FabSwingers.com forum: Increasing chances of a meet

By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Weve been here a year now but still struggling with meets!! We do have veris yes most are people weve met at parties or repeat meets from them and socials.

We get lots of views but very little response to winks or messages.

We have no clubs locally and we visit ones further afield when we can.

But is there anything anyone can see on our profile? Or anything else we can do?

We had a meet up yesterday with not ONE response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet ups on here rarely work, you just have to be pro active, make the first move and ask early in the conversation to meet. Remember the longer they talk in here the less likely they are to meet, ask to meet, give them some dates you are free if they don’t respond within 24 hours they are obviously not that keen, just block and move on, if us oldies can do it, you certainly can xx

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I know our size maybe an issue for some as well.

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Your profile isn't bad at all.

Submissive female will put a few people off.

Your biggest issue is probably geography! At a guess, 95% of the UK's population is 2+ hours away

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Good luck in your searching

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Your profile isn't bad at all.

Submissive female will put a few people off.

Your biggest issue is probably geography! At a guess, 95% of the UK's population is 2+ hours away"

Yes location doesn't help but we would love to relocate but cant haha. Theres a city about 40 miles away and we will travel but it's getting that far into conversation to agree to a meet.

In what way would me the female being submissive be off putting? Just curious

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

In what way would me the female being submissive be off putting? Just curious "

Because not all couples are into that dynamic. Also saying you can be a brat. Again reducing the number of interested couples.

Personally I find the pics of your held open vagina a bit too graphic.

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

In what way would me the female being submissive be off putting? Just curious

Because not all couples are into that dynamic. Also saying you can be a brat. Again reducing the number of interested couples.

Personally I find the pics of your held open vagina a bit too graphic. "

But we do state that we're also happy to play vanilla. As we respect people dont want to play that way.

Noted, the only reason I them on there is to show off my piercing haha

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it is a friendly and informative profile and I wish you success on here.

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I've moved the more graphic pics to friends only for now

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

From my pov all bar 1 image is of the lady. You're a couple so not having images of you both together or at least a few of him puts me off.

I see no issues with the text although I think that 'brat' in kink term is rarely understood correctly; away from kink. Maybe rephrase it to say playful, cheeky and mischievous?

Are you actively looking?

I hope you find fun anyways

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"From my pov all bar 1 image is of the lady. You're a couple so not having images of you both together or at least a few of him puts me off.

I see no issues with the text although I think that 'brat' in kink term is rarely understood correctly; away from kink. Maybe rephrase it to say playful, cheeky and mischievous?

Are you actively looking?

I hope you find fun anyways "

C is a nightmare with the camera drives me mad!! There is another image in our friends folder but not on show. I could move this back to open.

I could change the wording on the brat thing. And as I say we do play vanilla if required.

We do actively look yes. We use winks, messages and meets. But all to no avail

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Made a few tweaks to our profile text and pictures as per advice. Next step get some photos of C and upload them.

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By *ntrovertedblackguyMan
over a year ago

Nearby

"Weve been here a year now but still struggling with meets!! We do have veris yes most are people weve met at parties or repeat meets from them and socials.

We get lots of views but very little response to winks or messages.

We have no clubs locally and we visit ones further afield when we can.

But is there anything anyone can see on our profile? Or anything else we can do?

We had a meet up yesterday with not ONE response "

From my experience I've found it better when a couple has reached out to me asking "if I'm up for a meet' so maybe try that? Being more direct in your message? Also say which part of the couple is sending the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not alone in finding it difficult to meet couples on Fab. We also struggle to find couples we can play with on here and we live in a big city. It’s tough. You need 4 way attraction so all you can do is keep looking and hopefully something will come up.

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Thanks everyone. Made some tweaks to our profile and we'll just keep trying!!

Weve had lots of messages in the past just asking to meet me the female. Which it seems what most people are looking for a female to play with.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm puzzled when you say "we will not play with guys" when you say "we will occasionally meet single men". What is the difference ?

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I'm puzzled when you say "we will not play with guys" when you say "we will occasionally meet single men". What is the difference ?"

The sentence says we wont play with guys or anyone playing away from home to us single means single. Maybe I could reword it

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So you should drop the word "guys" and say we won't play with anyone playing away from home.

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"So you should drop the word "guys" and say we won't play with anyone playing away from home. "

Now updated this... initially we had put males because it's usually males playing away who message. Now changed it so hopefully it makes more sense now

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes it is much clearer now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame you're down in Bodmin, we'd definitely be interested!

However, I've got three thoughts on your profile. Firstly, it's long, very long. Whilst I personally savour the intricacies of a lengthy description of the people we'd hope to meet, I've come to conclude it's similar to a cv. It should contain enough to get peoples attention but not so much that they struggle to get to the end. Also its good to keep some of that content back for when you're chatting to people!

Secondly, and related to the first, it's very choppy at the moment. It's informative, but there is no real flow and almost feels like a series of bullet points that have been expanded upon.

Finally, you spend a lot of time telling people reasons not to contact you, i.e. "if you can't manage intellectual conversation...", "if you don't like size 14-16c," will understand if we're not for you". It feels as though you're apologising for who you are! This is where you need to sell yourselves; K is a gorgeous size 14/16 lady and there's nothing to apologise for!!

Good luck to you both, and if you're ever up our way let us know.

J x

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"It's a shame you're down in Bodmin, we'd definitely be interested!

Secondly, and related to the first, it's very choppy at the moment. It's informative, but there is no real flow and almost feels like a series of bullet points that have been expanded upon.

Good luck to you both, and if you're ever up our way let us know.

J x

Thanks for your feedback. It's hard to find the balance of what you want to portray and keeping it succinct. I've cut it down again a little and changed some things. Think I'll leave it alone now haha

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By *hilliandspiceMan
over a year ago

Wimborne

"From my pov all bar 1 image is of the lady. You're a couple so not having images of you both together or at least a few of him puts me off.

I see no issues with the text although I think that 'brat' in kink term is rarely understood correctly; away from kink. Maybe rephrase it to say playful, cheeky and mischievous?

Are you actively looking?

I hope you find fun anyways

C is a nightmare with the camera drives me mad!! There is another image in our friends folder but not on show. I could move this back to open.

I could change the wording on the brat thing. And as I say we do play vanilla if required.

We do actively look yes. We use winks, messages and meets. But all to no avail"

Yes C doesn't look like he enjoys his picture being taken, but then nor do I, hence why not many pics of me on our profile.

Your profile looks totally fine to me, I think there are always going to be little bits to change and improve but you have everything there, likes, dislikes, great pics etc. From what I can see of your pics you look damm great.

I wonder if maybe it is your location as others have said because I can see no other big reason, perhaps change to the nearest big city and see if you get an influx of messages.

As for comments regarding content, eg bdsm, Dom/sub, etc. Well that might put some off, it will likely attract others, best thing is to be pretty honest in what you enjoy and want. No good rocking up to a meet and asking the guy to blindfold you and them running a mile because it's not their bag. Must admit, I have begun playing with Spice down this route a little and it's damm good fun.

Best of luck finding what you are looking for.

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Thanks everyone for your advice tried to take it all on board!! Leaving the profile alone for a bit as I think I'm over thinking it and reworking it too much now.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Your photos are nice and your profile is good can’t see why your struggling might be your area has not got many swingers ?

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By *andKB OP Couple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Your photos are nice and your profile is good can’t see why your struggling might be your area has not got many swingers ? "

Thanks. Yes I think it's that. And most couples in our area just looking for single women

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