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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I have been a member on this site, and Fabguys for many years now, with multiple accounts/attempts on each. However I have had no luck and I don’t want to abandon the sites but I don’t understand what goes wrong? Any advice? Is it something on my profile? As my main belief is my age, however many other men my age so okay...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

You say you've had multiple accounts over many years but you're only 20 so you haven't given any account much of a chance as it takes time and effort on here. My advice would be to stop closing your accounts and be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How old are you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve only made one other account on each, with this being kinda new, but thank you for the feedback x

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By *ibaldguyMan
over a year ago

pontefract

You say you don’t accommodate and can’t travel.....kind of limits the options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh right okay, well I live with people and don’t drive, would being able to be picked up etc classed as being able to travel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile picture would be a huge turn off for me

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By *ooBoo2300Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I won’t meet people who haven’t been verified by someone else in person. Perhaps you should take it easy and be patient, go to some social events and concentrate on making friends in the lifestyle. Then the meets for sex will be easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't possibly comment on your profile, be it positive or negative as to do so would be very very naughty indeed (and invoke a forum ban from the Powers That Be which I don't want)

So I'm afraid it's guesswork on your behalf my friend.

B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah okay! What would you recommend? (Besides face I can’t with my line of work)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I have been a member on this site, and Fabguys for many years now, with multiple accounts/attempts on each. However I have had no luck and I don’t want to abandon the sites but I don’t understand what goes wrong? Any advice? Is it something on my profile? As my main belief is my age, however many other men my age so okay..."

Many years?

And you're 20?

Righty ho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right okay maybe I worded that incorrectly, but still had it years none the less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah okay! What would you recommend? (Besides face I can’t with my line of work)"
...Much better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh right okay, well I live with people and don’t drive, would being able to be picked up etc classed as being able to travel?"

Lets be honest mate. Nobody is going to want to pick you up and then accom for you and then drive you home for a meet. Theres plenty who can do one or even both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics don't look like they are the same person... Not sure how you aren't doing at least ok on fab guys tho... It's full of men wanting to shag other, similar, men ennit?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s most likely my camera quality and lighting not gonna lie as I’ve got a new phone and some pics are older I can see why you’d think that I guess

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There's so many red flags when I look at your your thread and profile

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I can't possibly comment on your profile, be it positive or negative as to do so would be very very naughty indeed (and invoke a forum ban from the Powers That Be which I don't want)

So I'm afraid it's guesswork on your behalf my friend.

B"

Why do people think that. It says in the rules it's ok to talk about someone's profile if its pertinent to the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, I'd say, change your bareback pic in your album, maybe to a clothed full length one of you alone, minus your face. Put can travel, after all there are buses I'd guess. Maybe write a little detail of what you like personally and sexually and your no no's. Be cheerful on your status messages, chat in the forums, go to socials if possible.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback!!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"I can't possibly comment on your profile, be it positive or negative as to do so would be very very naughty indeed (and invoke a forum ban from the Powers That Be which I don't want)

So I'm afraid it's guesswork on your behalf my friend.

B

Why do people think that. It says in the rules it's ok to talk about someone's profile if its pertinent to the thread"

I was thinking that too. The OP is actually asking for advice on his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is looking great now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Big thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bareback pic would definitely put me off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A few people mentioned that I have since removed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't possibly comment on your profile, be it positive or negative as to do so would be very very naughty indeed (and invoke a forum ban from the Powers That Be which I don't want)

So I'm afraid it's guesswork on your behalf my friend.

B

Why do people think that. It says in the rules it's ok to talk about someone's profile if its pertinent to the thread

I was thinking that too. The OP is actually asking for advice on his profile. "

Had a ban recently due to this though and we hadn't gave out any advice or constructive criticism on a profile at all without an OP asking for it that we recalled.

Therefore we no longer give out any advice in case we're on the receiving end again, though will happily do so via PM, which we have in this case.

It's once bitten twice shy with the mods really and we'd advise everyone else to be very guarded with their comments on the forums just in case the same happens to them, even if the OP has asked for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine this is the most messages this gent has received from people reaching out. It's great to help others out and it's brilliant that fab members pull together and are there for each other more than just sexually xx

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By *urhamgurlWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"Profile picture would be a huge turn off for me "

I agree. If your profile picture looks like a prick I wonder if the person is also a prick

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. To clear up the cat travel or accommodate thing you could mention in your profile you are only looking to meet in Hull

Put on some better pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too. Then get off the site and meet people socially or try a club.

There are plenty of people that would be interested in meeting with a young guy like you, us for example if you had been closer, but the hardest part is finding and attracting those people.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bit at end of profile about ‘skat, pee and pooh’ sounds like a kid, can you reword it? You have a vast array of sexual interests including cross dressing, that may put off some and entice others. Also the pics of the lad in the veri that was left for you would put me off personally, with that pink thing hanging out his arse.

All the above would put me off personally. But I have different outlooks to some on here so if you happy, all the power to you

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle


"It’s most likely my camera quality and lighting not gonna lie as I’ve got a new phone and some pics are older I can see why you’d think that I guess "

You should be aware your cock pic with the varying light and camera is being used on porn sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can certainly travel using public transport, bus, train, taxi - depends where you go. So just do not say in your profile: Can’t Travel as you can for sure to travel locally, within reasonable distance.

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By *eliciouslyWoman
over a year ago

Mallow


"Oh right okay, well I live with people and don’t drive, would being able to be picked up etc classed as being able to travel?"

Being picked up ??your not asking for much are you

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

Your public pics are all cock. need to have a variety of different pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

were to start???

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