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By *assyBangBang OP   Woman
over a year ago

St Helens

I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a butt plug and wear it before the meet, will help relax you and make things more comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As mentioned above a little stretching before deffo helps lol, we prefer lots of ass play beforehand.. we just blend it in as we go. fingers, tongues and toys xx

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Get him to take viagra as its fairly common to lose an erection with a condom but the blue pill should help

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I love anal. We always find the easiest position to begin anal is the doggy position. Make sure you keep your back arched down un a U shape so your bum is in the air and at an easier angle for penetration x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communicate enthusiastically... Make sure he's in no doubt that this is what you want him to do to you and that you're not in pain or discomfort. Overstating the obvious is about the baseline to start from.

Enjoy yourselves playing and take it further when you're ready.. Making a thing out of it not working will create pressure and anxiety.

Have fun! Xxxx

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading

If he lost his erection then I personally think he needs to look at his perceptions around anal.

Does he think it's wrong, bad, challenge his sexuality, is it something he has fantasized about or something he has never considered?

For me fucking a women in the ass (as part of consensual play) was always something I thought would be hot (naughty/dirty but fun), and when she asked me to do it I was harder than ever and after checking she really wanted it (was not just pleasing me, she actually had the lube etc ready) I was straight in there.

It does not matter how big a plug you have had in if he has a problem with being in there in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you "

You could invite me round to give him a demo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have him take his time to give you head and make you come first. That should loosen you up and get him Rock hard too

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

It’s very rare for us to do anal without using toys first to loosen up a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had that. Some partners have been good to go so quickly though.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Remember the 6 P's!

I like alot of anal play and foreplay first to relax and loosen up..

And remember to douche first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of anal play before hand helps. My wife will ease herself onto my cock with lots of lube so she feels in control initially. Once he can see how much you are enjoying it im sure he will be fine

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By *OM-ALMan
over a year ago

warrington

He could always try a cock ring to maintain his stiffy !

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By *absfunguyMan
over a year ago

Home Counties &

Definitely lots of play and with butt plugs. if you vary the plug size upwards as you go along even to the point of a small or large dildo and with plenty of lube, hope you enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first starting receiving anal sex I read an article about it written by a female doctor. The first line was if you were thinking about having anal sex , Dont! It then went on to say that if you were going to do it, after touching and lubing the best position was for him to kneel on the floor and sit back and for the receiver to kneel down in front of him with their back to him and gently ease themselves down on him thus controlling the penetration. It worked for me

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple
over a year ago

Sandbach

I would say get him to use a dildo on you first. Let him see that you can take and enjoy that size. Then he may feel better about taking your cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maintaining an erection can be a psychological thing. If he's thinking he might hurt you he might lose his erection. The more he thinks about it, the worse it'll be.

I'd say, both of you don't build up high expectations. Take your time, give it a go, but it's no big deal if it doesn't happen.

Once this guy feels comfortable and relaxed about it all should be fine.

Lots of lube and toys first can help him penetrate you easier.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Viagra and baby oil or lube if using condoms.

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By *jr41Couple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"Remember the 6 P's!

I like alot of anal play and foreplay first to relax and loosen up..

And remember to douche first! "

Sorry please explain the 6 P's and douche first ?

Sorry if I'm being thick....

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

6ps= prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance

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By *jr41Couple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"6ps= prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance "

Thank you

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Just try and the pressure off and has been said, let him know you really want it. Good luck, hope all goes to plan and you both really enjoy it.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

If he thinks he will hurt you why not try fingering him first then use a vibrator to show him its ok and not painful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A current fb introduced me into the world of anal, which I wasn't into at all before, his approach worked very well for me, he was patient and would relax me with a massage and played with my ass then would massage me again the play with my ass and spent alot of time relaxing my until I felt ready for play

Different things work for different people

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

I think losing his erection may be due to his anxiety to not hurt you.

I think may be you taking control and showing that it is YOU who wants it may put him at ease and may even turn him on to know you're horny for it.

The way I've initiated 'anal virgins' before has been a mix of passionate lead up, fingering and playing to get the right muscles flexible, natural flow into the anal rather than "right we'we're gping to do this now" and, if you're up for it, a bit of rimming also helps. It's all to rid the tension and relax the mind and arse muscles. Other than that, you may need some lube and a glass of wine. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also find that sometimes he has to start fucking my ass for a little bit then stop, move on to something else for a little while and then come back to anal. It just helps to stretch and feel comfortable . You know when you’re stretched and ready as it feels amazing , and then I don’t want anal to stop

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you "

men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work

its not you its the man

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you

men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work

its not you its the man "

Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

All of you filthy animals doing anal...

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"All of you filthy animals doing anal... "

Filthy? That's not filthy. Anal to mouth, now that's filthy. Lol

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you

men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work

its not you its the man

Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better."

What is a dirty blow job pray tell?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love anal. We always find the easiest position to begin anal is the doggy position. Make sure you keep your back arched down un a U shape so your bum is in the air and at an easier angle for penetration x"

This

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you

men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work

its not you its the man

Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better.

What is a dirty blow job pray tell? "

Lol. You know, sucking it like you haven't eaten in days, lots of noise and spit and deep throating. Or is that an average normal blowjob to you

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?

Thank you

men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work

its not you its the man

Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better.

What is a dirty blow job pray tell?

Lol. You know, sucking it like you haven't eaten in days, lots of noise and spit and deep throating. Or is that an average normal blowjob to you"
lots of eye contact too ,my eyes always show so much appreciated bliss for cock in my dirty sloppy mouth and throat mmmmmm

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