FabSwingers.com forum: Help plz

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi can you guys plz help me.

I love my wife but I'm getting a bad feeling.

We are quite new to all this and we both agreed to meet couples only.

However she wanted to widen the search by having a single account and hope she could find guys who had female friends to join us.

Anyway there's a guy she's chatting with she seems to be getting on well with and he wants to meet however his lady friend can't meet on the day he's chosen.

I'm going to be at the meet and my wife says nothing will happen but the way she's been acting recently she's like a love sick teenager when I tell her hes sent a message she can't wait to check her mobile.

Now she's said when we finally get around to having fun she worried his friend will take him off her. Wtf.

When he's told her about his other meets and about how tired he is after she goes all pi**ed off.

I might be reading to much into this but I just need advice thxs

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Hi can you guys plz help me.

I love my wife but I'm getting a bad feeling.

We are quite new to all this and we both agreed to meet couples only.

However she wanted to widen the search by having a single account and hope she could find guys who had female friends to join us.

Anyway there's a guy she's chatting with she seems to be getting on well with and he wants to meet however his lady friend can't meet on the day he's chosen.

Now she's said when we finally get around to having fun she worried his friend will take him off her. Wtf.

When he's told her about his other meets and about how tired he is after she goes all pi**ed off.

I might be reading to much into this but I just need advice thxs"

Stop now, this isn't what you agreed or comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've tried but she's says it's just a meet.

And I know inside she's having her head turned.

She wont admit it though.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"I've tried but she's says it's just a meet.

And I know inside she's having her head turned.

She wont admit it though. "

Not good, we're in this together, do nothing both don't fully agree on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's how we started off and still do except this one guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echoing others you need to take a breather. Both of you. Rules don’t get changed by one person as you go along. They get discussed. She sounds like she’s getting too caught up with this other person.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

This is heading for disaster. You need to put the breaks on. Never mind it's "just a meet". You're uncomfortable with it so it stops. That's the rules. If one of us isn't feeling 100% comfortable with a person we stop talking to them. If we aren't comfortable in a situation it stops immediately. No one takes one for the team. It's supposed to be something you enjoy together. If you aren't happy it's up to you to put a stop to it, because she obviously isn't going to.

Gem

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

"That's how we started off and still do except this one guy"

Id stop her from meeting him for sure before it damages your relationship beyond repair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are so uncomfortable with how messages are making her behave imagine how you will feel sitting there while they eye fuck each other !

She wants him no doubt and I doubt he even has a lady friend

This will not end well OP shut it down and take a break

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I would say stop, but in my mind if you and your partner are not on the same page I.e. Not aware of the impact on each other of not sticking to your pre-agreed limits then in a away the issue is already here.

Whether she fucks him or not is not entirely relevant. It's the willingness to push your boundaries that is the issue.

Put it this way if the roles were reversed, then there would be talk of coercion.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

There you go, all advice you need

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"That's how we started off and still do except this one guy

Id stop her from meeting him for sure before it damages your relationship beyond repair."

Stopping her from meeting him may not be in the OP's gift.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The minute you stop communicating openly about meets and one of you is doing things that hurt their partner is the minute you stop swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a hold on it and tell her that something don't feel right and you think both of you need to take a step back and discuss where you would like things to go me and my other half only meet as a couple and when we do meet people we say it's for a drink first of all to make sure everyone gets on on as if one person is not happy it goes no further

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for the replys. I've sorted it out now after a morning of arguments lol.

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