FabSwingers.com forum: Message advice

By *owhambam OP Man
over a year ago

clacton

Sorry in advance for all that have been here before. But as a newbie I’m finding it difficult to figure out what the system is regarding messages.

You send a message, you get reply, no problem.

Send message, gets deleted, no problem.

Send message, message read, nothing not deleted not replied not even looked at profile.

Send message, not opened even after 2 weeks.

Is there a sort of code that I need to work out.

Thanks to all at Bletchley for helping me crack this new enigma.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Just don't keep looking at your sent items.

Problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't an absolute answer to your question as everyone is different.

Some people have their settings so it won't show that they have viewed you.

Some people get so many messages that they can't reply to everyone.

Some people will just delete if not interested.

You'll work it out. Just got to be patient and keep trying.

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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago

Great Harwood, Blackburn

Some people post on their profile won't reply if not interested. Don't take it personal and keep trying different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy wasting your time like the rest of us !lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't send messages until messaged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I the hubby will quickly read a message if it has potential I'll mark it unread so I can look at it with my wife at a later point.

The easy answer is don't look at your sent box or delete your sent messages once sent. That way when you get a reply it's a happy surprise and your original message will still be in the thread.

KJ x

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By *owhambam OP Man
over a year ago

clacton

I the hubby will quickly read a message if it has potential I'll mark it unread so I can look at it with my wife at a later point.

The easy answer is don't look at your sent box or delete your sent messages once sent. That way when you get a reply it's a happy surprise and your original message will still be in the thread.

KJ x "

Thanks didn’t know I could do that without deleting original message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry in advance for all that have been here before. But as a newbie I’m finding it difficult to figure out what the system is regarding messages.

You send a message, you get reply, no problem.

Send message, gets deleted, no problem.

Send message, message read, nothing not deleted not replied not even looked at profile.

Send message, not opened even after 2 weeks.

Is there a sort of code that I need to work out.

Thanks to all at Bletchley for helping me crack this new enigma.

Unless someone replies positively they are not interested there is no code so don't over think things. The looked at its pointless as 95% of women have that hidden so if they don't reply just move on.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You can see the profile pic and first line of a message without opening it. I never bother deleting messages so lots are left just unopened.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Delete = no thank you.

No reply = assume nothing.

Delete sent inbox. Reply = pleasant surprise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't keep looking at your sent items.

Problem solved."

So true.. love it

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