current situation.

Much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would be a first for me so wanted to ask the members of this community what their experiences have been like and how I might proceed going forward.

In January I plan on altering my profile text to represent this but was wo wondering what others experiences have been good or bad and what the pitfuls might be?

Thanks for any replies

Coffee

The pitfalls is you could meet a lady who you play with regularly without your Wife being there, and the relationship could get serious and you may even leave your Wife for the new love! Tread carefully Sir.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This would be a first for me so wanted to ask the members of this community what their experiences have been like and how I might proceed going forward.

In January I plan on altering my profile text to represent this but was wo wondering what others experiences have been good or bad and what the pitfuls might be?

Thanks for any replies

Coffee

Hi Bella, very wise words and of course something me and the wife have discussed together.

The very last thing I would want to do is to either hurt my wife or hurt any potential friend but as we all know life is not black and white and nothing is ever as simple as it should be.

I think that as with swinging in general there are always going to be risk's and you have to accept that head on.

For my part I can honestly say that I cannot see myself growing old and wrinkly with anyone else and I can't see anyone else wanting to put up with that long anyway

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