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By *andy1555 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

That’s so out of order. Hope it doesn’t put you off. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s trolls everywhere...don’t bother replying, just instantly block and move on to having fun with everyone else that’s here for fun too x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sorry. It is tough.

Remember it's them not you. They lashed out at a stranger for no reason.

It does get easier to cope with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all get them at some point, don’t take it to heart.

I got a sleazy message today from a guy asking me to fuck his ‘sloppy hole’, made me heave. Some people on here seriously.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We all get them at some point, don’t take it to heart.

I got a sleazy message today from a guy asking me to fuck his ‘sloppy hole’, made me heave. Some people on here seriously.

"

Sometimes I wonder about the stuff that doesn't make me heave anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all get them at some point, don’t take it to heart.

I got a sleazy message today from a guy asking me to fuck his ‘sloppy hole’, made me heave. Some people on here seriously.

Sometimes I wonder about the stuff that doesn't make me heave anymore "

Just when I was recovering from the human toilet offer. Makes you wonder why we attract these people we look ordinary lol

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "

Don't worry about it hun. We all get them from time to time. As trans we all get crises of confidence frequently. Message me direct if you want to chat but don't let anyone on here put you down xx

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"We all get them at some point, don’t take it to heart.

I got a sleazy message today from a guy asking me to fuck his ‘sloppy hole’, made me heave. Some people on here seriously.

Sometimes I wonder about the stuff that doesn't make me heave anymore

Just when I was recovering from the human toilet offer. Makes you wonder why we attract these people we look ordinary lol"

Oh my god, I get those "requests" too, thought it was just me lol x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We all get them at some point, don’t take it to heart.

I got a sleazy message today from a guy asking me to fuck his ‘sloppy hole’, made me heave. Some people on here seriously.

Sometimes I wonder about the stuff that doesn't make me heave anymore

Just when I was recovering from the human toilet offer. Makes you wonder why we attract these people we look ordinary lol"

I hear you.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

*hugs* it's crappy when that happens. Block and move on, don't dwell too much, it's what they want.

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By *anmyraWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "

I'm sorry you've had this try to remember that it won't be from someone who has read your profile and decided they don't like you, it'll be someone who was looking for a target and you were the first random person they came across.

I'm 100% sure it wont have been personal in that sense.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "

I’ve had a couple of them recently and I nearly left because of them, so upsetting and one from someone I thought was genuine!

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By *arkysassytess888Woman
over a year ago

bangor


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "

Know what hun says more about them than you that they feel the need to send a message like that! Chin up and don't let the fuckers get you down xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Report, block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete. Block. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being trans I get alot of them people, they throw insults my way coz I won't fuck them coz they have a false hope that trans chicks just want dick(I prefer pussy) so when I drop em they start weeping...just block em.

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Delete and block dont worry the nasty ones are the minority

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

It doesn’t matter how thick a skin you think you have, nastiness still gets under it doesn’t it?!

Unfortunately you do get a bit more used to it the longer you have been here. It still hurts, but gets easier to shrug off.

Big Hugs

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By *andy1555 OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

Thanks, everyone has been super nice

Hopefully it is a rarity. Time to pull my stockings up, put my heels on and strut like I don’t care!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Thanks, everyone has been super nice

Hopefully it is a rarity. Time to pull my stockings up, put my heels on and strut like I don’t care!!"

Work it, baby

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes it can be quite a shock the very first time you receive an abusive message,but after a few you'll just tell them to f*ck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got so many in a few days I hide my profile as I was really affected by it

I've now upped the age limit of those who can message and so far the abuse has stopped

x

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

To hell with idiots my friend. Just ignore...there's a saying...if you throw a stone in shit it will only splash back on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "

I’ve read your profile, it’s nice and you look great

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

Just take no notice

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"Have always received really positive (some a little explicit!) messages but today I received my first my nasty message.

I know I should ignore and move on, and have thicker skin but still not nice to receive. Knocked my confidence a little. "
don't let it get to you just moveon. It's part of being on here. I get them all the time but I give back as good as I get.it makes me all the more stronger.

The idiots will never win with me.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs


"Thanks, everyone has been super nice

Hopefully it is a rarity. Time to pull my stockings up, put my heels on and strut like I don’t care!!"

Ignore the cockwombles and listen to the positive people that want to get to know you, maybe revisit your message filters I upped my age limit due to random loony tunes

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I have found everyone on fab to be pretty good. I have recieved a couple of nasty messages on my profile on an Aussie site. I agree - it’s just uncalled for but hey... let it go and move on!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Welcome to the club, I've had fat and ugly, horse face, slut, granny, a nice long message telling me why I'll never be convincing and look like a bloke in a wig, freak and a few others that I can't remember

I can't say they didn't knock my confidence a bit, but obviously something wrong in their head that they need to pass on and infect into a complete stranger.

I've been on here quite awhile and a nasty message is still rare, but do occasionally pop up. Now I report and block, on here they're keyboard warriors who'd never have the courage to say it to your face.

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Welcome to the club, I've had fat and ugly, horse face, slut, granny, a nice long message telling me why I'll never be convincing and look like a bloke in a wig, freak and a few others that I can't remember

I can't say they didn't knock my confidence a bit, but obviously something wrong in their head that they need to pass on and infect into a complete stranger.

I've been on here quite awhile and a nasty message is still rare, but do occasionally pop up. Now I report and block, on here they're keyboard warriors who'd never have the courage to say it to your face. "

I feel so irritated for you! Some people can be so mean... I honestly don’t think it matters who you are or what’s going on - probably everyone with an online profile will cop abuse at some stage... and good for you... report, block and move on x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Welcome to the club, I've had fat and ugly, horse face, slut, granny, a nice long message telling me why I'll never be convincing and look like a bloke in a wig, freak and a few others that I can't remember

I can't say they didn't knock my confidence a bit, but obviously something wrong in their head that they need to pass on and infect into a complete stranger.

I've been on here quite awhile and a nasty message is still rare, but do occasionally pop up. Now I report and block, on here they're keyboard warriors who'd never have the courage to say it to your face.

I feel so irritated for you! Some people can be so mean... I honestly don’t think it matters who you are or what’s going on - probably everyone with an online profile will cop abuse at some stage... and good for you... report, block and move on x "

I get loads of nice messages which certainly make up for the very few nasty ones. In fact look at this thread and the positive messages for the Op, certainly backs up that there are more decent people on here than trolls

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