FabSwingers.com forum: Let's Be Honest, Fabswingers Is Shite For Meeting People For Sex!!!

By *obey Dick OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

As the title says, for single males, its hard work!! You go to the trouble of writing a profile, writing a nice message to a couple or a lady, only to get deleted without even an explanation. And then when they put up that they want to get to know you first and your favourite colour etc!!! Why??? Its a site to meet for sex, thats it!!! I get more attention on Facebook!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because women get 100 messages a day and they don't owe you a reply. My wife has a singles profile and hates getting so many messages from guys who clearly are desperate for sex.

Perhaps the distinction is its supposed to be a site for swinging and not actually to provide horny guys instant gratification.

It's no different to real life. You put effort in to get a result out. You would not get to meet some girl in a club and expect to go straight to bed after 60 seconds conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the site isn't living up to your expectations then perhaps you should go back to Facebook

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By *nswingableWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Where on this says it’s a sex site ? This is a swingers site which you don’t seem to be able to differentiate from the two . If I were you I would spend a little time researching swinging before you sound off about people not wanting to meet you for sex !

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No response or deleted message = no thanks. Do you really want to know that you're too short/ too hairy/ too old /too blah blah blah?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet people and have sex. I meet people who want the same thing I do, to enjoy each others company and feel a connection. You clearly see it as somewhere that women will just meet strangers and have sex with them after exchanging a few messages. If it was that easy then how come there's a billion pound sex industry in this country. Why are men paying for sex and not just getting it here for free. Doesn't make sense, does it. I meet the men who can see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where on this says it’s a sex site ? This is a swingers site which you don’t seem to be able to differentiate from the two . If I were you I would spend a little time researching swinging before you sound off about people not wanting to meet you for sex !

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

Yep it’s a swingers site not a sex site. Want sex go and pay for it.....

Swingers are her for socials as well as fun.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

All the men we have meet has been from clubs or parties where we have actually talked and seen them ,might be best route for single men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then maybe stick to Facebook.

Not all men find it difficult

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

You need instashag site instead. Believe they have a special offer on 3 holes for the price of 2

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We often meet people from this site - but not the whining, entitled single men who think we should shag them just because they asked how we are!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I don't see it as a site to meet JUST for sex.

It's a place I can meet like minded people, some of which I may be attracted to, and would like to have sex with.

Without getting to know them first, I won't know if I want to have sex with them.

I have made some brilliant friendships on here, people I don't have sex with, but who I love spending time with, going out together, and occasionally we go out, to clubs and have sex with other people.

Swinging is way more than just fucking a load of random people.

If you can't grasp that, then this isn't the site for you

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Bye then

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Because all the women get fanny flutters when a guy whines.

Way to go fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

You feel better tomorrow, give it time to pass!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need instashag site instead. Believe they have a special offer on 3 holes for the price of 2

OMG that's funny xxx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"We often meet people from this site - but not the whining, entitled single men who think we should shag them just because they asked how we are!"

Hi, how are you ?

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

It’s a swingers site....plus what makes you think it’s always single males??...have you ever thought that it’s not just males and possibly others have to work at getting meets(not sex)

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm so turned on right now

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

Exactly

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

You need instashag site instead. Believe they have a special offer on 3 holes for the price of 2

I've tried that offer but didn't read the small print.

Met a girl and got to shag two nostrils and an ear

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We think it’s a good site and it’s easy to see the fakers meet some lovely people on this site

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

You need instashag site instead. Believe they have a special offer on 3 holes for the price of 2

I've tried that offer but didn't read the small print.

Met a girl and got to shag two nostrils and an ear "

Always read the small print

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I think it’s a hard place to meet people as well. It’s hard to get a feel of someone via here. Much better to see them in action and face to face. Most of my meets have been through parties or clubs.

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

"I think it’s a hard place to meet people as well. It’s hard to get a feel of someone via here. Much better to see them in action and face to face. Most of my meets have been through parties or clubs. "

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Swinger site is not sex site, simple, period. Everyone has their own cryteria.X

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Because all the women get fanny flutters when a guy whines"

Why won't anybody shag me? It's so UNFAIR!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are normally very positive about single guys on here, but come on what a silly post to make,

It's not a sex site in the way you see it you don't just pick someone, and boom that weekend your having sex with them (well maybe there's a few on here that would

But mostly not, of course I can only talk from our experience as a couple,

And we do like to meet single man,

But we tend to find them and make the first move,

My advice would be don't just use fab for meeting people go to a swingers club or the old fashioned way the pub, offer to buy someone you like the look of a drink

You never know you might meet "The One"

Write a nice profile put some sexy photos on it and chill out, check on it once day or whatever, and don't let this shit consume you xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

So, I want to get to know people before I fuck them.

There's a very basic, very non negotiable reason for this. I want to have fun and go home, not via the police station or hospital.

Oh but you're a nice guy. Maybe, but the not nice guys say that too.

I'm very sorry my need for safety (among other things, respect, attraction, having time among the other things I do in my life) overrides your desire to get your end away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are there so many whiny men on here?

I do ok but maybe because I actually read profiles before messaging and can accept rejection without crying about it.

Also this is not a sex site so you need to learn the difference.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Why are there so many whiny men on here?

I do ok but maybe because I actually read profiles before messaging and can accept rejection without crying about it.

Also this is not a sex site so you need to learn the difference."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest going to a breeding party.....

Click on my green arrow and send a message to all the people that said breeding party’s actually exist.....

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

As a women and like many other males and females on here...I still have standards and won’t fuck anyone, I’m not in any rush nor am I desperate.

I enjoy getting to know someone.

Most importantly though people need to remember we have lives behind these profiles...and for safety reasons, work, family, meetings aren’t always possible I’m a small time frame.

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By *retty.blue.eyesWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I've had this discussion with a few guys of late, few messages then 'wanna fuck' when I politely explain that I'd like maybe to meet for a social and see where that leads I get called a time waster and 'don't you know it's a sex site'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so easy for women and couples either.

Do you think people fall at our feet at the first message?

Do you think we're attracted to and wanting to spend time with others that message us?

There can be hurdles everywhere for everyone, from safety issues, mutual attraction or lack of, to people trying to cause upset within your relationship for whatever reason they choose (some wanted the guy, some dislike the woman)

For me personally I wish I could look at someone and think "yep, I fancy them let's get them over" but I can't. I need to get to know people first and their personality determines whether I do or not.

It can get overwhelming when there are so many messages and so many people who I feel negatively about that it can make me want to vanish. Yes it takes time to find those who click on the levels needed on BOTH sides depending on the levels you both need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god another one of these threads??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've had this discussion with a few guys of late, few messages then 'wanna fuck' when I politely explain that I'd like maybe to meet for a social and see where that leads I get called a time waster and 'don't you know it's a sex site'

I call this "being a convenient piece of meat with a hole". Hard pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself along with many other single fems receive tons of messages a day. It’s a big compliment yes, and some messages are very complimentary which is nice and always appreciated.

I simply do not have time to reply to every single male.

If you send me a message I have received 10 other times that same day, I won’t reply.

Think outside of the box. Be different. Be polite. Be cheeky but not too much! And most important DONT copy and paste lol, can spot them a mile off.

I will most certainly reply if I like the look of you, and you have clearly read my profile and sent me a decent message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad its shite for random sex, we are swingers. I wonder what an honest survey would return if all the single guys would be on here and willing to share their wife when/if married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself along with many other single fems receive tons of messages a day. It’s a big compliment yes, and some messages are very complimentary which is nice and always appreciated.

I simply do not have time to reply to every single male.

If you send me a message I have received 10 other times that same day, I won’t reply.

Think outside of the box. Be different. Be polite. Be cheeky but not too much! And most important DONT copy and paste lol, can spot them a mile off.

I will most certainly reply if I like the look of you, and you have clearly read my profile and sent me a decent message.

X "

Ginger ..wow. I have read your profile and admired your pics. I accept your unspoken marriage proposal. Booking the honeymoon where to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself along with many other single fems receive tons of messages a day. It’s a big compliment yes, and some messages are very complimentary which is nice and always appreciated.

I simply do not have time to reply to every single male.

If you send me a message I have received 10 other times that same day, I won’t reply.

Think outside of the box. Be different. Be polite. Be cheeky but not too much! And most important DONT copy and paste lol, can spot them a mile off.

I will most certainly reply if I like the look of you, and you have clearly read my profile and sent me a decent message.

Ginger ..wow. I have read your profile and admired your pics. I accept your unspoken marriage proposal. Booking the honeymoon where to? "

Road trip across Croatia would be my first choice but I’d settle for two weeks in the Caribbean, or the Maldives!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself along with many other single fems receive tons of messages a day. It’s a big compliment yes, and some messages are very complimentary which is nice and always appreciated.

I simply do not have time to reply to every single male.

If you send me a message I have received 10 other times that same day, I won’t reply.

Think outside of the box. Be different. Be polite. Be cheeky but not too much! And most important DONT copy and paste lol, can spot them a mile off.

I will most certainly reply if I like the look of you, and you have clearly read my profile and sent me a decent message.

Ginger ..wow. I have read your profile and admired your pics. I accept your unspoken marriage proposal. Booking the honeymoon where to?

Road trip across Croatia would be my first choice but I’d settle for two weeks in the Caribbean, or the Maldives!

Ive done both those this year so lets do Croatia. You might need to get yourself a mobility scooter though for when you get back

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By *eyFife2020Man
over a year ago

St. Andrews

OMG - what an attitude - yes connecting with someone requires effort and patience and most likely the biggest success in either meeting or connecting will be if you try less hard and comes when less expected -there are wonderful people out there with a similar lifestyle and it is like a lottery win if you actually meet and have a wonderful time together - never ever give anyone grieve for being ignored - i met not many but a few very lovely folks (not all about sex btw) - so yes it is possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh heck and I just joined hoping for mechanical sex.

So, what's your favouritè colour then?

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By *retty.blue.eyesWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I call this "being a convenient piece of meat with a hole". Hard pass. "

Definitely hard pass

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Simple really, were all looking for sex but our approaches to that search are different. For me, my age excludes me probably most of the time so Fab as a way of even communicating with women / couples is almost pointless.

Clubs are much better. You can chat easily and most singles and couples are sociable....hard not to be when you’re all naked for example.

Then, connection made, people will usually indicate interest or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Can anyone explain why Instashag is always mentioned and why is it successful. Or is it?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"It's not so easy for women and couples either.

Do you think people fall at our feet at the first message?

Do you think we're attracted to and wanting to spend time with others that message us?

I know a very attractive single bi lady on here who also struggles to meet the right type of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone explain why Instashag is always mentioned and why is it successful. Or is it? "
intant shags yes you get them just show your dick on profile pic and women message you to meet immediately....... easy as that and its free

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

If the site isn’t working for you then face up to it....you’re not attractive enough online. Try a pub / club instead and socialise...

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By *oxychick35Couple
over a year ago

thornaby

I’m sure you don’t get more attention on Facebook lol

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Can anyone explain why Instashag is always mentioned and why is it successful. Or is it? "

Good old instashag......who knows why it's so successful. Maybe it's the clientelle it attracts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one owes you anything on here.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If the site isn’t working for you then face up to it....you’re not attractive enough online. Try a pub / club instead and socialise..."

Or improve your online presence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone explain why Instashag is always mentioned and why is it successful. Or is it? "

It's a play on words like Instagram, ie instant shag. The term has been around many years now, on this site.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

The site isn’t amazon, where you’re promised a delivery of whatever you decide you deserve. It’s a tool. And only bad workmen blame the tools.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself along with many other single fems receive tons of messages a day. It’s a big compliment yes, and some messages are very complimentary which is nice and always appreciated.

I simply do not have time to reply to every single male.

If you send me a message I have received 10 other times that same day, I won’t reply.

Think outside of the box. Be different. Be polite. Be cheeky but not too much! And most important DONT copy and paste lol, can spot them a mile off.

I will most certainly reply if I like the look of you, and you have clearly read my profile and sent me a decent message.

Ginger ..wow. I have read your profile and admired your pics. I accept your unspoken marriage proposal. Booking the honeymoon where to?

Road trip across Croatia would be my first choice but I’d settle for two weeks in the Caribbean, or the Maldives!

Ive done both those this year so lets do Croatia. You might need to get yourself a mobility scooter though for when you get back

That’s what I like to hear!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it's hard? Yes, yes it is. How often has anything worthwhile come easy? Not very often. One needs to put some effort in.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"So it's hard? Yes, yes it is. How often has anything worthwhile come easy? Not very often. One needs to put some effort in."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

Ahhh so that where I’m going wrong! Thought you pick the girl and hey presto—- shag!

Ffs swinger site isn’t guaranteed sex site! Try 118 hookers are us! THATS guaranteed... if you pay the bill! Females on other hand are guaranteed to meet a guy, if they so wish..

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I think the op shot himself in the foot lol

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By *exyFusionCouple
over a year ago

Near to you

Eady to see why you aren't having any luck. It is a SWINGERS site. If you want a purely hookup site there are plenty out there. "Don't let the door hit ya on your way out" and all that . . .

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

All these carefully crafted responses and not one acknowledgement from the OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These posts always go so well

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"All these carefully crafted responses and not one acknowledgement from the OP?"

It's because we aren't queueing up to shag him.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

"We often meet people from this site - but not the whining, entitled single men who think we should shag them just because they asked how we are!"

This

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By *rank59Man
over a year ago

Northwich

I am soon to be 60. Def not WE. Not slim or tall. No six pack etc.

Yet I have completed my bucket list twice over and done things many men only dream of!

MFFF, sex slaves, all sorts over the last fifteen years. Still have loads of fun, I just choose to be more selective now.

When I arrange parties/GB's/etc you can tell the males that do not have any experience/just want a hole to fuck. they never do well, no matter how VWE or how good the six pack is.

I prefer slim small ladies, yet the best time I have ever had was with a size 30 African lady. She was so much fun!

Swinging is not a fucking site. There is far more to it then that.

Tantric sex allsorts. Again sessions where no actual penetrative sex took place yet every one was fully satisfied and worn out.

So perhaps it is your approach that is wrong?

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"All these carefully crafted responses and not one acknowledgement from the OP?

It's because we aren't queueing up to shag him."

Ah yes of course. I’m caught in a backlog of shagging people who asked how I am, so I haven’t had a chance to get in the queue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys are really successful here some down to them being attractive physically others down to their skills at mental stimulation the common factor is though they put a lot of effort in and guys who do that are usually rewarded.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Some guys are really successful here some down to them being attractive physically others down to their skills at mental stimulation the common factor is though they put a lot of effort in and guys who do that are usually rewarded. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always attend a social or organised even? There is a lot of abuse on here directed towards women, from men who can't handle rejection. Some of the ladies will only play in clubs or meet through socials. For safety reasons.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I am soon to be 60. Def not WE. Not slim or tall. No six pack etc.

Yet I have completed my bucket list twice over and done things many men only dream of!

MFFF, sex slaves, all sorts over the last fifteen years. Still have loads of fun, I just choose to be more selective now.

When I arrange parties/GB's/etc you can tell the males that do not have any experience/just want a hole to fuck. they never do well, no matter how VWE or how good the six pack is.

I prefer slim small ladies, yet the best time I have ever had was with a size 30 African lady. She was so much fun!

Swinging is not a fucking site. There is far more to it then that.

Tantric sex allsorts. Again sessions where no actual penetrative sex took place yet every one was fully satisfied and worn out.

So perhaps it is your approach that is wrong? "

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Even when i was younger and hooking up in pubs/clubs was a thing you usually had a drink or two and chatted for a while before 'tapping off'. Don't think there's ever been a way to fuck someone else that involves just asking for sex and getting it. Maybe if you pay?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

To us, this is a swingers site, not a sex site. We, as well as many others enjoy the social side too as well as the sex.

Perhaps you should try looking elsewhere if you're just wantinf a 'quick fix'.

If you aren't happy on here, no one is forcing you to stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to Facebook then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the op shot himself in the foot lol "
does he have a gun omg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must have accidently logged on to FabWingers.com

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd simply say the women you message don't fancy you enough to want to shag you OP.

It's not rocket science.

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By *randmrsnawtyCouple
over a year ago

PO 36

Your profile shows you only meet during the day and occasional weekends...is that when your other half isn't around?

If Fab isn't what you want then feel free to go elsewhere it's a swingers site not a sex site..

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By *xpandmyhorizonsMan
over a year ago

Co. Antrim

I'm a single guy and I have no problems meeting women and couples.

Maybe it's your attitude that needs to change OP and not the site?

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By *randmrsnawtyCouple
over a year ago

PO 36

"I'm a single guy and I have no problems meeting women and couples.

Maybe it's your attitude that needs to change OP and not the site?"

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I can’t see what your problem is ? If you are getting more attention on Facebook then enjoy the attention there !

Perhaps the ladies of Facebook are seeing a difference in you to the ladies of Fab

One girls coffee is another girls tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could. "

Yes. That's why we have lost interest. The forums are sometimes fun but the emails are just a nightmare.

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I don't get these threads. Do the people that post them think they will be inundated with messages from people willing to throw them a pity shag? We don't meet guys but if we did, we would do everything to avoid the ones that make posts like these. Just screams entitled. It's a swinger's site, not a sex site. There are plenty of other sites and apps for instant hook ups

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. That's why we have lost interest. The forums are sometimes fun but the emails are just a nightmare. "

That sort of pushes some people away from the site. Having to jump through so many hoops for a mediocre encounter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

Yes. That's why we have lost interest. The forums are sometimes fun but the emails are just a nightmare. "
youre already talking to me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could. "

Wow, with that attitude, not even the attached hippo would fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow, with that attitude, not even the attached hippo would fuck you."

Well it's a good thing I'm not attracted to you then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get these threads. Do the people that post them think they will be inundated with messages from people willing to throw them a pity shag? We don't meet guys but if we did, we would do everything to avoid the ones that make posts like these. Just screams entitled. It's a swinger's site, not a sex site. There are plenty of other sites and apps for instant hook ups

Gem"

Well said . I guess some guys think it's an entitlement for sex not a swinging site .. I seem to do ok on fab tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm entitled....... end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

Yes. That's why we have lost interest. The forums are sometimes fun but the emails are just a nightmare. youre already talking to me

I never had an email or a wink from your account? We are not talking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

Yes. That's why we have lost interest. The forums are sometimes fun but the emails are just a nightmare. youre already talking to me

I never had an email or a wink from your account? We are not talking? "
we should be youre gorgeous lol

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Wow, with that attitude, not even the attached hippo would fuck you.

Well it's a good thing I'm not attracted to you then"

Awww bless, the man who can't get laid is throwing his toys out of the pram.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Awww bless, the man who can't get laid is throwing his toys out of the pram."

Nobody said that though

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Awww bless, the man who can't get laid is throwing his toys out of the pram.

Nobody said that though

You didn't need to, bitching about other men ruining the site then making rude comments about women speaks volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Entitlement on here comes from all sides, from guys, ladies and couples.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Presumptuous typical guy on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand. Is there something wrong with the man saying that the site had been ruined by too many horny single. Men sending messages about sex and pictures of their dicks that I don't want to see? It is true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't understand. Is there something wrong with the man saying that the site had been ruined by too many horny single. Men sending messages about sex and pictures of their dicks that I don't want to see? It is true... "
i never do or say that

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

sale

I've had some great times sexually but have formed some good friendships. Even posted a political topic on the forums so actually it has been a revelation and become more than just a place to meet people. Though of course the sexually frustrated should still get in touch ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You didn't need to, bitching about other men ruining the site then making rude comments about women speaks volumes. "

I was stating a fact about males being desperate for sex. You decided to comment and now you're upset about what I said, it is what it is

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Did you miss the part where he made derogatory comments about some women?

You can always block single men if you don't want them to message you.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"You didn't need to, bitching about other men ruining the site then making rude comments about women speaks volumes.

I was stating a fact about males being desperate for sex. You decided to comment and now you're upset about what I said, it is what it is

Your comment about 'attached hippos' was unnecessary and disgusting, I'm not upset, I just think it speaks volumes about the type of man you are.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Some guys are just not destined to meet on here is a fact sadly but alas it is. Some don't come across well they struggle to communicate or just put people off with how they behave. I am not sure if there is a fix for these people but you just can't make people meet someone they are not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you miss the part where he made derogatory comments about some women?

You can always block single men if you don't want them to message you. "

I thought he was making a joke and talking about a real hippo?

I wanted to talk to some. Men so it would have been silly to have blocked them. But I might do just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your comment about 'attached hippos' was unnecessary and disgusting, I'm not upset, I just think it speaks volumes about the type of man you are. "

So you misread my statement, then proceeded to insult my attitude and then finally now you question my manhood? Typical woman

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Your comment about 'attached hippos' was unnecessary and disgusting, I'm not upset, I just think it speaks volumes about the type of man you are.

So you misread my statement, then proceeded to insult my attitude and then finally now you question my manhood? Typical woman

Apologies, I did misread your post about hippos.

I didn't question your manhood at all by the way.

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

You need instashag site instead. Believe they have a special offer on 3 holes for the price of 2

Ive just spend 3 hours looking for it. then I realised

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Its a site to meet for sex, thats it!!! "

It's not, that'll be where you're going wrong

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

These types of posts.. I don't even get to read a message these days (as I'm bloody working) and the next thing I know said person is calling me a cunt ect.

If it's not working for you, I think you need to take a look at yourself and the way you are approaching fab or the couples/women themselves.

No one is obligated to give a response to you. Never understood why people get so angry, if someone doesn't want to meet me then that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't question your manhood at all by the way. "

"says volumes about the type of man you are" Clearly questioning my manhood. But anyways, let's leave it at that, have a good evening

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

Wow, with that attitude, not even the attached hippo would fuck you."
I think you have misunderstood what he actually said ,he wasn't referring to anyone being an hippo ,he cud have also said a galloping hedgehog to get across what he meant

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Basically all the hungry single guys actually ruined the site because they're desperate for pussy and would fuck one attached to hippo if they could.

Wow, with that attitude, not even the attached hippo would fuck you.I think you have misunderstood what he actually said ,he wasn't referring to anyone being an hippo ,he cud have also said a galloping hedgehog to get across what he meant "

Yeah, I noticed that after my bitch fit and apologised

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Op should hire an escort if he's that desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s a waste of time at all. You just need to have more about you than a one liner and a cock pic?

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Agree with last person. Too many guys expect a lot for little in return

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By *indy400TV/TS
over a year ago

The best way to get your result is go to a working girl and give her some money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not difficult at all, its actually very simple and starts with your own attitude and expectation management. You're not going to appeal to everyone or perhaps anyone!

But a good start would be to get over yourself!

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

"And then when they put up that they want to get to know you first "

This made me lol.. Heaven forbid! Someone you're going to have sex with, even having sex with another man's wife and they want to get to know you?!?

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I've always said this about this site ....people have the wrong idea what swinging is all about....this is NOT a sex site ...like another fabster has said if you want sex go pay for it....

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

"And then when they put up that they want to get to know you first

This made me lol.. Heaven forbid! Someone you're going to have sex with, even having sex with another man's wife and they want to get to know you?!?

"
Deffo this we like a chat then hubby likes a video chat ,to decide if we go for a social ,we are sharing ourselves so need to at least like and be able to chat to the guy ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to get to know who I’m gonna be having sex with! If there’s no chemistry it ain’t gonna work! I’ve made some really good friends through this site aswell as having some amazing sex! Just coz they aren’t throwing themselves at you doesn’t mean it’s a waste of time!

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Copy and paste my profile I’m doing ok on here and been on for 8 days but maybe because I’m just a polite well mannered respectful guy who is just himself when speaking to others and not expecting a fuck just because I’ve joined a online site !! Absolutely baffles me what some guys actually think!

And no wonder single ladies and couple get fed up !

I don’t even know you but can guess straight away why you can’t get a meet !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a serious level, as a single guy myself, I completely understand where OP is coming from. I understand the difference between the swinging scene and sex sites, FAB is not all about sexual encounters, it's a lifestyle, socially more often than not.

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

However, even though I understand how it all works, I am still finding it incredibly difficult, almost impossible actually. I'm first to admit that I'm nothing special but I dont think that I'm that bad either. Every message that I send is always polite, friendly and respectful. And yet, my messages get read and ignored or read and deleted, as if I just don't exist.

A few things that I've learnt in my time here,

People seem to be far too fussy/picky. You must be this and you must be that. You can't be this and you can't be that. And something else that I often see written on profiles, a term which I absolutely hate: exceptional males ONLY! and what makes me laugh about that, is that a lot of those women/couples that only want 'exceptional males", well they aren't anything special themselves, I would consider them to be average, like myself.

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

This

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"Copy and paste my profile I’m doing ok on here and been on for 8 days but maybe because I’m just a polite well mannered respectful guy who is just himself when speaking to others and not expecting a fuck just because I’ve joined a online site !! Absolutely baffles me what some guys actually think!

And no wonder single ladies and couple get fed up !

I don’t even know you but can guess straight away why you can’t get a meet !!! "

And this too

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

"On a serious level, as a single guy myself, I completely understand where OP is coming from. I understand the difference between the swinging scene and sex sites, FAB is not all about sexual encounters, it's a lifestyle, socially more often than not.

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

A few things that I've learnt in my time here,

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

How can somebody be to fussy or picky ?? I always struggle with this statement !!

Are you saying you’d meet anyone who contacts you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is men are not as in demand as women and couples. Click on the who is near button and just see how many are men. 90% will be unsuccessful. Not everyone will have what it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we get so many messages every day, I'm on the lower end gathering approx 20-40 messages everyday. If it's nothing unique, I just delete it because if they can't be assed reading my profile I can't be assed giving them a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

A few things that I've learnt in my time here,

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

How can somebody be to fussy or picky ?? I always struggle with this statement !!

Are you saying you’d meet anyone who contacts you? "

I would at least engage in a conversation to find out more about them. Communication is the key to most things in life. How do you know if someone is compatible or not without even talking to them a little first?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

A few things that I've learnt in my time here,

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

People will fuck people they want to fuck, the doesn't make them picky or fussy.

Also, just because you consider someone average, it doesn't mean someone else doesn't think they are exceptional.

Tell me, would you fuck a woman you weren't attracted to just because she wanted to?

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Guys, or more specifically, those that think the site is hard work and doesn’t yield results. You need to understand that this site is a huge entity of likeminded souls.

If you’re finding that everyone you approach blanks you or doesn’t respond then look inwardly and consider that it’s you that may not fit so well.

Your approach to anyone needs to be appealing and a reflection of your self. You wouldn’t expect to walk up to someone in the street and deliver a few lines and have them fall into your arms, encounters and relationships take time, as do friendships.

Take time to read a profile, find out what interests people, singles & couples and then converse.

The result is equal to the effort you put in.

I write this having been a single guy for a long time, with many meets and now as a couple having met my partner on here.

The guys that we meet are more than the sum of their messages, they have a personality and character that makes us want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have enjoy this site.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It works for me.

Generally speaking,if you're successful in the real world you'll be successful on here.

Conversely, if you're successful in the real world but not on here then I'd say hop back to where it works for you.

But if you don't have "the skills" in the real world why would you imagine it would be any different here?

If it isn't working for you here then maybe go try something else that does.

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By *ackinabox19Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

A few things that I've learnt in my time here,

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

How can somebody be to fussy or picky ?? I always struggle with this statement !!

Are you saying you’d meet anyone who contacts you?

Well if they don’t see or read anything they like I don’t think they reply

We all have standard or preferences I wouldn’t class that as picky or fussy it’s like eating something you don’t like just because it’s in front of you !!

I would want anyone to meet or chat to me just because I have contacted them, I want to be interested because they are genuinely interested, I think you should download tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs is 95% rubbish and 5% good. Obviously these figures are based on personal experience but it's experience gained over way to many years. Ditch the screen and get out and meet people in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys, or more specifically, those that think the site is hard work and doesn’t yield results. You need to understand that this site is a huge entity of likeminded souls.

If you’re finding that everyone you approach blanks you or doesn’t respond then look inwardly and consider that it’s you that may not fit so well.

Take time to read a profile, find out what interests people, singles & couples and then converse.

The result is equal to the effort you put in.

I write this having been a single guy for a long time, with many meets and now as a couple having met my partner on here.

The guys that we meet are more than the sum of their messages, they have a personality and character that makes us want to meet them.

1. How do I find out someone's interests if their profile is vague and they won't reply to my message?

2. I put the effort into my messages, always polite, friendly and respectful. Always ask about the person/couple. Always ask to have a chat to see if we click. What more effort can I possibly make?

3. I have a personality/character but no one gets to know my personality because no one will engage me in a conversation

So, catch 22 i think....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

1. How do I find out someone's interests if their profile is vague and they won't reply to my message?

2. I put the effort into my messages, always polite, friendly and respectful. Always ask about the person/couple. Always ask to have a chat to see if we click. What more effort can I possibly make?

3. I have a personality/character but no one gets to know my personality because no one will engage me in a conversation

So, catch 22 i think.... "

1. Don't bother with people whose profiles don't give you enough information.

2. It really depends on the specific messages.

3. Put your character and personality in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fabs is 95% rubbish and 5% good. Obviously these figures are based on personal experience but it's experience gained over way to many years. Ditch the screen and get out and meet people in the flesh."

You win the internet tonight

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire

But having said that, I struggle here too. My profile clearly states that I'm more than happy to meet socially and to build a friendship.

You’ve been here for 3 weeks, so find it quite funny that you are saying that you’re struggling!

3 weeks is no length of time. A lot of profiles will filter out messages from non verified people (mine does not btw), so you’re restricted temporarily until you receive a verification, there are easy ways to get one, but it isn’t what this thread is about.

And you can send all the lovely, polite, directed messages that you like (although I fail to see how many you can have sent in 3 weeks!) it’s more about whether you are sending them to profiles who state that they are looking for someone who fits your MO

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

" People seem to be far too fussy/picky. You must be this and you must be that. You can't be this and you can't be that.

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say "

Ever considered the people who put that, put it because they get a stupid amount of messages daily asking "what you into, what you looking for" ? Personally find it far more helpful if someone writes what they attracted to, saves a wasted message.

Last statement is nonsense.. Women and couples don't rule the scene, suppose we should just be meeting everyone?

Men out number women on here, and why shouldnt couples rule who meets them? Men should be appreciative couples have invited them to join them in the bedroom.

It takes very little to make an effort to get to know someone to be invited to their home. If you can't be bothered to do this stick to one night stands.

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

" People seem to be far too fussy/picky. You must be this and you must be that. You can't be this and you can't be that.

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

Last statement is nonsense.. Women and couples don't rule the scene, suppose we should just be meeting everyone?

Men out number women on here, and why shouldnt couples rule who meets them? Men should be appreciative couples have invited them to join them in the bedroom.

It takes very little to make an effort to get to know someone to be invited to their home. If you can't be bothered to do this stick to one night stands. "

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

There a lot of very diverse people meeting others on here, but those who get the most out of being here all share some common traits: They have a lot of respect for others, they have patience, and they are not entitled. They understand that Fab is not a sex site, it’s just Facebook for people who share a healthy interest in sex, which is a very different thing.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

" People seem to be far too fussy/picky. You must be this and you must be that. You can't be this and you can't be that.

The fact is, the women/couples rule the scene and us single males don't have much of a say

Last statement is nonsense.. Women and couples don't rule the scene, suppose we should just be meeting everyone?

Men out number women on here, and why shouldnt couples rule who meets them? Men should be appreciative couples have invited them to join them in the bedroom.

It takes very little to make an effort to get to know someone to be invited to their home. If you can't be bothered to do this stick to one night stands. "

spot on

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Why shouldn't anyone be fussy?

I use my precious free time, carefully groom myself to an exacting standard, and go make my body vulnerable and put myself at (usually small) risk in part for another person's pleasure.

Damn right I'm going to be bloody fussy! I would be if I were in the minority as well.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. There are repeated posts on similar threads from guys just like you who, in the nicest way possible, seem to view this site as an Instant Shag site.

It's not!

What a lot of Males fail to grasp is whilst they are the majority on here, it doesn't qualify themselves for a Meet.

Just as it would be in everyday life, say in dating, there's a process to go through; it's not instantaneous, but has to be worked on, possibly over time.

Rejection occurs at any stage in life, especially on here, but some guys won't or can't accept that!

Over the years I've been on here, I've had my share of knocks, refusals, or being turned away at the last minute.

But equally, I have met some wonderful people from all walks of life, some whom I've continued to meet socially too.

It is that Social interaction that underlies any meeting and each event is a bonus for me, regardless if anything occurred?

To many guys, they fail to realise that Patience & Perseverance are key elements towards any success.

They also fail to "reinvent" themselves, ie, to periodically tweak their profile to move with the times and circumstances.

The general piece of advice is, the more you put in (ie effort), the greater the result. But it takes time!

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

"It's not so easy for women and couples either.

Do you think people fall at our feet at the first message?

Do you think we're attracted to and wanting to spend time with others that message us?

We also agree with this there has to be some sort of compatibility and attraction you can’t possibly answer every single message that comes up and when you do say a polite no Thankyou happy fabbing you get things like why what have I done , any reason why , or they don’t take the hint we are quite happy to move on after someone says not for us or doesn’t answer xx plenty more on here to chat to

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

Mate if you are here for casual nookie or fabled 3 domes forget it! .. you have to work very hard . Eventually you will probably just settle for a reality check ..seated quietly in the corner sipping your beer and watch the rest of the world being happy instead

it works for me

You never know though your experience might be different . He who dares ..

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By *oinus1961Couple
over a year ago

Huntingdon

OP probably meant to sign up to a free hooker site but got here by accident.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Agree with the others it's not a sex site it's a swingers site - big difference.

As a single woman I get about 20 msgs a day and 80% have not read my profile or just say "wanna f**k". I don't reply to any men who don't have pictures (not even a dick pic) or any that only have one line on their profile.

I get abuse when I don't reply to every msg (usually calling me fat, ugly or stupid)

I WILL be selective for my own safety

Sorry for ranting

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

This is not a catalogue where you flick through the pages and pick someone to have sex with you !

Stop giving real swingers a bad name !

Well said, we know lots of single men who do very well in the swinging world and it's not cos of there looks,or body its because you only get out what you put in . This sort of self titled attitude is not a turn on

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By *khotcouple20Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

It's a hard out world out there being a member of a site where thousands of guys wanna show their wives off to you... Such a hard life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm glad its shite for random sex, we are swingers. I wonder what an honest survey would return if all the single guys would be on here and willing to share their wife when/if married."

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Because women get 100 messages a day and they don't owe you a reply. My wife has a singles profile and hates getting so many messages from guys who clearly are desperate for sex.

Perhaps the distinction is its supposed to be a site for swinging and not actually to provide horny guys instant gratification.

It's no different to real life. You put effort in to get a result out. You would not get to meet some girl in a club and expect to go straight to bed after 60 seconds conversation. "

Although you are right i've always thought the analogy pretty shit. those going out go to dance, drink have a good time, not necessarily to end up having sex? You say this is a swingers site yet i'd hazard a guess that many on here wouldn't be seen dead in a swingers club..

So when is the point when the OP is not a swinger & another meeting others for sex at their home or car or hotel is?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

We’ve met loads of people for sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most people have got the OP wrong, most of the people answering appear to be genuine swingers who do meet, but there is a growing number of profiles on here that are fake or used for purposes other than swinging. A lot of people I know don’t bother using fabs to try to meet genuine people anymore and usually meet people via clubs, I and lots of others have found it’s gone down hill in those terms over the past 5 years or so. It can be very frustrating as a guy on here but there are probably more efficient ways of finding ladies than moaning on the forum

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"As the title says, for single males, its hard work!! You go to the trouble of writing a profile, writing a nice message to a couple or a lady, only to get deleted without even an explanation. And then when they put up that they want to get to know you first and your favourite colour etc!!! Why??? Its a site to meet for sex, thats it!!! I get more attention on Facebook!!! "
8 months amember and 2 meets. imo for not well known single lad that's cany good , again like others have said you only want to meet daytimes or weekends so really you want others to meet around what ever life style you have , so again cuts down on your meet options , you don't accom again cutting options down .see where this is going, and by the way it can be as hard for cpls setting meets up. don't have expectations on this site , again moaning wont get more meets..tends to put people off when they twist, but good luck.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I think most people have got the OP wrong, most of the people answering appear to be genuine swingers who do meet, but there is a growing number of profiles on here that are fake or used for purposes other than swinging. A lot of people I know don’t bother using fabs to try to meet genuine people anymore and usually meet people via clubs, I and lots of others have found it’s gone down hill in those terms over the past 5 years or so. It can be very frustrating as a guy on here but there are probably more efficient ways of finding ladies than moaning on the forum

I don't think that was his point at all, he's asking why people want to get to know someone rather than just meeting for a quick shag, that's not swinging.

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By *illyDudeMan
over a year ago

norh east

Just got to realize everyone has different types. And your not for everyone. Be polite. Don't be in there face. Take your TIME and you meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on here isn't all about sex,

It's meeting and engaging with like-minded individuals and the fun and kink is a bloody great bonus.

Maybe op look at your profile or visit a few swing clubs or stick to Facebook

Have fun

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I don't think that was his point at all, he's asking why people want to get to know someone rather than just meeting for a quick shag, that's not swinging."

Pretty much that is exactly swinging in it's purest form, if you go to a club, you may meet others you have spoken to previously & you may not. Many play with someone they've spoken to for less than an hour, we have..Asking about their family, interests, hobbies whatever is imo a lot of the time (not all though) an "internal" mechanism so that their brain can say "it's not just random sex without some form of attachment". Many club goers do not need this mechanism because they see it for what it is..

Random sex & fun, But normal society shuns those that think this way so many that live more in the normal society try to make it "fit better" within themselves.

if that makes sense?

We agree with others though, there are many on here that are not swingers, many fakes, many players etc, lots like the banter & socials but go no further.

perhaps a name change to FaceSwingers is in order?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't think that was his point at all, he's asking why people want to get to know someone rather than just meeting for a quick shag, that's not swinging.

Random sex & fun, But normal society shuns those that think this way so many that live more in the normal society try to make it "fit better" within themselves.

if that makes sense?

We agree with others though, there are many on here that are not swingers, many fakes, many players etc, lots like the banter & socials but go no further.

perhaps a name change to FaceSwingers is in order?

I don't see swinging as just shagging a random person, I have a huge circle of swinging friends and several of them ive had sex with, it's very rare that I'll see someone in a club and just shag them.

For me, swinging is a mentality and a community, it's not a quick hook up with any man/woman/couple that asks.

I don't want a connection with someone to make myself feel better about fucking multiple people, I want a connection because it makes the sex better, I've made some amazing friends on the scene that I still fuck occasionally and the sex with those people is far better than a one off with a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then go pester women for sex on face-fuck-book....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on...

You are expecting every women you message to have sex with you? Several reasons why you are wrong

A) you must have a lot of free time.

B) you must think women have a lot of free time

C) not everyone women finds you attractive

D) you have no more entitlement than the guy before or after you

E) does that mean that you have to have sex with every women you dont find attractive because they want it

F) you clearly need to read the swingers bible (or just search swinging in the dictionary)

G) this post alone has now isolated you away from every woman on here.

Is that enough or is there some I have missed?

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Sounds like you have the same problem with your dick as Moby does

Women are your White Whale

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

you must be doing something wrong mate.i seem to do ok mabey you come across as just expecting a jump straight away.every meet ive had has always been built up to.either join tinder or mabey search the meets section for peeps who are looking for a meet straight away.personaly i like chattin a bit first to mqke sure we gona be able to have a laugh but hey mabey im a bit weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think of myself as a swinger, I'm just a chick who likes men and hates dating. My partner and I are a dom sub couple who use the site to find play partners. I've always just seen this a place for people who are open minded about sex.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

For me, swinging is a mentality and a community, it's not a quick hook up with any man/woman/couple that asks.

But this is the sort of point I was trying to make, Your idea of swinging, doesn't fit with what I thought swinging in its purest form is, its still swinging, maybe more fuckbuddying i'm not sure but still swinging. Now the OP is on a swinging site saying in effect "Why won't women just fuck me?"..Maybe some would & that is their idea of swinging? He's just got to find them?

Why is he wrong to many on here & you are right? there is no right or wrong really? swinging is fucking people in clubs whatever that you may or may not know. You choose to want to know more about the people you do it with & as we know there are others who don't. Both are swinging so why isn't the OP's version/idea of swinging valid?

Or is it that this site is now infested with non swingers? Just people that want to find one person even if as an fwb whatever? & ergo the sites "Moral compass" especially on the forums is twisted to nearer that ideal?

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By *ay123mailMan
over a year ago

Seaham

SWINGERS HAVE SOULS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i meet end of

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

For me, swinging is a mentality and a community, it's not a quick hook up with any man/woman/couple that asks.

His entire OP is saying that he thinks everyone else is wrong for not doing what he wants them to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people off here not often but I do and it’s good way to keep in touch and take things further if you met in a club but didn’t get chance to play or whatever the reason...

thing is people just simply need to make there profile stand out and put a little effort into it show the best you and when you write a message put effort into that and always be respectful

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

For me, swinging is a mentality and a community, it's not a quick hook up with any man/woman/couple that asks.

His entire OP is saying that he thinks everyone else is wrong for not doing what he wants them to.

No it isn't, he asks why & pretty much no one has given him a valid reason why swinging isn't that, just their take on it & why he is wrong because it doesn't fit their take on it..

Sort of what i'm saying is if he went to a club he may well get what he wants without a need to know someones fave music, colour etc as he is saying..

So why is it ok in a swinging club but not on a swinging site????

The two things should be similar but they are obviously not..why not?

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