FabSwingers.com forum: Woman going to a club alone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After literally giving up hope of finding a genuine play mate on ere, I’m thinking of trying a club daytime first I think. Would it be safe to go alone? All my friends are vanillas who nearly have a heart attack when I ask them to come in Ann summers with me so deffo a no of any of them to join me lol

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"After literally giving up hope of finding a genuine play mate on ere, I’m thinking of trying a club daytime first I think. Would it be safe to go alone? All my friends are vanillas who nearly have a heart attack when I ask them to come in Ann summers with me so deffo a no of any of them to join me lol

I've done it, I sometimes go earlyish on a Friday to chams, you could come along if you fancied it?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, but pick your club carefully. Some are extremely safe, some... I wouldn't. (but given you're not local to me my knowledge isn't likely to be helpful)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl power!!!

You’ll be fine huni, when I first started on this site I used to go to clubs alone . Made some amazing friends.

Just let the club owners know you are coming alone and a first timer, and they will look after you.

Good luck , you’ll have a fabulous time .

Vixen x

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I went alone to my first club on a Saturday night. Just phone up the club that you're thinking of going to and they'll give you advice and iron out any worries! Good luck ladybird you'll be fine x

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I'm sure there are plenty of genuine honest people on here who would accompany purely as a friend if you were unsure of going to a club on your own

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

I've done it, I sometimes go earlyish on a Friday to chams, you could come along if you fancied it? "

I'd agree with this. Chams is very safe and an ideal club for a single lady. You'll love it and get addicted! X

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I went to Quest in Leeds weeks ago i aparked the car just in front of the door i felt petrified because i never experienced a swing club so i drived back home . Next week i will attend and this time i want make sure i will in . Is not easy when alone , been only in private ut defenitly next week i will atend Quest

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

I am fancy to go on my own after be part of couple x if anyone would join

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Chose the right club then go for it.

It is daunting to start; I've done it.

Chill and chat with the staff for a bit, then when you're ready take a nose around and just chat to people.

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d recommend Amigos in town for a first timer..I go alone and feel perfectly safe, Tony and Shaz are the owners and they will make sure you’re welcomed and comfortable..thinking of going myself Saturday night...be happy to go with you or meet up for a chat there no problem just drop me a message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the same for anyone the first time they go to a club my first time I was really nervous, and didn't know what to expect. I went out of town as not to see anyone I knew, but thankfully the smaller clubs I went to were more personal with the experience and showing me around making me feel comfortable. I've recently been to amigos in town, it's nice and friendly not too small but not too big and a mixed crowd so not overly ran with guys and a nice social area so no pressure.

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By *ummygirlWoman
over a year ago

currently my bed

Much safer than most places alone! It’s just a matter of picking the club, Purple Mamba Club is popular with us single ladies

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By *ustylouWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I regularly go to different clubs alone. People are always surprised when I say so. Once arrived at a club and the guy on reception tried to direct me to the shop next door as he thought I was lost.

Not sure what is so surprising in this day and age that a woman can't go to a club alone to enjoy herself.

Ive always found everyone to be friendly and respectful. I've gone on to make some really good friends that I may not have chatted to if I had gone with a partner.

Don't be nervous. Tell the staff its your first time and they will give you a tour and maybe introduce you to a few regulars.

Remember your in charge, it's up to you if you want to play. Have fun.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You sound like a strong personality from your profile, so I doubt visiting a club by yourself will give you much cause for concern. Going in as a single female you’re on a winner too, as the clubs are crying out for you, so you’ll be made very welcome, wherever you go

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

If you are nervous about going by yourself I am sure another lovely lady will accompany you. I went with a fellow forum member first. But then went by myself after that. Clubs are normally very welcoming when you go by yourself and will show you around. I normally head to the pool table if they have one or sit by the bar.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

In our experience clubs are pretty safe.

To be honest everyone we have met has been very polite.

On the odd occasion we have heard of unwanted touching, but far less common than on a regular night out in town.

Most clubs give guided tours to new customers and would be very supportive of single women attending.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Shame on you Leicester men..a young filly happy to go play...step up men..good god.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I've been going to clubs alone for a few years now. In the Midlands you have some really good clubs that you can feel safe in. As others have said, let the staff know it's your first time. I normally sit by the bar or in the social areas and get chatting with people. Have a great time!

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By *ouple36DDCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I go to clubs by myself sometimes if hubby is away for work. I find single guys very standoffish and often have to initiate chat but I generally have a good time,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I think I’m gonna do some looking into clubs in my area and taking it from there

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I enjoy going to a club by myself. I find it nice and no pressure to play x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I went to my first one on my own sunday daytime, staff were very lovely and answered all of my questions and the guys were all polite no assumptions made at all that I would play with them.

You sound like you have it worked out now so I shall say good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been to a couple of clubs on my own. Chams and Jaydees..both FAB clubs and the staff are fantastic too. Have fun :D

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By *exyCouple999Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

Mrs SC often goes to clubs on her own. Biggest problem she has encountered was when joining a couple, the female half suddenly backed out and went a bit mad - just as things were getting good. Think the lady was a bit worse for wear drinks wise.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

I did it 5 yes ago and never looked back... well one downside !!!!! I met and married del... well someone had to lol..

Look at reviews on clubs by single ladies and message them.they will probably show you around and get rid of first time nerves. Wherever you decide to go enjoy x.k

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I totally get how you feel. I’m wanting to do the same it’s just a little bit daunting isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also there are plenty of club socials and parties this time of year. Check clubs and events for more details. Ps chams gets my thumbs up x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I go to loads of clubs on my own.

At first it was both daunting and exciting but usually now mostly exciting. Call before you go and ask for a tour, it will help you feel more comfortable and usually you will get introduced to people as you go around.

Just do it and have a great time. Xx

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I went today first time.

I went Quest today in the afternoon , they showed me around , explained how works and policies and i got my membership card. The owner she was very friendly and very polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, but pick your club carefully. Some are extremely safe, some... I wouldn't. (but given you're not local to me my knowledge isn't likely to be helpful) "
as I'm local to you any advice would be appreciated, expecially the extremely safe ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has taught me to play the lottery more often

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

I've been going to chames as a single female for over a decade, it's safe and the staff are fantastic, there are other clubs I have attended with friends I've met at chames but I wouldn't go the other clubs alone but happy to go chames alone anytime

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By *ngelfireWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’ve been to Chams and Xtasia alone and while it’s daunting and nerve wracking at first its much more fun than when I’ve been with a FB. I’d always be happy to meet up before or inside if you need moral support!

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

The first time I went to a club I was alone. Went to a daytime event as it seemed less pressured. I was very nervous and couldn't stop shaking but there was some lovely people there who reassured me and put me at ease.

A couple I got chatting to suggested a dip in the jacuzzi and I found that once I was naked I felt alot more relaxed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it! I go to Townhouse alone! Was nervous the first time, but the more you go and get to know people the easier it will be.

Go have fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This has taught me to play the lottery more often"
why????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone I think I’m gonna do some looking into clubs in my area and taking it from there

I’m off to Amigos on my own on Saturday evening so happy to meet you there if you fancy it..just message me anytime x

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By *inderellaRockerfellazCouple
over a year ago

warrington

"Yes, but pick your club carefully. Some are extremely safe, some... I wouldn't. (but given you're not local to me my knowledge isn't likely to be helpful) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be fine April we've always found quest to be an easy going place who make sure people are safe and happy. Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it many, many times alone!

Like you, when I was on a single fems profile, I'd given up looking on Fab.

I'm actually going to a club on my own on New Year's Eve.

Can fully recommend it x

I love the freedom to do as I please x

Good luck....

Regards Miss x

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By *lap_tickleCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

You'll have the time of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out the Club reviews by

Single Women and see how they view the club for safety and security. Management worth their salt will give you as much help and protection you need, and fellow clubbers will respect your personal space and boundaries. You will always have complete control. Take up the generous offers from the

Single Ladies here as that often means IMHO a good first experience.

Best of luck

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Most clubs its not a prob as people in general are respectful and friendly I often go on my own.

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By *igboobies42Woman
over a year ago

Essex

What is the best club for a single woman near Essex please although happy to travel for a good safe first experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are not that scary I have always found it fine going on my own people are generally really friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been to my first kink party alone at a club in a different country where thankfully they speak excellent English.

Everyone was courteous and pleasant, there was no expectation for me to play or do anything other than chat to some lovely people who are now my friends on a FETish LIFEstyle site and I will meet up with again on my next visit.

Once you've done it once, you'll wonder why you were so nervous.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Chams have some great guys controlling the car park in the evenings. I think they always try to keep a parking space or two for single ladies to give them a safe environment for parking. During the day, the car park isn`t so busy so parking isn`t an issue anyway. The car park is monitored by CCTV as you would expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chams have some great guys controlling the car park in the evenings. I think they always try to keep a parking space or two for single ladies to give them a safe environment for parking. During the day, the car park isn`t so busy so parking isn`t an issue anyway. The car park is monitored by CCTV as you would expect."

Got to love Erroll x

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By *rwoods22Man
over a year ago

bolton

I just can't believe you can't get a partner in crime xx

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

No particular club is ‘safer’ per se, it’s all down to how they are run and the clientele that attend.Get to know the staff, the etiquette and practice saying no clearly.

Chat away to folk and go with no preconceptions.

I rarely go with anybody as I prefer it that way.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I go to Townhouse regularly on my own & have never felt anything other than safe.

Do your research, find a club & an event that suits you & go for it!

Good luck! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it a go. I've been to a coupla clubs on my own now. Yes its nerve wreaking especially as I'm very shy, but its also very empowering. Now, looking for more clubs to try. Enjoy.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Give it a go. I've been to a coupla clubs on my own now. Yes its nerve wreaking especially as I'm very shy, but its also very empowering. Now, looking for more clubs to try. Enjoy.

I went on trursday first time ever in a club ,i was petrified because i am so shy and reserved , must say is an amazing club Pandora in Leeds. From thursday till yesterday my confidence totally improved of course wouldn't have hapened if staff and manager didn't have the amazing friendly aproach they had and always have with me they make feel very welcome . Back again today. As you say it is Very empowering , totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been on my own a few times its a bit scary at first but most of the men treat you with respect and no mean no so you are in control

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"ive been on my own a few times its a bit scary at first but most of the men treat you with respect and no mean no so you are in control

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great post and gives me confidence / encouragement to read so many positive experiences... I would probably go to one out of my local area if I can pluck up courage

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"This is a great post and gives me confidence / encouragement to read so many positive experiences... I would probably go to one out of my local area if I can pluck up courage

Try Pandora in Leeds you will feel so welcome the manager and staff are amazing and friendly people check their site and see how amazing are the facilities they have and the club always with great atmosphere . I really recommend this place, i am very shy and reserved person but when you go a place where staff care about and all they want is make everyone comfortable and welcome and keep a great atmosphere that really make a massive diference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a great post and gives me confidence / encouragement to read so many positive experiences... I would probably go to one out of my local area if I can pluck up courage

Thank you x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"This is a great post and gives me confidence / encouragement to read so many positive experiences... I would probably go to one out of my local area if I can pluck up courage

Thank you x"

You welcome x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Mrs M went to Chameleons on her own on Friday evening.

She had a great time, the staff will always look after you if you let them know that you are there on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been along to one in Bournemouth before, it was a very different experience to meets arranged through here. In some ways it was far more liberating as there was none of the “what if they don’t think I’m like my photos/profile”, “what if I want to back out” or anything like that. I just felt a lot more at ease with the whole prospect and surprisingly felt safer than I have when I met off here. I don’t know if I was just lucky or if other places will be the same but I’d look forward to going again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience clubs are pretty safe.

To be honest everyone we have met has been very

polite.

On the odd occasion we have heard of unwanted touching, but far less common than on a regular night out in town.

Most clubs give guided tours to new customers and would be very supportive of single women attending. "

Completely agree. Our first time was nerve wracking, but a couple of regulars took us under their wings and looked after us. We went to Quest on a Friday afternoon when it wasn’t too busy, about a dozen guys and a few couples. After that, we were fine. To answer your specific point though, we have subsequently been on a Saturday night when it’s couples and single females only, and been amazed just how many single females were there. Some were clearly in groups that knew each other, but also a few that genuinely were alone. Not an ounce of trouble, everyone looked out for each other, and loads of new friends to be made. Good luck, and have fun x

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

Got to love Erroll x"

He's a true gent is Erroll always walks me to my car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be fine! don't worry too much. I've frequently gone to clubs alone for a variety of different events from swinging to fetish. The first time is the hardest, after you start to get to know people, it's fine

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By *ial5555Man
over a year ago

Kent

We have met several single ladies who have ventured alone to Chameleons on a Sat roughly,between 5.00 and 7.00 pm,when it is fairly quiet.Think this is a good time because the Alpha Males have given up and gone home to their wives leaving very respectful single men and couples.

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By *heekyredsoloWoman
over a year ago

bromborough

Definately head to a club on your own!

I go to clubs alone and love it, I always hangout at the bar first helps to make contacts and get chatting to people,

For me always trust your gut instinct when playing, private rooms the doors lock so if you not comfortable with a guy in a private room play in the couples room.. until you find your feet

I love going to clubs for the social side and have met some incredible people!

Have fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mrs) used to go to clubs alone before I met the Mr. I ended up making some great female friends and ended up going together as a group of single females. Always had a great time. Just be safe and careful and you will love it!

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