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Why don’t people talk to me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Like I haven’t had anyone talk to me I don’t get what I’m doing wrong can someone help?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Like I haven’t had anyone talk to me I don’t get what I’m doing wrong can someone help?"

Do you mean generally in life, on the forums or on messages?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....dum-de-dum....[coughs]...[leaves room]...

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

It happens.

Persevere and it may change.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Trying to hard

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Hi OP.

It's very hard on here for guys, especially younger ones.

You need to stand out from the crowd in a positive way and ensure your profile is the best it can be.

Ladies and couples on here have their pick of guys and can be very selective.

Being active in the forums, socials and clubs are all useful for single men.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says you are dating a woman. I presume she talks to you ?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you're waiting for people to message you first it probably won't happen very often. Be proactive if you're not already. If you're not getting replies, maybe think about changing up what you say in your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I haven’t had anyone talk to me I don’t get what I’m doing wrong can someone help?"

It’s just the online world (that’s if your taking about fab) I’m afraid.

Keep going but it can be tough going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have posted saying too many messages etc buddy.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah it’s just I don’t wanna seem like a beg by messaging woman and that ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I just don’t wanna beg it off woman lol so I try not to message haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I’m dating a woman but only seeing her like once a week we ain’t official yet and she knows all about this so she’s fine with it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Yeah it’s just I don’t wanna seem like a beg by messaging woman and that ??"

Oh right ........ They should come to you Sensible move

Best get a blankie and a candle tho........ 1,000,000 h.p. candle.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

OP start a couples profile with your girlfriend . That might help you both find what you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah it is hard o bc here especially when you can’t really be proactive really because I do work so many hours I work 12 and 16 and a half hour shifts

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"OP start a couples profile with your girlfriend . That might help you both find what you are looking for. "

Yeppers..... always use the woman as bait.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just on this site I guess lol

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ehm! What does owning ur own home got to do with meeting folk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I haven’t had anyone talk to me I don’t get what I’m doing wrong can someone help?"
who knows, maybe its the way you message, maybe its your age, maybe its your profile, when you message do you read target profile and fit that profiles preferences?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Without knowing what you are doing OP it's very difficult to be able to tell you how you might improve your experience - you've not asked for profile advice either so can't give any.

Generically though when people say they're struggling to find what they're looking for here it comes down to a number of things:

Profile - make sure your profile sells you well, shows you have given some thought to what you are looking for from the site, and gives a flavour of both who you are and what you think you can offer to prospective meets - try and make it stand out and not be generic, insert some personality to it.

Pictures - build up a decent set of pics that are enticing and teasing and show you off well.

Approach - think about your approach to the site and how you use it - it doesn't have to be about sending messages cold to people you like the look of, the forums and chat rooms are good ways to get to know people and they you.

Attitude - be positive, be respectful and considerate and accept that you won't be for everyone and that it may take some time to find what you're looking for.

Expectations - set them to the lowest possible setting and then turn them down another notch.

None of the above will guarantee a thing but they will make your experience of the site better.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Ehm! What does owning ur own home got to do with meeting folk! "

Difficult to accommodate if you live with your parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah it is hard o bc here especially when you can’t really be proactive really because I do work so many hours I work 12 and 16 and a half hour shifts "

You havent got time to be proactive?

So how on earth will you find the time to actually meet people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Days off like I’ve got a week off from the 24th but I also get Monday’s off so it’s like one day a week atm but after Christmas I’m getting my hours and days cut down

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

[Removed by poster at 17/11/19 12:31:37]

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Just on this site I guess lol "

Let me get this straight, you're not happy because you don't message people, you're not online much and you're waiting for people to message you and they aren't?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I can’t exactly bring woman back to mine lol like I can get hotels and that or go to there’s but that’s it

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Ehm! What does owning ur own home got to do with meeting folk!

Difficult to accommodate if you live with your parents"
In that case 'write i dont have my own flat! Its the owning a home! I dunno id think why do i wanna know...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m online quite a bit actually as I get bored in the office lol but I’m okay I just wasn’t sure how I was going about using this site and how to talk to people on it I’m not much of a people person that’s why I got myself a quite job sitting in an office on my own

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m online quite a bit actually as I get bored in the office lol but I’m okay I just wasn’t sure how I was going about using this site and how to talk to people on it I’m not much of a people person that’s why I got myself a quite job sitting in an office on my own "

So why not message people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I try to but no one replies lol the ones I have messaged

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Well I try to but no one replies lol the ones I have messaged "

If you use the Quote + Reply button people will know who you're responding to.

As for lack of replies, take a look at my post further up for some help with how you might improve that - often people will take a look at a profile before even opening a message, so take a look at yours and ask yourself, honestly, if you'd reply to you if you sent yourself a message.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Well I try to but no one replies lol the ones I have messaged "

Maybe they find your status puzzling.

"Anyone looking for a bull or cuckold? Me and a girl I'm dating are looking".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I’m dating a woman but only seeing her like once a week we ain’t official yet and she knows all about this so she’s fine with it "

According to your status are you looking for a bull and you’ll be the cuck ? Or have I got it wrong

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By *enusInFursCouple
over a year ago

Essex/Suffolk border


"Like I haven’t had anyone talk to me I don’t get what I’m doing wrong can someone help?"

Your profile is not very inspiring to be honest... tell us more about you.. what you want, like, who you are, what you’re looking for etc.. some fun pics.. smartly clothed.. etc xx Venus

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