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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have got a meet with a bloke who has booked a hotel for us on Saturday and was just wanting to know peoples experiences and did they go to reception or straight to there room we have been on hotel meet before but we was stopping there so just went to there room but we are not this time just going meeting then home any advice muchly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go straight to the room!

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

Just go straight to the room, or meet the person in the bar. People on reception won’t be too bothered if you’re guests or not. Just walk in as if you are.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

One person check in, then let you know what room they're in, or meet you at the bar.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for advice cant wait now

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Can I ask, what if it’s a low budget hotel and you can’t get lost in the bar area and have to walk past Reception to get to the room? How does that work with a 3 or 4 some??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether you can go straight up to the room might depend on whether there's access to the rooms/lifts without a key card. But if he's checked in first he'll know that. So it may be that he has to come meet you in the lobby

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By *ngelsbyname88Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

We’ve never had an issue getting past reception, just act natural and as long as it’s not a traveloge etc you’ll normally be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some hotels you need a card to get to the rooms so i would ask. You could meet in the bar first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve never had an issue getting past reception, just act natural and as long as it’s not a traveloge etc you’ll normally be fine."

What's the issue with Travelodges?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve never had an issue getting past reception, just act natural and as long as it’s not a traveloge etc you’ll normally be fine.

What's the issue with Travelodges? "

Why do people feel they have to sneak around and into hotels. Most hotels won't be bothered it is called discretion . Few could learn about it on here, anyway I digress. I would be very cautious about going straight to the room of someone you have never met. Would always seek to meet in a public place, bar or cafe. The case highlighted in the press TV about the student who met a guy off tinder. Your safety don't put yourself at risk. We meet in hotels primarily now you don't need to sneak around unless you have something to hide

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I have done it both ways. They came straight to the room and I have met couples in the bar.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"We have got a meet with a bloke who has booked a hotel for us on Saturday and was just wanting to know peoples experiences and did they go to reception or straight to there room we have been on hotel meet before but we was stopping there so just went to there room but we are not this time just going meeting then home any advice muchly appreciated "

Go straight to the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

How do you know they will behave in the room even if you meet them in the bar first? You still do not know the person! Do you go on your gut feeling or what? Have you ever turned them down in the bar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

You don't but it gives you chance to evaluate the situation and them in a safer environment. Yes it is partly experience, partly gut feeling/intuition and yes have left in the pub/bar before now. A lot of guys especially if they have paid for hotel feel you owe them, your safety is paramount but more to the point you may just not click - no spark if you are in hotel room you have lost any kind if escape plan or safety net

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

Never ceases to amaze me the risks some people take for a fuck.

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Our first and only hotel meet upto now anyway we met the guy In bar and chatted bout general life stuff. Then got onto swinging. What we wanted out of the experience. We went to his room and well...... We will be meeting him again. And he has become a friend. Go and enjoy the experience and have fun. K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that most genuine solo guys on the scene and know the scene would suggest you met up first in a bar or pub first anyway on the first meet.

The guys that have booked room and expect you to go there directly would raise a number of warning flags

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By *utton SimonMan
over a year ago

Sutton

From experience , ( and I hope you have had a phone chat to arrange a first meet) meet at the bar first , for a light refreshment then up to the room for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet in the bar area first. Have a drink and a chat to get to know them. If there's no chemistry then you are in a public area with other people around you and you have no obligation to go up to the to the room. If there is chemistry then just walk past reception looking confident. Hotel staff are not stupid and see this all the time so don't worry about that. Have fun and think about personal safety.

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By *jleedsCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We met in a bar 1st the wife went and checked in then came back and gave us a room card l we chatted for abit 1st whilst she got ready.then shes met a lad by her self and just left him a rm key but she had vid chatted nd played on cam with him for abit 1st tho just go with your gut feelin

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"One person check in, then let you know what room they're in, or meet you at the bar.

Have fun

As a single person I'd have done a social first of course...

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By *ady Penny Morgan SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Near you .......

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

We would never go straight to the room if you have not met before, that's crazy meet first in a safe place then decide what you want to do with your safety always first..

Or do what the others want and go straight to the room yes it might be fine but on the dark side you could get robbed or worse shuts the door and another 6 guys in the room waiting which happened on here!

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

If I was single female meeting I'd never go straight to the room of someone I'd never met. You are putting yourself into a situation that you have no control over- could say guys have you where they want you and maybe trapped in a situation you don't want to be in."
I actually prefer meeting for a relaxing drink first. Some natural flirting coupled with nervous tension all adds to the occasion but I let the people I'm meeting decide how they want to meet as I'm happy with either.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We’ve always met in the bar first then gone up to the room together when everyone feels comfortable x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A couple of my woman friends were staying in a hotel last Christmas. Mr N and I went to meet them for a platonic drink and went up to their room. It's no different

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"We’ve never had an issue getting past reception, just act natural and as long as it’s not a traveloge etc you’ll normally be fine.

What's the issue with Travelodges? "

They generally have a locked doors from reception that need a key card. Even if you go through the door in one I stayed in recently you couldn't even get to the stairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you will usually find with budget hotels that they won’t ask many questions but please be aware that most hotels now when using the elevator you will need a key card. Also get the person your meeting to be waiting in the lounge/bar area for you.

From a hotel receptionist

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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It can be nice to have a drink together in the bar and then go together to the room

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We always meet our meets at the bar first then go to the room together when everyone feels happy and comfortable with each other

Gem

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over a year ago

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By *niceguyMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Do whatever you are comfortable with. A nice guy should give you the option of meeting at the bar or going straight to the room!

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

I've arrived early and got a couple of room keys from reception. then let the people know what the hotels entry system is so they aren't surprised.

i'd always arranged to meet them in a public area any way rather than the room.

if going to the room they are given the room key either to go ahead or what ever they felt comfortable with.

it seems it's just your nerves lol.

Travelodge, is always room keys to get anywhere. you cant beat premier inns though as they usually are busier and have a pub attached.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

As somebody previously said it’s not a premier in or travel lodge you’ll be fine. You can just go to the room. And another gentleman said arriving early and he would text the same as I would lay out how to walk past reception where to find lift and if I felt there was any issues at all would happily meet at the bar with the spare key to give to you and then either go up with you or separately if you felt more comfortable with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how most guys say go straight to the room is there a reason they don't want to be seen in public?

Some guys with entirely the wrong attitude want the easiest option, that being you deliver yourself to their door. Their focus is the sex but don't want to pay for a working girl to arrive. They don't have to be seen in public with you, nor partake is for example a drink or meal. That's dating in their misguided mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why i would never meet in a hotel.. look after yourselves girls and boys

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Do whatever you are comfortable with. A nice guy should give you the option of meeting at the bar or going straight to the room!

I think it’s the ladies who should set the options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yous should meet up in the bar in the hotel 1st. Yous might find out that he's not like yous thought about him. Have a drink 1st see if yous are compatible

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"OP you will usually find with budget hotels that they won’t ask many questions but please be aware that most hotels now when using the elevator you will need a key card. Also get the person your meeting to be waiting in the lounge/bar area for you.

From a hotel receptionist"

I wonder if you've ever checked me in...?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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From a hotel receptionist

I wonder if you've ever checked me in...? "

Or out?

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

That could be taken 2 ways....

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I've worked in Hotel Management for over 40 years, so let me clear up a few points.

1. For those who say most hotels need Key access to lifts, that invariably only applies to A FEW properties in the UK, usually in city centre locations or where specific local authority or police advice has recommended that process be applied. Also, it's usually the larger Corporate hotel groups that do that!

On check-in, if the hotel operates Key Cards, ask for 2 keys. You retain one, pass on the other for anyone else visiting you. Plus, you could request at time of booking, for a quiet room location, as Hotels usually pre-allocate rooms for each Day's arrivals & to change it as you arrive, can cause system overload!!

Meet up with your visitors in the Bar or any Lounge areas, then move to your room acting as normal. You generally won't attract attention from Reception staff. We are trained to be discreet.

Don't draw attention to yourselves with excessive noise in the room. Equally, don't leave a trashed room. Housekeeping staff can expect rooms to be messy at times, but really bad messed-up rooms could end with an extra cleaning charge or simply, you don't get back in, in future!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a meet once in a hotel in London the room was right by the reception desk all the guys entered the room together the lady was already ensconced 3 hours later 2 of us emerged and left lol

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

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By *tewiethompsonMan
over a year ago

Colchester

If it were me I would arrange to meet in Bar so as to spend a bit of time getting to know the other party (s) . Seems a bit seedy waiting for a knock on the door, surely there's enough time to spend some of it flirting. On subsequent meetings then that's different I suppose and maybe some role play may be in order. But for safety sake surely the bar is the most natural place to meet up for the 1st time. Happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We normally meet in the bar and go from there

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By *ady Penny Morgan SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Near you .......

"If it were me I would arrange to meet in Bar so as to spend a bit of time getting to know the other party (s) . Seems a bit seedy waiting for a knock on the door, surely there's enough time to spend some of it flirting. On subsequent meetings then that's different I suppose and maybe some role play may be in order. But for safety sake surely the bar is the most natural place to meet up for the 1st time. Happy fabbing x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh meet in the bar if I've never met him before ...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Often depends on the hotel, as many keep access to the rooms now barricaded behind key access doors. If you meet at these doors, he could let you straight in. Otherwise outside or in the bar.

Staff are not bothered by decent people who respect them and the property.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If first meet head for the bar and have some chat before deciding if moving to the room . It seems a bit impersonal just heading to the room and stripping off and getting into bed, and he may not be anything like you think he is. I sometimes overthink things but what if he has a couple of mates waiting in the room wanting to do things you are not comfortable with there is no escape. At least in the bar if you don't feel comfortable you have others round you and you can leave. Not sure about hotels but I know asking for Angela to a member of staff in a nightclub is a code word that lets them know you need their help. Arrange with someone to call them before entering the room so they know exactly where you are then call them with a code word if everything is okay .

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

Depends whether you want to get down to it or have a flirty build up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely go straight to the room.......

These hotels bars are expensive.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We met a lovely guy in the bar at a hotel. We’d previously met at AbFabs and had a great time until it was time to leave!

Even though we’d met before it felt better to meet and chat, and then when we all felt comfortable we could go back to the bedroom. It made everything feel more relaxed and less forced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't do it theyll rip you off............ the hotel that is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a guy for a social and arranged next meet at a hotel. We went straight to the room

Unfortunately he was drinking wine from a tumbler. Had three big glasses in about 30 mins. He was so d*unk we decided not to play. First time that’s happened to us .

Being in the room made it more difficult to escape so we’d recommend meeting in the bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of our meets we met guy in bar first. This made it very horny when wife left to go to room for fun leaving me sitting in bar. When she returned walking through bar back passed me & kissed him goodnight at main door before returning to me. Big turn on wondering if anyone noticed. To be fair we had met him previously for a social so we were both at ease with him. Enjoy yourself.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

"This is why i would never meet in a hotel.. look after yourselves girls and boys "
so meet in a bar, make sure they are who the say they are. Have a drink or 2 (non alcoholic if you’re driving) that way you can walk away if you’re not happy. Have a trusted friend you can text meet location to. I’m a guy & I've done that.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

"Definitely go straight to the room.......

These hotels bars are expensive."
not that expensive & that itself says a lot about a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used premier inn no problems

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"We met a lovely guy in the bar at a hotel. We’d previously met at AbFabs and had a great time until it was time to leave!

Even though we’d met before it felt better to meet and chat, and then when we all felt comfortable we could go back to the bedroom. It made everything feel more relaxed and less forced

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That's a very good point. It can be great to have a drink, break the ice so to speak. Unless you know the person you're meeting, turning up cold at a hotel door can be difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely go straight to the room.......

These hotels bars are expensive.not that expensive & that itself says a lot about a person "

Really.......

Well please pick up my next bar bill from the Mandarin Orient in Knightsbridge .... the next time I’m in London........

On side note I find drinking in the UK very expensive compared to the USA......

Beer , cider , lagers , and ale’s are comparable in price.....

But cocktails are twice the money..... and you guys serve smaller portions.....

I always buy my liquor at Duty Free and keep it in my room , when I travel to the UK....

So meeting in the room is a better option, plus you guys are a couple.... if he try’s anything , hubby is there to protect you...

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"We’ve never had an issue getting past reception, just act natural and as long as it’s not a traveloge etc you’ll normally be fine.

What's the issue with Travelodges?

Meeting in the bar for a drink first would always be my preference for a first meet, and usually repeat meets too. It’s enjoyable to share a drink and a chat before retiring to enjoy each other in the bedroom. And there always something exciting about the walk to the bedroom. Always feels, well, naughty

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Depends on the hotel, but I've just gone straight up to the room.

The only awkward bit I find is knocking on the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes upper floors require key cards even though getting by reception doesn’t.

I booked an escort once and she found she could only get to the entrance to the floor I was on. Just got dressed and then let her in. Easy!

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By *iercedlotsCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

We asked the Girl we met to leave us a key card at reception and give the room number.Just state that you have arranged to meet them and that they should have left you a card. Without this you are unlikely to get further than the lift.

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