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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?"

Hey doll,

Well babes some people don't know how to communicate - you know what I mean love?

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Just a little joke - I'm not being an ass! But yes Wholeheartedly agree, wedon't like it either, just seems a little familiar for a first message

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Hun. No idea why, just winds me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?"

Yep, all of the above plus numerous other pet names.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Most generic pet names are a bit eyeroll worthy but not a big deal. Some do definitely put me off, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hun. No idea why, just winds me up "

Yes I too, can't stand hun

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Calling me a slut is a big NO!

Have had it quite a lot over the years and find it instantly offensive

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Asking to meet first message or sending a really cringey graphic first message .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like you passed up a bonk with Danny Dyer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Calling me a slut is a big NO!

Have had it quite a lot over the years and find it instantly offensive "

Huge no no... Ever!!! Let alone first message...Blocked

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By *asterslittlewhoreCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I detest being called babe or baby gives me the boak

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By *nsatiablegreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Not for me either....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm put off far more by slut or messages assuming I'm just going to drop everything to fuck them.

I dont mind graphic messages if they start to happen naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want to meet!

Do you want some snow!

Some lurid paragraph that explains where his tongue will go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages from males offering to "empty my balls"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ffinfuntMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I hate cunt

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, the long paragraph about what an amazing fuck he'll be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want to meet!

Do you want some snow!

Some lurid paragraph that explains where his tongue will go! "

Are these the opening lyrics to the 'Swinger's Blues'?

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?

Hey doll,

Well babes some people don't know how to communicate - you know what I mean love?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being called lovely or dear . It makes me feel really old.

Oh shit I forgot I am

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Definitely being called Babe!!!!!

Just reminds me of the pig ( no jokes boys)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Babe" is usually an instant delete, and the unsolicited erotic fiction is usually responded to with "go slam your dick in a door" - usually does the trick. Unless they are super kinky, in which case it gets awkward

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By *he Black DomMan
over a year ago

coventry

I do use that but only after chatting and getting the conversation to that point

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?"

This.

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey

Dear Sir or Grandad Isn`t usually a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hun. No idea why, just winds me up "

Same!! Can not abide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?"

Yes me too, I agree, I don't like terms of endearment from people I don't know who are trying to secure a shag, it somehow sullies and cheapens things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pet names such as kitten and hunni - instant turn off. Babe seems to be the most commonly used or missy /miss, it just wrecks the inability to remember someone's actual name.

Some names have their place during the sexual act though!

In my opinion the use of the word slut in first message gets an instant delete. We are not all sluts, and just because we are on a sex site doesn't give the right to assume we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like pet names either. Although I would rather them over slut/subslut/piggy, which I also get just as often.

I also hate messages like "I'm at a Travelodge in xyz, are you close?". A lot of men seem to mistake this site for 0800-dial-a-fuck

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

U accommodate?

I dont find a very engaging start to things

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By *aughty_but_n1ceWoman
over a year ago

North London

Babe and Hun are the worst for sure.

Also hate when guys pretend we’ve talked before as a way in.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Babe and Hun are the worst for sure.

Also hate when guys pretend we’ve talked before as a way in. "

Dont I know you?

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I usually get "Hey Mr" love to fuck your wife ,even though says in profile wife does the chatting and yes i know most guys DONT read it all ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want to meet!

Do you want some snow!

Some lurid paragraph that explains where his tongue will go!

Are these the opening lyrics to the 'Swinger's Blues'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ppl who want to see my face

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By *weet Delight2016Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere nice


"Calling me a slut is a big NO!

Have had it quite a lot over the years and find it instantly offensive "

That's disgusting and disrespectful.

Report them! Get them off this site.

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By *nkedMilfWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

I hate with an absolute passion 'baby' even if a guy I've been chatting to for a while then calls me baby it's done, I just can't deal with it.....can you tell it makes he angry hahahaha

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Close up pics of open orifices are a big no no for me lol.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

If your name is shown it should be that or a straight hello until you add your name back.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I am not keen on babe or hun, but being called Slut is far worse. Gggrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I get a first message and he/she/ they call me babes or doll or love it’s an instant no from me.

Is there anything that puts you off straight away?"

HUN. Call me that in a message, welcome to block city

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a single male messages us a couple and the message they send ignores me the husband completely and they refers to my wife as babe, hun etc etc.

In our case it also shows they haven't read our profile properly because if they did they would know I the husband replies to single males, my wife and I both message couples and it's mainly my wife who will chat / respond to single females.

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