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"Because they have established that you're not for them and rather than be honest and potentially get a nasty message back , they block to end the conversation. " That's cleared that one up then  | |||
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " They are very rude doing that. If you aren’t for them they should be honest. Move on and forget them. | |||
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"Tell me about it. I have no nice words for them." It happens both ways. Counter block and forget | |||
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"Because they have established that you're not for them and rather than be honest and potentially get a nasty message back , they block to end the conversation. " Basically. You probably said the wrong thing and they changed their mind | |||
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"That's what I say. Manners dont cost a thing. Its polite to say no. If I'm not for them I say no problem thanks for taking the time to read my message send them good luck " This is actually nothing to do with manners lol | |||
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " They don't want to waste your time or their's any further, when they've decided to call it a day. Etiquette is often forgotten/not needed (depends on pov) online. Learn not to take it personally. | |||
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"It's easy to say that and just block someone when they hide behind a screen. Once people actually spoke to one another and respected each other.. with sites like this,, that doesn't really exist anymore. If you know how I meant that" Yes and we're now dealing with the fall out from those days, aren't we. #MeToo | |||
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"It's easy to say that and just block someone when they hide behind a screen. Once people actually spoke to one another and respected each other.. with sites like this,, that doesn't really exist anymore. If you know how I meant that" It's impossible to engage in chat with every single person who messages you. If someone isn't interested then they arent interested, no one on here or in real life is obligation to make conversation with someone if they dont want to | |||
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"If I tell you that you are stunning that's that just because you might turn me down I wouldn't be horrible to you one bit " I'm not saying you would, hun but these women don't know you. It's probably nothing you've done, it's just them not wanting the same crap they've had before. | |||
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"If I tell you that you are stunning that's that just because you might turn me down I wouldn't be horrible to you one bit " You may not be, but countless others will be. And anyone chatting with you would have no idea, whether you would or not. The block button, is often a self defense button | |||
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"Likewise. I get that their are some really horrible nasty guys out there, I really do. But then most of us good guys are automatically labelled as the same, without the lady first finding out. Not all are the same I know" You need to start quoting whose post you are responding to. | |||
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"Likewise. I get that their are some really horrible nasty guys out there, I really do. But then most of us good guys are automatically labelled as the same, without the lady first finding out. Not all are the same I know" There's some pretty vile women too, hun. And dont think we don't pay for their shit too. Just happens in different ways. | |||
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " you said something that put them right off, own what you say    | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. " BESTEST ANSWER!!!!! My recent one " Does ur parents know ur a whore! This was after i replied" not for me! So now its BLOCK XXX | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. " I'm sorry but treating a respectful guy disrespectfully because of whats gone before for me is not a fair and acceptable reason, please dont use that reasoning, I'm never rude to anyone and never will be, i understand preferences but I'm a gent always, treat people as you want to be treated yourself | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. I'm sorry but treating a respectful guy disrespectfully because of whats gone before for me is not a fair and acceptable reason, please dont use that reasoning, I'm never rude to anyone and never will be, i understand preferences but I'm a gent always, treat people as you want to be treated yourself "I'm not saying it's right, I'm saying it is how it is. | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. I'm sorry but treating a respectful guy disrespectfully because of whats gone before for me is not a fair and acceptable reason, please dont use that reasoning, I'm never rude to anyone and never will be, i understand preferences but I'm a gent always, treat people as you want to be treated yourself "It's like swimming in a sea of sharks. They're not all gonna bite you, but you're still gonna be wary of every single one, and if one comes too close, you're going to want to protect yourself Gem | |||
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"It's very hard on here for a chat with anyone " Because unfortunately for the ones who are decent, there’s way too many who are not decent and spoil it. Chin up there will be another lady along. | |||
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I understand why some people do it but it makes you feel pretty shit when it comes out of no where. | |||
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"I only block those that deserve it ie. If it turns nasty or stupid. if you are just talking what's the problem. Be honest with those that aren't for you. It only takes a minute to say no thanks. Too much effort for some on here " Yes it takes a minute to say no thanks but it then takes lots more minutes to answer the follow up messages asking why not and refusing to take no for an answer. Might be straightaway, might be next day, week, month... One of my most overused phrases here is "I've already said no to you." They're not being rude as such but can't I just say no thank you and that be the end of it? And because I can't why is it wrong to use the block button? I'm not here to keep saying no thank you over and over again, it's fucking boring. | |||
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " People always block for a reason look back at what you said its most likley that. | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. " Sadly this is spot on the money. I hear this time and time again from ladies on here. Horrible abuse for saying no. Shame there isn't a report and send message text system, with bans, to curb this somewhat. In the meantime, well meaning respectful, heck just normal guys, have to expect a block or delete unread and take it and move on | |||
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " Because with in the confines of said conversation they discovered they don't want to take things further so instead of leaving you under the impression it will they block you, so they don't have to give you feed back to WHY?. | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. Sadly this is spot on the money. I hear this time and time again from ladies on here. Horrible abuse for saying no. Shame there isn't a report and send message text system, with bans, to curb this somewhat. In the meantime, well meaning respectful, heck just normal guys, have to expect a block or delete unread and take it and move on "You can report it but nothing ever happens. You can block but it doesn't stop them making new accounts. I actually find the abuse easier to deal with than someone who's not rude but just won't accept I'm not interested and just keeps messaging again and again. I've got the choice of either saying "look for fucks sake just take no for an answer" or saying explicitly that I'm not even a bit attracted to them. Are either of those more desirable than blocking someone? I don't want to be unpleasant to anyone but I also don't want to spend my time on people I'm not interested in. I wouldn't expect anyone to do that for me. | |||
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. Sadly this is spot on the money. I hear this time and time again from ladies on here. Horrible abuse for saying no. Shame there isn't a report and send message text system, with bans, to curb this somewhat. In the meantime, well meaning respectful, heck just normal guys, have to expect a block or delete unread and take it and move on
You can report it but nothing ever happens. You can block but it doesn't stop them making new accounts. I actually find the abuse easier to deal with than someone who's not rude but just won't accept I'm not interested and just keeps messaging again and again. I've got the choice of either saying "look for fucks sake just take no for an answer" or saying explicitly that I'm not even a bit attracted to them. Are either of those more desirable than blocking someone? I don't want to be unpleasant to anyone but I also don't want to spend my time on people I'm not interested in. I wouldn't expect anyone to do that for me.
"Totally get you, very hard to weigh it up. I have no issue with someone taking the time to respond where they have no attraction, quite welcome a polite no thanks, good luck message. But then I know I won't be abusive! | |||
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"The problem is that the online world had become so engrained in our day to day lives that we forget that this is not the real world. So, real world rules do not apply. I'm not saying that they shouldn't; I'm just saying that they don't. So "manners" and "etiquette" are not considered - people just do what's convenient. That's what the internet is all about - convenience. Don't pontificate and waste your time and just accept it as the world of Fab. " Kind of true except this 'fake' online world easily becomes meets and real life friendships... | |||
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"I only block those that deserve it ie. If it turns nasty or stupid. if you are just talking what's the problem. Be honest with those that aren't for you. It only takes a minute to say no thanks. Too much effort for some on here Yes it takes a minute to say no thanks but it then takes lots more minutes to answer the follow up messages asking why not and refusing to take no for an answer. Might be straightaway, might be next day, week, month... One of my most overused phrases here is "I've already said no to you." They're not being rude as such but can't I just say no thank you and that be the end of it? And because I can't why is it wrong to use the block button? I'm not here to keep saying no thank you over and over again, it's fucking boring. " Exactly the problem I have. Unless someone is absolutely appalling from the first message, I don’t block immediately just because I’m not interested. But if I say they’re not my type, around half of them will try to argue with me - as if I’ll find them more attractive or something - and I get so tired of having to go back and forwards over it. Or I tell them no and they keep trying every few days. “I’ve already said no” is a common phrase for me, too. At that point, I have to block or I start dreading opening my inbox. | |||
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"I only block those that deserve it ie. If it turns nasty or stupid. if you are just talking what's the problem. Be honest with those that aren't for you. It only takes a minute to say no thanks. Too much effort for some on here Yes it takes a minute to say no thanks but it then takes lots more minutes to answer the follow up messages asking why not and refusing to take no for an answer. Might be straightaway, might be next day, week, month... One of my most overused phrases here is "I've already said no to you." They're not being rude as such but can't I just say no thank you and that be the end of it? And because I can't why is it wrong to use the block button? I'm not here to keep saying no thank you over and over again, it's fucking boring. Exactly the problem I have. Unless someone is absolutely appalling from the first message, I don’t block immediately just because I’m not interested. But if I say they’re not my type, around half of them will try to argue with me - as if I’ll find them more attractive or something - and I get so tired of having to go back and forwards over it. Or I tell them no and they keep trying every few days. “I’ve already said no” is a common phrase for me, too. At that point, I have to block or I start dreading opening my inbox." It's very awkward and I don't doubt that it drives women away from the site as much as the abuse does  | |||
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"Yes maybe but I was paying her compliments and she loved them and then block me " I’m not saying this is definitely the case so don’t think I’m having a go at you. But women will often pretend to like a compliment that actually made us uncomfortable, and online we might then block the person who paid the compliment so we don’t have to deal with any aggro for it. | |||
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"I only block those that deserve it ie. If it turns nasty or stupid. if you are just talking what's the problem. Be honest with those that aren't for you. It only takes a minute to say no thanks. Too much effort for some on here Yes it takes a minute to say no thanks but it then takes lots more minutes to answer the follow up messages asking why not and refusing to take no for an answer. Might be straightaway, might be next day, week, month... One of my most overused phrases here is "I've already said no to you." They're not being rude as such but can't I just say no thank you and that be the end of it? And because I can't why is it wrong to use the block button? I'm not here to keep saying no thank you over and over again, it's fucking boring. Exactly the problem I have. Unless someone is absolutely appalling from the first message, I don’t block immediately just because I’m not interested. But if I say they’re not my type, around half of them will try to argue with me - as if I’ll find them more attractive or something - and I get so tired of having to go back and forwards over it. Or I tell them no and they keep trying every few days. “I’ve already said no” is a common phrase for me, too. At that point, I have to block or I start dreading opening my inbox. It's very awkward and I don't doubt that it drives women away from the site as much as the abuse does "Probably. For me it’s a massive red flag because it makes me think those guys don’t understand “no” and honestly, he could be the hottest guy in the world, but if I get that impression I’ll never agree to meet him. | |||
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"A fine example. I just told someone that I'm not interested in travelling an hour to meet them. Que them updating their status calling me lazy, becoming abusive and blocking me for I got chance to reply "See in his world the idiot had assumed that in principle you'd love to fuck him just a technicality of travel precludes it. So he's mega frustrated. Why am I bothering to get into his head?? Think I find analysing weird behaviour fascinating
Online is a strange place where socially dysfunctional people get to interact with normal people more than in person... And it creates a mess lol
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"If you knew what it was like to be a woman in this environment you'd understand why. If you want to blame someone blame the guys who call us stunning until we turn them down and then call us fat whores. Blame the guys who send endless messages asking why not in response to a polite no thank you. Blame the men who touch us without asking at clubs. If men stop behaving like this then women will stop being guarded and defensive. I appreciate you weren't being unpleasant but when this has happened over and over again you get truly sick of dealing with it. Life's too short not to use the block button. I'm sorry but treating a respectful guy disrespectfully because of whats gone before for me is not a fair and acceptable reason, please dont use that reasoning, I'm never rude to anyone and never will be, i understand preferences but I'm a gent always, treat people as you want to be treated yourself
It's like swimming in a sea of sharks. They're not all gonna bite you, but you're still gonna be wary of every single one, and if one comes too close, you're going to want to protect yourself
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"Why do people that your having a chat with and then just block you for no reason " They don't People block for a reason | |||
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"Because a) you’re boring b) too much sex talk c) not enough sex talk d) not complimentary enough e) too complimentary f) you let slip you’re married g) you let slip you’re looking to get married h) you called her hun, babe, doll etc. I) you didn’t call her slut or whore enough Etc etc etc" This | |||
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"That's what I say. Manners dont cost a thing. Its polite to say no. If I'm not for them I say no problem thanks for taking the time to read my message send them good luck " | |||
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"That's what I say. Manners dont cost a thing. Its polite to say no. If I'm not for them I say no problem thanks for taking the time to read my message send them good luck "Is it not also manners to respect what others want? For example,if a profile says don't send a friend invite,and you send one anyway,is that not ill mannered? Disrespectful? Respect and manners work both ways | |||
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