FabSwingers.com forum: Another brick in the wall?

By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

Hello all.

When i send a message i hardly ever get a reply.. even when i get a wink!

What am i doing wrong?

I ALWAYS read profiles first, and look at pictures, so i have something to base my message on.

I am always polite, and always attach(or offer) face pictures.

I have tried making light hearted jokes, starting normal (boring) "Hi, how are you?" Messages, and tried random messages to try and stand out and be different from all the other bricks in the wall (aka single men).

But mostly i don't get replies.

Any advice would be appreciated; Messaging, Profile and Photos.

Thank you in advance!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Hello all.

When i send a message i hardly ever get a reply.. even when i get a wink!

What am i doing wrong?

I ALWAYS read profiles first, and look at pictures, so i have something to base my message on.

I am always polite, and always attach(or offer) face pictures.

But mostly i don't get replies.

Any advice would be appreciated; Messaging, Profile and Photos.

Thank you in advance!"

Profile photo and text are good compared with most guys who post asking for help. More variety of pics might help.

One reason you are not getting much replies might be the number of people under 35 on the site is not the majority , plus singke ladies are outnumbered...so it is a numbers game.

Do you only contact people after reading their profiles and checking that you are what they are looking for ?

I suggest you include something from their profile, try to show you are interested in them as an individual, not just anyone in a certain radius will do.

You say you can meet a distance as you travel. I think ladies prefer people fairly close by, so that if it's a great meet, then you can have repeat meets. So messaging someone from the other side of the country is no likely to be successful.

One line messages don't encourage people to be interested and reply. So put a little effort in to the messages.

Be patient. Try getting involved on the forums, go to a social or a club and meet people that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time your message will be ignored or deleted even if you have a good profile and opening message.

Just take it on the chin and move on

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your pics feature a mobile phone, we know what a phone looks like.

You look unhappy in the pics.

Too much text.

No verifications.

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Perseverance...

Be yourself...thongs don't happen overnight..

As I've found today(and previously) connections need to be established..

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Perseverance...

Be yourself...thongs don't happen overnight..

As I've found today(and previously) connections need to be established.."

‘Thongs’ ??

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Your pics feature a mobile phone, we know what a phone looks like.

You look unhappy in the pics.

Too much text.

No verifications.

I think it's a good amount of text. A list of attributes and an explanation of how you see yourself in different scenarios.

Guess you can't please everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all.

When i send a message i hardly ever get a reply.. even when i get a wink!

What am i doing wrong?

I ALWAYS read profiles first, and look at pictures, so i have something to base my message on.

I am always polite, and always attach(or offer) face pictures.

But mostly i don't get replies.

Any advice would be appreciated; Messaging, Profile and Photos.

Thank you in advance!"

Why is there a pair of white pants on the lamp shade ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all.

When i send a message i hardly ever get a reply.. even when i get a wink!

What am i doing wrong?

I ALWAYS read profiles first, and look at pictures, so i have something to base my message on.

I am always polite, and always attach(or offer) face pictures.

But mostly i don't get replies.

Any advice would be appreciated; Messaging, Profile and Photos.

Thank you in advance!"

welcome to fab lol

its pretty much like that for most guys here mate so dont worry yourself.

you will break the fab silence soon enough

goodluck mate

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"Perseverance...

Be yourself...thongs don't happen overnight..

As I've found today(and previously) connections need to be established..

‘Thongs’ ?? "

Meant to be things , but may be having other thongs on my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all.

When i send a message i hardly ever get a reply.. even when i get a wink!

What am i doing wrong?

I ALWAYS read profiles first, and look at pictures, so i have something to base my message on.

I am always polite, and always attach(or offer) face pictures.

But mostly i don't get replies.

Any advice would be appreciated; Messaging, Profile and Photos.

Thank you in advance!"

A lot of women won’t even open your message. It’ll get lost in the mix. This topic comes up again and again.

I’d never suggest Fab to a single guy

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

Why is there a pair of white pants on the lamp shade ? "

Haha it is a t-shirt!

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

"Your pics feature a mobile phone, we know what a phone looks like.

You look unhappy in the pics.

Too much text.

No verifications.

I find the easiest way to take a photo of msyself is with my phone in the mirror!

I dony have any verification (minus the cam one) because i havent managed a meet yet.. That is what this post is all about!

Maybe i should try smiling more!! Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you just aren't messaging the right women.

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

Profile photo and text are good compared with most guys who post asking for help. More variety of pics might help.

One reason you are not getting much replies might be the number of people under 35 on the site is not the majority , plus singke ladies are outnumbered...so it is a numbers game.

Do you only contact people after reading their profiles and checking that you are what they are looking for ?

I suggest you include something from their profile, try to show you are interested in them as an individual, not just anyone in a certain radius will do.

One line messages don't encourage people to be interested and reply. So put a little effort in to the messages.

Be patient. Try getting involved on the forums, go to a social or a club and meet people that way. "

I am willing to travel as there isnt many people local to me! Catch 22 really haha.

I have changed my age range thank you!

Yeah i always read profiles first!

I will make more of an effort with messages, and try to be more active on here!

Thank you

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

"Perhaps you just aren't messaging the right women."

Are you one of the right women?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think it's a really good profile, if you were local to me and messaged me I'd be on it so fast

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

To be honest. Your young. Handsome guy. You would get more action finding sex in Vanilla Land than on here.

On here you are just another Single Male. It becomes more of a Cockfest every week x

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

"I think it's a really good profile, if you were local to me and messaged me I'd be on it so fast

Only a short flight away

And i have family in Scotland!

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

"To be honest. Your young. Handsome guy. You would get more action finding sex in Vanilla Land than on here.

On here you are just another Single Male. It becomes more of a Cockfest every week x"

Thank you! Yeah a swiping app has been ok. But normal sleeping around isnt for me. I would like to get in to swinging and meeting couples!

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Photos and profile are good. Thing is, you can’t be everything to everyone... I guess just persevere and try not to let it get you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a good profile. Good luck, someone on here said on another post that we won’t find so many of the people we pass by attractive in real life so it won’t be a high percentage here either. Hope luck changes soon - Mrs

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Also OP you are probably the same age of couples kids you wish to meet, that is if you want mature couples which the majority are on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out the site FAQ's on this. Nobody owes you a reply.

You should take a non-reply as a 'no thanks'

Would you feel better with an inbox full of 'no, thank you's'? I doubt it.

Single men massively outnumber ladies and couples on here, so many are inundated with messages on a daily basis and have trouble keeping up. Can you imagine if they replied to everyone? They' need to employ a secretary.

If they don't fancy you, there's nothing on earth that is going to persuade them otherwise.

When you get takeaway menu's posted, unrequested, through your door, do you phone them up to tell them 'no thanks'?

Thought not.

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By *attoo.Gent OP Man
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

"Check out the site FAQ's on this. Nobody owes you a reply.

You should take a non-reply as a 'no thanks'

Would you feel better with an inbox full of 'no, thank you's'? I doubt it.

If they don't fancy you, there's nothing on earth that is going to persuade them otherwise.

When you get takeaway menu's posted, unrequested, through your door, do you phone them up to tell them 'no thanks'?

Thought not."

Thanks for your constructive criticism.

I dont expect anybody, let alone everybody to fancy me. And i am fully aware that single men outweigh everybody else.

Hence the title of my post.

Criptic i know.

And i also acknowledge that i am not owed a reply from anybody.

However..

If you cared to read my post properly, i emphasised the part that even the people who wink me dont reply. That is what i was asking advice for the most.

But thank you for your advice. (Or there lack of).

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Personally I never take people from "Ask and find out!" seriously

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