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"My Mrs absolutely love watching me with other women. Sometimes joining in. " Now that's the kind of dynamic I'd like - I definitely want to be the centre of attention, just receiving. And then switch round to focus on the next person, 2 on 1. And then the next person, 2 on 1. | |||
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" Iv met a few couples and always enjoyed it. " That's reassuring to hear. Is it soft play, or penetration too? | |||
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"We have had a few mmf's and everyone is always involved, all 3 equally enjoying each other, this is with a bi fem, the dynamic is different with a straight fem x" Can you explain the difference between playing with bi fem and straight fem? I identify as straight, but am happy to be hands on. Would be happy to explore oral too. I would be happy to receive hands and oral from a woman. The one couple I played with briefly in a club, the woman said my touch was no different to what she's received from a bi fem. Which I find reassuring! | |||
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" Iv met a few couples and always enjoyed it. That's reassuring to hear. Is it soft play, or penetration too? " It totally depends on what the dynamic is and what feels right at the time. Iv done both. The key thing before any meeting is to make sure you know their limits and wants and vise versa. Also make sure you have communicated with them both. Iv changed my mind about meeting a couple before because after chatting with them separately it was clear they were on different pages. | |||
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"I would definitely want to meet them both socially first. And have a full chat about expectations, boundaries etc. " That's what I have always done. It's the best way to see if it's going to work. It's a bit different in clubs iv found. | |||
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"Great for ladies that are bi or bi curious but don’t want to meet a couple as she may not be interested in the male side of play and she may enjoy watching her partner with another woman " That's why communicating is the key thing. Some ladies enjoy that dynamic. Also just because I'm bi does not mean I always want to explore that. | |||
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"Great for ladies that are bi or bi curious but don’t want to meet a couple as she may not be interested in the male side of play and she may enjoy watching her partner with another woman That's why communicating is the key thing. Some ladies enjoy that dynamic. Also just because I'm bi does not mean I always want to explore that. " Exactly | |||
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"We have had a few mmf's and everyone is always involved, all 3 equally enjoying each other, this is with a bi fem, the dynamic is different with a straight fem x Can you explain the difference between playing with bi fem and straight fem? I identify as straight, but am happy to be hands on. Would be happy to explore oral too. I would be happy to receive hands and oral from a woman. The one couple I played with briefly in a club, the woman said my touch was no different to what she's received from a bi fem. Which I find reassuring!" I would personally not want to play with a woman who identified as straight. I would be uncomfortable if she went down on me as I would assume she wasn't enjoying it. Whether she was good at it technically or not would be beside the point. I like enthusiasm. Pillow princesses aren't particularly my thing either. I like an equal dynamic. Everyone likes different things though. I've had so many different offers. There are as many ways to play as there are people on fab. All have their own appeal. The playing straight thing can appeal to some, for example. | |||
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"We have had a few mmf's and everyone is always involved, all 3 equally enjoying each other, this is with a bi fem, the dynamic is different with a straight fem x Can you explain the difference between playing with bi fem and straight fem? I identify as straight, but am happy to be hands on. Would be happy to explore oral too. I would be happy to receive hands and oral from a woman. The one couple I played with briefly in a club, the woman said my touch was no different to what she's received from a bi fem. Which I find reassuring!" We enjoy it because it just adds another dimension - and an extra pair of hands and mouth! For us it's important that everyone is involved and on an equal footing - otherwise, what's in it for the person who is less "equal"? But I guess that stems from what *we* want, not everyone else will be the same. Your straight fem question is a good one and one we've wondered about. Many straight fems say they want to meet couples, but we're never clear what that means. I guess it's the challenge with of only having three labels to choose from on here (s8/curious/bi). I think you'd be sufficiently curious for us to be interested, but not sure how we'd know that...? So joining the two bits together, I guess as Lorna says, it's all down to communication - if everyone knows what the do's and dont's are, then everyone can decide whether it what they want, both before and during. Ladies - feel free to discuss with us | |||
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"I would personally not want to play with a woman who identified as straight. I would be uncomfortable if she went down on me as I would assume she wasn't enjoying it. Whether she was good at it technically or not would be beside the point. I like enthusiasm. Pillow princesses aren't particularly my thing either. I like an equal dynamic. Everyone likes different things though. I've had so many different offers. There are as many ways to play as there are people on fab. All have their own appeal. The playing straight thing can appeal to some, for example." That's a valid point. I don't know if I'm going to enjoy it until I try it. I enjoy it when the other person responds positively to my touch. I've not heard the phrase "pillow princess" - what does that mean? | |||
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" I've not heard the phrase "pillow princess" - what does that mean? " Haha, it's a phrase I often find describes 'bi curious' (miaow). Happy to receive oral from a woman, not happy to return the favour. Tbh, there really is someone for everyone, on here in general, and in threesomes in particular. I've had some amazing experiences in 3sums where I was quite pampered by both, and this is often what the third is looking for, but I've also played as a couple with a third who wasn't very 'interactive' and it wasn't great. | |||
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"For me is quite simple.. When meeting a couple I expect all involved as its 3sum, pleasure in equal measure to everyone and no one left out any time watching and with no silly rules or then I'm not the woman to join the said couple.. We all are different and have our own rules, but I find that stating mine at begining it helps too . I believe you need to set your own .. " These are the rules we hope to find too, I think the watching is uncomfortable, as the female half I’m not comfortable with it either, everyone should be having fun. | |||
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"I think in terms of what the single lady gets out of it depends very much on the couple. Some couples want another woman just to turn up on there terms and fulfil their fantasies. You end up treating the other woman kind of like an additional sex toy. Other couples like to totally embrace the other woman and truly make her equal partner in the fun or simply lavish their combined attention on her. As a single it's very important to get good feel for the couple your going to be with if your looking for a really good shared experiance rather than just being someone disposable sex toy." So agree with this and also hate being touted by men as their partner so they can have sex as a couple ! I am not a disposable sex toy, someone to get your rocks off by playing with your straight wife ! You don’t go back to play again x Generally enjoy playing with a couple if we are all on the same page so nobody looses out ! | |||
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"For me is quite simple.. When meeting a couple I expect all involved as its 3sum, pleasure in equal measure to everyone and no one left out any time watching and with no silly rules or then I'm not the woman to join the said couple.. We all are different and have our own rules, but I find that stating mine at begining it helps too . I believe you need to set your own .. These are the rules we hope to find too, I think the watching is uncomfortable, as the female half I’m not comfortable with it either, everyone should be having fun. " Exactly this | |||
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"We are a bi Fem couple.I (Mrs) wouldn't want to play with a straight lady who wanted to use us as an experiment, plus it would make me nervous, I wouldn't be able to play in my usual style as I'd always be checking she's ok with everything and that she was comfortable." I (mrs) had a fmf with a straight fem once. Never, ever again. Worst experience ever! Just can't let myself go and frankly it was boring. Won't play with curious dems neither. Have to be bi or its not happening. That goes for me playing with couples too. All equal in the fun we have. | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. " Do you meet at clubs? | |||
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"Hi, I'm wondering what the dynamic is for a mff threesome, where a couple plays with a single lady. Curious to know what the couple gains from it? And what the single lady gains from it? I realise the dynamic will vary depending on who's in the threesome as everybody will have different needs/ wants/ boundaries. I'd like to hear of your experiences please x " Most guys are only interested in girl girl to get them horny as a prelude to the real action when they join in. Oh I don't know how many ladies really get turned on by seeing their partner with another woman lol think that is male rationalisation and justification, but don't say anything to maintain their relatinship. Pure girl girl is a different dynamic and can be mind blowing without any male involvement or commentary, sadly a lot don't get to experience this unless it is pure 1 on 1. It depends on the male partner needs to be part of the action or happy for the ladies just to enjoy | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs?" We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site." Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic ' | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic '" Never mentioned clubs, you did. Plastic was a metaphor for a man made product, sorry if semantics got in the way. Artificial better? | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic ' Never mentioned clubs, you did. Plastic was a metaphor for a man made product, sorry if semantics got in the way. Artificial better? " You referred to your experiences being organic. I took the inference to mean that anything pre planned was somehow a bit more fake | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic ' Never mentioned clubs, you did. Plastic was a metaphor for a man made product, sorry if semantics got in the way. Artificial better? You referred to your experiences being organic. I took the inference to mean that anything pre planned was somehow a bit more fake" Project it as you will, fake is another word we haven’t used. | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic ' Never mentioned clubs, you did. Plastic was a metaphor for a man made product, sorry if semantics got in the way. Artificial better? You referred to your experiences being organic. I took the inference to mean that anything pre planned was somehow a bit more fake Project it as you will, fake is another word we haven’t used." You could have used the word arranged to spare my confusion | |||
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"Every time a fem has joined with us it has been “organic” not pre planned, It’s natural fun play. We are going to enjoy ourselves, if a third party wants to join in as long as everyone is happy let the sensuality develop. Would hate to be involved in a “plastic” play. Do you meet at clubs? We tend to only meet at clubs, unless we know someone well. Think the verifications we are showing are from clubs or socials. The one to one, ones (think there’re enough ones) are no longer on the site. Is it not then a wee bit unfair to refer to something that's arranged between others outside of clubs as 'plastic ' Never mentioned clubs, you did. Plastic was a metaphor for a man made product, sorry if semantics got in the way. Artificial better? You referred to your experiences being organic. I took the inference to mean that anything pre planned was somehow a bit more fake Project it as you will, fake is another word we haven’t used. You could have used the word arranged to spare my confusion " Could have used many words, wonder if any would have helped the meaning of the communication. | |||
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" Could have used many words, wonder if any would have helped the meaning of the communication. " You succeeded in getting your point across with your original word choice | |||
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"It depends on the dynamic with the individual person. I love women so I'm very hands on. I expect them to be hands on too. I want a woman who wants me back just as much. I want my fella to be involved too. But I'm also happy to play different dynamics sub as sub/dom roleplay amongst others. But any women joining we prefer to be bisexual rather than straight or even curious. In my experience bisexual women are a whirlwind in bed " Ross Geller and the alternate friends episode, MFF with is lesbian wife. Joey asked for details and Ross said he ended up in the kitchen, party he wasn't invited to . | |||
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"It depends on the dynamic with the individual person. I love women so I'm very hands on. I expect them to be hands on too. I want a woman who wants me back just as much. I want my fella to be involved too. But I'm also happy to play different dynamics sub as sub/dom roleplay amongst others. But any women joining we prefer to be bisexual rather than straight or even curious. In my experience bisexual women are a whirlwind in bed Ross Geller and the alternate friends episode, MFF with is lesbian wife. Joey asked for details and Ross said he ended up in the kitchen, party he wasn't invited to . " Haha oh I'd get a spanked bum if he was ever left out | |||
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"Hi, I'm wondering what the dynamic is for a mff threesome, where a couple plays with a single lady. Curious to know what the couple gains from it? And what the single lady gains from it? I realise the dynamic will vary depending on who's in the threesome as everybody will have different needs/ wants/ boundaries. I'd like to hear of your experiences please x " I’m bi (fem) hubby has allowed me to explore this, even better we can do it together and both get enjoyment of seeing each other have fun..respect and connection is good it’s about all 3 having fun together not just us 2... x | |||
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"My Mrs absolutely love watching me with other women. Sometimes joining in. Now that's the kind of dynamic I'd like - I definitely want to be the centre of attention, just receiving. And then switch round to focus on the next person, 2 on 1. And then the next person, 2 on 1. " That sounds like the perfect scanario | |||
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"Hi, I'm wondering what the dynamic is for a mff threesome, where a couple plays with a single lady. Curious to know what the couple gains from it? And what the single lady gains from it? I realise the dynamic will vary depending on who's in the threesome as everybody will have different needs/ wants/ boundaries. I'd like to hear of your experiences please x I’m bi (fem) hubby has allowed me to explore this, even better we can do it together and both get enjoyment of seeing each other have fun..respect and connection is good it’s about all 3 having fun together not just us 2... x" In a very different scenario, I haven't ever needed to seek permission to enjoy my bi side. That's the issue I have come across again and again, why lots don't get to enjoy, find it very difficult to actually find genuinely bi females, because of constraints placed on them by male partner. Guess I'm lucky, it's such a shame | |||
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"Hi, I'm wondering what the dynamic is for a mff threesome, where a couple plays with a single lady. Curious to know what the couple gains from it? And what the single lady gains from it? I realise the dynamic will vary depending on who's in the threesome as everybody will have different needs/ wants/ boundaries. I'd like to hear of your experiences please x I’m bi (fem) hubby has allowed me to explore this, even better we can do it together and both get enjoyment of seeing each other have fun..respect and connection is good it’s about all 3 having fun together not just us 2... x In a very different scenario, I haven't ever needed to seek permission to enjoy my bi side. That's the issue I have come across again and again, why lots don't get to enjoy, find it very difficult to actually find genuinely bi females, because of constraints placed on them by male partner. Guess I'm lucky, it's such a shame" Probably worded my last post wrong (which is the problem with the forums) I don’t need permission I was bi when I met my husband 16 years ago and out of respect for our relationship it was something we both talked about and he was happy for me to explore this, even better we can do it together. I don’t need permission we are a team what restriction would you say is placed by the male? And do you think this is why it’s so hard? I’m bi, I prefer not to play with other men, just women!!..so I’m putting that restrictions up? So does that mean I’m not genuinely bi? | |||
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"We had a ffm this morning. Great dynamics and everybody got equal pleasure and fun. The girls had a play and the guy (me) was not left out at all. We had chatted before our play to make sure we all knew what we wanted out of it and because she was our guest we wanted to make sure she left happy. As the guy the experience of the two girls giving each other oral while I was having sex with the other girl on top of my wife i looked down and the wife winked at me I pulled out and came over my wife’s face into her mouth. It was the hottest thing to imagine. " That sounds fabulous | |||
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"We had a ffm this morning. Great dynamics and everybody got equal pleasure and fun. The girls had a play and the guy (me) was not left out at all. We had chatted before our play to make sure we all knew what we wanted out of it and because she was our guest we wanted to make sure she left happy. As the guy the experience of the two girls giving each other oral while I was having sex with the other girl on top of my wife i looked down and the wife winked at me I pulled out and came over my wife’s face into her mouth. It was the hottest thing to imagine. " Absolutely brill, love it | |||
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"We had a ffm this morning. Great dynamics and everybody got equal pleasure and fun. The girls had a play and the guy (me) was not left out at all. We had chatted before our play to make sure we all knew what we wanted out of it and because she was our guest we wanted to make sure she left happy. As the guy the experience of the two girls giving each other oral while I was having sex with the other girl on top of my wife i looked down and the wife winked at me I pulled out and came over my wife’s face into her mouth. It was the hottest thing to imagine. That sounds fabulous" It was a very hot experience. Worked out more than we actually thought. | |||
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"Hi, I'm wondering what the dynamic is for a mff threesome, where a couple plays with a single lady. Curious to know what the couple gains from it? And what the single lady gains from it? I realise the dynamic will vary depending on who's in the threesome as everybody will have different needs/ wants/ boundaries. I'd like to hear of your experiences please x I’m bi (fem) hubby has allowed me to explore this, even better we can do it together and both get enjoyment of seeing each other have fun..respect and connection is good it’s about all 3 having fun together not just us 2... x In a very different scenario, I haven't ever needed to seek permission to enjoy my bi side. That's the issue I have come across again and again, why lots don't get to enjoy, find it very difficult to actually find genuinely bi females, because of constraints placed on them by male partner. Guess I'm lucky, it's such a shame Probably worded my last post wrong (which is the problem with the forums) I don’t need permission I was bi when I met my husband 16 years ago and out of respect for our relationship it was something we both talked about and he was happy for me to explore this, even better we can do it together. I don’t need permission we are a team what restriction would you say is placed by the male? And do you think this is why it’s so hard? I’m bi, I prefer not to play with other men, just women!!..so I’m putting that restrictions up? So does that mean I’m not genuinely bi? " Is this the post that was the inspiration for your thread? | |||
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"We had a ffm this morning. Great dynamics and everybody got equal pleasure and fun. The girls had a play and the guy (me) was not left out at all. We had chatted before our play to make sure we all knew what we wanted out of it and because she was our guest we wanted to make sure she left happy. As the guy the experience of the two girls giving each other oral while I was having sex with the other girl on top of my wife i looked down and the wife winked at me I pulled out and came over my wife’s face into her mouth. It was the hottest thing to imagine. " For a bI lady who enjoys full on girl girl this says all and my point in many threads. "The girls had a play" very dismissive and marginalising actual girl girl action, was just a precursor to when the real action started. Very much the guys attitude in a lot of these circumstances, from my experience. Personally from your description it would raise some questions about the scenario but that's my viewpoint. Glad you "all" enjoyed | |||
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"We had a ffm this morning. Great dynamics and everybody got equal pleasure and fun. The girls had a play and the guy (me) was not left out at all. We had chatted before our play to make sure we all knew what we wanted out of it and because she was our guest we wanted to make sure she left happy. As the guy the experience of the two girls giving each other oral while I was having sex with the other girl on top of my wife i looked down and the wife winked at me I pulled out and came over my wife’s face into her mouth. It was the hottest thing to imagine. For a bI lady who enjoys full on girl girl this says all and my point in many threads. "The girls had a play" very dismissive and marginalising actual girl girl action, was just a precursor to when the real action started. Very much the guys attitude in a lot of these circumstances, from my experience. Personally from your description it would raise some questions about the scenario but that's my viewpoint. Glad you "all" enjoyed " Yes we “all” enjoyed ourselves. Thanks for the viewpoint. Nothing dismissive just written by the guy from that point of view. It was a merely an experience of what happened at our meet. | |||
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