FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Find it so hard to get a meet on here. Have pics and everything ready to share but conversations never seem to get going or messages just get ignored any help would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you think you could be doing better OP? Self reflection is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't no because when messaging a couple I don't just message for the woman I address the message to them both and with single fems they don't seem to bother. Trying to find a female fb is so difficult as well

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By *nlyoneruleMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Maybe revisit your profile. Perhaps vary your pics. There's loads of advice and feedback on profiles on the forum. It's not just the messages you send that get people interested in chatting and/or meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe revisit your profile. Perhaps vary your pics. There's loads of advice and feedback on profiles on the forum. It's not just the messages you send that get people interested in chatting and/or meeting "

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Dear Man in Kettering. The reason why you are finding it difficult to get a meet in Fab is because you are a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear Man in Kettering. The reason why you are finding it difficult to get a meet in Fab is because you are a man. "

Not true, loaaaaaaads of men are very successful. Effort goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not only having cock pics

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Dear Man in Kettering. The reason why you are finding it difficult to get a meet in Fab is because you are a man.

Not true, loaaaaaaads of men are very successful. Effort goes a long way. "

That's clearly true for some guys, but a lot seem to struggle.

It would seem that initial success can be difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your pictures, it looks to me like you are just a cock and nothing else. To be honest, I didn't even bother reading your bio after that.

If you seriously believe those photos represent you best, don't change a thing. Otherwise, there are tons of threads on the forum regarding profile advice, if you are willing to do the work.

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

Cock pics and there's nothing on your profile that says what you can offer, it says what you want but it doesn't make it any different from the thousands of other male profiles on here.

Try leaving something to the imagination op and look at some of the threads relevant to this post.

Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100% willing to put in the work. Like what sort of photos would you recommend me putting on my profile without showing face as would leave them for private viewing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normal photos would be nice.

Straight on profile but orally bi in your written profile?

Be honest and tell us what you can bring to the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% willing to put in the work. Like what sort of photos would you recommend me putting on my profile without showing face as would leave them for private viewing"

Suit? A pic from your neck down or of your chest with either nothing on it or unbuttoned shirt? Naked chest with trousers on, maybe trousers button teasingly undone? I personally am a bum person so a pic of your bum, either naked or in tight jeans or boxers? I also think black and white pics work really well, they seem classy (at least in my opinion).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perfect thank you I shall get some more pics uploaded and hopefully that will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Organizing a meet isn't that difficult as long as you realise a few things

- Fab is a very competitive space for men. If you want to succeed, you need to compete, and that means standing out from the crowd. If your profile just has a few cock pics with nothing else, what are you doing to make yourself stand part from the rest of the sausage crew on here?

- Fab users want to meet sexy other people. What are you doing to make yourself appear sexy? It's all very well having a few sentences explaining what you're looking for, but what are you offering? What have you got on your profile that's going to make other users look at it and start feeling a stirring in their loins? No, a cock pic isn't enough. You should be aiming for a profile that not only stands out, but that makes clear why you are a sexy, sexual individual and well worth spending an evening with. Do you have any nice outfits or suits? Any skills you think would thrill a potential partner?

- What is it you're actually looking for? I don't mean sex, everyone is on here for sex. But what is it you're actually interested in sexually? What turns you on. What can you do that would turn other people on? Are you looking for bdsm meets? Do you enjoy the thrill of meeting couples? Is cuckolding something you're into? Your profile mentions you've been to clubs: what is it about them you enjoy?

Apologies for the small essay, but this really is one of the things that surprises me about Fab: If you're a man, its not rocket science. You need to impress. You need to look at your account, look at the way you're messaging people, and think "What are all the ways I can change this so I stand out more and offer something unique?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think men are a bit desperate in trying to impress sometimes....instead of taking it for what is. What can you offer each other? Not just what she wants.

You can usually tell after a few messages if there is a connection, the rest is history.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Another thing is get some veris. You say you go to a club but have none.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *ubbermaidbabyCouple
over a year ago

clwyd

"Another thing is get some veris. You say you go to a club but have none."

That’s exactly what we thought!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People on here say that as a man you have to put in the work to make any headway on the site. And it's true, you do. But as someone who has been here for nearly 5 years, I have found it exhausting sometimes. I don't take it personal, its how it is. I'm a small fish in a vast ocean of males on planet fab. All you can do is to try and stand out from the crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remove close ups of cock.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If you don’t want men to verify you from Club 29, as Maggie or Loretta to write one for you.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"100% willing to put in the work. Like what sort of photos would you recommend me putting on my profile without showing face as would leave them for private viewing"

Photos showing the person and not bare anatomy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been to the attic and club 29 but never had any luck or mingled with anyone to get any veris else I would of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remove close ups of cock."

I agree

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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago

Arse end of the universe

"I have been to the attic and club 29 but never had any luck or mingled with anyone to get any veris else I would of "

What did you do when you went to the club, were you with someone or on your own?

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Your making the mistake a lot of men do and think everyone just wants to see pics of your cock , in all honesty for me too many or all cock pics is a massive turn off ! Time men realised there is much more to a man than his cock !

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Get shot of dic pics! Get the clubs you attend to verify you.. as web cam veris are worth nothing in my opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I went on my own to the clubs as I dont no anyone else who is in the scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I went on my own to the clubs as I dont no anyone else who is in the scene"

The secret is to just approach people and get chatting.explain you are a bit nervous.most people chat about normal stuff in the bar so keep it clean.

I chatted to a couple for an hour about Texas hold em poker as we discovered we all played in the same pub league. To be honest the lady did most of the talking but she was gorgeous so I didn't mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Pics are good ...id say relook at profile ..the squirting is an off put ..i hate it when someone says that cause not everyone can ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't chat to single men on fab as the very few bad have ruined it for the very many good, however, if we were to meet you in a club and liked you it would be us grovelling for you to join us. Many are the same, much easier face to face than through an online profile.

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have been to the attic and club 29 but never had any luck or mingled with anyone to get any veris else I would of "

You don’t need to mingle but if you did you’d get verified easily, Maggie is the owner and Loretta hosts. Any one of the regulars there could verify you.

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By *eachybum12Woman
over a year ago

wexford town

"I don't no because when messaging a couple I don't just message for the woman I address the message to them both and with single fems they don't seem to bother. Trying to find a female fb is so difficult as well"

Come see me hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly all your pics are of cock or arse or torso, boring and from what I see on here women do not like lots of those pics. You will appeal to gay and bi men more than women with them.

Get a mix of pictures, like how I have done mine. I notice a lot of women have Fabbed the ones of me in suits and shirts, not just the torso ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also your age may be putting some women and older couples off, at least change your username so your young age is not accentuated

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"Another thing is get some veris. You say you go to a club but have none."

Exactly that.

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