FabSwingers.com forum: Our first experience

By *ischievousandhim OP Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

A week ago my husband and I had our first experience of involving another man into our relationship it was a sort of cuckold Scenario we have been married for 17 years and very much in love ,we loved the experience and my husband was so turned on watching me enjoy myself and loves me to talk about it , i had an amazing time being fucked by someone new and would do it again!

Why do I have this massive feeling of shame and Guilt? is this normal after such experiences?

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By *ystuff32Couple
over a year ago

essex

My wife said the same first time round but we both love it!

As long as you both are enjoying what you are doing then keep going

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Think most wife's do. My wife did the first time, but she enjoys having a new cock every now and again. And us husbands always get turned on watching our wife's have fun. Also a big turn on watching other husbands watching me with their wife's. Very horny talking with husbands after. Life to short so mKemost of it

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Bodmin

Our society is ridden with guilt about sensual pleasures and it is peddled by religious factions and unfortunately the legal and teaching professions ignore this nonsense and enjoy yourselves love Teresa xx

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's quite normal to feel that way after your first time. Especially as you enjoyed it so much.

As time goes on you find yourself relaxing into a new liberal lifestyle and most people find their relationship blossoms ten fold with the new secret that husband and wife share between each other. Swinging can be magical x

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

Us to we had it for the first few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started swinging only 6 months into our relationship, don't know if it made any difference but there has never been any feelings of guilt at all, we both love watching each other play with other people

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I didnt feel like that my first time ,maybe because my hubby and i shared the guy who was a fantastic first for us ,having hubby join in and showing his joy at my pleasure and living his own fantasy ,it will get easier so you can both enjoy guilt free ,we talk about it and share every moment it helps ...

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

This is normal. It's funny, sometimes we our are own worst judges. I think it just takes time to deprogram a little. Lots of communication and having more experiences like this (at your own pace) will hopefully see this fade away in time. Being good at swinging as a couple is a lot to do with communication and simply experience.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think the shame and guilt is normal, and in my belief it's just because you are not conforming to. What you are used to and society expects of you.

It will pass and obviously because you shared the experience you're not deceiving anybody, enjoy it and try to let the guilt go on its way.

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By *oby BestMan
over a year ago

the shires

There’s a theory called post purchase cognitive dissonance when the customer's state of the mind and perception is quite uneasy after purchasing the product or service

It’s perfectly normal to regret doing things - you just need reassurance and to think about how good it felt ... and get back on the stud ASAP xxx

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"massive feeling of shame and Guilt? is this normal after such experiences?"

That’s my normal waking state

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Well I have had ex wife of guys say wow the sex was awesome when they first cheated because it was fresh meet. I love the fact that women and men can have this kind of relationship and fun together and it's not cheating because ya partners there and giving you his own cheering on by getting turned on by it. I started swinging with a cuckold couple was awesome and they some awesome people. Ladies don't feel shame or guilt just think your making real life porn for you partner

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

"I think the shame and guilt is normal, and in my belief it's just because you are not conforming to. What you are used to and society expects of you.

It will pass and obviously because you shared the experience you're not deceiving anybody, enjoy it and try to let the guilt go on its way."
lovely way to put it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A week ago my husband and I had our first experience of involving another man into our relationship it was a sort of cuckold Scenario we have been married for 17 years and very much in love ,we loved the experience and my husband was so turned on watching me enjoy myself and loves me to talk about it , i had an amazing time being fucked by someone new and would do it again!

Why do I have this massive feeling of shame and Guilt? is this normal after such experiences?"

Well, he was one lucky chap. Lovely profile, very sexy pic.

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Met a couple where the girl hadn't played with another guy before. Mid play she felt so strange/guilty that she shook like a leaf, took me a while to calm her down. We carried on later and all was good, set them off on the swinging road.... Quite normal feelings, make sure you and hubby talk lots about it before and after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit of a journey ,just keep talking xx

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By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's quite normal to feel guilty for all the reasons explained above. However as a couple we believe that threesome MFM is good but it's nicer and more balanced a MFMF. This scenario is more difficult though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're yet to dip our toes but some brilliant advice in here

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Very much normal.. The feeling of guilt I had the first time I played was intense and was a horrible feeling..... Now 4 yrs down the line to see dels face and know he being turned on by me being with other guys is what it's all about.. K

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By *ischievousandhim OP Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

Thank you for the advice everyone it’s reassuring to know it’s normal to feel like this afterwards, we have talked intermittently about the experience and no doubt we will be experimenting more in the future xx????

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