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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

5pm I spot the profile of an attractive local woman, so I send her a msg referring to her profile and attach a face pic. She has one public pic, one friends only,a published veri (from two meets) and has been on the site for 10 months.

She replies within a few mins, asking if I can accom for a quickie. I tell her I can and she asks where I am.

She tells me that she will be near my area in 30 mins and that she will come by.

OK, sounds good. I'm thinking that maybe she's a carer and will be on a break.

She wants me to confirm what I will and won't do and asks for a face pic, so she knows who she's meeting.

I reply that as it's short notice, we'll stick to oral on this occasion and remind her that I attached a pic with my first msg and ask if I can have one of her (as the one on her profile is a body shot)

Two mins later she replies "that's fine" and I send her a photo that I just took.

Then nothing

Made me make my bed for nowt LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks dude, hope it doesn't happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness I'd run a mile from anyone who suggested meeting in a second message firvacquivkie. Probably fake but if not who really wants to be fucked for nothing more than being local and available?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had similar happen a few times now! We get a bad rep us men when the ladies are just as bad... if it is a lady of course

Some people have too much time on their hands

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Most women wouldn't just go to a strangers home ,especially after a couple of messages.

If it sounds too good to be true,it usually is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5pm I spot the profile of an attractive local woman, so I send her a msg referring to her profile and attach a face pic. She has one public pic, one friends only,a published veri (from two meets) and has been on the site for 10 months.

She replies within a few mins, asking if I can accom for a quickie. I tell her I can and she asks where I am.

She tells me that she will be near my area in 30 mins and that she will come by.

OK, sounds good. I'm thinking that maybe she's a carer and will be on a break.

She wants me to confirm what I will and won't do and asks for a face pic, so she knows who she's meeting.

I reply that as it's short notice, we'll stick to oral on this occasion and remind her that I attached a pic with my first msg and ask if I can have one of her (as the one on her profile is a body shot)

Two mins later she replies "that's fine" and I send her a photo that I just took.

Then nothing

Made me make my bed for nowt LOL"

Who is the catfish? You sent her a pic and and she decided against meeting.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Not even starting on meeting random strangers for sex. Just one question: was the oral expected to be mutual?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

She changed her mind, yes she could have told you, but how was she a catfish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He had a wank over your face pic

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Unlikely that a woman on fab would ask to meet you on the 2nd message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disclaimer *wasn't me *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of catfishers lol

I regularly see new 'couples' profiles with amazingly wording to 'new' profiles last week lol

If it seems to be good to be true.....then it fucking is mate ??

It's most likely she is a he

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"There are lots of catfishers lol

I regularly see new 'couples' profiles with amazingly wording to 'new' profiles last week lol

If it seems to be good to be true.....then it fucking is mate ??

It's most likely she is a he "

He took a walk on the wild side

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Has it occurred to you OP that she might know you?

But no catfishing going on here r

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Second thoughts, or something came up? If you had developed a long term relationship, rather than chatted via text for a near immediate quick oral session, it may have been catfishing.

It was a low commitment involvement of time and effort etc, for a basic level of sexual interaction, with someone you didn't even know how they looked. Evaluate your assessment criteria and expectations, otherwise it could be a life of disappointment, without doing so.

All meetings aren't confirmed, until I have seen someone in person and know that we like each other and there's reliability. There are lots of recent active posts about reliability that may give OP and others some good ideas, to improve your experience here. Anyone messing anyone else around is awful and I advise reporting inappropriate behaviour to admin, who investigate and evaluate, helping to maintain site standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people. "

'She'jizzed just because you replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people.

'She'jizzed just because you replied "

Really?

Wow I didn’t know I was that good lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get their kicks from attention so this kind of thing will be common. Several times women message me a poor one liner and then ignore my response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get their kicks from attention so this kind of thing will be common. Several times women message me a poor one liner and then ignore my response "

First time for me.

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester


"I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people. "

That was just Sydney University research. They are a strange bunch.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

On the plus side you made your bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the plus side you made your bed!"

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Lol it was a bloke....as usual

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It was never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people.

That was just Sydney University research. They are a strange bunch."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a woman message me tonight. She asked if I wanted to meet on Monday, completely out of the blue.

I replied that I would love to.

She deleted my message without reading it.

I don’t understand people.

That was just Sydney University research. They are a strange bunch."

I’ve seen some profiles with a disclaimer at the end. Does this actually work? How can it be enforceable?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I don't think that is catfishing OP.

However it does sound suspicious to me. Maybe, just maybe, a potential timewaster (if she agreed but didn't turn up) but can't see any catfishing there.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"In fairness I'd run a mile from anyone who suggested meeting in a second message firvacquivkie. Probably fake but if not who really wants to be fucked for nothing more than being local and available?"

I get that all the time and I send a polite message back saying "I think you have the wrong site"..This is t a sex site lol.... I don't get s reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unlikely that a woman on fab would ask to meet you on the 2nd message. "

Note to myself - stop messaging men out of the blue asking if they want to meet tonight straight off. Wait for the 3rd message to ask.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Unlikely that a woman on fab would ask to meet you on the 2nd message.

Note to myself - stop messaging men out of the blue asking if they want to meet tonight straight off. Wait for the 3rd message to ask."

Even easier, just ask on the first

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