FabSwingers.com forum: Terms and definitions for newbies.

By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bull is a cow with a penis. Usually found in a field. If you see one do not go near and for gods sake to not try to milk it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bull is a cow with a penis. Usually found in a field. If you see one do not go near and for gods sake to not try to milk it.

Tried that once, that milk did not taste good

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really "

Luckily I haven't been the recipient of the above, so far everyone has been understanding of my newbieness lol

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"A bull is a cow with a penis. Usually found in a field. If you see one do not go near and for gods sake to not try to milk it.

Tried that once, that milk did not taste good

Make great steaks though lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I was surprised when I joined but I’ve found out that:

A bull: a guy who visits a m/f to fuck the wife often in front of the husband

A hot wife: a wife who shags outside the relationship and looks hot with the encouragement of the hubby

Stag/vixen: a couple but not sure about this one

sub/Dom: submissive and dominant (although I always think the sub is actually in charge)

S&M: sadist and masochist

M&S: where I get my sandwiches from

Cuckold: a bloke whose wife humiliates him and fucks others in front of him or not

cuckqueen: female version of cuckold

Obviously within those broad ideas are many many variations and subtleties.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really "

Looking at the posts that followed yours it's almost like you're a prophet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe its something very rare to find , therefor a single bi female

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot. "
yeah, so rare as to be mythical.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really

Looking at the posts that followed yours it's almost like you're a prophet.

This company dealt with forseeing the future. Made a huge prophet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot. "

I am a 'unicorn'. A single bi sexual female.

It's a bit of a daft label as those of us who are unicorns are often accused of being men or fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really

Looking at the posts that followed yours it's almost like you're a prophet.

This company dealt with forseeing the future. Made a huge prophet. "

Brighton Steve should be a thing...he would often laugh me into bed if closer

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Using the word ‘meet’ as a noun. As in ‘my meet was hot’.

Ghosting / jackknifing / dredging / cat fishing / gas lighting - heard them on here.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really

Looking at the posts that followed yours it's almost like you're a prophet.

This company dealt with forseeing the future. Made a huge prophet.

Brighton Steve should be a thing...he would often laugh me into bed if closer

"
they closed due to unforeseen circumstances

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Maybe we should prevail upon Admin to expand the Glossary (here https://www.fabswingers.com/glossary)

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"Maybe we should prevail upon Admin to expand the Glossary (here https://www.fabswingers.com/glossary)"

Thank you,

I didn't even know the glossary existed.

It is very limited, I knew most of them.

But there are some terms I've read on the forums that aren't covered.

It would be great to see this expanded for newbies like myself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't really know what a bull is because it isn't a dynamic we are involved in. I think it's a guy who is involved with a married couple where the husband enjoys being a cuckold.

A lot of people will patronise and ridicule instead of educate. It's a shame really

Looking at the posts that followed yours it's almost like you're a prophet.

I know right.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

Google is you friend..

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I believe its something very rare to find , therefor a single bi female"

Need to be good looking as well many think them self a unicorn or a gem couple but No ..

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

There are a lot of expressions used on the forums. Even after all our years of being swingers we still have to look stuff up.

A bull is an Alpha male, where the female is a hot wife. A female who can have sexual encounters with or with out her partners express consent. Most withith out, by proir consent.

Meaning, she can go and have sex with others before asking.

She/ thay may also be into himilation sex. Meaning the " cuck" is in pesecese when the "bull" is in service. The cuck may also be used to fluff and clean up after the bull. He may also be verbally humilted while watching a bull fuck his wife.

A vixen and stag couple are worlds away, from cuck / hotwife. A vixen will only play while the Stag is prescent or gives consent in advance.

We're personally a Vixen / stagg couple, as 1 single guy in our hotel room , high on costa coffee, has spoiled it for every one! No meets as a single fem now. My safty first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot. "

I think it’s a bi female who plays with couples.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

....”high on costa coffee”....? What did he order?!

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

Google is you friend.."

Be very careful using Google for Fab terms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

Google is you friend..

Be very careful using Google for Fab terms! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

Google is you friend..

Be very careful using Google for Fab terms! "
why?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Google is you friend..

Be very careful using Google for Fab terms! why?"

Because there is a tendency on Fab for people to make up there own definitions of words against the current mainstream usage.

"We can define ourselves how we want" they cry "Labels are for jam"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stag/vixen- This was created on tumblr, reason for this was due to confusion between hotwife and cuckold.

Hotwife was term used originally to describe a wife that play with hubby knowledge or concent and both get something out of it.

This later started geting confused into cuckolding, where the female was called a hotwife so many pepole thought if your a hotwife your hubby a cuckold.

Stag/Vixen was created to seprate this as a stag(Hubby/BF) is a alpha male that enjoy seeing his wife in pleasure and not threatened by anyother male and is generally not into humiliation part.

Vixen (wife/gf) that sleeps plays with others for both her and her partners pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bump. Thanks to the posters so far. It has answered a couple of questions I had but was too embarrassed to ask. It's not easy been the class thickie lol.

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"Bump. Thanks to the posters so far. It has answered a couple of questions I had but was too embarrassed to ask. It's not easy been the class thickie lol. "

Me too lol still one or two I'm unsure of.

For instance what is a sissy?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Bump. Thanks to the posters so far. It has answered a couple of questions I had but was too embarrassed to ask. It's not easy been the class thickie lol.

Me too lol still one or two I'm unsure of.

For instance what is a sissy?"

Mainly used as a pejorative term for what I do, crossdressing. It can also be just used to describe an effeminate man as well.

Try not to use it around the Trans community unless they've specifically used it within their profile.

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

Try not to use it around the Trans community unless they've specifically used it within their profile.

Thank you for the advice. Duly noted.

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By *addyFunk72 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

???? Now I'm intrigued ???? Hahaha

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

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I can guess vajankle but what the devil is an Alaskan pipeline ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bull is a guy who fucks wife of a cuckold husband

Cuckold is husband who watches (or not but likes to know details) his wife be fucked by a bull mostly for humiliation

Stag is normally a Dominant partner of a submissive female or hotwife. Different to cuck as they aren't humiliated and love watching their girl be used by other men

Hotwife is normally submissive female partner to Dominant male stag. Loves being shared. Contrary to belief don't need to be hot looking

Polyamourous/polyamoury is having multiple romantic relationships with one primary lover. Definitely not to be confused with cucks/stags and hot wives!

D/s, M/s, S&M are all BDSM. Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Sadism and masochism. Too many idiots believe that 50 shades of Grey is BDSM it is NOT! Those of us in the lifestyle of kink/BDSM find 50 shades abhorrent so never ever think that will get you anywhere! Experienced submissives like myself can spot wannabe Doms a mile off!

Safewords are used in BDSM play to stop play. Most of us use traffic light colours as they are used in clubs. Red means stop, or emergency, Amber is check in and slow down.

A unicorn is a bisexual single female and rare hense the name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

I can guess vajankle but what the devil is an Alaskan pipeline ? "

A couple of slightly different definitions but basically using a piece of poop either in a condom or frozen as a dildo

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

I can guess vajankle but what the devil is an Alaskan pipeline ?

A couple of slightly different definitions but basically using a piece of poop either in a condom or frozen as a dildo "
oooooh my sweet baby Jesus thank god I've found out so I can blatantly refuse one

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Dare I ask what is a vajankle ?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Never ever ever Google Blue Waffle.

Never!

Ever.

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Dare I ask what is a vajankle ? "

Another user mentioned the pipeline one and I was curious.

It just so happens it's a song by the band James to. But no relation. I dont think.

The vajankle. I mean... it might be worthy of a google for a laugh... absolutely no relation to vajazzle

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

I can guess vajankle but what the devil is an Alaskan pipeline ? "

Noooooo don't ask. Don't Google.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"If not mentioned already. I found a glossary on the swingfields website too.

Swingfields being a festival held once a year.

One reason not to always Google things you hear on fab: "Alaskan pipeline" or "vajankle"

Learned my lesson from those two.

I can guess vajankle but what the devil is an Alaskan pipeline ?

A couple of slightly different definitions but basically using a piece of poop either in a condom or frozen as a dildo "

Now see what you did..... You could have left it to people who'd Google bollix it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was surprised when I joined but I’ve found out that:

A bull: a guy who visits a m/f to fuck the wife often in front of the husband

A hot wife: a wife who shags outside the relationship and looks hot with the encouragement of the hubby

Stag/vixen: a couple but not sure about this one

sub/Dom: submissive and dominant (although I always think the sub is actually in charge)

S&M: sadist and masochist

M&S: where I get my sandwiches from

Cuckold: a bloke whose wife humiliates him and fucks others in front of him or not

cuckqueen: female version of cuckold

Obviously within those broad ideas are many many variations and subtleties.

We consider ourselves stag & vixen. I.e The husband / stag is confident and equally involved in any sex. Stag and Vixens ten to play together not apart. The stag will enjoy other men fucking his partner / vixen whilst he is also involved in the sex and if anything the stag will be the one in charge

So it's totally different to cuckold that can involve humiliation of the husband it's the opposite the stag exudes pride and is different to the hot wife set where she is playing with other men on her own.

That's our take on it and what we have learned so far.

KJ x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot. "

A bull in fancy dress

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I'm a proper newbie and have been spending these first few weeks reading the forums.

In a few posts I've read I have noticed an exasperation by some experienced seasoned members of the failure of newbies to understand certain things and unwittingly get things wrong.

For instance, one reply to a post said "don't sell yourself as a bull when you're not or if you don't know what that is" or something along those lines.

This got me thinking.

I know the definition of a couple of terms but not all.

It occurred to me that it would be mutually beneficial if the experienced or seasoned members could share their knowledge with us newbies by defining these terms for us.

I'll start with one I don't know.

Any other newbies feel free to ask another in the comments

What is a bull?

Not necessarily for fab but I find that there is very little that you can't get information about by spending 2 minutes with mr google.

However people should just be more helpful.

The only belittling I've seen is where someone claims to be a "Dom" to get a meet for example but clearly hasn't got a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does the term bussy mean?

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By *llenGTWoman
over a year ago

East/West Mids

"I've always wondered what a Unicorn is on this site. Seen that word a lot. yeah, so rare as to be mythical. "

We exist

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Be cautious about looking up terms that you don't know - and especially cautious in clicking videos to play, before you know what the stuff is. Ignorance can be bliss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... I’ve learned just from this thread that as a single bi fem I’m a ‘unicorn’. Ahhh. That’s nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake/scammer - single woman who can’t meet a couple she’s never met before because she has a prior commitment to a good fab friend. Apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake/scammer - single woman who can’t meet a couple she’s never met before because she has a prior commitment to a good fab friend. Apparently."

Oh yes, I’m ‘fake’ too (or a time waster) when I don’t fancy someone back. The time waster thing does make me laugh. I mean, at what point did I waste you time when you were busy messaging me?! Surely, you wasted your own time? Bizarre .....

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