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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is no one responding on my profile

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd say there are a number of reasons. Your profile is very brief, not many women will find your status very enticing and younger men do struggle on here.

What are you hoping for on fab?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

Did you come here expecting easy sex? I think alot of younger guys get the impression that fab is just for quick hook ups, it can be that but I'd say more than half want to form friendships/connections with people.

PoF or tinder might be more what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or because you look like you’ve lost your dog on your picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile

Did you come here expecting easy sex? I think alot of younger guys get the impression that fab is just for quick hook ups, it can be that but I'd say more than half want to form friendships/connections with people.

PoF or tinder might be more what you're looking for. "

Or Grinder

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Let's welcome a new guy by giving him some useful feedback.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks "

Hi, if you use reply+quote we can see who you're replying to.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Don't stress about it all good things come to those who wait as the say in the meantime just enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or because you look like you’ve lost your dog on your picture "

A tad harsh.. lol But it made me giggle..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or because you look like you’ve lost your dog on your picture

A tad harsh.. lol But it made me giggle.."

Ha ha I did apologise he seems like a nice lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your intro is very brief. You'll have to sit down a give it some thought. All females like a good personal man story mention how fit you are how much you take care of your self add in your likes and dislikes. Take a pen and paper and check out 3xmale are 3xfemale intro,s take kee words and phrases and adopt them to your intro.your photos, show a happy smiling laughing you.just my two cents worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP, it can take a while so my advice is play around with your profile if you don't think it's working, maybe a few more pics but the most important thing to remember is this meant to be fun.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

You’ve only been on here a week. It can take a while to become established on fab.

You’re younger than some people’s children. Nothing you can do about that, but you may struggle to get replies.

Your status is very unappealing, most will pass on you.

Whilst you don’t need a degree in English to connect with people on here, most will look at your grammar, punctuation and spelling. So proofreading your text is a must.

Presently, your profile doesn’t tell us very much. Fill out your profile a little about you and who you’re looking for.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

Your latest status could be an indicator

"Any lady’s around Manchester for shag"

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"Your latest status could be an indicator

"Any lady’s around Manchester for shag"

"
it is a bit off putting.don't try to make it sound like you are God's gift. Is this how you approach all women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your latest status could be an indicator

"Any lady’s around Manchester for shag"

LOL!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I didn't get past your status at the moment to be honest. Refinement can be such a wonderful turn on for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to put some effort in. In effect you dont actually have a profile, it says nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your latest status could be an indicator

"Any lady’s around Manchester for shag"

LOL!

"

Instant turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

Your status

Your one line, misspelled profile wording.

Your age.

Your picture isn’t especially enticing either tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody wants a shag?!

How disgraceful!

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Why is no one responding on my profile

Your status

Your one line, misspelled profile wording.

Your age.

Your picture isn’t especially enticing either tbh.

"

This plus "anyone want a shag "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile

Your status

Your one line, misspelled profile wording.

Your age.

Your picture isn’t especially enticing either tbh.

This plus "anyone want a shag " "

His status, you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to put some effort in, some teasing photos, remove the status, correct your spelling and don't expect others to ask

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Your latest status could be an indicator

"Any lady’s around Manchester for shag"

"

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

22 years old and short of meets ???

Surely at 22 there are plenty of ways to encounter the opposite sex...!!

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"Or because you look like you’ve lost your dog on your picture

A tad harsh.. lol But it made me giggle.."

Me too lol, H

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

You've made so little effort with your profile, it would lead me to believe you would put as little effort into a meet or sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here a week.

Most single guys struggle to get anywhere near getting a meet until they've been on here for at least six months.

What were your expectations of this site?

That you could type a couple of lines of text and be fighting women off with a stick within hours?

Instashag this is not.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Your profile isn't appealing in the slightest.

It seems you have come on here just looking for a quick shag. This is a swingers site, not a sex site, and yes there is a difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

Change “hoop” to “hope”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile

Did you come here expecting easy sex? I think alot of younger guys get the impression that fab is just for quick hook ups, it can be that but I'd say more than half want to form friendships/connections with people.

PoF or tinder might be more what you're looking for. "
defo in the wrong place if he's looking for easy sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

If you've only been on the site a short time you need to be patient.

The numbers aren't on your side. There are probably 100 men for every woman. Women are swamped with messages. I expect most women don't even bother emailing and wait for thr emails to come in. My wife has a profile and gets 100-200 messages a day. She can not read them all so many get deleted or ignored or just missed.

I am sure other women get many more.

So you have to have a great profile, have a good profile picture (no dick pictures) and write a great email to a lot of women before you get one reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

Surprise anyone has responded at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your intro is very brief. You'll have to sit down a give it some thought. All females like a good personal man story mention how fit you are how much you take care of your self add in your likes and dislikes. Take a pen and paper and check out 3xmale are 3xfemale intro,s take kee words and phrases and adopt them to your intro.your photos, show a happy smiling laughing you.just my two cents worth. "
that's very sensible advice to give.

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By *rystaldenisonWoman
over a year ago

salisbury

Profiles kinda shit tbh x

Needs more pics and info

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Generic male profile, be more surprised if you did get any replies. Do a forum search for advice for single males. Plenty out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im struggling to find a female im 55yrs old

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By *lipperywhenwet07Couple
over a year ago

llanelli


"Why is no one responding on my profile

Your status

Your one line, misspelled profile wording.

Your age.

Your picture isn’t especially enticing either tbh.

"

Not even spelt his hometown correctly

Nor found his lost dog

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield


"Or because you look like you’ve lost your dog on your picture

A tad harsh.. lol But it made me giggle.."

Gotta admit it made me chuckle too.

In all seriousness - and I say this as someone who gets very few replies too, so it may be terrible advice - your profile is badly spelt and punctuated, and you use text speak. Both those things create a bad first impression. OK, not everyone is great at spelling and grammar, but there are ways around it (online checkers, for example) or for those who have difficulties like dyslexia, a short note will mean people make extra allowance, otherwise no one is going to try to read what you couldn't be bothered to write properly, its a basic courtesy to do so.

You say you have hobbies, but only list one (travelling, two 'l's), list some more, make yourself a bit more three dimensional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what you are eating. But you'd be better off with cheesy wotsits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had direct success through this site. All my successes have been through meeting people at clubs etc although this site is invaluable for help and advice particularly for youngsters.

So, get yourself into clubs and start chatting to people - chat to anyone about anything. Be interesting, be fun and be chilled - but never expect you're going to get something because that will show in your body language.

It's all about making friends and trust.

Give you an example - a few weeks ago I was in a naturists spa club minding my own business when my mate comes in. We're both sitting chatting in the jacuzzi not bothering with anyone else. A MF couple ASK if they can jump in. They do and they start kissing and cuddling. My mate and I are still chatting to each other. They join in the chat. 15 minutes of chat and laughs and then we're all having grown up fun in the jacuzzi which was followed by an invite to join them in a play room.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It takes months to get established here for you single guys typically, so setting your expectations accordingly is the only way to be happy when it's slow. You can of course do things that improve your potential success, if you follow the good advice on the various posts from men looking for help.

Get photos that let people know if they find you attractive. Smile. Show your body, so it's clear if you may be someone of interest.

Usually single men don't sell themselves well but their profile is the key place to do it. Read some other lads profiles and compare your own. Be yourself but it needs effort.

Get to social events to meet people and get knowm.

But if nothing else, everyone must ensure anyone looking at them will be able to have a good idea if they find you physically attractive and your personality seems right and you have a sexual compatibility. Good luck!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why is no one responding on my profile"

Bio, not long enough

Profile pic, try using one your mate didn't take during a lunch hour

Your age, young men don't do well as some women probably have a son your age.

And that probably the start.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Think of yourself as a product and work harder to get yourself noticed and be polite to other site members

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