FabSwingers.com forum: Help finding a fella

By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

You have quite a long list of do's and dont's to be fair

I'd be a bit worried meeting you two

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Hey lovelies, Very surprised you’re struggling to find a guy, your profile is great

I’d volunteer George but he might be too hairy

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Hey lovelies, Very surprised you’re struggling to find a guy, your profile is great

I’d volunteer George but he might be too hairy

Nothing wrong with a bit of hair...just don’t want King Kong!

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"You have quite a long list of do's and dont's to be fair

I'd be a bit worried meeting you two

There needs to be an attraction...what’s wrong with setting this out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will always get the fantasists and bottlers, you have a big pool to choose from though so just block back and move on to the next. Been lucky with ours so far.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"You have quite a long list of do's and dont's to be fair

I'd be a bit worried meeting you two

There needs to be an attraction...what’s wrong with setting this out? "

Nothing wrong at all but equally you have to accept that you're omitting a fair few guys

Do hope you find someone though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been through the same journey before, we'd definitely suggest simply going to a club and letting the mutual attraction happen in real time.

Seeing someone in the flesh is much different to just photos and statistics, and you'll get to chat over a drink to see that you actually get along.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"Hey lovelies, Very surprised you’re struggling to find a guy, your profile is great

I’d volunteer George but he might be too hairy

Nothing wrong with a bit of hair...just don’t want King Kong!"

Lol, he’s not quite that bad xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile seems fair enough to me. We all have the right to expect something that we desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems alright to me some may say picky others would say selective, better to set your stall out than waste each other’s time later

Bit that got me is where you say Mrs T pays with both men and women

Guessing it was a typo but made me chuckle

Good luck in your search

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"

It like chucking a ball a coconut stall sometimes you win a prize.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Try at a club . John often goes off for an mfm with other couples

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

I think I should have changed the title to ‘Help Us Find a Fella who is not cheating on his wife’ after recent messages....

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

So true we saw a photo the other day with a wedding ring in the guys photo. So many single men try meeting during the day or cannot accommodate...so funny.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Given that you're just down the road from VA - if you're looking for a single guy, why not get along there on a Friday night (that's not bi night) when single guys are in attendance - it's a clean and classy club, with a great social area as well as hot tub and play areas and will allow you to find what you are looking for in the flesh so to speak.

Or alternatively if you arrange to meet anyone from here, there, it doesn't mean a wasted evening if they don't show up.

As for finding guys from here, taking time to talk to them and get to know them a little before arranging to meet helps build confidence that they are genuine and likely to turn up.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

Everyone's entitled to their likes and dislikes, but the more prescriptive you are, the harder it's going to be to find someone.

For example, I'm shaven below but have a beard. I also fall outside your age range.

It's a bit like the goth insurance ad. You start out with loads of options, but the tighter you define what you want, the more you rule out.

Nobody wants the pushy types who are plainly not a match, but I've seen profiles before now where I've thought yes, yes, yes,ah no. I might have clicked with them, but we never got to that stage because I respected their list.

The other members who've suggested a club may be a way round this. Seeing a person in the flesh and talking may make you realise there's more to this than a series of tick boxes.

As for the chap who friended and then blocked, well he may have been a timewaster and just wanted to see your pictures, or he may have seen something that was a real turn-off in them.

We all have to remember this is about people and sex and just as you have the right to filter, others can do the same at any time - though it's bad manners, we all know, not to turn up, without saying anything, once plans have been made.

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By *anhung22Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Although I don't go to club's I do agree chatting with someone in the flesh is better approach....Saying that met a Cpl in a bar few drinks conversation ect all seemed fine,went to the men's came back they were gone.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

I would reduce your distance to 5 miles maybe then you will appear on people close by lists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its just the nature of the beast. I would consider a couple if they were happy to build up a friendship of sorts. Not just turn up perform and go. "Fast food" sex does nothing for me. Far hotter getting to know likes / dislikes explore each other's fantasies. Sex is better when everyone is completely relaxed and comfortable. Then again I guess it depends on what you are looking for.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"You have quite a long list of do's and dont's to be fair

I'd be a bit worried meeting you two

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Some folk take themself way to serious! Its a sex site not a cv for a job!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have quite a long list of do's and dont's to be fair

I'd be a bit worried meeting you two

There needs to be an attraction...what’s wrong with setting this out? "

Nothing wrong with profile... I'd prob want to chat with mrs a bit on kik and meet you both in person, chat through boundaries and expectations/ limits... but other than thay sounds like you just got a time waster unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it reads like a shopping list and smacks of being rather one sided to fulfil and fantasy if you were reversely looking for a single lady you’d have no hope, but guys can’t afford to be so choosy

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By *lwayshorny79Woman
over a year ago

Leicester

"I think I should have changed the title to ‘Help Us Find a Fella who is not cheating on his wife’ after recent messages...."

You can borrow mine anytime.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"

Oh FFS, his bottle went. Or maybe he's just one of those who likes the attention?

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By *ackem5555Man
over a year ago

bishop auckland

He must be an idiot to do this your a very sexy couple

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

"He must be an idiot to do this your a very sexy couple"

Obviously not the idiot because he blocked them. People seem to forget there are 2 sides to this and I know from experience that couples can talk their way out of a meet. Usually by expecting the other party to jump through hoops or trying to orchestrate what’s going to happen without any consideration for what the other party wants from the relationship. Not that I’m suggesting that’s what’s happened in this case. The one thing that makes me cringe is when I see a profile / status that says something along the lines of we’ll chose the lucky guy.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Yep it reads like a shopping list and smacks of being rather one sided to fulfil and fantasy if you were reversely looking for a single lady you’d have no hope, but guys can’t afford to be so choosy "

We all have the same choices.

Yes please or no thanks.

We can all change our minds at anytime. Op my suggestions

1. Delete block move on.

2. Search for guys you might be interested in yourselves afterall you know better than any description you type what it is you seek. Its often said effort in reward out.

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

This one made me chuckle...a guy winks us...his bio says he doesn’t respond to winks! Some people are a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"

You look like my kinda girl

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

Sadly you’re too far away...and it’s a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"

Nobody owes you s meet. Attitude adjustment required.

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?

Nobody owes you s meet. Attitude adjustment required."

Ooohh! Someone came on looking for an argument?

Never said we were owed a meet, just would have been nice to say they weren’t interested rather than being blocked with no explanation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tipsey it's such a minefield out there. You sound a lovely couple, your luck will change I'm sure of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"
pick me......... simples

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Tipsey it's such a minefield out there. You sound a lovely couple, your luck will change I'm sure of that.

Thanks matey!

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Go to a club , even if only to socialize, meeting face to face is quite productive x

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

Apart from being too old, too hairy and too close, I'd be perfect

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Apart from being too old, too hairy and too close, I'd be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hilarious reading these posts by entitled cold who cannot understand why men won't play the role of walking dildo for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hilarious reading these posts by entitled cold who cannot understand why men won't play the role of walking dildo for them"

Are couples not allowed to have preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hilarious reading these posts by entitled cold who cannot understand why men won't play the role of walking dildo for them

Are couples not allowed to have preferences?"

Of course, but then don't whine when self respecting men won't meet them

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"It's hilarious reading these posts by entitled cold who cannot understand why men won't play the role of walking dildo for them

Are couples not allowed to have preferences?"

Clearly we must be grateful for anyone that looks at our profile! We are not looking for a walking dildo, we want someone where there is mutual attraction and a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's hilarious reading these posts by entitled cold who cannot understand why men won't play the role of walking dildo for them

Are couples not allowed to have preferences?"

Don't worry, they're are plenty of thirsty men who'll go through anything to sniff a minge

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?"
How have you gone about finding the guy?

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By *ipseyTwo OP Couple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?How have you gone about finding the guy? "

Looking on here mainly...I think we’ve decided that a club may be our best bet

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?How have you gone about finding the guy?

Looking on here mainly...I think we’ve decided that a club may be our best bet"
A club would work if it suits you both. If my profile appeals please do message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Fab Friends....so our Journey to find a man is progressing, we found a chap, Mrs T liked the look of him, agreed to meet Saturday!

Then BOOM! Unfriended and blocked...

What tips do you all have to whittle out these swines?How have you gone about finding the guy?

Looking on here mainly...I think we’ve decided that a club may be our best bet"

It’s a struggle but there are some decent guys on here. We’ve met several, with 3 of them we regret.

We stick to meeting just the one guy now. We’ve had a mfm threesome with him 3 times now and always push our boundaries a little more each time.

Don’t give up

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